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7 Musts To Unlocking Your Bliss And Living Your Dream Life

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Unlocking Your Bliss And Living Your Dream Life

Our whole lives we follow a pattern and live in autopilot. Many of us miss out on ever finding our true purpose, but it’s never too late to change this paradigm. When you acknowledge your most common mistakes, you will understand if you are truly living in a state of bliss.

A lot of us are not. In my life I feel that I am in a state of bliss maybe 50% of the time, but the other 50% I am not. This is not a bad start, but I still have a long way to go. The moment in which you can unlock your bliss is the moment you will finally begin to feel alive.

I have personally spent years studying successful people because I am still trying to find my true bliss and live it more each day. Through my studies of successful people I have begun to see patterns (I would be stupid if I didn’t).

These patterns clearly show me in almost every case that successful people do what they do not because of money, but because they are chasing their bliss and get lost in the positive feelings they get from it. The positive feelings of bliss became like an addictive drug that they just have to have.

Below are my seven musts to unlocking your bliss that will allow you to live the life you have always dreamed of.

 

1. Know what bliss is

Bliss is ultimately about reaching a state of perfect happiness. This state of bliss is derived from two simple questions. What are you here to do and what is your greatest passion in life? When you attempt to follow your bliss you simply need to listen to your heart and follow what is true to you.

To be even more precise, bliss is the thing you can’t not do every week. Bliss forms part of a journey which reflects your true self in every sense. Bliss is that thing that makes you feel alive, and that gives you goosebump moments.

Bliss is not the following:

– Something you wish for
– Getting addicted to pleasure
– Indulging in escapism
– Listening to sensory pleasures only
– Being selfish
– Something that other people determine for you

Bliss is about following the thing that is creating your greatest and most serene state. Generally, when you are experiencing bliss, you become open to the possibilities of the present.

 

2. Proactively discover your bliss

The million-dollar question when it comes to finding your bliss is what are you passionate about? Think through the activities you engage in regularly and then think about which ones make you feel like hours are passing so quickly that they become minutes.

For me, when I start writing blog posts I can easily go for six to eight hours without even realising it. Blogging is something that I feel I never have enough time for because when I engage in it, days can feel like months.

I never really reflected on this until recently and I realised that one of the states that creates bliss for me is blogging. If someone told me this, I would never have believed them until I began to reflect on past experiences.

When you look at past experiences, you can begin to see which ones make you become totally absorbed. To do this exercise properly it’s best to write down these experiences or represent them to yourself through a series of photos.

“Past experiences where you become lost in the moment represent the clues to unlocking your bliss” – Tim Denning

Think about what made you different as a child. Reflect on moments when you didn’t fit in at school or work. These moments for me were when I was in creative states. When I would create music or indulge in writing for my English teacher people thought I was weird.

Your bliss is often found very close to your moments of creative thinking. One of the best parts about bliss is that you may not know what it is right now. Don’t do what average people do and stick your head in the sand.

The goal to finding your bliss is to stop standing still and start moving towards something. Rise up, embrace the fact you have no idea what your bliss is, go back to that childlike state, and discover it.

Strangely enough, those who have discovered their bliss report that one of the best parts to finding bliss is the exploration and the journey you get to experience. If you just start looking for your bliss, you will be on the road to getting your bliss even if you don’t realise it.

 

3. Write a journal or blog

One disadvantage that a lot of us suffer is that we think we know ourselves when the truth is, we really don’t. The easiest way to get to know yourself is through journaling or blogging. By writing to yourself on a regular basis, you will begin to unlock the keys to bliss.

See, when you write your thoughts down in words, you start the process of truly understanding your dreams, hopes, gifts, weaknesses, lessons you have learnt and hidden talents you may have.
Your bliss is really made up of all these things, and each one holds another piece of the puzzle.

Until you bring each of these to the surface, you won’t understand yourself to the extent that you need to, to be able to find your bliss and unlock it.

 

4. Make bliss a must

Bliss needs to become a must if you are to unlock its true power. You have to stop settling for second best and spending massive amounts of your time on things that you don’t love to do. It could be said that unlocking bliss is really just the art of doing more of what you love and less of what you hate.

See, people don’t often know their purpose in life either, and what I have learnt is that your purpose is very closely aligned with your bliss. In fact, they are close to the same thing but not exactly. The straightforward way to unlock your bliss is to make it a must by scheduling it in your calendar every day.

I do this in a way we are all used to; I schedule time in my calendar at least once a week, to do something that I absolutely love. Right now, this is writing, making videos, and public speaking. Each of these tasks put me in a state of bliss and aligns to my purpose of inspiring the world and using entrepreneurship to solve the world’s problems.

 

5. Forget what others think of you

When you walk down the street and see people drinking coffee, smoking cigarettes, consuming alcohol, and eating junk food, it’s because they are so overwhelmed by fear that they are trying desperately to suppress it.

A large part of people’s fear is due to them worrying about what other people will think of them. Read this sentence very carefully; YOU WILL NEVER UNLOCK YOUR BLISS UNLESS YOU PUT ASIDE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU!!!

