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20 Things I Did In My 20’s

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1. Got into a sound engineering course without meeting the pre-requisite of being eighteen and having finished high school.

Lesson: you make the rules when it comes to education. Don’t let anyone tell you, you can’t study your passion.

2. Met a girl in high school that I thought I would be with for a long time. It turns out, I had a lot to learn and didn’t deserve a girl like this

Lesson: breakups allow you to work on your flaws and come back bigger and better.

3. Started a bunch of businesses with my brother. They all went nowhere except for one. I eventually parted ways, as I was not passionate about what I was doing. Working with family also stressed me out.

Lesson: working with family can be challenging and it’s not for everybody. Try it and see if it’s right for you before going in too deep like I did.

4. Brought a luxury car to show everybody how cool I was. It ended up costing a fortune and only shallow people I didn’t like, cared about it.

Lesson: don’t buy things to impress other people. No one cares about how much money you have. What they care about is who you are, and who you’re becoming.

5. Got depressed and stressed out after the business side of my life collapsed. I felt like a total idiot. There were days when I couldn’t face anybody. I was embarrassed. I felt sick. My doctor told me I would die from stress if I didn’t take a chill pill and relax.

I did what I thought was impossible. I went back and followed my original dream. I decided to start again and put all the toxic people of the past behind me.

Lesson: No one was there to help me because I had to help myself. I rebuilt me and that’s what makes me so proud today. When you take ownership of your challenges and then overcome them, you feel bloody fantastic!

6. Through the rebuilding phase, I discovered a giant named Tony Robbins and fell in love with personal development. I committed to making a change and being better each day. I stopped making excuses and started taking action. I surrounded myself with positive people and read books.
I hadn’t read a book since high school, but I didn’t let that stop me. I took in every positive resource I could find

Lesson: what you feed your mind has a long-term effect. It’s possible to retrain your brain with the right resources.

7. Read Think And Grow Rich.

Lesson: it changed the way I thought. I got to see what successful people do. READ IT!

8. I gave up on the news. I realized I was living in this false world of fear and scarcity. I realized the news made me think everyone was going to harm me and the Earth could cave in at any moment. These thoughts only represented 1% of the actual information out there.

Lesson: turns out the world is a great place. It turns out not every Muslim is holding a bomb or wanting to kill people (I’ve met some good ones).

9. I gave up on racism. Instead, I became a global citizen. Now I’m not fussed where people are from and prefer to see them for who they are above all else.

Lesson: we can easily become biased towards someone’s race because of how ingrained it is in our culture. Choose love, not war. Choose peace, not violence.

10. Went to a Tony Robbins seminar in Sydney. I had no idea what to expect and I really didn’t like flying at that point in my life. I decided to suck it up and overcome my fear.

11. Made a list of every fear I’d overcome. I made a game of it. Pretty soon I was doing some wild stuff.

12. Brought a pair of very expensive Italian leather shoes. They felt amazing and smelt like the leather seats in a brand new Bentley.

Lesson: sometimes it’s okay to do things just for you. These shoes made me feel good every time I wore them and they gave me confidence in my career defining moments. Little reminders of things that make you happy can be a good thing. Just don’t overdo it.

13. Did something crazy and met a man on the other side of Australia. He got me into blogging. I had no meeting booked and no agenda for seeing him. He saw I was real. I saw he was real. That started the whole transformation from fixing myself, to helping other people with their own challenges.

Lesson: the vehicle you use to help people doesn’t matter. It might be blogging or it might be selling bottles of water. All that matters is that you serve people beyond yourself.

14. Said goodbye to my childhood best friend. Drugs consumed the poor man and he refused to change. Sometimes we have to eliminate people from our lives to reach the next level. At the same time, always have it in your heart to forgive if that person does change.

15. Broke up with a girl after nearly three years. I just didn’t enjoy being spoken down to. We ended up being friends and it allowed me to start the search for a woman more my style.

