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How to Build A Personal Brand According to These 5 Well-Known Experts

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Building a personal brand doesn’t have to be difficult. In fact, you can build a personal brand for free if you’d like.  I’ve researched some of the top entrepreneurs and personal branding experts in the world and I want to share with you how they were able to build their personal brand.

If you follow and I mean really follow the advice given by those listed below, there’s no reason that you can’t build a personal brand.

1. Gary Vaynerchuk

Gary Vaynerchuk is CEO of VaynerMedia and Vaynersports. He’s invested in companies such as Twitter, Snapchat, Uber, and Venmo. Gary is 4-time New York Times Best Seller. He currently has an Instagram following of 2.5m followers.

According to Vaynerchuk, your personal brand is your resume. What are you putting out into the world? What you put out in the world is how others will perceive you. Are you providing value in the world? A personal brand is not hard to cultivate when you want to help others.

Your personal brand is free. This can go back to what are you putting out in the world? You’re living your personal brand every day with the beliefs that you have.

Gary clarified that putting your thoughts out into the world doesn’t mean that you’re being disrespectful. If you have an opinion, then share it, but always think first as to how others will react. An opinion might be on the topic of entrepreneurship whereas it’d probably be beneficial to stay away from politics.

Create more content. When you’re creating content in the world, you need to be yourself. People like authenticity. What are you doing today to get yourself known? Are you writing for a blog or speaking to an audience? When you consistently create content, you will get known.

2. Grant Cardone

Grant Cardone is a New York Times Best-Selling Author, creator of Grant Cardone TV, CEO of four businesses, and currently has over $400 million worth of real estate holdings. Grant has an Instagram following of 534,000 followers.

Cardone states that a personal brand should be defined as the thing you spend the most time doing. The five things that you do the most defines your personal brand. If you watch TV, then that’s who you’ll be known as. But if you’re someone who reads or starts businesses, that’s also what you’ll be known as. The choice is up to you.

You should never follow the rules. Grant posts way more than any other person I know on social media. He isn’t following the rules. Some people may hate him for it, but he doesn’t care. If posting more gets himself known, then he will do it.

What do you stand for? Your personal brand should be built around what you stand for. What do you believe in? Whatever you stand for, you should live it every day.

Look at strong companies and see what they do. How were they able to build their personal brand? Think of companies like Starbucks and Amazon. You can conceive their company’s brand to create a personal brand for yourself. When you think of them, aren’t they positive thoughts?

“Have goals so big your problems pale in comparison” – Grant Cardone

3. Josh King Madrid

Josh or JetSetFly is a tech entrepreneur, marketing specialist, and founder of Team Jet Set. He was ranked as one of the top Influencive influencers of 2017. Josh is also the host of The Dropout Degree  podcast show. At only 19, he has a social media following of over 100,000 followers.

Josh uses tons of video content like Youtube and Snapchat when building his personal brand. Video is more personal than a quote post. You can hear the person talking to you as if they were right next to you. You don’t always have to use video content, but you should incorporate it into your posts.

Josh shows that if you want to build your brand and take your influence to the next level, that “Content Is King and Marketing Is Queen”. If you want to exceed at the next level online, you might want to hire a professional photographer and videographer to take photos and videos for you.

Remember, the quality of content you put out has a direct impact on how people will think of you. When building a personal brand, don’t take any shortcuts. Hiring a professional doesn’t have to be expensive. You could find a friend at first or you can hire a professional and do a couple of sessions at once and have content that’ll last you months.

Josh, along with Gary Vaynerchuk, agree that it comes down to getting yourself known. Josh does this through being featured on different articles online, growing his social media following, and by his podcast. To get yourself known, you need to do big things, and that doesn’t start with sitting on the couch. Start to connect with others by producing valuable content and your brand will start to grow faster than you ever thought.

4. Lewis Howes

Lewis Howes is a former pro athlete turned New York Times Best-Selling Author and podcast host of The School of Greatness which is ranked as one of the top 100 podcasts in the world. Lewis has an Instagram following of 438,000 followers.

