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6 Things I Learned From a $1,000 an Hour Consultation

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About half a year ago, I made the step of paying $1000 for an hour of somebody’s time. I handed out that large amount just so I could pick his brain.

His name was Ryan Holiday, and in that hour Ryan taught me how to be a better writer.

And it wasn’t just about writing per se. It was about standing out in your pursuit of your dreams.

It may sound crazy, to pay a thousand dollars for just an hour of somebody’s time, but it’s well worth it.

Sometimes, you just have to take the leap to make big strides in yourself.

 

1) You cannot play safe, so be afraid

I learnt that before I publish a new article on my blog, I absolutely have to feel afraid, anxious and uncomfortable.

This is not a cheesy idea where as if only artistic people can relate to on some spiritual level.

Look at it this way: If you’re not afraid, anxious or the least bit uncomfortable, that means you’re playing it safe.

And if you’re safe, then you’re like the rest of the world.

You cannot stand out if you’re like the rest of the world, that is why you need to be afraid in the art you create.

So don’t play safe. Be very afraid and get uncomfortable. Your passion, art and message are dying to come out.

 

2) Ask yourself, “Is this something only I can make?”

Ryan told me this,

Before you publish an article, ask yourself, ‘Is this something only YOU can show to the world?

It sounds obvious enough, but I think it’s something most of us miss out on.

We keep thinking we need to follow the rules and emulate our idols or those we look up to. As such, we forget that we have something special to say in the first place.

From time to time, we should give ourselves the benefit of the doubt that we’re actually right, that our unique voice or message is something part of the world wants to hear.

You may not follow suit with the world, but that doesn’t mean you’re wrong. So trust your gut. That’s how you relay your message.

 

3) Sometimes you need to feel the pinch

Did I feel like I was crazy for spending a thousand bucks just for an hour of somebody’s time? I sure did.

But that’s okay.

I knew I had to make that step. Anything less would mean that I’d take it for granted.

So sacrifice. Feel the pinch.

Most people in the world want freebies and discount to the point that they don’t recognize the value of the great things they have.

You’ve way more than you think. If you really want something, then go all out for it.

 

4) If it works so well, why would they teach?

I think way too many of us are caught up in the rules of business and marketing. We think we need to follow the same path other marketers and entrepreneurs always try to teach.

And it’s very easy to get trapped by them because they’re seemingly successful.

But remember this: They managed to create their own path.

They’re trying to make you follow the same path, but there’d never be enough space for you to tag along.

There’d be a time when you eventually have to follow your own instincts, break the rules and feel entirely uncomfortable all the way.

So just do it. Create your own experience and learn from them. Your experience will never lie to you, whereas what others teach you may be questionable.

 

5) “Good content is giving a piece of your own humanity, back to humanity.”

That is the exact quote I was told.

Great content isn’t just about following a set of rules or learning from a bunch of teachers.

You need to harness your own energy and tell the world what you’re about; what your unique message really is. And no amount of mentors, coaches or courses can give you that. You can only learn so much from what others have to teach you.

Look deep within. Again, break some rules. If you’ve spotted something wrong in life and have something to say, say it.

The right people would appreciate you for that and those will eventually become your loyal fans.

 

6) The work is the goal

As a writer, I always thought that my eventual success would mean being “discovered” or experiencing some ultimate break.

But that is not the case. Why? Because that is like hoping to score the lottery and thinking that all your problems will be solved then.

The real goal is the work.

You’ve to do the work every day. You’ve to put in the effort for all the little things all the time. You’ve to persevere even though there is not end in sight.

And with every small step you take, you’ll get closer to your goal. With every small thing you do, you’ll have created something big at the end.

Your just rewards will come eventually. You’ll know it when you feel it.

So don’t ever give up. Keep working hard and put in the daily work.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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