Lesson: you take “you” to every relationship. You must fix you before you can start again with someone new.

16. Jumped on a plane to San Fran with no meeting booked to meet a man that I admired. That one bold decision opened up so many opportunities. When I look back, I have to pinch myself that so much could happen in a short space of time.

I didn’t even have anything in his calendar and then a few hours before the scheduled time, he accepted the meeting.

Lesson: take a chance. Sometimes we know we have to do something and we don’t know why. Our intuition screams at us until we learn to listen to it. Do something crazy once in a while. Almost always, you’ll get a benefit out of it.

17. Took a beautiful woman to a charity ball with no hidden agenda because the event required me not to go solo. She ended up becoming much more than my date and I always thought she would be way out of my league.

Lesson: Treat everyone nicely and if you are a guy, be a gentleman. You never know who you might end up dating as a result.

18. Broke up with a beautiful woman because I didn’t share the same religious values. It was very tough, but a relationship is about two people. If the other person is going to be disappointed, then it’s up to you to do the right thing no matter how hard it is to do.

Do it with care, grace and understanding. Always be there for them and never talk badly about them. Remember they have feelings and treat their beliefs with respect.

Lesson: values in life are important. Religion is something that can split couples apart if it’s not spoken about early on.

19. Got back on the horse and tried the whole dating thing again. It was terrible at the start. Now, it’s not so bad.

Lesson: You’ve got to love yourself first before someone else can love you. Stop doubting yourself and realize you are better than you think you are. Confidence is important (not ego).

20. Published a bunch of articles online until one day I hit the tipping point. I thought no one was reading, but they were. The constant letters and messages every day inspire me. They have given me a reason to exist and a platform in which to build from.

Lesson: always be humble and stay patient.

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These 11 Habits Will Make You More Productive, Successful, and Confident

Boost your focus, confidence, and results with 11 powerful habits successful people use every day.

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Successful people love to help beginners. They have an incredible work ethic and rarely complain. As a result, others naturally look up to them and want to follow in their footsteps.

But here’s the truth: there’s no success without sacrifice. You’ll need to give up comfort, excuses, and sometimes even social approval to accomplish your goals.

Value comes from solving problems, and these 11 powerful tips will help you become more productive, successful, and confident, starting today.

1. Take Short Breaks After Finishing a Task

Psychology shows it’s important to reward positive behaviour.

After completing a big task or finishing a book, take five minutes to walk, stretch, or simply breathe. This quick reset helps your brain recharge and strengthens focus.

Many great writers swear by morning walks, solitude, and reflection can unlock creativity.

But if you refuse to take breaks, don’t be surprised when burnout hits. Your brain needs recovery time just as much as your body does.

2. Schedule Your Most Important Tasks First

Multitasking kills productivity. If you want to get more done, try time blocking, a method where you dedicate set periods for specific tasks.

Productivity expert Caitlin Hughes explains, “Time blocking involves scheduling blocks of time for your tasks throughout the day.”

For example, if you’re a writer:

  • Research your topic at night.

  • Write your first draft in the morning (don’t worry if it’s rough).

  • Edit in the afternoon, great writing comes from rewriting.

You can’t buy more time. Use it intentionally and without regret.

3. Eliminate Distractions from Your Workspace

Focus is the foundation of success.

According to Inc. Magazine, it takes an average of 23 minutes to recover from a distraction. That’s nearly half an hour of lost productivity every time you check your phone.

Put your phone away. Close unnecessary tabs. And yes, limit your Netflix binges.

Meeting deadlines consistently is one of the fastest ways to stand out and earn respect.

4. Take Full Responsibility for Your Life

Entrepreneur Derek Sivers once said, “Everything is my fault.”

This mindset doesn’t mean self-blame; it means self-ownership. Stop pointing fingers, making excuses, or waiting for others to change.