When building a personal brand according to Lewis, you should find someone who inspires you and you should ask to work for them while you pay them. Yes, they don’t pay you. You pay them to work for them. Think about all the people who would like to work for free, this allows you to separate yourself from the crowd.

When you’re working with this person, you can learn how they built their personal brand by their habits and how they carry themselves. It’s only a matter of time before you act like them.

You should find one platform and build up that platform. In the beginning, it was LinkedIn for Lewis. He’d spend six hours per day on there. When building a personal brand, you can stretch yourself too thin. It’s better to start with one platform and master it.

“The greatest gift you can give yourself is education and growth.” – Lewis Howes

5. Casey Adams

At 17, Casey is an author, brand specialist, and speaker. He has an Instagram following of over 112,000 followers.  According to Casey, you need to impact people. The more of an impact that you make on people, the more people who will follow you. Just impact one person per day and it’ll add up.

Casey also preaches about the power of the DM, also known as direct messaging. Casey has been able to network and engage with high status individuals by consistently DM’ing these individuals and providing value, which in return has built his brand massively.

Engage with your audience. It doesn’t matter if you have a large or small following. You should comment on other people’s pictures and respond to comments on your photos. It’s the little things like commenting that add up.

Share your journey. With Instagram, you can document your journey from where you started. You’re showing the entire world your progress. What type of progress do you want to show them?

Who’s your favorite personal branding expert? Let us know in the comments!

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How to Think Like a Billionaire: 7 Blueprints for Asymmetric Success

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Having breakfast with billionaires isn’t just about the coffee; it’s a front-row seat to a masterclass in wealth creation. When you spend enough time around the top 0.001% of the economy, you quickly realize that their success isn’t just a byproduct of hard work or extreme intelligence. It’s the result of operating on a completely different framework than the rest of the world.

These aren’t secrets reserved for the elite. These are actionable strategies you can apply today to accelerate your own financial trajectory. Here are seven distinct ways billionaires think and act differently to achieve crazy high levels of success.

1. They Don’t Wait for Luck; They Engineer the Odds

Most people view luck as an on/off switch—you either get a lucky break or you don’t. Billionaires view luck as a dimmer switch. They understand that while you cannot control the lucky break itself, you are in complete control of the odds of it happening.

If you sit on your couch doom-scrolling, you have reduced the odds of a lucky encounter to zero. If you go to a networking event, pitch your business to a new investor, or launch a new product, you’ve instantly increased the odds of luck finding you.

Take Richard Branson. He frequently attributes his success to “lucky timing” and “lucky breaks.” But what people overlook is that Branson started over 400 companies and signed hundreds of artists to his record label. Most failed, but a few became wildly successful. He didn’t just get lucky; he put so many irons in the fire that mathematical probability guaranteed one of them would strike hot.

The Takeaway: Are you putting yourself out there enough to get lucky? Increase your pitch volume, product launches, and networking interactions to artificially inflate your odds of a lucky break.

2. They Invent Their Own Currencies

The middle class trades time for dollars, euros, or pounds. It is a very basic, low-level way to view currency. Billionaires create alternative currencies and use them as leverage.

  • The Currency of Equity: If a founder sells 10% of their startup for $10 million, the entire company is now valued at $100 million. They can now use their remaining shares as a currency to acquire other businesses or attract top talent, without spending a dime of actual cash.
  • The Currency of Reputation: A highly respected billionaire can join an advisory board, and their mere association will double the valuation of that company. They treat their name as currency and trade it for equity.
  • The Currency of Distribution: If you have an email list of 600,000 engaged buyers, or 50,000 highly targeted LinkedIn followers, that is a currency. You can use that distribution power to negotiate equity stakes in other businesses.

3. They Reverse-Engineer the Future

Most entrepreneurs forward-engineer the past. They look at what they did yesterday to figure out what to do tomorrow. Billionaires reverse-engineer the future.

