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10 Fearless Questions Every Successful Person Asks Themselves

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You know what success means to you, you’ve set your goals for the year, and you’re committed to making them happen.

Congratulations.

Or maybe you haven’t done any of the above, but you still want to make 2015 your most successful year to date.

Whatever situation you are in, I’ve got ten tough questions you must ask yourself regularly over the next 12 months.

Let’s get started before one of us loses our nerve:

 

1. Am I Harnessing the Power of Small Daily Wins?

It’s difficult to accomplish a major personal or professional goal through a short bout of intense productivity. For example, if you want to write a book this year it’s unlikely that you’ll write this goal in a single week or even in a single month.

Instead, concentrate on progressing your goal a little every day. This way you’ll be able to make steady but determined progress without burning out.

If you want to write a book, for example, commit to writing three hundred words every day. Three hundred words a day for 365 days is over 100,000 words, which is longer than most books.

 

2. What’s On The Other Side of This Coin?

Achieving a big personal or professional goal is a satisfying feeling.

Last year, I wrote a book that I’d been planning for a long time. Self-publishing this book on Amazon was a pleasurable moment. Then, several weeks later I discovered I’d uploaded a version of the book that didn’t include the correct chapter headings.

Although I was able to fix this error, the idea that I’d released a sub-standard version of my book, which people bought, hurt me. Now, I realise the pleasure of publishing is connected to the pain of learning from a mistake like this.

 

3. Am I Outside of My Comfort Zone?

I may be in the minority here, but I love January. The New Year is a time for looking forwards, not backwards.

If you follow familiar routines and habits and pursue last year’s experiences, you will have an easier life but you’ll also get the same results. That’s fine if you’re happy with your progress, but most successful people want to push themselves beyond past accomplishments.

Successful writers constantly force themselves to get outside of their comfort zone by writing in new genres, by setting more demanding deadlines and by reaching out to larger audiences. Stephen King, for example, wrote for several years under the pen name Richard Bachman.

 

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4. Have I Meditated Today?

Like you, I’m obsessed with the habits of successful people. Almost every master I’ve read about or studied practises meditation in one form or another. The benefits of meditation are many.

Some high-profile individuals who practice meditation in one form or another include the self-help guru Tony Robbins, blogger Leo Babauta of Zen Habits and even Ellen DeGeneres.

If you’re struggling to bake meditation into an already busy day, concentrate on building a habit of meditating for just three minutes. If you can’t spare three minutes, you probably need to ask bigger questions about how you spend your time.

 

5. Have I Marked My Accomplishments?

Successful people take time to mark their key accomplishments. Several blogs I’m a member of occasionally send an email to their list when they’ve hit a milestone. These emails make me (and the other readers) feel like part of their community.

If you want to become a writer, for example, you could mark the first time you publish an article. If you want to set up an online business, you could mark the launch of your website. If you want to become an early riser, you could mark the first time you get up at your desired time five days in a row.

You don’t have to mark your accomplishments publicly, but it is helpful to quietly acknowledge these moments with a friend or family member and thank those who helped you.

 

6. Have I Forgiven My Failures?

Welcome to the other side of the coin.

There’s as much to learn from failure as there is from success, but it’s dangerously easy to get up hung up on the past. And sometimes there’s a perverse satisfaction in playing a tape of old memories where people wronged you, got in your way, and stopped you from achieving your goals.

If you’re struggling to break free from negative past experiences, try keeping a journal and documenting your anger, your resentments and your failures. Then, when you’re finished writing your journal, leave these negative experiences there where they belong, and move forwards with your day.

 

7. Is it Time for a Re-invention?

Author John Le Carre says,

“I am still making order out of chaos by reinvention.”

I was a failed journalist, I was let go from a dream job, I worked in the wrong career for years. These experiences brought moments of chaos into my life, but they also gave me a chance to start a new phase of my life, whether by choice or necessity.

Ronald Regan was an actor before he became president. Gandhi was a lawyer in South Africa before he became India’s political and spiritual leader. And the rest of us who are working today, will have to change careers at least five times in our lifetimes.

If you’re just experienced the loss of a job or the failure of a business idea, take stock of the lessons you gain from these experiences. Yes these moments are confusing, but they are also an opportunity for tremendous personal growth.

 

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8. Is This Task Written Down (in a list)?

I love lists. This blog post is a list. One of the most popular blog posts on Addicted2Success is a list. And if you want to become more productive and achieve your goals this year, you must use the power of lists.

David Allen is a huge proponent of getting ideas out of your head and onto a list. He writes, “It’s critical that your full psychic attention be available for the work at hand.”

When the tasks you’ve got to complete aren’t rattling around in your head, you will be free to write, to create, to work on your business and to create the kind of life you’ve always imagined.

 

9. How is My Grasp?

There’s saying in zen, that you should “hold things lightly.

The world is in a constant state of change, and we have far less control over our environment and what happens to us than any of us like to admit.

Don’t become too attached to an idea of yourself, to a project that you’re determined to finish, to a habit or to a way of doing things.

When you hold things lightly, you are better prepared to adapt and re-adjust when your business needs a redirection, when a habit has become unhelpful or when something there’s a crisis in your personal life.

 

10. Am I Prepared?

Abraham Lincoln said,

“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.”

Now there was a man he knew the value of preparation.

We can’t all be as successful as Lincoln but we can learn from him.

Each Sunday, I conduct weekly review. I plan the blog posts I’m going to write in advance, I review the ideas I have for new articles and I update my To Do lists. This weekly review gives me clarity and purpose when I sit down to write during the rest of the week.

Take time today to plan ahead for the following week. Ask what resources you need for your current projects, what projects you’re neglecting, and if there’s anything you’re overlooking.

Do this and you will save the pain and frustration of working on the wrong things at the wrong time.

 

Be Brave

Each one of these ten questions has the potential to open up a hundred other questions about how your spend your time and where you’re going. Questions are troublesome like that.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t worry.

What I want to get across to you is the importance of taking a moment out of every day, every week and every month, and reviewing what you’re doing, where you’re going and why.

I want you to look success in the eye this year, I want you to hold its gaze, and I want you to get what your really want.

Are you brave enough?

 

Leave a comment below and let me know how you go with these questions.

 

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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