Successful people know that learning to ignore other people’s opinion of you is how you achieve the impossible. You need to come to terms with the fact that you will never truly know what each person you meet thinks of you, so there is no point in caring about their opinion of you.

Your friends and family often will subconsciously collude with you to create a story that blocks you from unlocking your bliss. You need to face this problem head on and not let it continue. Outside of other people’s opinions of you, your own greatest inhibitor is you. You are limiting yourself and the difference you can create in the world.

 

6. Get used to being uncomfortable

Unlocking your bliss involves a large component of getting used to being uncomfortable. Your parents will often tell you to do the opposite, but that’s only because they want you to be safe and secure. If you settle for always being safe and secure in life, you will never find your bliss or get to experience what it’s like.

There is a part of you that you never knew existed, and the only way to see that side of you is to stretch yourself to the point of it being uncomfortable. The whole journey of bliss is one of the triggers to you discovering your personal quest to bliss in the first place.

If you are not sure what unlocking your bliss is like then the best way I can explain it is, it’s like being hit in the head by a soccer ball over and over until you learn to move slightly to one side. By moving to one side a new perspective is created, and a fresh route appears in your mind.

This process may seem a bit like insanity but when you trust bliss, things that you can’t see start to come together, rearrange themselves, and support the fact that you had faith even when there was no reason to do so.

In fact, you could say that you should keep following your bliss until you get lucky. This perceived luck though is really just hard work that you have put in to get the successful result you want – bliss.

Being uncomfortable for me is getting up each week and attempting to deliver a speech, fumbling my words, getting a rush of adrenaline, and then doing it all over again the next week even though I feel like I failed.

It’s all too easy to be okay with being comfortable each day but what I have found is that if you are not uncomfortable at least every once in a while, you will get bored, each junk food, watch endless amounts of TV shows, and end up dying from an unfulfilled life.

Find Your Bliss Quote - Tim Denning
 

7. Put yourself out there

Being uncomfortable will certainly help you unlock your bliss, but you also need to go to the next level and put yourself out there. By out there, I mean in front of the eyes of everyone else. Assuming money and time were something that you never had to think about, how would you express yourself and how could that serve others?

Part of unlocking your bliss is being able to share what created your bliss with the world. This is because bliss on its own is one thing, but bliss that is created and then shared with other people is an entirely different thing.

As you put yourself out there, don’t try and anticipate what you might find otherwise you will block the path to unlocking your bliss. If there is someone you never speak to, then go and speak to them. If there is a story that you have never told, then go and post it on social media.

Do all of these tasks with unlimited amounts of vulnerability, a fearless sense of consciousness, and all the passion you can unleash. If you put yourself out there, coupled with the previous points, I promise you, you will eventually unlock your bliss and live your dream life.

Have you unlocked your own bliss? If not, why haven’t you? Let me know your answer below or on my Twitter and Facebook pages.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook.

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  1. Adam

    Oct 21, 2016 at 3:10 am

    Absolute spot on for me. I just started a blog on Sunday and happened to read your post from twitter. Thanks for the words because they were so perfect for where I’m at. Blessings

  2. Thea Dunlap

    Mar 22, 2016 at 2:14 am

    Great article. There are some points here that really touched me. Very inspiring and motivating. I look forward on your post Tim. Post like these are really a big help for my both mentally and spiritually. Keep it up 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 29, 2016 at 3:28 am

      Not a problem Thea and thanks for reading.

  3. Toño

    Mar 19, 2016 at 5:06 am

    There are so many points you have touched through this article, Tim that I feel positively overwhelmed right now. My current book is ‘The Flow’ by M. Csikszentmihalyi and it’s align perfectly with the meaning of bliss, and, of course, finding your purpose. That theme is all over my head for such a great amount of time and I feel like I need to look at that at different angle so to speak.

    I would love to share a little story that ‘happened’ yesterday. I was at my gym, got my keys for the changing room. Usually my locker is number ten-something, like 15, 17 etc and for the past weeks it was 15. I looked up at my keys and it was 13. Ok, some change I thought. Got the changing room, again, looked at my keys – 13. Got myself ready, clothes changed, time to go. For some reason, I could not lock my locker, the key was stuck and I thought it just broken. Decided to tell the admistrator about it and had a brief look at my keys and, suddenly, what a surprise… the number was 3! Three! I face-palmed myself so hard and laughed. It’s not my usual thing and I am very careful and pay big attention to small details like this. But I was so certain I’ll have the partuclar locker number I missed the ACTUAL number three times in a row.

    For the last few days I think of this concept: life is not happening to us, it’s responding to our thoughts, words and actions. We restrict ourselves in limited tunnel which we live by that often we miss or do not allow opportinites come to our lives. Our daily routines and habbits drives us down the river and few of us have courage to change things. What I believed happened with me – I was so certain in the number of key that my own eyes betrayed me and mind was having a big fun creating a reallity I was so certain about.

    My little experience that I think may fit to the theme of the article. Thank you again, Tim, for amazing read and inspiration for me this morning, always a pleasure 🙂

    Stay well and have a wonderful weekend!