They project themselves three years forward and create a vivid, highly detailed picture of their company. They know their exact revenue, profit margins, team size, and intellectual property. Once that vision is locked in, they work backward:

  • If this is true in 3 years, where must we be in 2 years?
  • If that is true in 2 years, where must we be in 1 year?
  • If that is true in 1 year, what must I do this week?

Because they have such a clear vision of the future, they become master storytellers. They can walk into a room, pitch an investor or a top-tier CEO, and say, “This is exactly where we will be in 36 months, and here is the exact role I want you to play.” They don’t care about their past; they only care about assembling the resources to meet their future.

4. They Are Master Enrollers, Not Doers

A great business is simply a collection of exceptional people aligned toward a common goal. Billionaires rarely do the actual “work” themselves because they understand that a single visionary cannot execute a 500-person vision alone.

Their full-time job is identifying, recruiting, enrolling, and aligning top-tier talent. As one billionaire noted, “A thousand good musicians cannot write a single symphony. But Beethoven wrote nine of them.” The difference between good talent and great talent is exponential.

Billionaires are constantly hunting for four types of people to enroll in their vision:

  1. Distribution Masters: People with massive audiences or traffic.
  2. Leadership Talent: Elite executives who can drive teams (CFOs, COOs).
  3. Elite Practitioners: The best-in-class engineers, sales reps, or artists.
  4. Capital Providers: Angel investors and VCs who can fund the vision.

5. They Harness the Dark Side of Motivation

Millionaires motivate their teams with carrots—vision boards, bonuses, and big goals. Billionaires know how to use the stick. They understand that while human beings are motivated by positive outcomes, they are ferociously driven by negative ones.

Billionaires intentionally create a common enemy to rally their team against.

  • Richard Branson made British Airways the enemy.
  • Steve Jobs famously made IBM the enemy in 1984.

Whether it is a rival company, an outdated political system, or a local competitor across the street, giving your team a tangible enemy to vanquish unlocks a level of gritty, relentless motivation that positive reinforcement simply cannot touch.

6. They Only Play Games of “Value at Scale”

A private tutor or a nurse provides immense value, but their impact is limited to the physical room they are in. The modern economy does not reward pure value; it only rewards value at scale.

Billionaires build systems that deliver value to millions of people simultaneously. There are four primary levers they use to achieve this scale:

  1. Intellectual Property: Patents, books, media rights, and franchise manuals.
  2. Distribution Channels: Owning retail chains, massive email lists, or media platforms.
  3. Armies of People: Training massive workforces to execute a standardized service globally.
  4. Software/Code: The ultimate scaler. Code written once can be accessed by billions of people instantly.

If your business relies on complex, bespoke solutions, it will hit a wall. Simple scales; complexity fails.

7. They Build to Exit

We often hear the romanticized stories of founders building their companies from the ground up, but we rarely hear the most important part of the billionaire playbook: The Exit Event.

Almost every ultra-wealthy individual built their fortune through a series of exits. They build a company, sell it, and take the cash.

But an exit provides something far more valuable than just liquidity—it provides time and consolidated learnings. When an entrepreneur sells a business, they clear the deck. They can look back at their 5-year journey, analyze their mistakes, and launch their next venture with capital, free time, and elite experience.

Many entrepreneurs hold onto their first business far too long. Your current business is based on the best thinking you had five years ago. An exit allows you to launch your next empire based on everything you know today.

Daniel Prestley the Aussie entrepreneur nails the top points of what makes the Top 0.1% do to be successful:

 

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Why Successful Entrepreneurs Break Every Rule (The 6 “Counter-Conventional” Mindsets)

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In 1995, a graphic design teacher named Lynda Weinman just wanted a digital sandbox. She needed a place online where her students could upload their work and play around with new tools like Photoshop and Illustrator. She bought the domain Lynda.com, put the site together, and gradually moved her teaching online.

Years later, she sold that little digital sandbox to LinkedIn for $1.5 billion.

Or look at Elon Musk, who managed to generate half a billion dollars in cash for Tesla before a single Model 3 ever rolled off the assembly line.

