As I approach one of the biggest weeks of my life I wanted to share with you a question, I get asked all the time. The question is, how do I stay motivated and manage to crush it? Now this is not an easy question to answer in one blog post but I will do my best.
What you are about to read is a bit of a rant, but a positive one that we’ll inspire you as always. It will take you through the basics in the simplest form I know how. I’m no expert but I have learnt a thing or two along the way so maybe it can help you with your own journey.
Below are the seven steps to how I stay motivated.
Go to work each day and always believe that what you’re doing matters – your changing the world even if you think you’re not. Don’t worry about the naysayers and the people that think you’re weird. If your beliefs suck then get started now, and go and read some sort of personal development book.
Start to think more closely about what is stopping you from staying motivated and realise it might be your limiting beliefs. Are you finding yourself constantly saying that something can’t be done? If you are, then that’s okay, everything can be reprogrammed – no one is lost forever.
As you work on this, each day you find that things start to change. The change is slow but you realise that greatness doesn’t happen overnight. Late one night write down all the things you wanted to do but haven’t done.
Then, next to each one, write down the story about why you haven’t done it. The wisdom you get from this will be immense. This is because you can do whatever you want once you drop the story behind why you can’t do it.
2. Use quality inputs for energy
Decide today that you will no longer stand for low energy. Think about all the successful people each day that you see who are highly motivated. Are they low on energy sipping cans of Coke? You know deep down they are not.
Yes, you eat healthy food every day now and consume lots of water but that’s what gives you the energy to do more. You’re super motivated because you’re not smarter than the average person but you can outwork them.
When the end of the day comes you’re only just getting started and you feel like you can just keep going. If your stomach starts to rumble, you know that you just need some water and not a doughnut. As the zombies drink their cup of fear (coffee), you realise that you no longer have the urge.
At functions with your friends you are perfectly fine drinking water and focusing on good conversation rather than who can drink the most. People look at you weird with your glass of water but you realise that you are in the .01% of successful people and don’t care.
A common trait you share with the drunks is the need to urinate but you know that this is because you’re beautifully hydrated and your skin looks radiant, not because you are unhealthy like them. Be careful what goes in, otherwise what comes out will not be good and you will struggle to be motivated.
3. Social media can help if you let it
When you get home each night, you go on the internet and try and find inspiration. You realise that to inspire others you have to inspire yourself first. While you are waiting for the lift to make its way up, on the way to a meeting, you can’t resist looking at a few inspirational quotes.
Your motivation from reading great content starts to compound and pretty soon you reprogram your mind to believe anything is possible. You continually stand guard at the door of your mind and unfollow anyone who is not adding value or inspiring you.
After a few months, you are only left with a Facebook newsfeed that lifts you up and reminds you why you do what you do. Each day you consistently see people crushing it and you begin to believe that if they can, so can you.
As you post inspiring statuses and only get a few likes, at first, you think you are not having an impact. Then slowly, each day, people start saying how they love what you are trying to do.
You scratch your head and wonder why they say this because they never like any of the things you post until you realise that everyone reads everything, they just may not acknowledge it because they are afraid of what others might think. They are afraid to be criticised.
Before you became a highly motivated individual, you used to over think everything you did on social media until you understood that the more open you are, the braver you are, the more you inspire others. You now post without thinking and hope that what you’re doing is valuable, and if not, that’s fine too.
4. Think of your partner
You remember what it was like to be single and how lonely you felt and you vow never to let your partner down. You always try to be the best person you can for them. You realise that you can’t stay motivated and be by yourself, you have to share what you do with others.
When you see them each night, you remember back to what it was like the first time you saw them. When you are having a tough day with your next business venture you think of them and how they make you feel. They inspire you to be the best version of you and encourage you no matter what.
No matter how hard your life is, at least you have someone to share it with and that’s motivation right there. If you don’t have someone to share it with than remember that you will find him or her one-day – have faith.
5. Remember money doesn’t motivate you
Each day you see other people drive around in their luxury cars and remember what it was like when you were that person and didn’t understand what being rich actually meant. You remember the feeling of touching the soft leather on the drivers seat each morning and wondering why you needed a car to tell others who you are.