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 20, 2016 at 9:51 pm

      Toño I actually haven’t read the book “The Flow” but have just gone to Amazon to order it,

      The locker key story has happened to me lots. Its because we are not living in the present moment and so we really don’t know what is happening to us each day.

      Thanks as always Toño

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What If You Never Took Another Selfie Again?

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That’s the question I want you to ponder right now.

What if taking a selfie only made the world ignore you?
What if life is not all about you?
What if no one cares who you took a photo with?

And finally, how did we ever live without selfies before the front-facing camera got invented?

Instead of taking a selfie do this:

Try focusing on other people.
Try not to document every moment.
Try to think about life before selfies.

We all take selfies because that’s what we were told to do.
And that’s exactly why we need to question this habitual flaw that we’re now indulging in.

 

I have A/B tested selfies vs. no selfies.

The result? When I took photos of cool stuff like mountains in Japan and shared a profound thought, people liked that more than a selfie with my overly large head in it. I’ve done this test multiple times over the last few years.

The result is always the same. People are over you and your selfies.

 

It’s not about “I” it’s about “We.”

Sounds cliché, and that’s because most brilliant advice is.

Selfies have deluded us into thinking that life is about us and our big audacious goals. Where life will change for you is when you focus on the “We.”

Everything I write is for the audience I want to inspire. It’s not to show off or to share dumb selfies of me in a weak attempt to appear superior.

 

Selfies cause your followers to compare themselves to you.

And that’s not fair. If each of us tried to be the same, then society would be pretty dull.

“We don’t need a selfie to teach us how to copy each other and be jealous little so-and-sos who want to win a beauty pagan of nothingness”

You’re so much better than a selfie.

I believe you care about your followers so let’s stop drowning them in selfies. Selfies are proving nothing to no one. Selfies stop you from standing out in the crowd and inspiring others.

 

The time you spend “selfieing” could be used for…..

Enjoying this current moment and the breath you have in your lungs. One day that breath is going to stop and all that time selfieing won’t matter. You’re literally using up magical moments trying to take a hundred selfies that you filter and post, hoping for perfection.

Perfection is ugly.

“Right now, is the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen if you’ll only stop selfieing and notice it”

 

Life before selfies….

Life was much the same. The selfie didn’t put us on Cloud 9 with a bunch of our fantasies and an unlimited amount of cash being shot up into the sky via an air cannon.

Life before selfies was fun.
We ate our food instead of looking at it with our phones and letting it get cold.
We had phenomenal conversations with our friends instead of taking endless, mindless selfies.

Life before selfies was not about one’s self.
You took photos of other people. Often, you took two photos max instead of fifty in a row.

I’d like you to imagine a life without selfies.

What does the selfie really mean to you and can you live without it?

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Build From Within – Why Success Is All About People

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What is it that makes a company successful? Money? Technology? A driven CEO? While money certainly doesn’t hurt, technology is essential and it’s nice to have a well poised leader. These things are not what guarantees success in a corporation. It is all about the people. The employees working for an organization are the backbone of the company. Without great people, success can only go so far.

And if this is indeed true, successful business models should revolve around people – attracting top talent, and retaining them. Before ever serving external customers, companies should serve internally. This is where true success is built.

Walid Halty, founder of Dvinci energy, explains 3 reasons as to why people are the bottom line of success and how to build a team for continued growth:

1. Success Comes From Within

How do you continuously create an impeccable experience for your customers? While you may start listing out things such as innovation, efficient delivery and quality, you’d be wrong. All of those factors are quite necessary to attract and retain happy clients. At the same time, you never have to worry about any of that if you have a dedicated and talented team behind your organization or business. When your employees are happy with their work and love what they do, they automatically do great work every single day.

So, how do you get dedicated and talented individuals in your business, and how do you retain them? Dedicated and talented people all share a couple commonalities. They love to be challenged, and they love to grow. You need to challenge your people and give them opportunities to grow: “We have a culture that demands the best out of people. We offer them world class training and give opportunities for growth within our company. We invest in our people: ”Challenge and grow your people, and they will challenge and grow your business.

2. A Balancing Act

Gone are the 12 hour work days and good riddance! There is a new reality in the interconnected and digital world that we live in today. That reality is that there is an abundance of opportunity for anyone who strives for it. People don’t want to miss soccer games, dance recitals and family dinner time. They want balance. They want to do fulfilling, good work at a place where they feel valued, engaged and share a common vision. If this is not the case, then they will be willing to explore other opportunities if they don’t get exactly what they’re looking for.

“Your people don’t need your company’s way of making money, they need a community that creates purpose and order in their lives and an environment that empowers them rather than tries to hold them down out of fear.”

Find out what your people want and then do your best to give it to them. Flexible programs like remote work and adjustable schedules go a long way in making your employees happy and bringing balance: “At Dvinci, we consistently ask our people, what can we be doing better? How can we better serve you? How do WE make doing your job easier?”

You have to care about your people and what they experience on a daily basis when they come to work for you. Deliver a positive people experience, and you will retain your top talent, and they will share your vision and your success.