How do these founders pull off such massive feats? According to John Mullins, a professor at the London Business School, successful founders don’t follow the “best practices” taught in corporate boardrooms. They operate on a completely different psychological wavelength. They possess what Mullins calls a counter-conventional mindset.

If you want to build a thriving startup in today’s fiercely competitive market, you have to unlearn corporate logic. Here are the 6 rule-breaking mindsets that will completely change how you do business.

1. Say “Yes, We Can” (Even If You Don’t Know How)

Corporate strategy 101 tells companies to “stick to their knitting” and focus entirely on their core competencies. If a customer asks for a service outside that narrow scope, the corporate answer is always, “No, we don’t do that here.”

Entrepreneurs say “yes,” and figure out the “how” later.

Arnold Correia ran a highly successful event management business in Brazil. One day, a major client asked if Arnold could build a satellite uplink to broadcast training videos to 260 stores across the country. Arnold knew absolutely nothing about satellite technology. His response? “Yes, we can do that.” Later, Walmart asked if he could put screens on their sales floors to run targeted advertisements. Again, he said yes.

By refusing to be boxed in by his current skillset, Arnold reinvented his multi-million-dollar business four separate times.

The A2S Takeaway: Don’t let your current limitations cap your growth. Commit to the opportunity first, and acquire the skills second.

2. Obsess Over Problems, Not Products

Big corporations are obsessed with product tweaks. They take the blue specks out of their laundry detergent, turn them green, and call it “breakthrough innovation.”

Entrepreneurs don’t care about shiny products; they care about solving painful problems.

Jonathan Thorne invented a silver-nickel alloy for surgical forceps to stop human tissue from sticking to the metal during surgery. He originally targeted plastic surgeons, but sales were sluggish. Instead of changing his product, he looked for a worse problem. He found neurosurgeons. When you are operating on a human brain, sticky forceps are a literal life-or-death disaster. Thorne targeted this massive pain point, scaled his business rapidly, and eventually sold it to medical giant Stryker.

The A2S Takeaway: Nobody cares about your shiny new product features. They care about their own headaches. Find a bleeding-neck problem, and cure it.

3. Think Narrow, Not Broad

Corporate giants want massive total addressable markets (TAM). If a market doesn’t appeal to the masses, they won’t touch it. But true entrepreneurs know that to go big, you have to start narrow.

When Phil Knight and Bill Bowerman founded Nike, they didn’t try to make sneakers for the general public. They focused on a tiny, extremely specific niche: elite distance runners. At the time, running shoes were made for sprinters on smooth tracks, leaving marathoners to deal with sprained ankles and shin splints on dirt trails. By designing a wider, cushioned shoe exclusively for distance runners, Nike built a rabid, hyper-loyal fan base that eventually gave them the leverage to conquer the global athletic footwear market.

The A2S Takeaway: Niche down until it hurts. Dominate a small group of highly passionate users before you try to sell to the world.

4. Ask for the Cash Upfront (Ride the Float)

Big companies have billions in cash reserves to fund their R&D. Startups don’t. But instead of begging venture capitalists for money, brilliant entrepreneurs get their customers to fund their operations.

When Elon Musk took over Tesla, the plan wasn’t to take on massive debt to build a factory. Instead, they hosted a roadshow for wealthy, eco-conscious buyers who wanted the “next big thing” in their driveways. Tesla pre-sold 100 Roadsters for $100,000 each. That meant they had $10 million in cash sitting in the bank before car #1 was even built. Years later, they did the exact same thing with the Model 3, taking 500,000 deposits of $1,000 each—generating half a billion dollars in pure cash to fund their engineering and tooling.

The A2S Takeaway: Cash is the lifeblood of your startup. Can you pre-sell your idea and get paid before you build it?

5. Beg and Borrow (But Please Don’t Steal)

In business school, you are taught to carefully analyze the ROI of buying heavy assets. Entrepreneurs operate differently: they don’t buy assets if they can borrow them.

