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5 Ways Entrepreneur Couples Can Have A Playful, Peaceful & Passionate Relationship – Gaby & Raj Sundra

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Gaby& Raj have been a couple for a decade AND together nearly 24-7, they run two businesses together and STILL enjoy a playful, peaceful, passionate relationship. And they want YOU to as well!

Their message and methods are fun, even funny and totally forward focused. No need to be so significant and serious or to dissect problems anymore.

Gaby helps turn impossible dreams into awesome realities. Her favorite expression is “Pigs CAN fly!” Raj’s thirst for meaningful knowledge has him known as the “Energizer Bunny of transformation”. His motto is “Let’s do this!

Together with over 40 combined years of education, training and experience, they help couples “Keep the fights clean and the sex dirty” and learn how to “Save being nasty for your sex life!

In our podcast interview and this article, together we explore the impact our business has on our relationship and our relationship on our business along with the top 5 tips for entrepreneurs in relationship. 

 

 

1. Choose Wisely!

As a business person, you make all sorts of important decisions, still there is NO more important decision you can make in your life that who you choose as your partner in life and love.

If your relationship sucks, your life pretty much sucks. Relationships can fuel your performance in a positive way or can distract you, slow you down or even totally derail you.

Are they going to be a weight around your neck or the wind in your sail?

Yes life is too tough to do alone, yet a crappy relationship is worse than none at all and a wonderful one is so worth it. So choose wisely!

 

2. Your Relationship Is Like Your Business – Invest in It!

The most common threat to a relationship is the Autopilot Attitude. Just like your business, your relationship TAKES SOMETHING!

What did you think an awesome relationship just happens? No!

Invest in intimacy. Invest your attention…before it is demanded of you (often at the worst time possible). Just a little intention, attention and action can go a VERY long way towards a playful, peaceful, passionate relationship.

Bonus: Get creative, lighten up and turn that “relationship work” into “relationship fun”. As Gaby likes to say when she wants to up-level intimacy…“I know… let’s play a Game!”

 

3. Arguments Are An Access to Next Level Loving & Living – “The Problem is the Path”

Stop resisting and avoiding the differences and conflict. Lean in, embrace it and learn all you can from it. There are valuable lessons available itching to be heard and healed. In fact, the very thing that is pulling you apart can be there very thing that brings you together.

If you chose well, your beloved’s perspective is VALUABLE and they want your happiness and success. Their concerns could be a golden finger of loving and wise wisdom pointing towards an “Even Better If” future.

And often enough, that lesson your relationship has to teach you is exactly what you needed to learn and transform to take your business to the next level.

Most couples just want to get through the day let alone a fight. But don’t just settle to just get through it and move on, move FORWARD by leaning in for the lessons. “Experience can be expensive. Just make sure you get what you paid for.

 

Life Is Too Tough Wonderful Is Worth It
 

4. Know Thyself and Your Beloved – Create a Me Manual

Knowing your patterns around feelings, behaviors, preferences and resets is a HUGELY helpful life hack that can save you TONS of stress, headaches and even a broken heart. Taking a few personality assessments online can be eye opening, even life changing and certainly helpful in navigating a romantic relationship.

Take it a step further and get to know your beloved in the same way. Invite them to take the assessments or to just share what works best or doesn’t work at all for them.

Then together, co-create practices and habits to avoid, diminish and even heal the triggers.

This will set you up to save your relationship from all the drain and drama of the repeat or ugly fights that take forever to heal from. Who has time for that?!

Bonus: Create a “Me Manual” electronically and print it to have a hard copy accessible. Learn the Dos & Don’ts that work best with your type and have it ready to reference when in conflict. Then share your “Me Manual” with your beloved and create some “Games” to play to embrace both your types and the special interaction between them. (Check out the podcast for specific assessments)

 

5. Even Better If It!

Many couples resist conflict and do not embrace the influence of their beloved.

A powerful paradox to practice holding is “All Is Well”, everything IS great as it is AND at the same time we are all always learning and can “Even Better If” our experience.

After a fight, ask yourself and each other – How was that? How did we do and how could we do better next time? (For 5 fantastic questions to ask after a fight, listen to the podcast).

After some sexy-time, ask yourself and each other – How was that? How did we do and how could we do better next time? (For the 3 super satisfying criteria to “score” your experience and up-level the erotic intimacy listed to the podcast.)

Hold the attitude that everything is just as it should be now AND that you can always make it better for the future and you will continue to grow as individuals and as a couple.

In case this is useful anywhere – here is the summary of the show – looks like you include just the bio and no reference to what the podcast is about.

 

Summary by Time

2:30 It takes some time and energy – you reap what you sow. Invest in intimacy – invest rather than demanded.

4:00 Arguments as Access – lean in, not away

5:30 You CAN get the manual! Personality assessments (apply biz practices to relationship and vice versa). Also resets.

7:20 Get curious about your partner.