You remember the fast speeds you used to drive at in this car and why you used to do this. It wasn’t because you were in a hurry; it was because you were constantly going to places to try and find yourself and then in a hurry to find the next destination.
When you found your purpose, you no longer needed to drive fast and you stopped beeping your horn. You became content with who you’ve become. As offers of money are given to you to get involved in different businesses, you stop looking at how many zero’s there are and start thinking about whether the vision links with who you’ve become.
You think a lot about the problem these business ventures might be solving and whether you are going to be able to stay motivated. You look at your list of interests and realise that many of these offers don’t meet your new criteria. After listening to Tim Ferriss, you realise you need to start saying no a hell of a lot more if you are going to stay on track and stay motivated.
If someone wants to give you a lot of money to complete a task, you start asking who else is involved. You realise that you are happy to take less money for something if it means that you get to network with amazing people.
6. Always help someone
Motivation is accelerated when others continually encourage you to keep going. The only way others will support you is if you do something to help them or create value for them in some way. You can help anyone you want; it’s not hard and you can start today.
Listen to the greats who talk about how helping people is why they are successful. Go do what most people think is crazy and give up Thanksgiving, and go and feed the homeless. Your family will think you’re nuts, but you will find a different form of motivation that you haven’t had before.
After the holiday break, notice how you start to think about your business ventures in a different way. Suddenly you wonder if your product or service could help people who are much less fortunate than you.
7. Take a break
Pick a destination and take a break. You’ve worked damn hard so far on your dream and you need to reset. As motivated as you have now become you will burn out at some point – everyone does (trust me).
Learn about another culture while you’re away. See a different way of doing things. Get out of your comfort zone. Enjoy the sunshine and try not to think about your business activities. Grab your smartphone, hold the off button, and put it in your suitcase. What happens on Facebook can wait, this is your life we are talking about – don’t let it pass you by.
Make a commitment that when you get home, you are going to do one thing differently. Upon arrival back from your break, notice how you feel and reassess if you’re motivated. If done properly, you should be able to focus again on your goal without losing motivation.
At the end of the holiday, ask yourself was this fun? If the answer is yes, then you know what you have to do – find a way to add more value so you can pay for more holidays.
As the years roll on, your new strategy for staying motivated can be summed up in the following sentence. Stop doing stuff you don’t like, be happy with yourself, add value, and who cares what others have.
END RANT….Let’s chat on Facebook.
(Part 2) Conquering the Impossible Space Between Where You Are Now and Where You Want to Be
I wrote a blog post based on a mini-series I did for my Subscribers on the Achieve the Impossible App and have packaged it up in two parts to share here. If you missed Part One, quick click here and have a read over that first before reading any further!
One of the first obstacles we’re going to face on this journey towards risk is one that often strikes a damaging blow to our pride and can sometimes take us to our knees. As you embark on this journey, I can almost guarantee that we will take a wrong turn from time to time, we will read the map wrong (I’ll take the hit, I’m the navigator – sorry!) which will send us off course.
When you’ve taken a wrong turn driving, what is your first thought? DAMN IT. (Yep, me too!) What’s your second thought? Is it ‘ahh, I’ve stuffed up. I’m gonna just pull over and sit here until either the roads and maps magically change in my favor or someone comes to rescue me?’ Or do we think ‘Ok, what’s the quickest way to get back on my path?’
When we stuff up, make a mistake, choose the wrong software, tell the wrong people or say the wrong thing, we don’t just pack up our dreams and hide. NO. We pick ourselves back up. We face the right direction (or what we believe is the right direction) and we MOVE FORWARD.
I don’t care if you start by walking one ginger step at a time, just start! Those small steps gain momentum and eventually lead to a jog, then before you know it, you’re back running!
Mistakes aren’t meant to end us, they are there to redirect us. Anytime you embark on an unknown journey you’re going to make mistakes.How you respond is the only thing I want you to focus on. Respond with reflection, movement and momentum in the direction of your dreams.