3. Happiness is a Choice

Emotions are at the root of all the decisions we make. We make hundreds of choices a day, and we make those decisions based off what we think will make us happy. They are why our customers buy from us, and it is why our employees stay with us. We all want to operate in a world (and a place of work) where we have the ability to control our happiness and improve our lives. This simple truth is one of the foundations companies should build their business models around.

Give your people a choice. Allow them to make decisions on how successful they want to be, how much money they want to earn, and what kind of impact they want to have based on what they believe will make them happy. Put the ball in their court. Allow your people to decide to be happy. By doing this, your top talent will excel and your employees will be happy.

“When people are financially invested, they want a return. When people are emotionally invested, they want to contribute.” – Simon Sinek

In case you’ve ever been curious about how to make your business more profitable, more innovative or have a bigger impact, the answer lies within. Serve your people first. Build a community of inspired, engaged and talented employees.

Build your business model around people. The rest will fall into place naturally. When you focus on people, they will care about your business, they will care about your mission and they will care about your customers.

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You Need To Be Real And Authentic, I’m Sorry – Here’s How.

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With me, there are no games.
There’s no fakery.
What you see is what you get.

It’s taken a long time to get to this level of authenticity. I don’t tell you I’m real to brag; I tell you because you can be too. The reality is you need to be if you want the good life.

 

Your individuality is what’s real.

If you’re into comic magazines, tell us. If you’re into punk rock, then that’s great too. Your individuality is what brings out your authenticity. It’s what makes you different and it’s how we can learn a different set of lessons from the ones our own life teaches us.

Sometimes I watch those reality TV shows that show off musical talent. As a grown man, that might sound weird…. who cares. It’s what makes up who I am.

“Hiding who you are only damages your true purpose and the value you can deliver to the world”

We need to see who you are so we can find ourselves. Loud and proud is the best way to live. That’s why I voted for gay marriage because I don’t ever want anyone to hide who they truly are.

 

I’m not out there to become famous.

That’s what makes each of us real. The moment we chase fame, we become lost in a game that we can never win. We’ll never be the most famous.

Fame is not what it’s cracked up to be. It’s designed to make you someone you’re not. You’re supposed to be perfect because all of a sudden, you’re now a role model. The thing is that role models mess up too.

Authenticity comes from not giving a F and trading in fame for being real instead.

I don’t spend half my day on social media trying to make you feel bad through my content. My goal is to use the lessons from my life to inspire yours.

 

I’m only competing against yesterday’s version of me.

“Beating you is not my goal; helping you win is”

The only person I want to beat is yesterday’s version of myself. I want to beat yesterday’s version so I can deliver more of my authentic self today. Increasing the value of my advice and life experience is all that I’m about. With this tool, I can give more. Who are you competing with?

 

I’m not afraid.

I’m not afraid to tell you I don’t have a blue Lambo – only a model car one.
I’m not afraid to tell you I get scared when I do public speaking.
I’m not afraid to tell you that I wish I could always be young.
I’m not afraid to tell you I got my first grey hair the other day.

If you ask me how to be authentic, it starts with being vulnerable and sharing things. The same fears you have are in common with many of us.

“Your deepest fear is my deepest fear. So, let’s share those fears and help each other crush them”

Life doesn’t need to be a solo journey. Show up being real, authentic and wearing your fears on the outside.

 

I’m not about the high life.

The Benz or the Bimmer is not who I am. I write these words in my office with a lava lamp turned on. I’m kind of old school in that way.

Instead of the fake high life, I put my soul into these words I write. Authenticity can buy you the high life, but once you’ve lived a life that is real, you won’t be that interested in gold chains and diamond rings.

On the surface, loads of cash seems appealing. The reality, having lived it, is that I’m my most authentic without all of the distractions and materials possessions. These things take away my focus and stop me from seeing my vision.

I don’t ever want you to lose sight of your vision which is why I remind you of the perils of money so much. Once you get over six figures, it’s all the same mostly. Money doesn’t make you real.

 

Authenticity breeds a killer network.

Cutting out the fake life and being authentic has bought the same kind of people to my life. People that are real, I’ve found, tend to be successful in the true sense. They’re fun to be around and they’re loyal like a puppy dog.

Your network around you will inspire you towards your goal or distract you from that which you seek. People are naturally attracted to people that are real and you can be that way with discipline. Avoid bragging (although celebrate your wins) and say what’s on your mind.

 

Authenticity requires no validation.

You just do it by being honest. Being real is about being honest with the world, and most of all, yourself. Ditch the habit of lying and you’ll get rich on the life you’ve always wanted. No one has to give you permission to be real.

Try saying what you think with respect.

I did so via my blogging and it turns out people can learn from you when you’re real.

 

Final Thought

I’ve given you a ton of reasons to be authentic. No more excuses.

Be who you were always meant to be.
Who you know you can be.
Who you know you should be.

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A Timeline That Shows How To Find Yourself.

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March 2009

I had just bought my dream car, was making loads of cash and chicks thought the fact I was a DJ and Music Producer was cool. My ego was big, I’d never given to a charity or volunteered for anything and I loved to talk my mouth off at anyone who questioned me.

At this point, I had no idea who I was. I honestly believed I could end up discovering drugs and losing myself.

