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4 Ways Unresolved Trauma Is Sabotaging Your Bank Account

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It can be easy to run headlong into burnout when you live in a hustle culture where you’re told the answer to all of your financial problems is simply to work harder. The problem is that how hard you work may actually be part of what’s stifling your bank account.

In business, there will always be times when you’re working harder than others. All-nighters happen, and there are indeed times to hustle. But there needs to be a balance in order for you to maintain your health, to continue growing, and to enjoy your life.

For business owners and entrepreneurs around the world, mindset has been a great area of focus, and it’s been powerful to watch the industry step up to the plate to clear sabotaging beliefs that are holding people back. But what if there’s something else—something deeper—that needs to be addressed in order for you to be fully unleashed in your earning potential?

That’s where unresolved trauma work comes into play. Here are the four ways unresolved trauma can be sabotaging your bank account right now.

1. Trauma is often misunderstood

First, you must understand what trauma is and how it affects your mind, body, and energy. Trauma is any event that leaves a negative imprint that you weren’t able to fully process at the time, and as a result, has left the unprocessed emotions, thoughts, and belief systems in your mind or body that may be causing you to second guess yourself and the world around you.

It can be mental, emotional, or physical. Trauma can happen in many ways, anything from a statement made to you, a betrayal of your trust, a physical altercation, a sudden accident, or even a stressful moment. One of the biggest misconceptions around trauma is that it must be considered a big event.

Trauma doesn’t have to come from a chaotic, life-upending event. It can be much more simple than that, happening in a moment that’s easy to miss altogether, which is what can make it so insidious. Now that you know what trauma is, you can understand deeper what it does to your mind, body, and energy. 

When trauma is introduced to your system, it causes a fracture in your energy, shocks your nervous system, and can mark a moment in your mind where you weren’t safe. In order to course-correct the sabotage that can result from the initial trauma and subsequent fallout, you have to approach the trauma holistically. If you leave out any of these pieces (mind, body, energy), then it’s only a matter of time before you repeat the sabotage pattern and push money away from you.

2. Unresolved trauma compromises your self-worth

Money is connected to our relationship with who we are and our self-worth. Because trauma can compromise aspects of your confidence and can make you question your worth, it creates a barrier against money. Questioning your worth may not always look or sound like “I don’t feel worthy”. Sometimes it looks or sounds like: 

  • “That’s not for people like me.”
  • “Things don’t work out for me.”
  • “Of course that happened to me!”
  • “I haven’t earned that yet/I have to work hard to have this.”
  • “I don’t deserve that.”
  • “People like me don’t get that.”

Whenever there is a feeling of not being enough in any way, it can compromise the flow of money you receive.

“Trauma is a fact of life. It does not, however, have to be a life sentence.” – Peter A. Levine

3. Unresolved trauma creates unconscious blinders

Unresolved trauma results in unconscious blocks and patterns that keep you from what you want by creating blind spots in your mental, emotional, and creative vision. When unresolved trauma exists within the subconscious, it creates a consistent chain of events that keep you triggered just below your conscious awareness. 

Your subconscious mind remembers everything, so any part of life becomes the playground for triggers. Anything that resembles the thoughts, images, body sensations, and emotions you had during the traumatic experience, from walking down the street and going to the grocery store to working on your goals and having a conversation, can create a subconscious trigger. So throughout the day, without knowing it, you’re making micro-moves that keep you safe and also keep you from reaching the financial success that you’re after. 

By allowing unresolved trauma to fester, your decisions come from the past (the trauma or fear) instead of a place of choice and opportunity. Healing this, helps you to see more clearly. This happened with one business owner who was struggling to break her income ceiling beyond six-figures in revenue. When diving into her childhood, she discovered there was an unhealed trauma when she was yelled at because she asked for more. 

She developed a belief system around the idea that asking for more was selfish which carried over into her business. She was trying to uplevel her income, but nothing worked because her foundational belief system from the unresolved trauma was that “making more and asking for more was selfish”. Once she resolved the trauma and the belief system that went along with it, her glass ceiling toppled.

4. Unresolved trauma causes feelings of being unsafe

Unresolved trauma disrupts your body’s “root chakra” which is your identification of safety and belonging in this world. This energy center is directly connected to money. This often happens when you have unhealed trauma from your childhood that rocks the foundation of your safety both physically and emotionally. 

When this happens, it can prevent you from feeling secure in your life and causes you to have challenges with receiving money. When you’re used to feeling unsafe, there’s a comfort in that feeling and your subconscious will fight to keep things status quo. That’s why you’ll resist making more money.

The second way that this particular red flag shows up is when you receive money and quickly spend it or it goes out the door soon after you get it. There’s an underlying issue of feeling undeserving when this scenario happens.

There are all kinds of ways trauma can create tough money situations for you, but now you know the red flags to look for so that you can address the underlying trauma. The after-effects of trauma aren’t things you have to suffer through or live with for the rest of your life. That’s not how things have to be. If you can identify where trauma is creating an issue, you can get the support you need in healing. Heal the trauma, and you can heal the cycles the trauma created.

Deidre Sirianni is a TEDx Speaker, leadership coach, and spiritual guide, serving a community of impact-driven entrepreneurs, coaches, leaders, and visionaries on their journey of healing, integrating change, and making a significant impact through their work. Deidre uses her over 10 years of experience in leadership development, holistic wellness, and human behavior to help clients overcome self-sabotaging behaviors and unresolved trauma that holds them back from being fulfilled and reaching their goals. Deidre has supported hundreds of people around the world on their journey of realizing their full potential. She’s spoken on global stages such as Envision Festival, Impact Festival, Consciousness Hacking, Influence, and her genius has been featured in Lululemon, Novus TV, and Alive Magazine. If you know that you have a big message to share with the world and you have trauma to heal, blocks to remove, behaviors patterns to transform, and gifts to activate within you, then click here to learn more.

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

  1. Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
  2. Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

  • Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
  • Cultivate healthier relationships
  • Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
  • Exhibit better work ethic
  • Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

  • Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
  • Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
  • Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

  • Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
  • Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

  • What challenges have I already overcome?
  • How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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The key to finding “enough” is recognizing that the root of the problem is a question of self-esteem and deservedness

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