On our journey, we’re going to make mistakes and take wrong turns from time to time, but we choose to pick ourselves back up, and get back on that journey! We’re not staying stuck, we’re ‘running to risk’! As we get back on this journey, we’re going to need to make a decision to take action and invest in risk.
Sounds like I’m about to write a message on Warren Buffett’s worst nightmare. But that’s not the risk I’m talking about and it’s not the investing I’m talking about. Sleep tight, Warren. This risk I’m talking about is the thing that stands between you and your dream. The thing that you’ve told yourself is too strong, too powerful and too insurmountable to climb.
It’s often the case that the risk we perceive in our own minds is actually far greater than it truly is in reality. I remember as a child, visiting a museum and being fascinated by a scary looking dinosaur down the other side of the room. It looked ferocious and intimidating from across the room, and as I walked closer and closer, the dinosaur, through the magic of perspective, got bigger and bigger.
That’s where I feel we are at right now on our journey towards risk. We’ve identified the risk standing between us and our dreams, and we’re taking the tentative first steps towards it. As we step closer and closer to risk, it will look bigger. You’ll start to compare the size of it to you, and don’t be surprised if it grows each step you take. But, have faith.
The closer I got to the dinosaur, the bigger it became. I had a choice to let fear or faith determine my next steps. I continued walking step by step towards the prehistoric creature. Then something strange happened.
Yes, the closer I got to the creature, the bigger it became. But then something else came into the picture. The closer I got, the more detail I was noticing. What I thought were bone-crunching teeth were actually a matte white plastic, what I thought was impenetrable skin was old flaking greeny-brown paint. Those eyes that glared at you from across the room, were now nothing but big marble sized spheres of glass.
When we step towards fear, yes it gets bigger – but as we invest in faith and continue to live our lives in the direction of our dreams, we expose the master of risk…FEAR.
Invest in those extra steps this week as you get closer to risk to point out the finer details, you’re going to realise it’s not as scary as it once seemed. Those steps aren’t always going to come easy though, because the journey towards risk is an interesting one.
There’ll be times when you’re pumped full of Adrenalin, bashing down every obstacle that comes your way. There will be times where you’re cruising on a nice downhill slope, enjoying the scenery and wondering why it took you this long to convince yourself to get here!
Then there’ll be times when things aren’t easy. Just like my climb this evening up a little mountain by my home on the Sunshine Coast of Australia. I started out full of energy, pumped for the adventure ahead, then five minutes into the usually very achievable rocky steps, my legs started really feeling it.
“You’ll never know your strength until you’ve faced your struggles.”
The Adrenalin gave way to frustration, to fear and to my quickly draining self-belief in my fitness. I continued one painful step at a time. I wasn’t going the pace I normally would, but knew this mountain could be conquered one slow step at a time.
As I slowly neared the end of the steps, my legs were burning, my heart pounding and my mindset weakening. Two quiet words burst through my pain…
I’m pretty sure I’ve never said this going up the mountain before, but it seemed fitting. As I climbed one step at a time, ‘stay strong’ became my repeated mantra. After the season of pain and intentional mindset building, I reached the summit of the mountain and cruised my way back down.
There is such an incredibly untapped power within our self-belief and mindset, which shapes our self-talk. On your journey towards your risk, I can almost guarantee you’ll be faced with steps that seem too difficult, too challenging, too much to conquer.
Remember…’stay strong’. You’re on this path for a reason – you’re capable of completing it. You’ve come this far, see it through. Your ‘impossible’ dream is counting on you to conquer fear and run to risk!
This blog is based off the mini-series ‘Run to Risk’ first featured on the Achieve the Impossible App, accompanied by downloadable wallpapers and daily inspiring messages to inspire, challenge and equip you to achieve your impossible dream. Download the Achieve the Impossible App and start your free trial today!
