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5 Ways to Avoid Being Just an Average Joe

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We live in a world where we are faced with comparisons every minute and every second. As soon as we check our phones first thing in the morning, the feeling of not being enough or extraordinary kicks in even before coffee. While it is good to be your own critic so you don’t get lazy and stay determined, it is unfair to keep comparing yourself to others.

Nobody wants to be average. We all want to be more but most of us are stuck at the thought of where to start. The internet is filled with tips and techniques to push your horizons and how to lift yourself up from the baseline set by those around you. For most, getting out of debt, budgeting, investing, getting insurance, time management, and thinking creatively are some of the benchmarks, which they think will make them better than an average Joe.

In our opinion, you shouldn’t set your goals on the basis of someone else’s horizon. Be bold, create your own sky and set your own limits! You do not have to prove yourself to anyone besides yourself. 

However, if you feel like your happiness lies in being extraordinary or proving yourself to be better than an average Joe, here are some ways which can help you feel validated and proud of yourself:

1. Do Not Succumb To Media’s Unrealistic Expectations

We all want to see the best of content and the best of the lot on our news feeds every day. Nobody wants to see a below-average or a mediocre element of content first thing in the morning. While there are multiple reasons as to why this thinking is wrong, we will focus on just one.

To be honest, the content you come across on social media is not original. It is scripted and made with enormous amounts of filters, crews, and layers. If you find yourself feeling average with such content, you need to acknowledge the facts and the truth behind the scenes too. However, if you find yourself unbothered with such content, be proud of yourself.

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” – Bruce Lee

2. Connect, Don’t Compete

The key rule to rest your anxieties for a while is to stop comparing yourself with people around you. Like celebrities, you do not know the behind stories of even the closest of your friends and family members. Each person has his/her own capacity and definition.

Think of it like this, if you are trying to fulfill the expectations of others, you’re not extraordinary, you’re just an average Joe. However, if you are setting your own path controlled by your own pace, you are doing something more daring than others. Even if you do fail, you should be proud of yourself for at least having the courage to take a different path.

3. Put Yourself Before Your Boss and Parents

The new hustle culture which depicts that a person should always be grinding in order to be successful is stupid. Even if you become successful with a house, some cars, and expensive trips, what’s the point if you do not enjoy the road too? The journey should be a memorable part, not the destination.

Working hard is a good quality which should be appreciated but there’s a fine line between working hard and burdening yourself. Find happiness in the way; take out time from your busy schedules for self-care. Treat yourself every once in a while with a break because you’ve earned it!

4. Too Much Information

Today, whatever you want to know is just a click away. The mysteries and even the dumbest of questions can be asked from the internet and the answers are just a tap away. But there is a thing called too much information. Knowing things is good but we don’t even realize when this information starts affecting our lives and mentality.

It doesn’t just affect us, it affects the people around us too. Be proud of yourself if you don’t lend an ear to every piece of information that comes your way! Prioritize information on the basis of relevance and relativity.

“Find out who you are and be that person. That’s what your soul was put on this earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth, and everything else will come.” – Ellen DeGeneres

5. Focus On Happiness And Not Success

It is 2020, and unfortunately, with so much awareness regarding mental health around us, people still think that every successful person is happy with his/her life. But in fact, it is not true at all. Many successful people are struggling with depression and anxiety which concludes that happiness and success are not related to each other.

If you are someone who finds happiness in the most minimal and average things in your life, then pat yourself on the back. Because you’re not an average Joe. The ability to control and be in charge of one’s happiness is the biggest achievement one can ever attain.

Lastly, if you’re someone who appreciates yourself and does not depend on anyone else’s validation, BE PROUD OF YOURSELF!

Stuart Jenkins is a motivated change maker driven to empower people to a fulfilling dream life of freedom, impact and adventure. Love personal development? Why not get paid to grow yourself, while helping others from anywhere in the world, as a high end coach? Click here for your free Coaching Industry Truths: 3 Things every budding new coach needs to be aware of... quick fire mini-course.

