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Here’s Why Productivity Hacks Don’t Work

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How many times have you eagerly tried out a new productivity hack or tool and not gotten the result you expected? There is wealth of information available to us giving us everything we need to know to

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

increase our productivity, but most people live their life in chaos.  Why do still see so many people struggling to manage their time and simply not able to get the results they desire?  What is missing?

Over the last 10 years of working in productivity and helping entrepreneurs to be more productive, the answer started to become very obvious. It doesn’t matter what you are trying to do, everyone has the same challenge at the end of the day.

Why productivity hacks don’t work

Let’s say you want to increase your productivity and you want to get more done in the day, you feel disorganized, and you are not on top of everything you must do. You start to read a few articles, watch some videos on tips and tools, and you decide you are going to start by hacking your calendar first. You know that you are very reactive in the day, and you don’t plan your time well, so this is a good start.

You pull out your calendar and start to batch certain tasks together, like making time for emails and phone calls 3 times a day, you also batch tasks that take less than 5 minutes to complete for the afternoon and schedule in breaks and travel time.  You then block off time to do the most demanding tasks in the morning when you are most focused.  You are excited to try it out and you already feel more in control and clearer on how you will get everything done. 

The next day comes, and you sit behind your laptop and pull out your calendar to start the day.  You scheduled to start with a deep focused task, and you would only check your email after completing the report you have been procrastinating on for days. However, you have this huge urge to check your email, browse social media and see what’s happening.  You feel a huge resistance to start drafting this report. 

You almost feel disappointed in yourself and at the same time, expecting this might happen. You go back and forth in your mind, justifying why you can start it later and then decide to reschedule the report for tomorrow. You will feel better tomorrow you tell yourself.  

The afternoon arrives and you get reminded to start another task you have planned. You feel tired, distracted and you just don’t have the focus or energy. You also notice that you feel frustrated that you have this new calendar to follow and that you are not doing it. Why is this so hard? 

You resolve to starting tomorrow again and jump to a task that you ‘feel’ is important to do now. Everything else seems more urgent and important than what you have on your calendar. A few days pass and you find yourself in the same pattern. You are not sticking with the calendar you have planned, and you feel frustrated again, you decide that you are not a planner, and this isn’t for you. 

You find yourself saying things like, ‘I’ll never be organized’, or maybe, ‘I actually work better with this pressure and stress’.  Unknowingly you start to justify your behavior with limiting beliefs about yourself and how to get things done.  

Maybe you decide to try other easier hacks or maybe you give up completely, either way, you are not getting the results you want and can ultimately achieve.

“If you don’t pay appropriate attention to what has your attention, it will take more of your attention than it deserves.” – David Allen

What is missing, what is the pattern?

The reason that you struggle to get results with productivity hacks or tools is because you are most likely trying to change behavior with strategy alone.  This doesn’t work, you will end up frustrated, and irritated. 

You can have all the strategies in the world, but if you are in the wrong mindset and emotion, you will not get the results you want because you won’t take the aligned action. 

What do I mean more specifically with mindset and emotion? If you want to plan your days and you set your calendar up to be more efficient, that is strategy. Then ask yourself, what do I need to shift in my values or beliefs? An example would be that you want to start valuing planning your time more than not planning it. You want to strengthen the belief that it is important to plan, it is essential to success, and shift your way of thinking so action is easier. 

Remember, your emotions are part of your mindset.  

If you are feeling frustrated or overwhelmed, it is your job to get into a better emotion so you can act. We cannot act from a place of low energy. Learn how to shift from emotions and get yourself to act when you need. If you are feeling low, it is because of your current focus, stories and meaning you are attaching to what is happening in that moment.   

If you shift this, your energy will follow, and you will follow through.  If you want to increase your productivity, you want to become a master of emotions and I guarantee you, getting results from hacks and tools becomes effortless and immediate. 

Remember, if you are not managing your emotions, you are not managing your time! 

Kirstin O’Donovan is a “multinational” productivity coach, author and founder of TopResultsCoaching an international company providing coaching services in nearly a dozen countries. With over 10 years working in the field of coaching and personal development, she provides her expertise to help individuals create the life and results they desire.   Kirstin also writes for various international publications in personal development. Kirstin, a certified NLP Practitioner, holds various qualifications, certificates and credentials related to personal and business coaching. She is the author of ‘Maximize your time to maximize your profit’ and Co-Author of ‘The Confident Woman’ and ‘There is GOLD inside YOU.’

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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

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It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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