If your habits (like smoking or drinking too much) hold you back, it’s time to make better choices. Your friends can’t live your dreams for you; only you can.

5. Invest an Hour a Day in Learning New Skills

Knowledge compounds over time.

Whether you read books, take online courses, or practise a craft, consistent learning gives you a competitive edge.

I used to struggle with academic writing, but I improved by studying the work of great authors and applying what I learned.

Your past doesn’t define you; your actions do. Every new skill adds another tool to your arsenal and makes you more unstoppable.

6. Develop a Growth Mindset

Psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck introduced the concept of fixed vs. growth mindset.

  • A fixed mindset believes success is based on natural talent.

  • A growth mindset believes success comes from effort and learning.

Choose the growth mindset. Embrace challenges. See failures as feedback. In today’s fast-moving digital world, adaptability is your biggest advantage.

7. Learn Marketing to Reach People Who Need You

I once believed marketing was manipulative, until I realised it’s about helping people solve problems.

If your work provides genuine value, marketing is how you let others know it exists. Even Apple spends billions on it.

Don’t be ashamed to promote your skills or business. Without visibility, your ideas will never reach the people who need them most.

Creative professionals who understand marketing and sales have an unfair advantage.

8. Ask Your Mentor the Right Questions

Good mentors can fast-track your growth.

While mentorship often costs money, it’s one of the best investments you can make. Great mentors don’t care about titles; they care about your progress.

If you don’t have access to a mentor yet, books are your silent mentors. Read the best in your field, take notes, and apply what resonates.

9. Build Confidence Through Action, Not Affirmations

Author Ryan Holiday once said, “I don’t believe in myself. I have evidence.”

Confidence doesn’t come from shouting affirmations into the mirror; it comes from proof. Doing hard things, keeping promises to yourself, and following through.

When you consistently take action, your brain gathers evidence that you can handle whatever comes next. That’s real confidence, grounded, earned, and unshakable.

10. Focus on Your Strengths

Your strengths reveal where your greatest impact lies.

If people compliment you on something often, it’s a clue. Lean into it.

A former professor once told me I was creative, and that simple comment gave me the confidence to go all in. I studied creativity, applied it daily, and turned it into my career advantage.

Double down on your strengths. That’s how you build momentum and mastery.

11. Identify and Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs

Your beliefs shape your reality.

For years, I believed I couldn’t be a great writer because of my chronic tinnitus and astigmatism, sensory challenges that made concentration difficult. But over time, I realised those struggles made me more disciplined, observant, and empathetic.

Your limitations can become your greatest motivators if you let them.

Avoid shortcuts. Growth takes time, but it’s always worth it.

Final Thoughts

Becoming productive, successful, and confident isn’t about working harder than everyone else. It’s about working smarter, consistently, and intentionally.

You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. Start small: take a break after your next task, schedule your priorities, or spend one hour learning something new.

Every habit you change compounds into long-term success. Remember, true change comes from practising new behaviours.

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Why One-Size-Fits-All Leadership Will Always Fail (and What Works Instead)

The surprising truth about leadership styles that can make or break your team’s success.

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Leadership has always been as much about people as it is about performance. Ken Blanchard, in his influential book, “The One Minute Manager”, put it simply: different strokes for different folks. (more…)

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What Every New CEO Must Do in Their First 100 Days (or Risk Failure)

Your first 100 days as CEO could define your entire legacy, here’s how to make every move count

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When Tim Cook took over from Steve Jobs at Apple, the world watched with bated breath. Jobs wasn’t just a CEO; he was a visionary, an icon, and a legend of innovative leadership. (more…)

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The Leadership Shift Every Company Needs in 2025

Struggling to keep your team engaged? Here’s how leaders can turn frustrated employees into loyal advocates.

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In workplaces around the world, there’s a growing gap between employers and employees and between superiors and their teams. It’s a common refrain: “People don’t leave companies, they leave bad bosses.”