7:30 Relationship Hacks – Non linear jumps

8:00 Love languages

9:00 Specific examples for what personality assessments to take.

10:45 Another personality assessment – Personality Hacker

11:00 Most common problems – autopilot attitude

12:25 Stop Resisting/Lean In – The Problem is the Path – The Conflict is your teacher

13:00 Get pro-active- aim for what you want.

14:30 Book recommendation: The obstacle is the way

15:20 Don’t just move on, move FORWARD – breakdown => breakthrough. What turns you apart can actually pull you together

16:00 Relationships can fuel your performance in a positive way

18:15 Date an entrepreneur, work together or be with a “9-5er”? Approaches to each.

20:00 working together tips – stay in your lane

20:15 Dating a “9-5er” – embrace the problems as access to even better if. Asset or liability? Weight around your neck or wind in your sail?

23:15 Assessment: Strengths Finder – understand your partner

24:30 Your relationship is like a business – embrace the differences, self awareness, learning about ourselves and others.

26:00 Choose Wisely! (But it might look messy at first! Don’t give up too early.)

26:50 Relationship helps you transform the very things that you need to excel in your business. Directly translated my ability to be a calm effective holder of space…Managing anger, lack of ability to communicate your needs – they came out in a biz setting.

31:00 How to not fight about driving ever again!

34:00 Name your arguements -can’t get a word in edge wise

34:30 Making Marriage simple Drama Free Diet Biggest issue in relationship negativity – blaming shaming complaining critizing. Magic ratio – 5to 1 ration positive to negative. Make a game out of it. Blamey Shamey Complainy.

37:20 All is well + Even Better If

38:30 Romp Recap – Intimacy, Sexiness & Technique

39:30 – Argument Even Better Ifing – how often does it happen? How bad/extreme did it get? (And lines crossed?), How long did it last? Did we use our tools? Did we learn any lessons? (What can we take to the next one).

41:00 Find out more at: relationshipfunandgames.com/success
gift of our ebook – easy to scan dozens of tips by topic. 8 categories FCSD Before as it starts during and after.

43:00 Last message – Gaby – The problem is the path – life is too tough to do alone, yet a crappy relationship is worth than embrace the problem. Love is worth it.

A great relationship is like everything else in life – it takes something – it is not magically going to happen. Embrace your relationship will take something to be great – wonderful relationship is so worth it.

I am the the Founder of Addicted2Success.com and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances. I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 60 million lives in the last 4 and a half years.

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  1. Thea Dunlap

    Dec 5, 2016 at 1:16 am

    Great advice. I love this podcast. It really opened my eyes. I added the books that Gabby discussed to my next-to-read list. 🙂

  2. Sally

    Aug 1, 2016 at 9:35 am

    LOVED this podcast! I’ve read all the books that Gabby discussed on relationships and I recommend them to anyone. I’m super interested in personality tests to get to know myself and people around me better and it’s a huge eye opener, so amazing what you find out. I think Gabby and Raj sound like they have a great thing going and I will be working towards a similar goal! Thanks for sharing!

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How To Purify Your Mind With Powerful Beliefs – Marisa Peer

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Marisa Peer, who was named the Best British Therapist by Men’s Health magazine, has spent 25 years working with an extensive client list including royalty, rock stars, Hollywood actors, Olympic athletes, CEOs of multi-billion dollar companies and political leaders.

Marisa Peer‘s tools and techniques aim to bridge the gap between 99% of the population and the top 1% of super-achievers she works with. Marisa has a very unique way to help many individuals worldwide to increase their self belief so they can own the incredible parts within them to live in their full potential.

Click PLAY below to listen to Marisa Peer break down many amazing ways to conquer your limitations  and how you can flood your mind with empowering beliefs.

 

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“Belief without talent will take you further than talent without belief’ – Marisa Peer

 

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The Mindset Of A Multiple 6 Figure Online Entrepreneur – Daniel DiPiazza

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Daniel DiPiazza is a millennial business mastermind and the young entrepreneur behind the massively popular career and lifestyle website Rich20Something.com.

In this episode Daniel shares his insights on what it takes to crush it online.

You can listen to our interview on the Addicted2Success podcast where Daniel shares his advice and strategies for online success (just hit play!)

 

STOP wasting your potential and create a Kickass business you love. Click the picture below and grab the BRAND NEW Rich20Something book today!

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  • Hustling 101: How to make your first $100,000 on the side
  • Why you should never network again, and how to befriend powerful influencers who will gladly help you
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  • How to eliminate distractions, get laser focused, and crush your goals
  • The mental tools and daily strategies I use to consistently create world-class work

In total, the book has more than 300 pages of detailed strategies, crazy anecdotes and larger-than-life personalities—including case studies from over a dozen wildly successful entrepreneurs who will tell you exactly how they did it.

Grab it here. Consume it. Start your dream business. Live an incredible life.

