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6 Ways To Stay Positive In A Negative World

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How To Stay Positive In A Negative World

People say all the time that it’s important to have a positive mental attitude and to be motivated, but the most compelling question is, how do we stay positive in such a negative world?

How do we do that in the face of all the horrible things they show on the news? The good news is it is possible- it can be done! Here are some tips on how to stay positive in a negative world.

Here are the 6 steps on how to stay positive in a negative world:

1. Stop saying it’s a negative world

I know that the evening news is full of terrorism, wars, killings and murder, and if we base our perception of the world just on that alone we would of course think it’s a negative world. But as the T-shirt says “life is good”. If you decide that it’s a wonderful world and shift your perspective you will start to see there are many good things in the world.

Every day on the Internet you see a positive story about someone who helped someone else for no reason at all. There are hundreds, yes thousands of those stories yet they get overlooked and overwhelmed by the negative ones. So the first step is to stop saying it’s a negative world and say that life is beautiful. After all your mind believes what you tell it.

“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.” – Helen Keller

2Find sources of positive reinforcement

Going on addicted2success for example is a great way to expose yourself to positive reinforcement. Look for books on positive thinking. A quick search of Amazon reveals over 44,000 books under the topic of positive thinking.

Reading a book either physically or electronically on your Kindle is a great way to expose yourself to positive reinforcement each day. Look for positive content on television. Programs and shows and movies that inspire and uplift you, not shows that are depressing and dark.

 

3. Make a good list

What is a good list? Some people call this a gratitude list, but the idea is to write down the things in your life that are good. For example, I might make a list and say I am grateful for my home in Amish country, I’m grateful for my health, I’m grateful for my wonderful wife, and grateful for my family and their support.

Once you make a list of all the things in your life that are good, it helps you see that there are many wonderful things in the world and in your life particularly. Life is good!

 

4. Be the positive

If people say it’s a negative world than one way of combating that idea is to be individually someone who changes people’s perception of the world because you live in it. For example, my wife Rachael likes to give people compliments.

For example we may be in a store shopping and as we go to pay for items she will say to the cashier “well I must tell you -you certainly have beautiful eyes. In fact I think they’re the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen.”

I watch and smile as I see the cashier stand up straighter, and you can tell that they feel good about themselves because they just got a real authentic beautiful compliment. So if you treat people kindly and positively, and you bring out the light and not the dark. You can be an agent of change.

 

5. Avoid negativity

I am not saying to be an ostrich and stick your head in the sand. I am a realist. However, I think you will lead a much happier and more motivated life if you avoid negative programs, negative people, and negative gossip and just refuse to be part of the powerful life draining, soul crushing force of negativity.  

 

6. Seek joy

Take a few moments and write down the things in life that bring you joy. Then your objective is to work items from this list into your schedule. I find that far too often the reason why people lose motivation is they get so busy they forget to seek the joy.

They leave out the joyful activities in their life, in the end up becoming grumpy and unmotivated. Their heart and soul is saying “Why do I work so hard when I never get to really have any fun?”

“Choosing to be positive and having a grateful attitude is going to determine how you live your life.” –  Joel Osteen

So when you wake up in the morning, as you’re getting ready to start your day, I want you to think to yourself- it’s a wonderful world. You live in a world full of life and love, victory and success, laughter and joy. Beauty is all around you. Focus on that. Because how you think about the world is truly your reality.

What are your steps to stay positive in a negative world? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Hi I’m Shawn Doyle CSP. It’s nice to meet you!  I am a certified professional speaker, author and an Executive and Life Coach. I am the author of 18 books and a few have been Amazon #1 bestsellers. My life passion is to make a positive difference in people’s lives by helping them live to their full potential both at work and at home as people go through something called life. I live in the scenic rolling hills of southwestern Pennsylvania made famous by Andrew Wyeth paintings. I share my life with an amazing wonderful wife and three crazy cats. Check out my website here: www.shawndoylemotivates.com

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  1. Ram

    Apr 26, 2018 at 4:56 am

    There’s a wealth of ideas to be found in negative world. For example, negative people also keep communicating on their popular pain points. Solving them will make you a master. So other’s pain is our gain and with a mindset to deliver value, it can soon become other’s gain as well.

  2. Vikash Sharma

    Dec 8, 2015 at 2:48 pm

    Hi Shawn,

    Thank you for such a great article.

    I agree with your first two points-“Stop saying it’s a negative world” and “Find sources of positive reinforcement”.

    The best ways, I have found to stay positive are – 1. Associate with positive people 2. Read positive books, 3. Visit positive and motivational blogs like addicted2success.com and do some meditation in morning.

    I have been following this from last few months and really amazed with the results I am getting.

    Overall a Great article and thanks again for sharing 🙂

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Don’t Want To Feel Like A Failure Anymore? Stop Doing These 6 Things

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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

There’s that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you don’t have the stuff to make it all happen. Not now and not ever. You feel like a failure…it’s holding you back and you don’t know how to deal with it. Well you could do yourself a favor and start dealing with it by doing the following things:

1. Stop Denying You Feel Like A Failure

Telling yourself things are going great when they’re not is one of the biggest, though most useless, coping mechanisms human beings deploy in rough times. Common denial signals among entrepreneurs: trying to regain more control by working even more hours and on the other side compensating this by letting go of all this control by partying and drinking way too hard.

What you’re doing is denying yourself the opportunity to actually feel what’s going on and acknowledge the problem; that both you and your business are in a bad place. Without acknowledging it, it’ll be pretty difficult to actually STOP feeling it. And remember, just because you feel like a failure, this does not mean that you indeed ARE a failure!

2. Stop Making It Bigger Than it Really Is

This is one of those other ‘fun’ things human beings do; we blow things way out of proportion in our heads! In business, when you lose that big client you’ve been working on for weeks, it feels like it’s the end of the world. You start doubting yourself, your strategy, your entire business model right up to the point where you barely sleep because you’re working on pivoting the whole thing.

But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

Of course not, it simply means that THIS CUSTOMER wasn’t a match. It’s a bit like dating actually…So if you take this into consideration, could it be that you just feel like a failure instead of really not succeeding in that what you want to at this point in time?

3. Stop Thinking You’re The Only One Who Feels Like This

You’re not! With the possible exception of the true sociopaths, that feeling you’re feeling is very normal to EVERYONE. It might not seem like it on the outside – because people don’t like to acknowledge this remember – but I can guarantee you that it’s true. But unlike 99% of the world’s population, YOU’RE not going to let this feeling stop you in your tracks. Are you?

4. Stop Thinking You’re Supposed To Be Superhuman

In fact, it’s very likely that you’re already doing, learning and succeeding at WAY more than most other people are. But for entrepreneurs, somehow, that never seems to be enough. You don’t just want to be successful after a few years of hard work (which is normal). You want to be successful after only a few months. Because you’re special…or at least you think you are…

Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

5. Stop Being So Incredibly Stubborn

Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

Those Who Failed Their Way To Success

Quotes To Live By:

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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