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How You Know You Are A Hopeless Romantic Just Like Me

Published

8 years ago

Dec 7, 2016

I figured out recently that I’m nothing more than a hopeless romantic. When you’re single, you learn things about yourself that you’d forgotten. This is one of those points for me. Hopeless romantics like me are nothing more than dreamers who want the world to be awesome.

Who doesn’t want to be in love with love? Love can bring you more magic than any form of money or achievement can. Love is the secret ingredient to happiness, and that’s why I think I’m a hopeless romantic. In the end, I just want people to be awesome to each other and have the time of their lives.

We only get one shot so why not do it in a classy way with our best friend love? There are 7 signs that you are a hopeless romantic like me and here they are:

1. You think about your dream partner all the time

As a hopeless romantic you often find yourself in quiet moments daydreaming about your dream partner who doesn’t even know you like them yet. You are obsessed with the idea of being with this person, and you have thoughts of experiencing phenomenal places together.

You think about traveling with them and realise how much better overseas can be when you share it with someone else. Going around the world by yourself is only fun for so long. Eventually, you have to wake the hell up and understand what real success is.

Sometimes, you wake up in the middle of the night fantasising about the way they make you feel, and you swear that if you ever get the chance, you’ll finally take the plunge like all of your other friends.

2. You enjoy fireplaces

Put on any good romantic movie, and there is a strong chance of a fireplace being present. Us hopeless romantics seem to be drawn to the smell of charcoal and the heat that a fireplace gives us. Even when we go to the local market, and they are char grilling a pig, we’re reminded of a fireplace.

You secretly long to be curled up on the slopes of a ski resort with that special someone, drying off after a long day of skiing. What’s even more bizarre is that when you meditate, you become strangely addicted to the session that asks you to picture yourself being next to a fireplace with an orange pillow. You’re not weird; you’re just a hopeless romantic like me.

3. Long walks are fun to you

In modern society, the last thing most people want to do is exercise because TV and junk food is a much easier way to ease yourself out of the pain of not living your purpose. Not you, though. You love long walks because it reminds you of what you want to do with your dream partner.

Long walks equal time to tell a story from your childhood or inspire your significant other to take the plunge and change their career. Long walks to a hopeless romantic equal time out from the rat race to dream of a life where entrepreneurship and creativity dominate.

A life where you can spend a lot of your time with your partner and making them happy. You don’t hate long walks like everyone else because you’re a hopeless romantic who wants to get outside and live life. Walking from one side of the beach to the other after you have finished kite surfing is fun to you (side note I am becoming a hopeless kite surfer too so maybe ignore this fact).

4. You smile a lot

Aside from long walks, you find yourself smiling a lot for no reason at all! You know you’re a hopeless romantic like me when you smile a lot because your reason for smiling is different to everybody else. You smile at everyone because you believe that the other person on the receiving end of your smile may be the long lost partner you’ve been looking for all your life.

The act of a smile is really just an insecure way to tell people that you hope they can see something in you that others haven’t seen yet. The smile is nothing more than a cry for love, attention, and significance. If only people knew why you smiled.

If only they knew what was behind the smile, then they would truly understand you.

5. You write out speeches

Now if you’re about to go and meet “the one” then you know you’re a hopeless romantic like me when you write out what you’re going to say. Non-hopeless romantics are probably wondering why the heck we would do this.

The answer is only something that a hopeless romantic like me would understand; we want to say what we truly feel without messing it up. It’s not so much a drive for perfectionism but rather a fulfillment of a dream that we’ve waited so long to achieve. A dream we sometimes thought was impossible.

When you’re given a chance to make a dream come true, practice and dedication is never a bad thing. It’s just what us hopeless romantics do, and we’re okay to be viewed as tragic for it.

6. You love cooking

As a hopeless romantic in the world of home delivery food, you probably love cooking like me. I’m the worst cook ever, but when you add romance into the equation, I become like Jamie Oliver and cook up a storm.

It’s something about those herbs and spices, mixed with romantic glances towards the person you want to marry one day, which make you crazy with food. Don’t fight it, embrace it!

7. You get tongue-tied when you meet the one

At that moment in time when you meet “the one,” you know you’re a hopeless romantic like me because you get tongue-tied and can’t speak. Even though communicating well is something you’ve always been very good at, us hopeless romantics all of a sudden find a new sense of fear.

It happens because we have craved this moment of love for so long. Unlike our friends, we don’t want this person ever to let go of us because we’ve achieved our dream of happiness. We want the moment to last forever, and this stops our mouth and tongue from moving correctly and saying stupid stuff that we’ve never said before.

Final Thought

Forget about what those supposed cool startup founders that work twenty hours a day are telling you; you should strive to be a hopeless romantic. You’ll never be really happy unless you spend some amount of time with a person that you love above everything else.

Love is success above everything else that we talk about on Addicted2Success. Love is what makes a business do a billion dollars in revenue, and it’s what makes us achieve our dreams to change the world. Don’t get caught up in the hype of success and strip it back to the basics every once in awhile.

Are you a hopeless romantic like me? Maybe you don’t know it yet. Let me know if you are on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

Published

2 weeks ago

Jan 6, 2025

Daniel Bell

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
Cultivate healthier relationships
Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
Exhibit better work ethic
Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

What challenges have I already overcome?
How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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