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Your Life Has a Meaning: Here’s How to Find Out What It Is



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Knowing the purpose of one’s existence in the world is a lingering thought for everyone. Some people may interpret it as a quest, as they try out new adventures and learn new skills. Meanwhile, others may view it as a mystery that slowly reveals itself as they spend their time on Earth. They say that their complete realization of their purpose would not come in this life but the next.

On the other hand, there is a group of people who may tend to be passive about knowing their purpose, yet they still ponder about it occasionally. There is also a group of people that have little regard for this idea and tend to get buried in their everyday whirlwind of activities.

Knowing your purpose is an advantage

Many factors, such as uniqueness, tendencies, and environment, may affect an individual’s appreciation of their life’s meaning. These aspects also influence the approach an individual takes in searching for the purpose of their lives. Nonetheless, it would be a great advantage to have a purpose-driven life. It allows one to set their goals on a short, medium, and long-term basis. 

Daily tasks can even be set, allowing the person to celebrate small achievements. Like any other good soldier, it would be best to go out in the field knowing your mission. It would provide direction in one’s personal life, and coherence with the people around them, especially their loved ones.

Getting to know your life’s meaning

The meaning and purpose of life cannot be answered or explained in one sentence. This is a continuing lesson that may twist and turn as one grows old. How can an individual realize his life’s purpose? Like any other lesson, an individual may learn it through his own experience, or from the experience of others. He can also use simple guides and systems to navigate him through this life-long journey.

“There is no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling. It’s why you were born. And how you become most truly alive.” – Oprah Winfrey

Experience is the best teacher

It is undeniable that the best professor in life remains to be experienced. Nothing beats immersing yourself in the actual situation where you sense the feeling of triumph or defeat. Decisions that lead to our demise are usually the most unforgettable teachers in life. Tragedies make us look back at what we could have done better to avoid or overcome our setbacks. 

It may also tell us that we are not going where we need to be and that our reason for existence is not being attained. Inversely, success also builds good habits. Usually, we are successful because we are adept at the particular endeavor that we engage in. It can be closely related to happiness and point us to our ultimate purpose. However, we must be on the lookout for misinterpreting happiness as pleasure. 

The problem and painful thing about learning through experience is that we would have to go through the reality of struggle and pain, along with our loved ones. Of course, learning from experience can never be totally deferred as long as we live, but we may consider learning through others’ experiences as well.

Learning through others

It would be more convenient to learn your life’s purpose through the experience of others. This would require time to reflect on others’ knowledge and stories and relate them to your own life. Unknowingly, we have been applying this through formal and informal education. Then again, this may not be as effective as the former method yet can still be powerful.

Angel numbers: what do they mean?

For example: Have you been seeing the numbers 555 frequently? Perhaps in billboards, clocks, or devices? You may have seen this combination in a series. This was not a coincidence as 5-5-5 are angel numbers. These are messages that convey something deeper and are leading you to your purpose in life. 

In general, 555 is a symbol of positive change, and chances are you will be entering a new phase of your life for the better. According to the ancient 555 meaning, it is related to the creation and the wholeness of the human being. Similar to our 5 senses, 5 extremities, and 5 fingers, the number 5 connotes that we are nearing our self-realization.

“Great minds have purposes, others have wishes.” – Washington Irving

Guiding light

A lesson from any field can be learned from our own or others’ experiences, but how do we know which lessons tell us our life’s meaning? The topic of life’s purpose may be too enormous for an individual to handle and may require the guidance of a Higher Being or system. Some people have been enlightened by angel numbers. 

These are actual numbers that we sense, seemingly at random, regularly. It is said that these numerical figures are messages from the universe to align us with our ultimate purpose.

This system works on the idea that each creature, entity, and event, has a universal numerical value. It has been used since ancient times and has guided our ancestors even before the first ship set sail. Knowing our universal numerical value as well as our environment’s and being receptive to angel numbers will guide us in unveiling our life’s purpose.

Finding your true purpose in life may be a mesmerizing journey that would take up much of your effort and resources. Whether it be finding your guiding light, figuring out what the universe is telling you, or simply paving your own path, would give you a better grasp of where you need to go, and that your quest is leading you to a positive transformation. 

Lisa Froelings is a productivity consultant with over 4 years of experience in human resources working for a major retailer in the US before she decided to build her own small business. Her interests include technology, user experience as well as time management. You may connect with her on Twitter.

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling



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Our deepest human desire is to cultivate meaning in our lives. Our deepest human need is to survive. (more…)

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.



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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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