When Tristram and Rebecca Mayhew wanted to start Go Ape, a treetop adventure business in the UK, they had a major problem: they didn’t own a forest. Instead of buying land, they approached the UK Forestry Commission, which owned millions of trees and desperately wanted to increase park visitor counts. The Mayhews pitched a win-win partnership: let us use your trees, parking lots, and bathrooms, and we’ll bring you massive foot traffic. Today, Go Ape has dozens of locations globally, all because they leveraged assets that already existed.

The A2S Takeaway: You don’t need to own everything to monetize it. Partner up, leverage existing infrastructure, and keep your startup overhead near zero.

6. Don’t Ask for Permission (Just Get On With It)

In the corporate world, every new idea has to be sanitized by compliance, legal, and HR. Getting a “yes” takes months.

Entrepreneurs understand that permission is the enemy of progress. When Travis Kalanick and Garrett Camp founded Uber, they didn’t go to the San Francisco transit regulators and ask, “Excuse me, can we start a taxi company with zero actual taxis?” The regulators would have crushed them immediately to protect the local monopoly. Instead, they just launched the app. While some of Uber’s later corporate tactics crossed ethical lines, the core lesson of their launch is undeniable: when digital innovation outpaces slow, ambiguous regulations, you can’t wait for a green light.

The A2S Takeaway: If you wait for permission from the gatekeepers, you’ll be waiting forever. Act first, apologize later.

Are You Playing By The Right Rules?

To change the world—or even just your own financial future—you have to break the conventional norms. You don’t need a perfectly polished product, infinite VC funding, or permission from the establishment.

Look at the biggest roadblock in front of your business today. Which of these 6 counter-conventional mindsets can you adopt to smash right through it?

Stop waiting. Get out there and just get on with it.

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How Lucy Guo Built a Billion-Dollar Tech Empire By Breaking All the Rules

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At an age when most people are just trying to figure out their career path, Lucy Guo unseated Taylor Swift as the world’s youngest self-made female billionaire.

She co-founded Scale AI (recently valued at a staggering $25 billion), launched the creator monetization platform Passes, and became a relentless angel investor with a portfolio of over 100 companies. But her path wasn’t paved with perfect grades and safe corporate ladders. It was paved with rebellion.

Guo got suspended in kindergarten for telling the teacher the curriculum was dumb. She dropped out of Carnegie Mellon University with only four classes left to graduate. She walked away from millions of dollars in unvested equity at Snapchat. Every time society told her to play it safe, she did the exact opposite.

If you want to scale a massive business and operate at the top 1% of the tech world, here is the unfiltered playbook from one of the most prolific founders of our generation.

1. Optimize for Learning Over Stability

Most people make career decisions based on risk and salary. Guo makes decisions based on a single metric: Am I maximizing my learning?

When she was a year away from graduating with a computer science degree from Carnegie Mellon, she realized she was learning more practical skills at weekend hackathons than in the classroom. So, she dropped out to dive headfirst into the startup world. Everyone—her parents, her friends, even strangers—called her an idiot.

Later, she walked away from a highly lucrative position at Snapchat to build her own company. To the outside world, these look like massive, irresponsible risks. To Guo, the math was simple: if a decision guarantees you will acquire highly valuable new knowledge, it is not a risk. Your knowledge will always be worth money.

2. The “Three-Task” Founder Routine

It is incredibly easy for founders to get distracted by busywork. Guo subscribes to the famous Y Combinator philosophy that a founder should only be doing three things:

  1. Working out

  2. Talking to customers

  3. Building the product

Her daily routine is brutally efficient. She wakes up at 5:30 AM, rolls out of bed, and immediately goes to a grueling fitness class. She bought her house specifically because it was a 5-minute walk from the gym and a 5-minute walk from the office, entirely eliminating her commute.

By refusing to sit still—cutting out TikTok scrolling, TV, and aimless internet browsing—she funnels all of her energy into execution. Working out tests your discipline; if you can force yourself to train when you feel terrible, you will have the energy to dominate your industry for the rest of the day.