 

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How Crime, Drug Abuse, and Heartache Pushed One Man to Change the World – Jeremy Anderson

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Welcome once more to the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast Breakdown”!  My name is Erik Andress and I am the host of this show.  Today, I am humbled and grateful to bring you the compassionate wisdom and the ambitious advice of speaker and minister Jeremy Anderson!  He has gone from a life of hopelessness to prosperity.  Through his hustle he took himself from the ground floor to working one-on-one with luminaries like the world renowned speaker Eric Thomas.  He has a fascinating story of grind and redemption that we all strive to emulate.

Check out this podcast interview with Jeremy to learn all his tips, tricks, and techniques that he wants you to know to live a empowered life:
While there were a lot of gems this ambitious entrepreneur dropped, here are the three most important ways Jeremy believes that you can do to revolutionize your business and personal life:

1. You are capable of redemption.  You can live a life that makes a difference

It was only a few short years ago that my life looked very different.  My outlook was bleak, to say the least.  I was lost in murky depths of drug abuse and I was nearing 300 pounds on the tiny scale in my bathroom.  I spent my evenings mesmerized by the glow of my television and I wasn’t taking any purposeful steps towards success.  I felt deeply confined by the labels that had been placed on me by teachers, counselors, and middle school bullies.  I was weighed down and shackled by the ideas that had been embedded in me.  Of course I was a “loser”, they had all told me so.  Of course I was destined to always be the fat kid, they had all told me so.  Of course I was doomed to live a life of underwhelming mediocrity, they had all told me so.

My life changed when decided to make it change.  I decided that I would no longer accept feeling sluggish and encumbered by the weight that I had put on.  I bought a pair of tennis shoes and I began to hit the pavement.  I decided that I would no longer spend my nights held hostage by the media on my electronic devices.  I began to put myself out there and attend social events put on in my area.  I decided that I wasn’t going to accept the idea that I was stuck in this job that I despised driving to every day.  I began to apply of other positions and I found a teaching position that allowed me to give of myself to the most vulnerable of student populations.

Your life changes only when you get angry enough with your current situation that change is a NECESSITY, not an option.  So get disgusted with the things in your life that are holding you back.  Get furious at the idea that you are not living up to your physical potential.  Get livid at the fact that you are not in an occupation that allows you to fulfill your purpose.  Get angry with the idea that you are not bringing your best self to your significant other or those in your life that you love.  Use this as fuel to push you to take action.  It is then, and only then, that you can truly start to live the life that you deserve!

“I’m gonna make the rest of my life, the best of my life.” – Eric Thomas

2. You are deserving of health and happiness

For so much of our younger years, the adults in our life that we trust focus on our deficiencies. They often do this with good intentions, in the idea that they will push us to bigger and better things by helping us to rectify our mistakes. However, for many young people, this strategy backfires. This often times convinces them that they don’t deserve to be happy. This often times pushes them to believe that they don’t deserve to be healthy. They might end up feeling that they do not deserve the chance to fight for the version of success that they hold dear and their mind’s eye. However, (and I want you to focus on the sentence because it might be the most vital one that you read today) you are a person of worth that deserves health, happiness, and an extraordinary life.

Yes, you might have had your feelings in the past yes, you might have caused hurt and heartache for others. However, your past does not dictate your destiny. Choose right here and right now to change the way that you have looked at yourself in the past.  Choose right here and right now to move forward in your life with the assumption that your DEFAULT SETTING is happiness and that you can accomplish incredible vitality and health if you put in the work.  Simply by being alive, breathing, and having that heart continuing to pump in your chest…you are worth it.

Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet.  I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it. Groucho Marx

3. Being of service to other people brings abundance into your life

Before I entered the transitional period in my life that brought about my own self empowerment, I was so used to having my credit card declined that it just became another frustrating part of my life.  I was so used to feeling like I could never quite get a hold of success and that all good things in my life just seemed to continually slip through my fingers.  However, there was one revolutionary moment, in which all of this changed.

I had just returned home from an evening interview at a high school.  I desperately wanted that job.  I was living paycheck to paycheck and barely scraping by.  Shrugging my backpack off my shoulders onto my kitchen table, I felt compelled to go for a walk.  As I trudged through a nearby park, illuminated only by the pale circles of light that were cast on the path in front of me, I dejectedly slumped over on a dilapidated park bench.  This will be my seventeenth interview, and probably my seventeenth rejection, I thought to myself.  On top of all of this, I had recently put my heart out there for a woman.  I had left her a message on her answering machine while she was out of town telling her how incredible I thought she was and that I would be profoundly grateful if she let me buy her a cup of coffee.  Days had passed and no response from her.  As I surveyed the park and listened to the late night wind rustle through the leaves of the trees above me, I was overwhelmed with a sense of letting go.

I still don’t entirely know what compelled me to do this, but on that park bench I said out loud to nobody in particular, “If I get this job, I will dedicate my life to being of service to these kids.  It will not be about the paycheck for me.  It will be about helping them realize their greatness.”

