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Why Cutting Off Toxicity in Your Life is a Must

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5 years ago

Jun 6, 2020

Jennifer Jacksons

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Toxicity pertains to the state of being poisonous. Commonly, it is the term used when someone or something infiltrates your life making living unbearable. There are many toxic things that surround you, which can either make or break your life. These things crawl into your skin and make everything that you do a little less enough. Satisfaction and contentment will be hard to find no matter how hard you look for them. It is because you’ve already gone too deep in toxicity that it is almost impossible to be saved.

Every person has experienced being toxic to someone and likewise. These poisonous things can come in the form of a family member, a close friend, a significant other, and even yourself. However, it can also appear as insecurities, desires, longings, habits, behaviors, and characteristics.

Regardless of what toxicity looks like, the most important thing is that you learn how to eliminate them before they start to take over you. It is not something that you should cling on for a long time for it will destroy you sooner or later.

“It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go.” – Daniell Koepke

Whether it’s you or others who are making your life turn upside-down, the only thing that matters is that you begin to cut the rope for life is not a walk in the park. You should start focusing on the brighter side and realize that not all the things around you are diamonds — some are only poisons disguising themselves as sparkly rocks.

There are a lot of reasons why you must cut off all the toxic things in your life. It is not just for the sake of living a better life but also for the sake of saving yourself from destruction.

When you begin cleaning all edges of your life and start to enhance them, you will gradually meet confidence and be its best friend. Everything may seem scary before but these fears will start to fade away. Also, you may have been trapped in your shell for a long time, but once you erase one of the biggest toxics in your life — which is your insecurities, you will begin to love yourself.

Self-love is the most important thing of all for that is where change and happiness come from. Once you begin to learn loving yourself despite your imperfections, such as crooked teeth, big belly, wide forehead, stubborn freckles, uneven skin tone, and more, the fear of being the subject for discrimination and not fitting in will not matter anymore.

Additionally, holding back will not be on your list of options once you begin removing the toxic aspects in your life. There may be things that you did not catch, opportunities that you rejected, and people that you shut down because of a handful of reasons. But now that you are starting over and living with contentment, you will start to embrace the change and will never restrain yourself on what makes you happy.

There will be no more “what ifs” and “should have beens” that will constantly pop up in your mind making you overthink. You will no longer spend your night regretting the chances that you didn’t take; instead you will sleep peacefully knowing that you are bolder and much more capable now.

“If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” – Thomas Edison

Being toxic or being drowned in toxicity can become a little too much to handle. There can be instances where you forget your worth for you are focusing on what’s on your plate, but that is not what life is supposed to be.

The more you concentrate on the things that might break you, the bigger the tendency that you’d overlook the most significant things in your life. That is why wiping all the toxics will help you see how shiny you are. Once you were a rock full of dust and mud but the moment you begin to clean and wipe that rock, you will discover how much of a gem you are.

You really need to stop welcoming things that will not bring betterment to your life, especially those that only create destruction and chaos. Always focus on the good and if there are instances that will make your life a living hell, strive to cut them off and do not let them get in your head. Open your eyes so that you can see how beautiful you already are.

Toxicity may create a little hole in both your mind and soul but never forget that you are the captain of your ship. Do not let the poison continue to flow through your system, be the agent that stops this ugly thing from streaming so that you can be the best version of yourself.

How do you make sure you get rid of the things in your life that make it toxic? Share your thoughts with us below!

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Jennifer Jacksons is a professional writer and an amateur photographer. She writes for the ReadersMagnet during the day and goes on photo walks during twilight until the moon rises at its peak. She is also a regular blog contributor on Peter Justus website. She is a travel enthusiast who loves to take pictures of people and write stories about cultures.

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

Published

2 weeks ago

Jan 6, 2025

Daniel Bell

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
Cultivate healthier relationships
Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
Exhibit better work ethic
Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

What challenges have I already overcome?
How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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The 5 Stages of a Quarter-Life Crisis & What You Can Do

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3 weeks ago

Dec 27, 2024

CT Dool

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The quarter-life crisis is a well-defined set of stages—Trapped, Checking Out, Separation, Exploration, Rebuilding—one goes through in breaking free from feelings of meaninglessness, lack of fulfillment, and misalignment with purpose. I detail the stages and interweave my story below. (more…)

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Here’s The Thing About Learning, Unlearning, and Relearning

Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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2 months ago

Nov 21, 2024

M.S. Rao

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Few people have the habit of hoarding their wealth without spending. However, it limits their motivation as they tend to get into their comfort zones. When people start spending money, then there will be depletion in their coffers. (more…)