Success Advice
Here’s How To Be More Chilled Out: Get More Sleep.
If you study productivity and write about it a lot as I do, people assume you must work 18 hour days every day.
I don’t work 18 hour days. I’m human. I’m normal.
Amongst my successful friends who have started businesses and made some serious cashola, they actually do the opposite.
They’re focused.
And they get a good night’s sleep.
Arianna Huffington has recently brought to light how important sleep is and what you can do to increase the quality of it. She preaches turning your phone off a few hours before bed and the art of blackening out all natural light from entering your bedroom.
She also advises gradually winding down the day with activities that are good to do before bed like reading.
The image I’m presenting here though is the opposite of what you see on social media with the “Hustle until your dead” picture quotes and entrepreneurs telling you to work your face off (what does that even mean?).
Somehow, we’ve fallen for the myth that minutes spent on a task equals the result. That’s total BS though. I sit next to people in an office every day that look like they are working their butts off, but when you actually look at what they’re doing, they’re making the following mistakes:
– Being taken over by small talk and distractions
– Trying to do too many things an executing on nothing
– Trying to look busy as if someone actually cares
– Doing things the old way rather than innovating and finding a faster way
My sleep story.
I won’t bore the pants off you. I felt tired and went to the doctor. I tried everything until someone said, “Tim how many hours do you sleep?”
I had to think about it and then I said “6-7 hours a night.”
That sounded like the average and like it should be plenty. What I didn’t realize was that it comes down to the quality of sleep and the number of hours is often different for each of us.
I cranked up the hours of sleep to eight and ever since I’ve felt heaps better. I’m now more focused and I don’t wake up yawning a lot in the morning.
Blacking out my windows and changing my pillow to a bamboo foam one also helped.
Here’s some things I learned about sleeping along the way:
1. It’s about discipline.
We can all go to bed an hour earlier and experiment with a bit more sleep. You have to make it a must (just like your goals) to execute and get the results. That takes discipline.
“Once you see the benefits through sleeping enough, you should be able to develop the willpower to go to bed earlier and stop working, or watching your TV that will never make you successful”
Sleeping is a decision and it will help you in the long term.
2. Napping helps too.
That might sound completely ridiculous but it really does help. I’m lucky enough to have nap chairs at the office I work in. On a particular day, if I feel extra tired and find myself getting pissed off easily, I go and have a 15-minute nap at lunchtime. Sometimes I do meditation instead – depends on how I feel.
3. Young adults need this advice the most.
Many interns and young adults who are in the first few years of their career need this advice the most.
“There’s this myth that if you get good grades and work longer than everybody else, you’ll climb to the top of the ladder and be successful. This concept is completely wrong”
Good grades mean you can recite other people’s information from a book. Whether you can think, make decisions, be creative and add value to the business world has nothing to do with fact’s and ideas you’ve memorized.
Also, take note of the senior leaders – I have. They typically roll into the office last and are the first ones to leave between 3-4pm. They’re not lazy; they’re just adding value which is the only measure of business success.
You’ll never be asked in a job interview to provide a timesheet of how many hours you worked or to brag about working late. In fact, if you mention that you work long hours, the HR team will think there’s something wrong with you and that you can’t manage time.
4. The mind must be chilled to work in your favor.
A rested mind makes better decisions and is less stressed.
A mind that is tired gets angry easily, makes poor decisions and has no focus.
There’s nothing better than having the empty space and efficiency of a mind that has been adequately rested like a well-rested steak, in an overnight marinade that’s just been placed on the BBQ (I’m Aussie so excuse the barby analogy). Okay, I’m Vego too, so that’s enough of that!
Bonus: My single best productivity hack.

This one won’t surprise you at all: Wake up early. After a good night’s sleep, waking up early allows you to spend those first few hours when your energy levels are high, on the one or two goals that are most important to you.
I find I’m more chilled when I spend the first few hours of my day being productive and working on my passion (blogging). It means for the rest of the day, I’m chilled because I know I’ve achieved at least one thing. Anything I achieve after the early morning is a bonus.
Not a bad way to live your days out don’t you think?
“My biggest enemy is distractions and the only time I seem to avoid them is early in the morning”
At 5 am, there’s no one emailing me, ringing my phone or telling me to clean up mess.
The thing is that I can only wake up early if I go to bed early and get a good night’s sleep. Getting more sleep is the antidote to waking up early if that’s something you struggle with.
There’s no point waking up early though if you’re tired because you won’t be productive. You’ll fumble around and procrastinate rather than working on your goals.
***Closing Thought***
Try getting more sleep for yourself. Don’t pretend you like being tired every day because deep down you know it’s sabotaging your success and making you lazy. The ancient art of sleeping more is back in fashion and the time is now to take advantage of it.
Instead of “Hustle till you die,” try this new mantra: “Execute with energy.”
If you want to increase your productivity and learn some more valuable life hacks, then join my private mailing list on timdenning.net
Life
9 Harsh Truths Every Young Man Must Face to Succeed in the Modern World
Before chasing success, every young man needs to face these 9 brutal realities shaping masculinity in the modern world.
Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.
Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”
But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.
Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.
Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.
1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse
As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.
Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.
Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:
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Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.
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Read quality literature in your free time.
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Nurture a strong relationship with your family.
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Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.
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Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.
The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.
2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay
You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.
If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.
3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome
Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.
You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.
The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.
4. Rejection Is Never Personal
Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.
Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.
5. Women Value Comfort and Security
Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.
Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.
Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.
6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons
A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.
Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.
Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.
7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form
Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.
It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.
If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.
8. Teaching Is Leadership in Disguise
Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.
Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.
Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.
9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams
One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.
That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.
Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.
Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.
Final Thoughts
The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.
Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.
Because at the end of the day, success isn’t about luck. It’s about who you become when life tests you the most.
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