I sighed deeply, feeling utterly helpless.  It wasn’t even a minute later that my cell phone began to buzz in my pocket.  I had gotten two text messages.  Opening my phone, I was astonished to see that the first was from a teacher at the school I had interviewed at earlier that evening.  It read, “Call me.  We want to offer you the job.”  The second message was, much to my surprise, from the woman that I tried to contact.  Her message said, “I’d love to get coffee with you.  Pick me up this Friday at 8.”

When I chose to let go of my expectations for myself and decide to be of service to others, abundance entered my life.  As I began my journey as a teacher in that institution, and was able to bring those young scholars the kind of compassionate instruction they deserved to have, I started to get opportunities to speak and change the lives of kids outside my classroom.  Oh, and the woman from earlier in the story?  We’ve now been happily married for nearly three years.  While it may seem antithetical to what you have been taught, giving of yourself is truly the quickest and easiest way to bring more love, more wealth, and more hope into your life.  

“The measure of a man’s greatness is not the number of servants he has, but the number of people he serves.” – John Hagee

If you want to find out more about Jeremy Anderson and the work that he does, please visit: https://www.jeremyanderson.org/
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How Persistence, Patience, and Authenticity Helped One Entreprenuer Achieve His Wildest Dreams – Jeremy Slate

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Welcome once more to the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast Breakdown”!  My name is Erik Andress and I am the host of this show.  Today, I am humbled and grateful to bring you the words and wisdom of entrepreneur Jeremy Slate!  He has a fascinating story of redemption and hustle that we all can learn something valuable from.

Check out this podcast interview with Jeremy to learn all his tips, tricks, and techniques that he wants you to know to live a empowered life:
While there were a lot of gems this ambitious entrepreneur dropped, here are the three most important ways Jeremy believes that you can do to revolutionize your business and personal life:

1. Connect to others with authenticity and genuine compassion

We live in this weird time right now.  We live in a time in which it is seemingly socially acceptable for two young people on a date to be staring at their cell phones as opposed to each other. We live in a time where people automate their social media responses and text back pre-written answers to people that attempting to contact them. This practice of detached communication is slowly eroding our ability to connect with each other.  Over the course of my conversation with Jeremy Slate, we discussed the profound power that lies behind authentic communication.

Want to differentiate yourself from other people? Use heart-centered and compassionate communication. Be the person that tells a potential client the unfettered truth. Be the person that tells your significant other that they are deeply meaningful to you. Be the person that resolves disputes with co-workers peaceably while still recognizing the humanity in them. Be the person that goes out of your way to tell your teacher or professor that you are very grateful for the opportunity to learn under them. There are so many individuals out there right now trying to find that romantic partner, trying to start and sustain their own entrepreneurial venture, trying to get to the top of their class in their respective academic institutions. If you want to stand out from the crowd, do so by communicating in a much more meaningful way. It doesn’t take much more than a few kind words, eye contact, and a willingness to persist in conversation even when you have a deep desire to grab your iPhone from your pocket and start flipping through Instagram once more!

“The way we communicate with others and ourselves, ultimately determines the quality of our lives.” – Tony Robbins

2. Persistence and patience are key components of success

I will admit it. As a former English teacher, I love clichés. The reason I do is that there is a kernel of truth for us to learn from in each of them. One of my favorites is, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” I think that this particular platitude is so important for us to keep in mind because of the kind of culture that you and I have gotten used to living in is infatuated with getting things handed to them instantaneously. It feels deeply frustrating to me that so many young people are obsessed with the idea of instant gratification or attaining their goals immediately.

In reality, all good things in our lives have to be fought for.  A business is not built overnight. It takes countless hours and a lot of sweat equity to develop and demonstrate your value in the marketplace. A great relationship does not come immediately. A long term and sustainable relationship is one that you have to work on. Graduating at the top of your class is no easy feat. To be that kind of young scholar, you need to accept the fact that you will have many late nights in study groups, with tutors and with your nose shoved in a book. Be patient and continue to push. When you apply this principle to your life, you will absolutely start to see the success that you want to have!

Your legacy is being written by yourself.  Make the right decisions Gary Vaynerchuk

3. Have an undying faith in your dream and your grind

There is a price for success that most people are unwilling to pay. Unfortunately, while I am a proud educator, I believe that our schools have failed many of you in that regard. For much of your young life you have had your hands held, you have been told that you are special, and anytime that you complain about your challenges, you have been given a copious amount of help. Sadly, as many of you know, this is a far cry from what you will experience in the real world.