 

June 2011

Nothing had changed except the business I had spent five years creating died.

Along with the death of what I thought was going to be my entire life, and my one big success. Rock bottom came quickly. I couldn’t face the world. I thought I was a failure that would never recover and would work some $15 an hour job for the rest of my life.

At this point, I was even further away from finding myself. The money had gone to my head.

 

April 2013

I’d spent the last two years reading every self-help book and watching lots of Ted Talks. I was more self-aware but still had no idea what I was doing. The fear I had in my life combined with the anxiety was crippling. My health started to fall off a cliff.

Through all of this self-help content, somehow, I discovered Tony Robbins. I went to his seminar by flying 45 minutes to another state of Australia. Flying was a massive fear and I thought I was going to die mid-air.

I got to the seminar and within minutes felt stupid. It seemed like some sort of cult where you drank the cool-aid and then gave your life (literally) at the end.

By that night, I was walking on fire and had a major breakthrough.

At this point, I still had not found myself, but I’d discovered a catalyst for the discovery to begin.

 

June 2014 (roughly I forget what month)

A mate shares a link to a blog called Addicted2Success. The name of the website gets my attention. On the bottom of the site is a phone number which I ring. I talk to the founder’s girlfriend, get the correct mobile number, fly to Perth with no meeting booked, and call him.

He meets me for coffee. There’s no agenda and no topic of conversation. I offer him something for free that he wants and then he asks me to write for his blog. I’ve never written anything professionally and the word ‘writer’ appears lame.

At this point, I had an opportunity but still had no idea who I was.

 

March 2015

My first blog post goes viral and I experience some success. It feels good. The success becomes the validation that I can be a blogger and inspire the world through personal development and entrepreneurship.

I believed in myself before this moment through the self-improvement work but this success compounded the results and my own belief.

At this point, a glimpse of who I was started to shine through. It was satisfying.

 

April 2015

I go to the doctor for a routine check after a few stomach aches, and he sends me to the hospital. While asleep for a few hours, the surgeon finds a lump the size of a golf ball in my guts which was months away from being cancerous.

My whole life changes. Nothing else matters. I begin feeling the following:

– What is my purpose in life?
– Will I be single forever?
– What will be my legacy once I’m gone?
– How can I give back and create more joy?
– Could I inspire millions of people?

These five questions changed everything. These questions were how I began to discover my true self.

 

January 2016

More publications wanted me to write for them. I did and as a result, had more viral blog posts. The daily emails of thank you’s was overwhelming. Inspiring others through my two passions of entrepreneurship and personal development became the pillar of everything I did.

At the same time, I also started crushing my fear of public speaking. This gave me the confidence boost I needed to believe in myself and to continue to discover who I wanted to be.

 

2018 and beyond

I learned the following:

– You’ll never know what will be the catalyst that will change your life
– The things you think you’ll never do, you will
– Once you understand the power of time and legacy through a near-death experience, you’ll never live life the same way again
– Whatever you find your true to self to be, you’ll end up giving back in some way

 

Finding yourself is a lifelong journey.

That’s right! You never arrive. You’re always going to evolve.

What I’ve learned is that once you know who you are and it’s tied to some meaningful purpose – like inspiring millions of people online – the rest will take care of itself.

“It’s the discovery process and being prepared to try new things that will help you uncover that purpose”

Nothing is static. Suffering is guaranteed. In the end, finding yourself is fun when you look back. Thinking about all my ridiculous fears and mistakes makes me laugh. Without them, though, I’d never be who I am today.

And I now know that tomorrow’s potential is created by what you do today.

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5 Simple Things to Do Right Now if You Feel Stuck in Life

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As a success-blogger, I normally have a great deal of clarity about what I need to be working on. I’m also really driven by a sense of purpose in helping others get unstuck and make an impact in their lives. There aren’t many times that I find myself at a loss for what to do next.

Nonetheless, I recently hit a dry spell. I felt entirely stuck and a little burnt out. It felt like I was in a pit, emotionally unempowered and unable to move forward. Due to this, I decided to sit down and write out a list of ways that I could get myself moving and build up some momentum again. (more…)

Aaron Force is a blogger from Seattle, Washington. He writes to help others live their most powerful life by allowing them to find their purpose, get unstuck, and impact the world. He can be found at www.aaronforce.net or at https://www.facebook.com/aforce01/.

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  1. Adam

    Oct 21, 2016 at 3:10 am

    Absolute spot on for me. I just started a blog on Sunday and happened to read your post from twitter. Thanks for the words because they were so perfect for where I’m at. Blessings

  2. Thea Dunlap

    Mar 22, 2016 at 2:14 am

    Great article. There are some points here that really touched me. Very inspiring and motivating. I look forward on your post Tim. Post like these are really a big help for my both mentally and spiritually. Keep it up 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 29, 2016 at 3:28 am

      Not a problem Thea and thanks for reading.

  3. Toño

    Mar 19, 2016 at 5:06 am

    There are so many points you have touched through this article, Tim that I feel positively overwhelmed right now. My current book is ‘The Flow’ by M. Csikszentmihalyi and it’s align perfectly with the meaning of bliss, and, of course, finding your purpose. That theme is all over my head for such a great amount of time and I feel like I need to look at that at different angle so to speak.