3. Ship at 90% (The Innovation Rule)

When Guo worked at Snapchat, she learned a massive lesson from CEO Evan Spiegel about product development: stop agonizing over user research and just get the product into the wild.

If you spend three years going back and forth on a design trying to make it perfect, you will lose. The market moves too fast, and frankly, consumers rarely know what they actually want until they can touch it.

The rule is simple: Get it to 90% and ship it. Spend two weeks designing it, launch it, and see if it gets traction. People will eagerly use a buggy product with a terrible user interface if it actually solves their problem. If it gets traction, double down and fix the bugs. If it falls flat, you only wasted two weeks instead of two years.

4. Never Outgrow the “Grunt Work”

As companies scale, many founders retreat to their corner offices and stop doing Individual Contributor (IC) work. Guo believes this is a fatal leadership flaw.

You cannot effectively judge your team’s performance if you refuse to do the job yourself. When Scale AI landed a massive new pilot customer, Guo didn’t just delegate the work—she sat in the war room alongside her engineers, manually labeling data to ensure it was perfect. If a creator finds a bug at 2:00 AM on Passes, she and her team are awake fixing it.

As a leader, nothing is below you. If you aren’t willing to jump into the trenches and handle customer support tickets yourself, you have no right to critique how your reps are handling them.

5. Hire for Grit Over Pure Genius

When building a team, pure intelligence is heavily overrated if it isn’t backed by relentless hard work.

You can hire the smartest engineer on the planet, but if they refuse to put in the effort when things get difficult, they will have zero impact on the company. Guo explicitly hires for grit. Startup culture requires a 24/7 mentality. You don’t necessarily have to work every weekend, but when the building is on fire, the team needs to know you will show up and grab a bucket.

6. Stop Complaining and Start Cheerleading

When asked what advice she would give her 20-year-old self, Guo’s answer had nothing to do with code, venture capital, or marketing.

“I would stop complaining about some of the people I work with and just start really getting to know them better and uplifting them.”

Toxic, gossipy work environments drive away top talent. The most profitable and innovative companies are built in positive environments where the leader acts as the ultimate cheerleader.

Surround yourself with wildly positive people, focus intensely on the upside, and relentlessly uplift the people building your vision. When you protect your energy and support your team, the financial success becomes a natural byproduct.

Here’s a great interview with Lucy Guo:

 

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Peak Performance Psychology: Secrets from the Real-Life “Wendy Rhoades”

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If you have watched the hit TV show Billions, you know the character Dr. Wendy Rhoades. She is the brilliant in-house performance psychologist who helps ultra-wealthy hedge fund managers and cutthroat founders unlock extreme performance, navigate crises, and destroy their mental blocks.

But Wendy Rhoades isn’t just a fictional character trope. The Wall Street Journal recently compared the fictional Wendy to a very real person: Dr. Julie Gurner.

Dr. Gurner is one of the most sought-after executive performance coaches in the country. With a background in adult psychopathology and forensics—including a stint working in a Supermax prison—she now spends her days in the trenches with CEOs, billionaire founders, and elite operators. She helps the top 0.01% reach the next level psychologically.

In a recent interview, Dr. Gurner shared the exact traits, mindsets, and peak performance psychology strategies that separate the ultra-successful from everyone else. Here is how you can apply them to your own life.

1. The Defining Trait of the Top 0.01%: Audacity

When looking at the ultra-successful, one trait stands out above the rest: Audacity.

Audacity is the refusal to follow the “imaginary rules” that govern most people’s lives. Society teaches us certain boundaries: you cannot apply for that job unless you have exactly five years of experience, a small startup cannot pitch a major bank, or you do not belong in certain rooms because of your background.

According to Dr. Gurner, the top 0.01% operate with an almost complete unawareness of these artificial limits.

“They don’t follow the rules that everyone else seems to follow that are actually very artificial,” Gurner explains. “That audacity to go for these larger things… is really how they skip steps that everyone else is still trudging through. We’re all going on the crowded path, and they just find this little dirt road to get to outcomes we are eight years away from.”