There are always going to be that was the doubt you. There are going to be those that see you in the early stages of your journey toward success, and they will take that opportunity to try to tear you down. They will take that opportunity to try and laugh at you. Nevertheless, this is the time that you need to fight the hardest. This is the time that you need to believe the most in that dream that keeps you awake at night. Understand that you don’t need the approval of others to chase your version of success. You don’t need other people to co-sign the thing that you wish for the most. If your teacher doesn’t believe that you have the ability to find real success in the classroom, show them differently. If your significant other doesn’t believe that you can be a better partner to them, show them differently. If your business partner or clientele don’t see you as a leader, show them differently. The universe does not shape you, you shape the universe!

“Every time I wake up, I am thinking that I am alive, this is the day!  This is an opportunity.” – Eric Thomas

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The Lie That Is My Overnight Success

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I started writing unprofessionally three years ago. Some would say my whole career is unprofessional and I’d agree. Imperfection is damn sexy though.

I began writing only because my mentor Joel Brown said I should and I stupidly said yes without knowing why. Now, of course, I’m crystal clear about why I write: it’s to inspire. I remember uploading articles to Addicted2Success.com and seeing no one like them. I remember thinking I was a failure.

In the early days, I was writing articles about entrepreneurs I had interviewed and I wasn’t that passionate about it. Every article felt like really hard work and it required an incredible amount of willpower. Everyone at the time was doing entrepreneur interviews and there was nothing special.

Then one day, I wrote an article for the fun of it that had nothing to do with anything. It was essentially a brain fart that I concocted after dinner, late one night. It took less than one hour to write and it was written with passion. The words came out of me without even trying.

Since that day, the words have continued to pour out of me in the same way. I get into a state of flow and then it happens. Words appear, people get inspired and we all have one big party that has been named “life.” From the day I wrote that article, thousands of people shared it and they still do today.

 

I didn’t stop

After my big moment on the internet going viral, everything stopped. The tumbleweed that drifted through the desert with an eerie silence continued. Everything calmed down and people stopped caring again.

I didn’t stop though because I found my writing therapeutical.

“My blog posts became like my own personal journey and it was a way for me to escape from the Alcatraz that was my head. This prison that lived inside my head kept telling me that no one cared and I’d never be successful.”

I decided to keep finding ways to break out of Alcatraz and check in to the Ritz Hotel that was me becoming a conscious, passionate, crazy online leader.

 

I stopped giving a damn

Over the next eighteen months, I kept writing every moment I got. No one paid attention but I did. I started paying attention to the shift that was happening inside of me. The leader that had always been stuck inside of me started to unleash.

The things that used to hold me back disappeared. I didn’t give two hoots about what anyone thought and I only cared about inspiring those who wanted to be inspired. I worked my butt off and started waking up at 4 am to post new blog articles. People couldn’t understand how I had the time to write working a full-time job.

The part they didn’t get was that because the words flowed out of me so easily, it didn’t take that long at all to write something of value. People watched me posting articles and thought I was crazy. They thought what I was doing was career suicide in the big bad world of corporate politics.

I never liked politics anyway, so I stuck my middle finger up at the way things were traditionally done. I decided to be a rebel writer and live my dream. I continued to make no money and people kept on questioning what I was doing.

 

I believed

A few people believed, but most didn’t. What stuck out like tomato sauce on a freshly dry cleaned white shirt was that I believed and that’s all that mattered. I saw something that no one else could see: my real potential versus my current success.

I had the motivation to continue on when no one cared because I believed I could change the world. I saw myself as someone who had the potential to serve millions of people online. I kept telling myself never to give up and I also spread the same message throughout everything I wrote.

“I thought my writing was going to save everybody else, but what it really did is save myself”

My writing saved me from living a life without meaning and it helped me discover who I really was. I saw the pattern between every goal I’d ever had: to inspire and evoke emotion from strangers.

This clarity fuelled me and I became relentless. I reached out to every blogger, leader and person that had done cool stuff that inspired me. Originally I thought they’d all ignore me: none of them did. See when you have energy and passion oozing out of you, people can’t say no. An unwavering belief in what you’re doing is all that matters.

 

The tipping point happened

I began to see a change when each day I started to get a message from a reader/fan. It started as one message per day, then two, then three. Now I get more messages of support every day than I have time to read. Success often doesn’t become a reality in a single moment.

Success is something that is hard to measure in the early days until one giant moment happens that everyone sees. The part no one sees is the many smaller moments that happened beforehand. The small successes that may not have looked like a textbook example of “success.”

 

That big day finally came

So the big day happened when an article I wrote went viral. This was the third time it had happened, although this time the success became permanent. All those years, when I thought no one was reading, people were. What had occurred was that they were too scared to show they were reading because my success was still largely unproven.

It was only after the big success moment that people felt it was okay to come out of the metaphorical closet and say they were inspired by what I was doing. All those nights spent locked away in my office being anti-social was worth it. All those cups of green tea, takeaway meals, indoor plants, and weird emails to myself with possible headlines for articles had meant something.