    I would love to share a little story that ‘happened’ yesterday. I was at my gym, got my keys for the changing room. Usually my locker is number ten-something, like 15, 17 etc and for the past weeks it was 15. I looked up at my keys and it was 13. Ok, some change I thought. Got the changing room, again, looked at my keys – 13. Got myself ready, clothes changed, time to go. For some reason, I could not lock my locker, the key was stuck and I thought it just broken. Decided to tell the admistrator about it and had a brief look at my keys and, suddenly, what a surprise… the number was 3! Three! I face-palmed myself so hard and laughed. It’s not my usual thing and I am very careful and pay big attention to small details like this. But I was so certain I’ll have the partuclar locker number I missed the ACTUAL number three times in a row.

    For the last few days I think of this concept: life is not happening to us, it’s responding to our thoughts, words and actions. We restrict ourselves in limited tunnel which we live by that often we miss or do not allow opportinites come to our lives. Our daily routines and habbits drives us down the river and few of us have courage to change things. What I believed happened with me – I was so certain in the number of key that my own eyes betrayed me and mind was having a big fun creating a reallity I was so certain about.

    My little experience that I think may fit to the theme of the article. Thank you again, Tim, for amazing read and inspiration for me this morning, always a pleasure 🙂

    Stay well and have a wonderful weekend!

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 20, 2016 at 9:51 pm

      Toño I actually haven’t read the book “The Flow” but have just gone to Amazon to order it,

      The locker key story has happened to me lots. Its because we are not living in the present moment and so we really don’t know what is happening to us each day.

      Thanks as always Toño

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What If You Never Took Another Selfie Again?

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That’s the question I want you to ponder right now.

What if taking a selfie only made the world ignore you?
What if life is not all about you?
What if no one cares who you took a photo with?

And finally, how did we ever live without selfies before the front-facing camera got invented?

Instead of taking a selfie do this:

Try focusing on other people.
Try not to document every moment.
Try to think about life before selfies.

We all take selfies because that’s what we were told to do.
And that’s exactly why we need to question this habitual flaw that we’re now indulging in.

 

I have A/B tested selfies vs. no selfies.

The result? When I took photos of cool stuff like mountains in Japan and shared a profound thought, people liked that more than a selfie with my overly large head in it. I’ve done this test multiple times over the last few years.

The result is always the same. People are over you and your selfies.

 

It’s not about “I” it’s about “We.”

Sounds cliché, and that’s because most brilliant advice is.

Selfies have deluded us into thinking that life is about us and our big audacious goals. Where life will change for you is when you focus on the “We.”

Everything I write is for the audience I want to inspire. It’s not to show off or to share dumb selfies of me in a weak attempt to appear superior.

 

Selfies cause your followers to compare themselves to you.

And that’s not fair. If each of us tried to be the same, then society would be pretty dull.

“We don’t need a selfie to teach us how to copy each other and be jealous little so-and-sos who want to win a beauty pagan of nothingness”

You’re so much better than a selfie.

I believe you care about your followers so let’s stop drowning them in selfies. Selfies are proving nothing to no one. Selfies stop you from standing out in the crowd and inspiring others.

 

The time you spend “selfieing” could be used for…..

Enjoying this current moment and the breath you have in your lungs. One day that breath is going to stop and all that time selfieing won’t matter. You’re literally using up magical moments trying to take a hundred selfies that you filter and post, hoping for perfection.

Perfection is ugly.

“Right now, is the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen if you’ll only stop selfieing and notice it”

 

Life before selfies….

Life was much the same. The selfie didn’t put us on Cloud 9 with a bunch of our fantasies and an unlimited amount of cash being shot up into the sky via an air cannon.

Life before selfies was fun.
We ate our food instead of looking at it with our phones and letting it get cold.
We had phenomenal conversations with our friends instead of taking endless, mindless selfies.

Life before selfies was not about one’s self.
You took photos of other people. Often, you took two photos max instead of fifty in a row.

I’d like you to imagine a life without selfies.

What does the selfie really mean to you and can you live without it?

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Build From Within – Why Success Is All About People

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What is it that makes a company successful? Money? Technology? A driven CEO? While money certainly doesn’t hurt, technology is essential and it’s nice to have a well poised leader. These things are not what guarantees success in a corporation. It is all about the people. The employees working for an organization are the backbone of the company. Without great people, success can only go so far.

And if this is indeed true, successful business models should revolve around people – attracting top talent, and retaining them. Before ever serving external customers, companies should serve internally. This is where true success is built.

Walid Halty, founder of Dvinci energy, explains 3 reasons as to why people are the bottom line of success and how to build a team for continued growth:

1. Success Comes From Within

How do you continuously create an impeccable experience for your customers? While you may start listing out things such as innovation, efficient delivery and quality, you’d be wrong. All of those factors are quite necessary to attract and retain happy clients. At the same time, you never have to worry about any of that if you have a dedicated and talented team behind your organization or business. When your employees are happy with their work and love what they do, they automatically do great work every single day.

