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Here’s Why Personal Development Should Be the Ultimate Inspiration in Your Life



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A lot of us live a major portion of our lives running the rat race, where all we’re doing is fiercely and blindly competing with our peers and associates. While having a sense of competition allows you to push your limits, having an understanding of what a healthy competition means is also important. Additionally, it’s also important to know who it is you really need to compete with.

Ernest Hemingway once said, “There’s nothing noble in competing with your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” This really puts things into perspective. Coming out of a debilitating life situation a couple of years back, I was left questioning my identity. With all those years that seemed wasted, stuck in a deadlock situation doing nothing seemingly productive, the feelings of being “left behind” and having lost control over my life started to take over. This is where I learned the power of self-improvement.

You see, self-improvement enables you to admit and embrace your shortcomings rather than being ignorant and sweeping them under the carpet. It also allows you to realize that you’re actually not made to compete with others but to compete with your own self – be a better version of yourself than who you were the day before. This is what inspires you to work on yourself – to face the demons that reside within you and fix them to change your tomorrow for the better. 

This article will help you internalize why personal development should be your priority and ultimate inspiration in life. 

1. You get to explore and figure out your life purpose

The truth is that when you’re living a directionless life, you’ll keep wavering from one direction to another and never be satisfied. As humans, we’re always looking for ideas and inspiration to improve our personal and professional lives. However, this can only happen if you know yourself first.

Being on a “journey” of self-development allows you to see what your beliefs and values are, what you’re passionate about, and what you want out of your life. I call personal development a journey because it takes years and years to discover your inner strengths and capabilities.

While being inspired by others is okay, it’s equally important for you to find your inspiration within yourself. This will enable you to navigate through your existential crisis effectively and bring true meaning to your life.

“Personal development is a major time-saver. The better you become, the less time it takes you to achieve your goals.” – Brian Tracy

2. You will have the motivation to take control of your life

Once you become more self-aware regarding your strengths and weaknesses, you’ll have more control over your life. The cliché that every individual is gifted with something unique is, in fact, true, if we make the effort to know what our special gift is. For me, knowing myself more gave me the motivation that I was trying to find in others.

When you know what you’re capable of doing that will change the world to be a better place, it will give you a sense of direction to achieve your goals. Many times, people want to do so much but don’t know where to start. 

Self-awareness will give you that starting point based on your passion. For example, if you’re an empathetic individual and are concerned about the mental and emotional well-being of others, perhaps studying therapy or counseling is your calling. 

3. You’ll find contentment 

It won’t be incorrect to say that we’re all looking for satisfaction in one way or the other. Know that when you understand yourself better and work on developing yourself, you’ll embrace your weaknesses with courage and own your strengths too. You won’t keep beating yourself up for your mistakes. Being on the journey of self-development and analyzing your progress will give you the happiness of being better than yesterday. 

Also, observing how far you’ve come and how you impacted the lives of those around you by improving yourself will give you contentment like nothing else. Whether the change you bring is big or small, witnessed by others or just by your own self, it will be something cherishable for you as it adds value in some way.

4. You’ll become more resilient

Experience shows that it’s not what happens to you that shows your true self, but how you respond to it. When you’re on the journey of self-improvement, your life will not automatically turn in your favor – the obstacles and unfavorable things will keep happening. However, being conscious of the fact that you’re trying to achieve a personal goal will make it easier for you to accept your circumstances and face them in a dignified way. It will build your resilience towards life’s curveballs – you’ll become a person who is emotionally more stable – and the resilience you build will be a key to a successful life.

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

5. Your relationships will thrive

Relationships are an important aspect of every person’s life. We cannot survive in this world without our sanity in place, and good relationships play a significant role in taking care of this. 

Personal development allows you to look inward and work on yourself first, instead of pointing fingers. If you have an anger problem and you’re also trying to fix it, you will become calmer, more patient, and forbearing with time. This change will show in your personality and will improve your day-to-day communications. As a result, your relationships will thrive.

6. You’ll have a positive self-image

Self-improvement will enable you to be more confident and build your self-esteem. Focusing on yourself takes you out of the vicious cycle of thinking less of yourself and despairing over what others have achieved. It allows you to feel good in a realistic way by improving your personality. It makes you love yourself for who you’ve become and pushes you to reach your highest potential.

Embark on the journey of personal development so you can live an enjoyable and purposeful life by continuously raising the bar for yourself. By doing this, you’ll live a worry-free, yet visionary life where you’ll be your own inspiration.  

How do you stay up with your own personal development? Share your thoughts with us below!

Nouman provides ghostwriting and copywriting services. His educational background in the technical field and business studies helps him in tackling topics ranging from career and business productivity to web development and digital marketing. He occasionally writes articles for prayer times.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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