More publications reached out to me and pretty soon I wasn’t just writing for Addicted2Success; I was writing for the biggest sites on the entire internet. The ones where the editors get pitched one hundred times a day by people who want to do nothing more than self-promote and build a BS “personal brand.”

Before I knew it, I was getting offered book deals, business opportunities, podcast interviews and public speaking gigs. I took some but ignored most. I remembered what was important and the fact that unwavering focus had got me to where I was.

I knew I was ready for some opportunities and not for others like public speaking. The journey had begun, but I was far from the summit of the mountain of my dreams.

 

Nothing changed

Strangely, though, it was all one ginormous anti-climax moment. Nothing had changed. Even today nothing has changed. I still want to inspire people and I still like sharing stories. I still want to live with passion and I still want to create a meaning for my life that outlives me.

What has changed is that people have seen my success as something that’s happened recently – what total BS that is. It’s taken my entire existence to discover the meaning of my life, find a medium to share it on and go after it with relentless optimism.

 

What you didn’t see with my success

You didn’t see the person that existed before all of this. You didn’t see the selfish, rude, arrogant, brat who lived for material possessions and felt like he was entitled to success because he grew up in Australia, the land of the free. I can say those horrible things because I’m talking about myself. Thankfully that’s the opposite of who I am now.

You didn’t see the transformation that occurred after that one big rock bottom moment. When everything made no sense and I had to look inside of myself to crawl out of that black hole that had become my existence. You didn’t see me step out of the darkness and into the light.

All you saw was me in the light and assumed I had always been there shining away brightly, and living the good life that is passion and purpose. How wrong that lie is. How wrong the whole concept of overnight success is.

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Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook.

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  1. Thea Dunlap

    Dec 5, 2016 at 1:16 am

    Great advice. I love this podcast. It really opened my eyes. I added the books that Gabby discussed to my next-to-read list. 🙂

  2. Sally

    Aug 1, 2016 at 9:35 am

    LOVED this podcast! I’ve read all the books that Gabby discussed on relationships and I recommend them to anyone. I’m super interested in personality tests to get to know myself and people around me better and it’s a huge eye opener, so amazing what you find out. I think Gabby and Raj sound like they have a great thing going and I will be working towards a similar goal! Thanks for sharing!

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How To Purify Your Mind With Powerful Beliefs – Marisa Peer

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Marisa Peer, who was named the Best British Therapist by Men’s Health magazine, has spent 25 years working with an extensive client list including royalty, rock stars, Hollywood actors, Olympic athletes, CEOs of multi-billion dollar companies and political leaders.

Marisa Peer‘s tools and techniques aim to bridge the gap between 99% of the population and the top 1% of super-achievers she works with. Marisa has a very unique way to help many individuals worldwide to increase their self belief so they can own the incredible parts within them to live in their full potential.

Click PLAY below to listen to Marisa Peer break down many amazing ways to conquer your limitations  and how you can flood your mind with empowering beliefs.

 

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“Belief without talent will take you further than talent without belief’ – Marisa Peer

 

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The Mindset Of A Multiple 6 Figure Online Entrepreneur – Daniel DiPiazza

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Daniel DiPiazza is a millennial business mastermind and the young entrepreneur behind the massively popular career and lifestyle website Rich20Something.com.

In this episode Daniel shares his insights on what it takes to crush it online.

You can listen to our interview on the Addicted2Success podcast where Daniel shares his advice and strategies for online success (just hit play!)

 

STOP wasting your potential and create a Kickass business you love. Click the picture below and grab the BRAND NEW Rich20Something book today!

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What you will discover in this book:

  • Why most people can never think of a profitable business idea, and how to become an idea machine
  • How to completely destroy your fear of failure and pounce on the most important opportunities
  • Hustling 101: How to make your first $100,000 on the side
  • Why you should never network again, and how to befriend powerful influencers who will gladly help you
  • From freelancer to entrepreneur: How to create an online business that prints money while you sleep
  • How to eliminate distractions, get laser focused, and crush your goals
  • The mental tools and daily strategies I use to consistently create world-class work

In total, the book has more than 300 pages of detailed strategies, crazy anecdotes and larger-than-life personalities—including case studies from over a dozen wildly successful entrepreneurs who will tell you exactly how they did it.

Grab it here. Consume it. Start your dream business. Live an incredible life.

 

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How Crime, Drug Abuse, and Heartache Pushed One Man to Change the World – Jeremy Anderson

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Welcome once more to the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast Breakdown”!  My name is Erik Andress and I am the host of this show.  Today, I am humbled and grateful to bring you the compassionate wisdom and the ambitious advice of speaker and minister Jeremy Anderson!  He has gone from a life of hopelessness to prosperity.  Through his hustle he took himself from the ground floor to working one-on-one with luminaries like the world renowned speaker Eric Thomas.  He has a fascinating story of grind and redemption that we all strive to emulate.

