In 2011, I was down and out. I was defeated and felt like I’d never amount to anything.
This story is going to inspire you if you’ve ever faced a similar situation or felt defeated.
I’d finished working at the startup I founded with my brother and things didn’t look good. I had a dream at that time to utilize my digital marketing skills and work for an advertising agency where I could grow my skills.
Every job I applied for I was turned down.
Even though I’d had digital marketing experience and built a multi-million dollar business using that talent, it wasn’t formal learning or advertising agency experience.
So, I ended up taking a job in finance which I also knew nothing about. I took a junior role and a large pay cut and started my career at a bank. For seven years, on the side, I worked on my passion for social media and online marketing.
Two days ago, I was hired to run the digital marketing team for a well-known tech company with 900 staff. Against all the odds, I won the long game.
Here’s what you can learn:
No one can stop you.
Even with all the no’s and people that laughed at me in 2011, I didn’t stop.
I went into hiding for a while and built my skills. I started with blogging, then SEO, then pay per click and eventually landed in social media.
Just because someone won’t hire you today based on your skills, attitude and experience, doesn’t mean they won’t tomorrow.
In fact, without sounding cocky, people now have been bending over backwards to hire me as a consultant to help them with social media and digital marketing.
“The same people that said no to me now want to work with me”
You decide whether you stop based on rejection — nobody else. Keep going no matter the odds.
Be prepared to wait a few years.
Patience was what made the last two days feel incredible. It took seven years to get what I wanted and I had to be damn patient.
The mistake many of you make who are reading this is that you’re not prepared to wait years to get what you want.
When you accept that it takes years to achieve your goals, you work differently. You prepare yourself in a totally different way.
Wanting things too quickly forces you to sacrifice for the short-term and mess up the long-term. Slow down. Relax. You’ve got time.
It’s your attitude that counts.
When no one will hire you, it’s your attitude that counts.
If you walk into an interview or coffee catchup with an attitude problem, then your career dream is going to continue to be a problem.
You see it on those TV talent shows when a guy/girl walks out onto the stage and has been trying for a long time to make it as a musician. They have this sense of entitlement and their bad attitude is written all over their face.
Don’t be one of these people. Fix your attitude.
You’re only entitled to what you earn. Walk into interviews and face opportunities with a sense of humbleness.
Let humbleness be your dominant attitude and eventually you’ll have more opportunities than you could ever hope for.
Nothing lasts forever.
The no’s I got in 2011 lasted a few years.
The point is they didn’t last forever.
Just because you’re getting no’s today and being laughed at, doesn’t mean that will last forever. Nothing lasts forever including you.
“Keep going until the people that said no to you come around and are half-way towards a yes”
No one can deny you forever. People will admire you if you keep going and learn along the way.
Sometimes we can feel like we’ll always be rejected. That’s how I felt in 2011. I thought to myself “I’ve worked five years in digital marketing and built up a pretty successful business and people are still saying no to me. If not now, when?”
Now let me be honest for a second. I didn’t have the intelligence in 2011 to keep going. I was too dumb and too obsessed with myself. It was basically blind faith that kept me going. I wish I’d known back then that nothing lasts forever and believed it.
There were no mentors, advisors or as much self-help advice as there is now to tell me that the way I was thinking was madness.
You have the opportunity to learn from this lesson. Nothing. Lasts. Forever.
When every obstacle there is, is standing in your way, sometimes all you need to do is keep pushing.
The way I did this was to keep writing. No one was paying attention to my advice, but that didn’t matter.
The only strategy I had at the time was to keep doing what felt fun to me and I believed I’d figure out the detail later or just never get paid to do what I liked doing.
Pushing through is about continuing to do the work even when the results don’t show.
Eventually, the odds will change if you change.
So what was missing in 2011? Why was I getting rejected even though I had the skills and experience?
I needed to change.
I was an arrogant, selfish, entitled son of a bitch who wouldn’t give a dime out of a dollar to anyone. I had to change myself.
I had to:
- Develop empowering beliefs
- Change my attitude
- Adopt a never say die mindset
- Learn abundance
- Give more to strangers
- Create value for people first via the internet
- Be grateful for what I have instead of always wanting more
Your odds of success won’t change until you change.
