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Another Day, Another Catastrophic Failure – What Do You Do?

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I’ve got a list of failures, like a criminal rap sheet. It’s just another day living in paradise (no I’m not listening to Phil Collins right now but thanks for asking). Life can slap you around sometimes and my last twelve months have been somewhat of a challenge.

The old me would have gotten all frustrated and thrown in the towel. See, the funny thing is that once you discover personal development, you have a kind of discipline that stops you from losing your sh*t. Things are not always going to go your way.

I’ve hit the inevitable stumbling block that we all experience at different stages of life. The one thing I wanted blew up in my face yet again. It seems so hard to reach, yet I’m only millimeters away most of the time. Is it me? Am I somewhat inferior? These are the questions my mind ponders.

Not for long, though. Pretty quickly, my self-development brain kicks in and overrides the negativity that is building up. We’re designed to struggle, and we can’t avoid it. When your time comes, you have to be prepared. You’ve got to build your war chest up with self-development tools.

So what do I do now? Simple: I share what I’ve learned and how you can overcome this very same challenge. I’ve done it before and I’ll do it again, cowboy. You just have to get back up on the horse and start all over again. It’s hard, exhausting, and emotionally draining. That’s what success is though, so get used to it!

Here are the 5 things you must do when you experience multiple catastrophic events all in the space of twelve months:

1. Practice discipline

When the hard times roll around, the easiest thing to do is give into temptation and addiction. All the nice things that you think will help you forget start becoming front of mind. The worst two are drinking and smoking. Stress and pain should be a trigger to ramp up your discipline, not scale it down.

“During catastrophic failure, you need your positive habits more than ever”

It’s not time to give up the green juices, stop exercising or invite troublemakers back into your life. You must stand guard at the door of your mind continually, and this time stand at that door with a freaking Uzi, ready to attack anything negative that tries to walk through.

My biggest challenge, when the tough times hit, is not giving into poor diet choices. There’s nothing better when you are feeling a bit off than to get into some nachos, or go and eat a hamburger. Instead, when I think of these bad habits, I go and double down on green veggies.

You need your mind clear, and bad habits will only fog the windscreen of your vision. You need to be able to see your challenge clearly for what it is, and not let your mind blow things out of proportion. Yes, you failed, but so does everyone at some point.

You can find success again, and you can choose to redefine your life any way you want. You’re in the driver’s seat, and it’s so crucial to stay in control. I know it’s difficult, but if you can keep your disciplined approach going, you will ultimately become indestructible.

When this happens again – and it will – you’ll know how to handle it. Stay focused. Stay positive. Never give up on yourself or your dreams.

2. Take two days off and volunteer

My go-to response to catastrophic events is to go and volunteer. This time around I’ve chosen The Salvation Army Homeless Shelter. They inspire everybody to help people in need.

By going and volunteering at an organization like The Salvation Army, you can surround yourself with positive people. Find an organization that has the same values as you, and offer two full days for free. Reach out to them via social media and tell them in one short sentence what your skills are.

These challenging times can be made so much better if you make smart decisions like volunteering. You must give as much as you can in everyday life, and during hard times you’ve got to double your giving. This will take the focus off your problems, and help you repair yourself.

3. There’s always a lesson

The frustrating thing about catastrophic times is that you feel like you’ve wasted your time travelling down a certain path that had now ended. Because time is limited, the failure makes us feel a sense of loss. What if you didn’t lose any time at all?

That’s what happened to me. While I suffered from failure, I learned so much about the world. Finding yourself and your purpose is about experiencing catastrophic failure more than normal. You’ve got to be committed to learning from every event, even when it seems like there is no lesson.

Through my own recent failure, I discovered more of my spiritual side, learned that I’ve become a really kind person, and I’ve seen how I can give it 110% which I never used to be able to do. It’s not all bad, you know. Learning and growing is what makes us happy. Use this happiness to defeat these catastrophic failures. Slay them like a dragon with your happiness.

4. Be prepared for sacrifice

One of the reasons we fail is because we’re not willing to budge on something. We have to get better at sacrificing, and not having everything our way. If we still fail, even after we have sacrificed everything, then we’ve done all we can do. It may be people or events that just can’t be controlled the way you would like them to be.

5. The tide will change again

The tide rolls in, but it always rolls out again. Hopefully, you’ve built the “ship of you” in such a way that the tide compliments your desired life destination rather than the other way around. I’ve seen the tide so many times now that it’s become like second nature.

I can almost predict its exact pattern. Even when you can see how events will play out, it doesn’t shield you from catastrophic events. All you can do is have faith in the process. Know that the tide will be back on your side before you know it.

The only other alternative is to give up and let this negative world win. That’s not even an option, so stop thinking like that. Contemplate how good it feels to see the positive in all situations. Remember how your optimism is the driving force in all things good. Remember that your optimism got you to this point in the first place. It’s how you might have met that special someone.

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Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Angelabeebe1977ab@gmail.com

    Oct 6, 2017 at 8:51 pm

    Amazing article Tim !!!! I can’t help but giggle because it’s very familiar . I love your writings !!!

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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

There’s that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you don’t have the stuff to make it all happen. Not now and not ever. You feel like a failure…it’s holding you back and you don’t know how to deal with it. Well you could do yourself a favor and start dealing with it by doing the following things:

1. Stop Denying You Feel Like A Failure

Telling yourself things are going great when they’re not is one of the biggest, though most useless, coping mechanisms human beings deploy in rough times. Common denial signals among entrepreneurs: trying to regain more control by working even more hours and on the other side compensating this by letting go of all this control by partying and drinking way too hard.

What you’re doing is denying yourself the opportunity to actually feel what’s going on and acknowledge the problem; that both you and your business are in a bad place. Without acknowledging it, it’ll be pretty difficult to actually STOP feeling it. And remember, just because you feel like a failure, this does not mean that you indeed ARE a failure!

2. Stop Making It Bigger Than it Really Is

This is one of those other ‘fun’ things human beings do; we blow things way out of proportion in our heads! In business, when you lose that big client you’ve been working on for weeks, it feels like it’s the end of the world. You start doubting yourself, your strategy, your entire business model right up to the point where you barely sleep because you’re working on pivoting the whole thing.

But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

Of course not, it simply means that THIS CUSTOMER wasn’t a match. It’s a bit like dating actually…So if you take this into consideration, could it be that you just feel like a failure instead of really not succeeding in that what you want to at this point in time?

3. Stop Thinking You’re The Only One Who Feels Like This

You’re not! With the possible exception of the true sociopaths, that feeling you’re feeling is very normal to EVERYONE. It might not seem like it on the outside – because people don’t like to acknowledge this remember – but I can guarantee you that it’s true. But unlike 99% of the world’s population, YOU’RE not going to let this feeling stop you in your tracks. Are you?

4. Stop Thinking You’re Supposed To Be Superhuman

In fact, it’s very likely that you’re already doing, learning and succeeding at WAY more than most other people are. But for entrepreneurs, somehow, that never seems to be enough. You don’t just want to be successful after a few years of hard work (which is normal). You want to be successful after only a few months. Because you’re special…or at least you think you are…

Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

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Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

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Quotes To Live By:

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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