Check out this podcast interview with Jeremy to learn all his tips, tricks, and techniques that he wants you to know to live a empowered life:
While there were a lot of gems this ambitious entrepreneur dropped, here are the three most important ways Jeremy believes that you can do to revolutionize your business and personal life:

1. You are capable of redemption.  You can live a life that makes a difference

It was only a few short years ago that my life looked very different.  My outlook was bleak, to say the least.  I was lost in murky depths of drug abuse and I was nearing 300 pounds on the tiny scale in my bathroom.  I spent my evenings mesmerized by the glow of my television and I wasn’t taking any purposeful steps towards success.  I felt deeply confined by the labels that had been placed on me by teachers, counselors, and middle school bullies.  I was weighed down and shackled by the ideas that had been embedded in me.  Of course I was a “loser”, they had all told me so.  Of course I was destined to always be the fat kid, they had all told me so.  Of course I was doomed to live a life of underwhelming mediocrity, they had all told me so.

My life changed when decided to make it change.  I decided that I would no longer accept feeling sluggish and encumbered by the weight that I had put on.  I bought a pair of tennis shoes and I began to hit the pavement.  I decided that I would no longer spend my nights held hostage by the media on my electronic devices.  I began to put myself out there and attend social events put on in my area.  I decided that I wasn’t going to accept the idea that I was stuck in this job that I despised driving to every day.  I began to apply of other positions and I found a teaching position that allowed me to give of myself to the most vulnerable of student populations.

Your life changes only when you get angry enough with your current situation that change is a NECESSITY, not an option.  So get disgusted with the things in your life that are holding you back.  Get furious at the idea that you are not living up to your physical potential.  Get livid at the fact that you are not in an occupation that allows you to fulfill your purpose.  Get angry with the idea that you are not bringing your best self to your significant other or those in your life that you love.  Use this as fuel to push you to take action.  It is then, and only then, that you can truly start to live the life that you deserve!

“I’m gonna make the rest of my life, the best of my life.” – Eric Thomas

2. You are deserving of health and happiness

For so much of our younger years, the adults in our life that we trust focus on our deficiencies. They often do this with good intentions, in the idea that they will push us to bigger and better things by helping us to rectify our mistakes. However, for many young people, this strategy backfires. This often times convinces them that they don’t deserve to be happy. This often times pushes them to believe that they don’t deserve to be healthy. They might end up feeling that they do not deserve the chance to fight for the version of success that they hold dear and their mind’s eye. However, (and I want you to focus on the sentence because it might be the most vital one that you read today) you are a person of worth that deserves health, happiness, and an extraordinary life.

Yes, you might have had your feelings in the past yes, you might have caused hurt and heartache for others. However, your past does not dictate your destiny. Choose right here and right now to change the way that you have looked at yourself in the past.  Choose right here and right now to move forward in your life with the assumption that your DEFAULT SETTING is happiness and that you can accomplish incredible vitality and health if you put in the work.  Simply by being alive, breathing, and having that heart continuing to pump in your chest…you are worth it.

Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet.  I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it. Groucho Marx

3. Being of service to other people brings abundance into your life

Before I entered the transitional period in my life that brought about my own self empowerment, I was so used to having my credit card declined that it just became another frustrating part of my life.  I was so used to feeling like I could never quite get a hold of success and that all good things in my life just seemed to continually slip through my fingers.  However, there was one revolutionary moment, in which all of this changed.

I had just returned home from an evening interview at a high school.  I desperately wanted that job.  I was living paycheck to paycheck and barely scraping by.  Shrugging my backpack off my shoulders onto my kitchen table, I felt compelled to go for a walk.  As I trudged through a nearby park, illuminated only by the pale circles of light that were cast on the path in front of me, I dejectedly slumped over on a dilapidated park bench.  This will be my seventeenth interview, and probably my seventeenth rejection, I thought to myself.  On top of all of this, I had recently put my heart out there for a woman.  I had left her a message on her answering machine while she was out of town telling her how incredible I thought she was and that I would be profoundly grateful if she let me buy her a cup of coffee.  Days had passed and no response from her.  As I surveyed the park and listened to the late night wind rustle through the leaves of the trees above me, I was overwhelmed with a sense of letting go.

I still don’t entirely know what compelled me to do this, but on that park bench I said out loud to nobody in particular, “If I get this job, I will dedicate my life to being of service to these kids.  It will not be about the paycheck for me.  It will be about helping them realize their greatness.”

I sighed deeply, feeling utterly helpless.  It wasn’t even a minute later that my cell phone began to buzz in my pocket.  I had gotten two text messages.  Opening my phone, I was astonished to see that the first was from a teacher at the school I had interviewed at earlier that evening.  It read, “Call me.  We want to offer you the job.”  The second message was, much to my surprise, from the woman that I tried to contact.  Her message said, “I’d love to get coffee with you.  Pick me up this Friday at 8.”