So, how do you get dedicated and talented individuals in your business, and how do you retain them? Dedicated and talented people all share a couple commonalities. They love to be challenged, and they love to grow. You need to challenge your people and give them opportunities to grow: “We have a culture that demands the best out of people. We offer them world class training and give opportunities for growth within our company. We invest in our people: ”Challenge and grow your people, and they will challenge and grow your business.

2. A Balancing Act

Gone are the 12 hour work days and good riddance! There is a new reality in the interconnected and digital world that we live in today. That reality is that there is an abundance of opportunity for anyone who strives for it. People don’t want to miss soccer games, dance recitals and family dinner time. They want balance. They want to do fulfilling, good work at a place where they feel valued, engaged and share a common vision. If this is not the case, then they will be willing to explore other opportunities if they don’t get exactly what they’re looking for.

“Your people don’t need your company’s way of making money, they need a community that creates purpose and order in their lives and an environment that empowers them rather than tries to hold them down out of fear.”

Find out what your people want and then do your best to give it to them. Flexible programs like remote work and adjustable schedules go a long way in making your employees happy and bringing balance: “At Dvinci, we consistently ask our people, what can we be doing better? How can we better serve you? How do WE make doing your job easier?”

You have to care about your people and what they experience on a daily basis when they come to work for you. Deliver a positive people experience, and you will retain your top talent, and they will share your vision and your success.

3. Happiness is a Choice

Emotions are at the root of all the decisions we make. We make hundreds of choices a day, and we make those decisions based off what we think will make us happy. They are why our customers buy from us, and it is why our employees stay with us. We all want to operate in a world (and a place of work) where we have the ability to control our happiness and improve our lives. This simple truth is one of the foundations companies should build their business models around.

Give your people a choice. Allow them to make decisions on how successful they want to be, how much money they want to earn, and what kind of impact they want to have based on what they believe will make them happy. Put the ball in their court. Allow your people to decide to be happy. By doing this, your top talent will excel and your employees will be happy.

“When people are financially invested, they want a return. When people are emotionally invested, they want to contribute.” – Simon Sinek

In case you’ve ever been curious about how to make your business more profitable, more innovative or have a bigger impact, the answer lies within. Serve your people first. Build a community of inspired, engaged and talented employees.

Build your business model around people. The rest will fall into place naturally. When you focus on people, they will care about your business, they will care about your mission and they will care about your customers.

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You Need To Be Real And Authentic, I’m Sorry – Here’s How.

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With me, there are no games.
There’s no fakery.
What you see is what you get.

It’s taken a long time to get to this level of authenticity. I don’t tell you I’m real to brag; I tell you because you can be too. The reality is you need to be if you want the good life.

 

Your individuality is what’s real.

If you’re into comic magazines, tell us. If you’re into punk rock, then that’s great too. Your individuality is what brings out your authenticity. It’s what makes you different and it’s how we can learn a different set of lessons from the ones our own life teaches us.

Sometimes I watch those reality TV shows that show off musical talent. As a grown man, that might sound weird…. who cares. It’s what makes up who I am.

“Hiding who you are only damages your true purpose and the value you can deliver to the world”

We need to see who you are so we can find ourselves. Loud and proud is the best way to live. That’s why I voted for gay marriage because I don’t ever want anyone to hide who they truly are.

 

I’m not out there to become famous.

That’s what makes each of us real. The moment we chase fame, we become lost in a game that we can never win. We’ll never be the most famous.

Fame is not what it’s cracked up to be. It’s designed to make you someone you’re not. You’re supposed to be perfect because all of a sudden, you’re now a role model. The thing is that role models mess up too.

Authenticity comes from not giving a F and trading in fame for being real instead.

I don’t spend half my day on social media trying to make you feel bad through my content. My goal is to use the lessons from my life to inspire yours.

 

I’m only competing against yesterday’s version of me.

“Beating you is not my goal; helping you win is”

The only person I want to beat is yesterday’s version of myself. I want to beat yesterday’s version so I can deliver more of my authentic self today. Increasing the value of my advice and life experience is all that I’m about. With this tool, I can give more. Who are you competing with?

 

I’m not afraid.

I’m not afraid to tell you I don’t have a blue Lambo – only a model car one.
I’m not afraid to tell you I get scared when I do public speaking.
I’m not afraid to tell you that I wish I could always be young.
I’m not afraid to tell you I got my first grey hair the other day.

If you ask me how to be authentic, it starts with being vulnerable and sharing things. The same fears you have are in common with many of us.

“Your deepest fear is my deepest fear. So, let’s share those fears and help each other crush them”

Life doesn’t need to be a solo journey. Show up being real, authentic and wearing your fears on the outside.

 

I’m not about the high life.

The Benz or the Bimmer is not who I am. I write these words in my office with a lava lamp turned on. I’m kind of old school in that way.

Instead of the fake high life, I put my soul into these words I write. Authenticity can buy you the high life, but once you’ve lived a life that is real, you won’t be that interested in gold chains and diamond rings.

