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4 Ways Unresolved Trauma Is Sabotaging Your Bank Account

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It can be easy to run headlong into burnout when you live in a hustle culture where you’re told the answer to all of your financial problems is simply to work harder. The problem is that how hard you work may actually be part of what’s stifling your bank account.

In business, there will always be times when you’re working harder than others. All-nighters happen, and there are indeed times to hustle. But there needs to be a balance in order for you to maintain your health, to continue growing, and to enjoy your life.

For business owners and entrepreneurs around the world, mindset has been a great area of focus, and it’s been powerful to watch the industry step up to the plate to clear sabotaging beliefs that are holding people back. But what if there’s something else—something deeper—that needs to be addressed in order for you to be fully unleashed in your earning potential?

That’s where unresolved trauma work comes into play. Here are the four ways unresolved trauma can be sabotaging your bank account right now.

1. Trauma is often misunderstood

First, you must understand what trauma is and how it affects your mind, body, and energy. Trauma is any event that leaves a negative imprint that you weren’t able to fully process at the time, and as a result, has left the unprocessed emotions, thoughts, and belief systems in your mind or body that may be causing you to second guess yourself and the world around you.

It can be mental, emotional, or physical. Trauma can happen in many ways, anything from a statement made to you, a betrayal of your trust, a physical altercation, a sudden accident, or even a stressful moment. One of the biggest misconceptions around trauma is that it must be considered a big event.

Trauma doesn’t have to come from a chaotic, life-upending event. It can be much more simple than that, happening in a moment that’s easy to miss altogether, which is what can make it so insidious. Now that you know what trauma is, you can understand deeper what it does to your mind, body, and energy. 

When trauma is introduced to your system, it causes a fracture in your energy, shocks your nervous system, and can mark a moment in your mind where you weren’t safe. In order to course-correct the sabotage that can result from the initial trauma and subsequent fallout, you have to approach the trauma holistically. If you leave out any of these pieces (mind, body, energy), then it’s only a matter of time before you repeat the sabotage pattern and push money away from you.

2. Unresolved trauma compromises your self-worth

Money is connected to our relationship with who we are and our self-worth. Because trauma can compromise aspects of your confidence and can make you question your worth, it creates a barrier against money. Questioning your worth may not always look or sound like “I don’t feel worthy”. Sometimes it looks or sounds like: 

  • “That’s not for people like me.”
  • “Things don’t work out for me.”
  • “Of course that happened to me!”
  • “I haven’t earned that yet/I have to work hard to have this.”
  • “I don’t deserve that.”
  • “People like me don’t get that.”

Whenever there is a feeling of not being enough in any way, it can compromise the flow of money you receive.

“Trauma is a fact of life. It does not, however, have to be a life sentence.” – Peter A. Levine

3. Unresolved trauma creates unconscious blinders

Unresolved trauma results in unconscious blocks and patterns that keep you from what you want by creating blind spots in your mental, emotional, and creative vision. When unresolved trauma exists within the subconscious, it creates a consistent chain of events that keep you triggered just below your conscious awareness. 

Your subconscious mind remembers everything, so any part of life becomes the playground for triggers. Anything that resembles the thoughts, images, body sensations, and emotions you had during the traumatic experience, from walking down the street and going to the grocery store to working on your goals and having a conversation, can create a subconscious trigger. So throughout the day, without knowing it, you’re making micro-moves that keep you safe and also keep you from reaching the financial success that you’re after. 

By allowing unresolved trauma to fester, your decisions come from the past (the trauma or fear) instead of a place of choice and opportunity. Healing this, helps you to see more clearly. This happened with one business owner who was struggling to break her income ceiling beyond six-figures in revenue. When diving into her childhood, she discovered there was an unhealed trauma when she was yelled at because she asked for more. 

She developed a belief system around the idea that asking for more was selfish which carried over into her business. She was trying to uplevel her income, but nothing worked because her foundational belief system from the unresolved trauma was that “making more and asking for more was selfish”. Once she resolved the trauma and the belief system that went along with it, her glass ceiling toppled.

4. Unresolved trauma causes feelings of being unsafe

Unresolved trauma disrupts your body’s “root chakra” which is your identification of safety and belonging in this world. This energy center is directly connected to money. This often happens when you have unhealed trauma from your childhood that rocks the foundation of your safety both physically and emotionally. 

When this happens, it can prevent you from feeling secure in your life and causes you to have challenges with receiving money. When you’re used to feeling unsafe, there’s a comfort in that feeling and your subconscious will fight to keep things status quo. That’s why you’ll resist making more money.

The second way that this particular red flag shows up is when you receive money and quickly spend it or it goes out the door soon after you get it. There’s an underlying issue of feeling undeserving when this scenario happens.

There are all kinds of ways trauma can create tough money situations for you, but now you know the red flags to look for so that you can address the underlying trauma. The after-effects of trauma aren’t things you have to suffer through or live with for the rest of your life. That’s not how things have to be. If you can identify where trauma is creating an issue, you can get the support you need in healing. Heal the trauma, and you can heal the cycles the trauma created.

Deidre Sirianni is a TEDx Speaker, leadership coach, and spiritual guide, serving a community of impact-driven entrepreneurs, coaches, leaders, and visionaries on their journey of healing, integrating change, and making a significant impact through their work. Deidre uses her over 10 years of experience in leadership development, holistic wellness, and human behavior to help clients overcome self-sabotaging behaviors and unresolved trauma that holds them back from being fulfilled and reaching their goals. Deidre has supported hundreds of people around the world on their journey of realizing their full potential. She’s spoken on global stages such as Envision Festival, Impact Festival, Consciousness Hacking, Influence, and her genius has been featured in Lululemon, Novus TV, and Alive Magazine. If you know that you have a big message to share with the world and you have trauma to heal, blocks to remove, behaviors patterns to transform, and gifts to activate within you, then click here to learn more.

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9 Harsh Truths Every Young Man Must Face to Succeed in the Modern World

Before chasing success, every young man needs to face these 9 brutal realities shaping masculinity in the modern world.

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Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.

Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”

But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.

Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.

Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.

1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse

As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.

Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.

Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:

  • Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.

  • Read quality literature in your free time.

  • Nurture a strong relationship with your family.

  • Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.

  • Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.

The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.

2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay

You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.

If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.

3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome

Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.

You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.

The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.

4. Rejection Is Never Personal

Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.

Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.

5. Women Value Comfort and Security

Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.

Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.

Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.

6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons

A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.

Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.

Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.

7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form

Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.

It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.

If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.

8. Teaching Is Leadership in Disguise

Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.

Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.

Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.

9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams

One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.

That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.

Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.

Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.

Final Thoughts

The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.

Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.

Because at the end of the day, success isn’t about luck. It’s about who you become when life tests you the most.

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