“You’re the problem and that’s the hardest advice to swallow”
It’s been a big few days. I’ve waited seven years to get what I want. The hardest thing about getting what you want is that it will feel good for a few weeks, and then you’ll want more.
That’s the crack addiction that comes with personal development.
I’m trying to detox from this addiction and be happy with what I’ve achieved to date.
Maybe no one will hire you today.
Maybe your life sucks right now.
Maybe you’ve dealt with a lot this year.
It’s all okay. Your odds of success will change when you change.
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Studying in college is hard for everyone, but ESL learners arguably suffer the most. Moving to a foreign country, learning a new language, and keeping pace with the rest of the class may seem like an unbearable burden. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, but you have to pull through and not give up.
In moments like this, it’s always a good idea to seek help. Whether you go to WriteMyPaper to order an essay or just talk to a friend, admitting vulnerability is an important step towards improvement. In this article, you will find some tips on how to get better at essay writing, even if English is not your native language.
Control Your Environment
Improving your language skills is all about constant practice. Living in an English-speaking community is the first thing you should do to start your practice. It might be tempting to surround yourself with people who already speak a familiar language. However, this way, you won’t be practicing English on a daily basis.
You need to make those lessons almost intuitive in a way that you don’t have to do anything to learn the language. If you live in an English-speaking community, for example, if your roommate speaks English, you will have to practice the language, whether you want it or not.
Still, make sure you don’t take it too far. Taking care of yourself is still as important as ever. Feeling like an alien for the sake of education is not worth it. Remember to keep in touch with your friends and family, talk to them as often as necessary.
Practicing language is not just about doing your homework. You can make practicing English a normal part of your daily routine by watching TV, listening to music, and reading books in this language.
Yet, this is a bit tricky. When being surrounded by white noise, people tend to learn not to notice it. You need to ensure this doesn’t happen. As you watch movies or read books, maintain your attention on what you’re doing. If you hear or see a word that you don’t understand – translate it and write it down. Be mindful and remember what you’re doing this for.
Writing Is The Answer
If you want to specifically learn to write, you need to do one thing, and that is to write. Continuous practice will help you understand what mistakes you often make and, in time, eliminate them. Focus on your goal, and don’t get discouraged when something’s not working. After all, even Rome wasn’t built in a day!
Get a journal and write in it daily. Pick a new topic every time and note everything you can think of. It’s also important that you write by hand, a spelling checker in your computer is tempting, but it will not help you remember how to spell words correctly.
Besides, journaling as a habit has multiple health benefits, and it can be therapeutic. It can help you get in touch with yourself and process your emotions better.
Learn In a Group
It’s proven that learning in a group is more efficient due to the sense of competition. Find a bunch of like-minded people who want to study with you or join an already existing one, like a speaking club.
The benefit of such activities is that you get all these people from entirely different backgrounds who are all good at various things. This will help you exchange experiences, which is impossible if you’re alone.
Schedule regular meetings, come up with topics to discuss and activities to do. You could watch videos or movies together, or talk about common things. Having assignments like describing an event can also be beneficial for the entire group. This way, while one person speaks, the rest think about how they would say the same things differently.
This will help you feel more confident in your skills and, consequently, speak and write better.
The most important thing about learning a language is not to be afraid of making mistakes. It’s inevitable; you just have to take it as a natural part of a learning process.
A child that is learning how to walk doesn’t give up after falling once, and you shouldn’t either. It’s most likely that your friends understand that you’re just learning a language, and they won’t laugh at you for misusing a word or a few.
Get over that fear of error and make as many mistakes as it will take. Treat it lightly, and don’t beat yourself up for it. On the other hand, try to attend as many events as you can that will expose you to the foreign language. Not only will it boost your English skills, but also improve your social confidence!
Learning a language is hard; there’s no arguing about that. However, it’s going to get easier with time. Take every hard thing that life throws at you and turn it into a lesson.
Watch your favorite movies in English, converse with native speakers, and you’ll see the improvement very soon!
Remember to be patient about it. Don’t give up, and don’t beat yourself up over something that you have so little control of. Good luck!
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