(Part 1) Conquering the Impossible Space Between Where You Are Now and Where You Want to Be
Deep down, you know exactly what you are capable of. There’s even moments where you get a glimpse of all the potential you have. You can get there. You just have to be willing to sacrifice the habits, things and situations that are standing in the way of your success. I honestly believe “Running to Risk” has the power to unlock mindsets and belief systems that have been holding you back from your true potential (I’m naturally conservative so it’s big coming from me!)
Before we do something crazy and ‘run to risk’, let’s take stock of where we are today and our foundational beliefs in our potential and true capacity. In the day-to-day act of living, waking up, coffee, breakfast, school drop-offs, work, more coffee, home, homework, dinner, finish off emails, glass or two of (insert drink here), collapse on couch, Netflix etc. We can become disconnected with our true potential and capacity.
You are being pulled from all sides – your family, your boss, your colleagues, your partner, your friends, even your dog. You can be forgiven for prioritising the present over the future.
To set up this series on healthy and personal-capacity fuelled risk, I want you to invest a moment or two searching deep within yourself.
- What’s in your heart for 2019?
- What is one thing you would look back on come 31st Dec 2019 and be proud of your personal accomplishment?
- What’s something that scares you?
- What’s that one thing that has been on the back of your mind that you’d love to put your name to in your lifetime?
The answer to the above is the thing we’re going to focus on in part one of this post. We’re focusing on it because with every achievement that challenges our personal capacity and unlocks our potential, there will be an element of risk.
Risk Is Scary!
Risk stares you in the face from afar and says ‘don’t you dare approach. Don’t even try’. This is when you’re faced with a decision to make, and the best (and also worst!) thing about it is you’re the only one who can make it!
As you make this decision to ‘run to risk’, the regret of not running has to be stronger than your personal comfort. Your comfort must give way to your calling. Your present must give way to your potential.
Think about the one thing on your heart – the thing that helps you step into your calling and potential. The thing with risk looming all over it. Let’s build the strength, self-belief, courage, boldness and tenacity to ‘Run to Risk.’ But what about timing? I’m not sure if I should be pursuing my dream now.
“You can’t always wait for the perfect time. Sometimes, you have to dare to do it because life is too short to wonder what might have been.”
We’re not running to risk for a laugh and a good time, we’re running to risk because that dream in our hearts for 2019 is worth pursuing. When faced with the potential of risk, we often come up with thoughts and reasons to justify our lack of momentum or progress.
I don’t know how!
I don’t have the money!
I don’t have the connections!
But one of the most common excuses I hear (I know, because I hear it from myself) is a little sentence that has killed more dreams and crushed more souls than most. ’It’s not the right time’.
It’s one of the most powerful excuses because it bulldozes every other excuse by default. You’ll always meet more people, money comes and goes, but once time is gone, it’s gone forever. This excuse becomes our default without us even realising it.
I remember when I was wanting to launch a few online courses, a podcast and a book. (These are all my risks for 2019). But they were also my goals for 2017 and 2018. Sadly, I put my insecurities ahead of my identity and my convenience over my calling. Looking back now, each excuse I held to for not launching these projects was based on timing.
First, the IG algorithms were affecting posts, then someone else launched a podcast in my niche and gosh, I couldn’t do that! Next, as I was writing my IG Online Course, another one came on the market. Nope, can’t do that now. I’ll wait until the marketing heat dies down on that one. The exact same situation with my book launch…it just wasn’t quite the right time.
Here’s what I learnt and something I want to share with you, there’s never a right time to do the thing that’s on your heart. The right time will never simply show up, you’ve got the time, now it’s up to you to make it right!
Looking back, I’ve felt the pain of regret and don’t want to let the fear of risk lead to regret again. Now is the time to look risk dead square in the eyes and say ‘ready or not, here I come’. Yeah, the I could start now I guess…I know what I want to do and I kinda believe now is as good of time as any…I’m honestly not sure where to start.
“Never be afraid to try something new, because life gets boring when you stay within the limits of what you already know.”
Now It’s Time!