On the surface, loads of cash seems appealing. The reality, having lived it, is that I’m my most authentic without all of the distractions and materials possessions. These things take away my focus and stop me from seeing my vision.

I don’t ever want you to lose sight of your vision which is why I remind you of the perils of money so much. Once you get over six figures, it’s all the same mostly. Money doesn’t make you real.

 

Authenticity breeds a killer network.

Cutting out the fake life and being authentic has bought the same kind of people to my life. People that are real, I’ve found, tend to be successful in the true sense. They’re fun to be around and they’re loyal like a puppy dog.

Your network around you will inspire you towards your goal or distract you from that which you seek. People are naturally attracted to people that are real and you can be that way with discipline. Avoid bragging (although celebrate your wins) and say what’s on your mind.

 

Authenticity requires no validation.

You just do it by being honest. Being real is about being honest with the world, and most of all, yourself. Ditch the habit of lying and you’ll get rich on the life you’ve always wanted. No one has to give you permission to be real.

Try saying what you think with respect.

I did so via my blogging and it turns out people can learn from you when you’re real.

 

Final Thought

I’ve given you a ton of reasons to be authentic. No more excuses.

Be who you were always meant to be.
Who you know you can be.
Who you know you should be.

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A Timeline That Shows How To Find Yourself.

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March 2009

I had just bought my dream car, was making loads of cash and chicks thought the fact I was a DJ and Music Producer was cool. My ego was big, I’d never given to a charity or volunteered for anything and I loved to talk my mouth off at anyone who questioned me.

At this point, I had no idea who I was. I honestly believed I could end up discovering drugs and losing myself.

 

June 2011

Nothing had changed except the business I had spent five years creating died.

Along with the death of what I thought was going to be my entire life, and my one big success. Rock bottom came quickly. I couldn’t face the world. I thought I was a failure that would never recover and would work some $15 an hour job for the rest of my life.

At this point, I was even further away from finding myself. The money had gone to my head.

 

April 2013

I’d spent the last two years reading every self-help book and watching lots of Ted Talks. I was more self-aware but still had no idea what I was doing. The fear I had in my life combined with the anxiety was crippling. My health started to fall off a cliff.

Through all of this self-help content, somehow, I discovered Tony Robbins. I went to his seminar by flying 45 minutes to another state of Australia. Flying was a massive fear and I thought I was going to die mid-air.

I got to the seminar and within minutes felt stupid. It seemed like some sort of cult where you drank the cool-aid and then gave your life (literally) at the end.

By that night, I was walking on fire and had a major breakthrough.

At this point, I still had not found myself, but I’d discovered a catalyst for the discovery to begin.

 

June 2014 (roughly I forget what month)

A mate shares a link to a blog called Addicted2Success. The name of the website gets my attention. On the bottom of the site is a phone number which I ring. I talk to the founder’s girlfriend, get the correct mobile number, fly to Perth with no meeting booked, and call him.

He meets me for coffee. There’s no agenda and no topic of conversation. I offer him something for free that he wants and then he asks me to write for his blog. I’ve never written anything professionally and the word ‘writer’ appears lame.

At this point, I had an opportunity but still had no idea who I was.

 

March 2015

My first blog post goes viral and I experience some success. It feels good. The success becomes the validation that I can be a blogger and inspire the world through personal development and entrepreneurship.

I believed in myself before this moment through the self-improvement work but this success compounded the results and my own belief.

At this point, a glimpse of who I was started to shine through. It was satisfying.

 

April 2015

I go to the doctor for a routine check after a few stomach aches, and he sends me to the hospital. While asleep for a few hours, the surgeon finds a lump the size of a golf ball in my guts which was months away from being cancerous.

My whole life changes. Nothing else matters. I begin feeling the following:

– What is my purpose in life?
– Will I be single forever?
– What will be my legacy once I’m gone?
– How can I give back and create more joy?
– Could I inspire millions of people?

These five questions changed everything. These questions were how I began to discover my true self.

 

January 2016

More publications wanted me to write for them. I did and as a result, had more viral blog posts. The daily emails of thank you’s was overwhelming. Inspiring others through my two passions of entrepreneurship and personal development became the pillar of everything I did.

At the same time, I also started crushing my fear of public speaking. This gave me the confidence boost I needed to believe in myself and to continue to discover who I wanted to be.

 

2018 and beyond

I learned the following:

– You’ll never know what will be the catalyst that will change your life
– The things you think you’ll never do, you will
– Once you understand the power of time and legacy through a near-death experience, you’ll never live life the same way again
– Whatever you find your true to self to be, you’ll end up giving back in some way

 

Finding yourself is a lifelong journey.

That’s right! You never arrive. You’re always going to evolve.

What I’ve learned is that once you know who you are and it’s tied to some meaningful purpose – like inspiring millions of people online – the rest will take care of itself.

“It’s the discovery process and being prepared to try new things that will help you uncover that purpose”

Nothing is static. Suffering is guaranteed. In the end, finding yourself is fun when you look back. Thinking about all my ridiculous fears and mistakes makes me laugh. Without them, though, I’d never be who I am today.

And I now know that tomorrow’s potential is created by what you do today.

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