While there are, of course, cases where management could do better, this isn’t just a “bad boss” problem. The relationship between leaders and employees is complex. Instead of assigning blame, we should explore practical solutions to build stronger, healthier workplaces where everyone thrives.

Why This Gap Exists

Every workplace needs someone to guide, supervise, and provide feedback. That’s essential for productivity and performance. But because there are usually far more employees than managers, dissatisfaction, fair or not, spreads quickly.

What if, instead of focusing on blame, we focused on building trust, empathy, and communication? This is where modern leadership and human-centered management can make a difference.

Tools and Techniques to Bridge the Gap

Here are proven strategies leaders and employees can use to foster stronger relationships and create a workplace where people actually want to stay.

1. Practice Mutual Empathy

Both managers and employees need to recognize they are ultimately on the same team. Leaders have to balance people and performance, and often face intense pressure to hit targets. Employees who understand this reality are more likely to cooperate and problem-solve collaboratively.

2. Maintain Professional Boundaries

Superiors should separate personal issues from professional decision-making. Consistency, fairness, and integrity build trust, and trust is the foundation of a motivated team.

3. Follow the Golden Rule

Treat people how you would like to be treated. This simple principle encourages compassion and respect, two qualities every effective leader must demonstrate.

4. Avoid Micromanagement

Micromanaging stifles creativity and damages morale. Great leaders see themselves as partners, not just bosses, and treat their teams as collaborators working toward a shared goal.

5. Empower Employees to Grow

Empowerment means giving employees responsibility that matches their capacity, and then trusting them to deliver. Encourage them to take calculated risks, learn from mistakes, and problem-solve independently. If something goes wrong, turn it into a learning opportunity, not a reprimand.

6. Communicate in All Directions

Communication shouldn’t just be top-down. Invite feedback, create open channels for suggestions, and genuinely listen to what your people have to say. Healthy upward communication closes gaps before they become conflicts.

7. Overcome Insecurities

Many leaders secretly fear being outshone by younger, more tech-savvy employees. Instead of resisting, embrace the chance to learn from them. Humility earns respect and helps the team innovate faster.

8. Invest in Coaching and Mentorship

True leaders grow other leaders. Provide mentorship, career guidance, and stretch opportunities so employees can develop new skills. Leadership is learned through experience, but guided experience is even more powerful.

9. Eliminate Favoritism

Avoid cliques and office politics. Decisions should be based on facts and fairness, not gossip. Objective, transparent decision-making builds credibility.

10. Recognize Efforts Promptly

Recognition often matters more than rewards. Publicly appreciate employees’ contributions and do so consistently and fairly. A timely “thank you” can be more motivating than a quarterly bonus.

11. Conduct Thoughtful Exit Interviews

When employees leave, treat it as an opportunity to learn. Keep interviews confidential and use the insights to improve management practices and culture.

12. Provide Leadership Development

Train managers to lead, not just supervise. Leadership development programs help shift mindsets from “command and control” to “coach and empower.” This transformation has a direct impact on morale and retention.

13. Adopt Soft Leadership Principles

Today’s workforce, largely millennials and Gen Z, value collaboration over hierarchy. Soft leadership focuses on partnership, mutual respect, and shared purpose, rather than rigid top-down control.

The Bigger Picture: HR’s Role

Mercer’s global research highlights five key priorities for organizations:

  • Build diverse talent pipelines

  • Embrace flexible work models

  • Design compelling career paths

  • Simplify HR processes

  • Redefine the value HR brings

The challenge? Employers and employees often view these priorities differently. Bridging that perception gap is just as important as bridging the relational gap between leaders and staff.

Treat Employees Like Associates, Not Just Staff

When you treat employees like partners, they bring their best selves to work. HR leaders must develop strategies to keep talent engaged, empowered, and prepared for the future.

Organizational success starts with people, always. Build the relationship with your team first, and the results will follow.

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