We’ve just told risk we’re coming for it. We’ve made the decision to put our calling over our comfort and choose to be lead by faith not fear. Now it’s the time to start. We’re starting right now because we have been given the time, and we’ve got complete power and control to make it the ‘right time’. We’ve made the decision to go after that thing that’s on our heart, the thing we’ve always wanted to do, the thing that has been too risky.
Not anymore. Today, we start.
There is huge power in the start. When we start, we have the luxury of being on home ground. We are making more decisions for ourselves, rather than having to make decisions based on responses which we will have to inevitably do down the road.
Today, we start.
We’re filled fresh with enthusiasm, passion and driven by our desire to accomplish something meaningful this year. Yesterday, we may have had a loss to our name, we may have stumbled and fallen…but you’ve picked yourself up.
Today, we start.
We look to the future with our heads held high, the hopes of a brighter future with that dream in our heart knowing that we are valiantly pursuing it despite the risk. We know our dream, we know we are capable of achieving it, we know we’ve got the time and today, we start.
We start the journey as we ‘Run to Risk’.This blog is based off the mini-series ‘Run to Risk’ first featured on the Achieve the Impossible App, accompanied by downloadable wallpapers and daily inspiring messages to inspire, challenge and equip you to achieve your impossible dream. Download the Achieve the Impossible App and start your free trial today!
It’s What You Do On A ‘Bad Day’ That Matters.
Last Friday was a bad day for me. I woke up late, missed the gym and didn’t meditate.
None of this was intentional.
I then turned my computer on to do what I do every day: blog. I was not prepared for the whirlwind that followed.
As I opened up my social media channels, there were a lot more than usual, direct messages. I started reading each one and they were from colleagues and friends who wanted to warn me that I had a large amount of hate-fuelled comments on social media. I’m usually pretty good at dealing with hate comments. Not on that day, though — I was having a ‘bad day.’
I turned off the computer and didn’t respond to anybody. In the same week, I’d been told I was now a LinkedIn Top Voice for 2018.
I should have been celebrating and I didn’t because I didn’t feel worthy. If anything, I wanted to give up there and then. Luckily I didn’t follow through with any of these ideas. I knew it was just noise in my awful day.
I went away to sit on the couch and think about what I’d just read. Without really thinking about what I was going to do for the rest of the day, I began thinking about my team at work. There were several leadership challenges that I had to solve.
One was from a customer that was being abusive to female staff. Another was a rejection I had to deliver to someone that wanted to work with us. The hardest part about delivering the rejection was that I’d already said yes.
Despite the day being bad, I made a fundamental decision — to keep doing what I do and not stop. I said to myself “How can I inspire people while simultaneously solving both these challenges?”
I’m a big believer that it’s not what you say that matters; it’s what you do. Talk is cheap. I came up with a bold plan to address both challenges.
I was going to do something that made me see the good in the people involved.
Even if the people in both situations had let me down, I was going to assume they were still good.
I concocted a plan to help both people and try and show them a more positive way to move forward. If I break down the plan, it was about being an inspiration in both situations.
I didn’t feel like being inspiring.
It was not the day to be inspiring.
But it was the only way I could motivate myself to finish off this bad day and wake up the next morning fresh. It’s funny how a good nights sleep takes away all the pain and negativity from the day before.
So, by the end of the day, I enabled both plans. I set out to release inspiration in both scenarios and that was my only focus. I didn’t look at anymore hate fuelled comments or go near social media.
On that bad day last Friday, my actions helped me keep moving forward and not give up.
It’s not about necessarily seeing the good in your bad day.
I’ve read this sort of advice heaps, but it requires a lot of willpower.
“Using your actions to make the day better rather than trying to think your way out of your bad day seems to be a lot easier to implement”
It’s not about the bad day.
Bad days will happen.
It’s what you do on a bad day that determines if you’ll feel the full effect of all the negativity that can potentially knock you out like a Tsunami that comes your way when all you wanted to do was lay on the beach and soak up some sun.
I’ve learned to find situations during a day that’s not working out well for me, to do something good, and often that’s not something that benefits me. If I was to look at it another way it would be “How do I not focus on my own bad day?”
Trying to make someone else’s day good distracts you from your own bad day.
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