When I chose to let go of my expectations for myself and decide to be of service to others, abundance entered my life.  As I began my journey as a teacher in that institution, and was able to bring those young scholars the kind of compassionate instruction they deserved to have, I started to get opportunities to speak and change the lives of kids outside my classroom.  Oh, and the woman from earlier in the story?  We’ve now been happily married for nearly three years.  While it may seem antithetical to what you have been taught, giving of yourself is truly the quickest and easiest way to bring more love, more wealth, and more hope into your life.  

“The measure of a man’s greatness is not the number of servants he has, but the number of people he serves.” – John Hagee

If you want to find out more about Jeremy Anderson and the work that he does, please visit: https://www.jeremyanderson.org/
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How Persistence, Patience, and Authenticity Helped One Entreprenuer Achieve His Wildest Dreams – Jeremy Slate

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Welcome once more to the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast Breakdown”!  My name is Erik Andress and I am the host of this show.  Today, I am humbled and grateful to bring you the words and wisdom of entrepreneur Jeremy Slate!  He has a fascinating story of redemption and hustle that we all can learn something valuable from.

Check out this podcast interview with Jeremy to learn all his tips, tricks, and techniques that he wants you to know to live a empowered life:
While there were a lot of gems this ambitious entrepreneur dropped, here are the three most important ways Jeremy believes that you can do to revolutionize your business and personal life:

1. Connect to others with authenticity and genuine compassion

We live in this weird time right now.  We live in a time in which it is seemingly socially acceptable for two young people on a date to be staring at their cell phones as opposed to each other. We live in a time where people automate their social media responses and text back pre-written answers to people that attempting to contact them. This practice of detached communication is slowly eroding our ability to connect with each other.  Over the course of my conversation with Jeremy Slate, we discussed the profound power that lies behind authentic communication.

Want to differentiate yourself from other people? Use heart-centered and compassionate communication. Be the person that tells a potential client the unfettered truth. Be the person that tells your significant other that they are deeply meaningful to you. Be the person that resolves disputes with co-workers peaceably while still recognizing the humanity in them. Be the person that goes out of your way to tell your teacher or professor that you are very grateful for the opportunity to learn under them. There are so many individuals out there right now trying to find that romantic partner, trying to start and sustain their own entrepreneurial venture, trying to get to the top of their class in their respective academic institutions. If you want to stand out from the crowd, do so by communicating in a much more meaningful way. It doesn’t take much more than a few kind words, eye contact, and a willingness to persist in conversation even when you have a deep desire to grab your iPhone from your pocket and start flipping through Instagram once more!

“The way we communicate with others and ourselves, ultimately determines the quality of our lives.” – Tony Robbins

2. Persistence and patience are key components of success

I will admit it. As a former English teacher, I love clichés. The reason I do is that there is a kernel of truth for us to learn from in each of them. One of my favorites is, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” I think that this particular platitude is so important for us to keep in mind because of the kind of culture that you and I have gotten used to living in is infatuated with getting things handed to them instantaneously. It feels deeply frustrating to me that so many young people are obsessed with the idea of instant gratification or attaining their goals immediately.

In reality, all good things in our lives have to be fought for.  A business is not built overnight. It takes countless hours and a lot of sweat equity to develop and demonstrate your value in the marketplace. A great relationship does not come immediately. A long term and sustainable relationship is one that you have to work on. Graduating at the top of your class is no easy feat. To be that kind of young scholar, you need to accept the fact that you will have many late nights in study groups, with tutors and with your nose shoved in a book. Be patient and continue to push. When you apply this principle to your life, you will absolutely start to see the success that you want to have!

Your legacy is being written by yourself.  Make the right decisions Gary Vaynerchuk

3. Have an undying faith in your dream and your grind

There is a price for success that most people are unwilling to pay. Unfortunately, while I am a proud educator, I believe that our schools have failed many of you in that regard. For much of your young life you have had your hands held, you have been told that you are special, and anytime that you complain about your challenges, you have been given a copious amount of help. Sadly, as many of you know, this is a far cry from what you will experience in the real world.

There are always going to be that was the doubt you. There are going to be those that see you in the early stages of your journey toward success, and they will take that opportunity to try to tear you down. They will take that opportunity to try and laugh at you. Nevertheless, this is the time that you need to fight the hardest. This is the time that you need to believe the most in that dream that keeps you awake at night. Understand that you don’t need the approval of others to chase your version of success. You don’t need other people to co-sign the thing that you wish for the most. If your teacher doesn’t believe that you have the ability to find real success in the classroom, show them differently. If your significant other doesn’t believe that you can be a better partner to them, show them differently. If your business partner or clientele don’t see you as a leader, show them differently. The universe does not shape you, you shape the universe!

“Every time I wake up, I am thinking that I am alive, this is the day!  This is an opportunity.” – Eric Thomas

I hope you’ve enjoyed the “How to Be a Grownup Podcast!”  If you have some takeaways from the interview I missed, SOUND OFF in the comments below.
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