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How Your Psychological Blind Spots Keep You Stuck in Life

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Sometimes, life doesn’t seem to make any sense. Albert Einstein once said “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Here’s the funny thing. We will say that line about someone else, have a good chuckle, and then DO THE SAME THING OURSELVES! This time, it’s not that funny, is it? I know. I’ve done it myself. (more…)

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3 Ways to Take Better Care of Yourself and Live an Optimized Life

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The secret to happiness lies in the way you live your life. People think of happiness as some destination they’ll reach when they’ve accomplished the hundred things on their life to-do list. Happiness is often associated with money, material possessions, or even great relationships. (more…)

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These 7 Daily Resolutions Can Change Your Life

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We all strive to be better every day. Most of us want a new day to bring something new, and we plan for it as well. Of course, the execution is debatable as procrastination is real and it becomes an overwhelming feeling at times. Also, not to forget the customary practice of making resolutions on new year’s eve!  All of us are fascinated by the thought of preparing long lists of resolves to mark the beginning of a new year. Not sure how many people are able to translate these resolutions into functional realities. (more…)

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4 Reasons Why Content Is Pivotal For Mental Health Healing

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One of the most important things for an entrepreneur’s mental health is expressing their feelings, thoughts, and emotions. This is where content creation and writing becomes pivotal. Whether you read something that resonates with you or you write a compelling blog post, the act of expressing yourself through content can help to put a smile on your face and make you feel better about things.

Most entrepreneurs don’t spend as much time taking care of their mental health as they should. Over the course of your career, you will experience a lot of ups and downs; these emotions have the potential to take a toll on your mind and body if you don’t learn to manage them properly.

Here are four reasons why expression through content is pivotal for healing, slowing yourself down, and giving yourself grace when the going gets tough.

1. Content can be a form of self-expression

When you are an entrepreneur, you frequently face feelings of insecurity, doubt, fear, apathy, and exhaustion, just to name a few. Some days it feels like no one is on your business’s side and everyone else has it all figured out. On those days some of us try to look at our website’s analytics to cheer up. 

But an even more freeing task is creating content. You create content to improve your business and reach more people’s lives. But, there is something special that happens when you write with the intention of expressing your thoughts and feelings — you open a door to yourself. 

Content is inherently personal, which means content creators open themselves up when they share their thoughts on a platform. Everything from the title of the post, the keywords they choose to include, and even the content itself helps you to understand who the author of that post truly is. And as an entrepreneur, this can be an important experience because it allows others to empathize with you.

2. Self-reflection will lift you up

As you think through what to write about and how to express yourself, the process of self reflection is a valuable step you need to go through. You’re able to reflect on the blessings you have, assess what you learned from the negative experiences, and create a plan on how to maintain the positive experiences you’ve had. 

There are a few ways that self reflection can help you with mental health healing. The act of reflecting on your experiences helps to create clarity in feelings, thoughts and emotions which will eventually lead into acceptance for what has happened or is happening currently without feeling overwhelmed by it all. This process also leads people towards finding new things they enjoy doing. Self reflection is therapeutic and can be implemented anytime you feel the need to overcome overwhelm.

“Writing in a journal each day allows you to direct your focus to what you accomplished, what you’re grateful for and what you’re committed to doing better tomorrow. Thus, you more deeply enjoy your journey each day.” – Hal Elrod

3. A sense of belonging and camaraderie

It is important to have a support network of people who will listen and understand what you are going through. When you post a blog or upload a video on YouTube, there are others who feel the same way and experience a sense of connection with you.

When you put time, attention and thoughtfulness into your writing, it is amazing when someone reads what you’ve written and comments on it thanking you or expressing how they resonate with what you’re going through. It’s hard to put into words how powerful it feels when someone who has gone through the same experience and reads your words then reaches out.  There is power in expression but miracles happen when people bond over a similar experience.

4. Library of content to share with more people

It can be very difficult to know what content to share with people as the symptoms of mental health disorders (anxiety, depression, etc.) vary from person to person. But as you accumulate more and more content, this will increase the number of articles or videos available for readers to choose from depending on their specific purpose. It also builds your personal library of resources you’re able to share to different people you encounter or engage directly with.

As chaotic and distracting social media can be, it can also be a beacon of hope with the right content. Many people share viral posts, or content that interest them. Since your content is valuable and personal, the more you share it, the more likely it is to be shared with the right audience.

You never know who is watching (reading)

Your content is speaking to someone and even though they may not be actively engaged, their experiences with your work are impacting them. Think about the last time you watched TV: did everyone in the room have something entertaining to say? 

You never know who’s watching because there’s always somebody reading your posts or viewing your videos-even if they just skim through it briefly. This is why creating content worth consuming is critical, not only to get you out of your funk, but also to serve your audience.  Be authentic and stay true to yourself; make every post count as an opportunity for connection with your best self and for potential readers to bond with you.

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