How to Apply It: Adopt the disposition of “What if it goes right?” instead of “What if it goes wrong?” We chronically overestimate the true risk of failure. In reality, most failures are temporary and quickly forgotten by the public. Take the side path. Shoot the uncomfortably large shot.

2. The Repetitive Reflex: Stop Trying to Fix Your Weaknesses

There is a common misconception (the halo effect) that high performers are exceptional at everything. In reality, they are usually only great at one or two things—but they lean into those strengths relentlessly.

Dr. Gurner points to Elon Musk as a public example. Musk is a visionary company builder and resource gatherer, but he famously relies on operators like Gwynne Shotwell at SpaceX to handle the granular day-to-day operations, NASA contracts, and internal management.

“If you start as above-average on something and put force behind it, the separation between you and everyone else is dramatic,” Gurner notes. “But if you focus all your time on the things you are below average at, maybe you’ll bring them up to average. That’s not where you get escape velocity.”

How to Apply It: Identify your unique, outlier strengths. Double down on them. Stop judging yourself for the things you are bad at, and either delegate them, outsource them, or partner with someone who thrives in those areas (the “spreadsheet person”).

3. Stop Suppressing Negative Emotion: Use It as Fuel

The modern wellness world is currently obsessed with stoicism—the idea that you should remain perfectly tempered, suppress extreme emotions, and remain unaffected by the world.

Dr. Gurner pushes back hard against this, arguing that suppressing intense emotion is a massive waste of energy.

“If you have anger or rage, why would you suppress that?” she asks. “You are killing a source of energy that you could channel into something absolutely phenomenal. There are so many wonderful companies and careers built on spite, anger, and ‘I’m going to show you’ energy.”

Humans are meant to experience a full spectrum of emotions. If you have been wronged, you can choose to let that anger destroy you, or you can use it to work 80-hour weeks, build an empire, and make your life phenomenal.

How to Apply It: Do not let negative emotions turn you into a toxic person to those around you, but absolutely use the internal fire of a perceived slight or past failure to fuel your daily actions.

4. Be Quirky, Not Humble

If you want to reach the highest levels of success, “be humble” is often terrible advice.

Humility is frequently confused with modesty or self-deprecation. If you constantly devalue your contributions, the people who desperately need your specific skills will never find you. Knowing what you are great at, and proudly sharing it with the world, does not make you arrogant—it makes you useful.

Furthermore, do not sand down your edges to fit into a corporate mold.

“Everyone is pushing toward conformity, and it is the wrong path,” Gurner says. “If you push to fit in with everyone else, and then you’re mad that your outcomes aren’t different, there’s a reason for that. We remember people because of their quirks.”

How to Apply It: Own what you are great at loudly. Lean into your strange hobbies and unique personality traits. The friction of your “weirdness” is exactly what makes you memorable and separates you from the conformist pack.

5. Reframe Obstacles as Challenges

At the end of the day, Dr. Gurner says her main job as a psychologist is simply to help high-achievers get out of their own way. We all know what the optimal decisions in our lives are, but we invent excuses and barriers to avoid doing the hard work.

The simplest, most scalable tool to fix this is reframing.

“How you frame everything is how you approach it,” Gurner explains. “When you see an obstacle or a problem, reframe it into a challenge. Think, ‘How could I productively think about this that is equally true?’ We get so tunneled in that we don’t see other ways of thinking about the same challenge that could get us amped up to tackle it.”

The Bottom Line: Don’t Ignore the Haunting Agitation

Many people walk around with “haunting agitation”—a nagging voice whispering that they could be doing more, living bigger, and fulfilling a dream they abandoned long ago.

Do not let that whisper become a scream of regret later in life.

The difference between those who achieve outlier success and those who don’t is simply a willingness to make sacrifices. Map out the life you want, figure out exactly what it costs (both financially and in terms of effort), and have the audacity to go get it.

Checkout this incredible interview with Dr Julie Gurner

 

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