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Another Day, Another Catastrophic Failure – What Do You Do?

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I’ve got a list of failures, like a criminal rap sheet. It’s just another day living in paradise (no I’m not listening to Phil Collins right now but thanks for asking). Life can slap you around sometimes and my last twelve months have been somewhat of a challenge.

The old me would have gotten all frustrated and thrown in the towel. See, the funny thing is that once you discover personal development, you have a kind of discipline that stops you from losing your sh*t. Things are not always going to go your way.

I’ve hit the inevitable stumbling block that we all experience at different stages of life. The one thing I wanted blew up in my face yet again. It seems so hard to reach, yet I’m only millimeters away most of the time. Is it me? Am I somewhat inferior? These are the questions my mind ponders.

Not for long, though. Pretty quickly, my self-development brain kicks in and overrides the negativity that is building up. We’re designed to struggle, and we can’t avoid it. When your time comes, you have to be prepared. You’ve got to build your war chest up with self-development tools.

So what do I do now? Simple: I share what I’ve learned and how you can overcome this very same challenge. I’ve done it before and I’ll do it again, cowboy. You just have to get back up on the horse and start all over again. It’s hard, exhausting, and emotionally draining. That’s what success is though, so get used to it!

Here are the 5 things you must do when you experience multiple catastrophic events all in the space of twelve months:

1. Practice discipline

When the hard times roll around, the easiest thing to do is give into temptation and addiction. All the nice things that you think will help you forget start becoming front of mind. The worst two are drinking and smoking. Stress and pain should be a trigger to ramp up your discipline, not scale it down.

“During catastrophic failure, you need your positive habits more than ever”

It’s not time to give up the green juices, stop exercising or invite troublemakers back into your life. You must stand guard at the door of your mind continually, and this time stand at that door with a freaking Uzi, ready to attack anything negative that tries to walk through.

My biggest challenge, when the tough times hit, is not giving into poor diet choices. There’s nothing better when you are feeling a bit off than to get into some nachos, or go and eat a hamburger. Instead, when I think of these bad habits, I go and double down on green veggies.

You need your mind clear, and bad habits will only fog the windscreen of your vision. You need to be able to see your challenge clearly for what it is, and not let your mind blow things out of proportion. Yes, you failed, but so does everyone at some point.

You can find success again, and you can choose to redefine your life any way you want. You’re in the driver’s seat, and it’s so crucial to stay in control. I know it’s difficult, but if you can keep your disciplined approach going, you will ultimately become indestructible.

When this happens again – and it will – you’ll know how to handle it. Stay focused. Stay positive. Never give up on yourself or your dreams.

2. Take two days off and volunteer

My go-to response to catastrophic events is to go and volunteer. This time around I’ve chosen The Salvation Army Homeless Shelter. They inspire everybody to help people in need.

By going and volunteering at an organization like The Salvation Army, you can surround yourself with positive people. Find an organization that has the same values as you, and offer two full days for free. Reach out to them via social media and tell them in one short sentence what your skills are.

These challenging times can be made so much better if you make smart decisions like volunteering. You must give as much as you can in everyday life, and during hard times you’ve got to double your giving. This will take the focus off your problems, and help you repair yourself.

3. There’s always a lesson

The frustrating thing about catastrophic times is that you feel like you’ve wasted your time travelling down a certain path that had now ended. Because time is limited, the failure makes us feel a sense of loss. What if you didn’t lose any time at all?

That’s what happened to me. While I suffered from failure, I learned so much about the world. Finding yourself and your purpose is about experiencing catastrophic failure more than normal. You’ve got to be committed to learning from every event, even when it seems like there is no lesson.

Through my own recent failure, I discovered more of my spiritual side, learned that I’ve become a really kind person, and I’ve seen how I can give it 110% which I never used to be able to do. It’s not all bad, you know. Learning and growing is what makes us happy. Use this happiness to defeat these catastrophic failures. Slay them like a dragon with your happiness.

4. Be prepared for sacrifice

One of the reasons we fail is because we’re not willing to budge on something. We have to get better at sacrificing, and not having everything our way. If we still fail, even after we have sacrificed everything, then we’ve done all we can do. It may be people or events that just can’t be controlled the way you would like them to be.

5. The tide will change again

The tide rolls in, but it always rolls out again. Hopefully, you’ve built the “ship of you” in such a way that the tide compliments your desired life destination rather than the other way around. I’ve seen the tide so many times now that it’s become like second nature.

I can almost predict its exact pattern. Even when you can see how events will play out, it doesn’t shield you from catastrophic events. All you can do is have faith in the process. Know that the tide will be back on your side before you know it.

The only other alternative is to give up and let this negative world win. That’s not even an option, so stop thinking like that. Contemplate how good it feels to see the positive in all situations. Remember how your optimism is the driving force in all things good. Remember that your optimism got you to this point in the first place. It’s how you might have met that special someone.

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The 3 Most Important Things I Learned About Personal Growth

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

The three lessons above are some of the main things I want to pass on to everyone because they’ve come at an important time in my life where I need to start thinking about others instead of only myself. It’s great if we can learn to love ourselves first before anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect everyone around you even though they might be your friends and family members!

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