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The 3 Things YOU Need To Escape Your Rut



Stuck In A Rut

Most, if not all of my coaching clients and quite frankly anyone that I speak with can testify to being in or ‘near’ a rut of some kind. Be it their health and fitness, their relationships, their career; whatever it is, they are in one. The chances are so are YOU, but what is a rut?

A rut is where you are gaining little or no success, fulfilment or happiness from doing the SAME THINGS every single day! If it is your weight/body then you can’t get out of the ‘pattern’ of eating junk food, being lazy and not exercising. If it is in your relationships then you can’t get out of the ‘pattern’ of taking your loved ones for granted, communicating poorly and initiating no ‘spark’. If it is your career you likely feel ‘stuck’ in the rat race and you feel that you are going to a job that you don’t like every day just to ‘get by’.

And so it continues….

Stuck In A Rut


The Negative Life Cycle

It seems then that a rut can be defined as a ‘Negative Life Cycle’. The negativity just breeds more negativity and you can be left feeling like there is no escape. The real kick in the teeth is that ruts start to create new ruts and they create an increasingly steep negative spiral towards despair. For example, you feel down about being stuck in the rat race so you come in from work every day in a negative mood, carrying a whole lot of negative energy with you. This leads you to take it out on your spouse so they begin to feel rejected and react in the form of arguing. This arguing leads you to become even more down so you lose any life spirit and motivation to do anything so you stop exercising and start ‘comfort eating’.

All of a sudden you are left depressed at work, overweight and unhealthy with a marriage on the rocks. Sound familiar?


Why can’t you Escape?

Negative Life Cycle

To really change something it is important to understand it. Let’s go back to the beginning of the above scenario; I believe that there are 3 things happening and these are the ‘spokes’ on the wheel of the negative life cycle. Firstly, how you use and treat your body, bad days at work are causing you to move in a depressed way, which is leading you to make unhelpful pictures in your mind (e.g growing towards retirement age in a job you hate) and finally in this negative state of mind you are no place to do something about it. So then your spouse picks up this negative body language which leads them to question you, which leads to you making negative pictures in your mind (e.g them ‘controlling’ you), which leads to you removing yourself from the situation and not doing something about it. Do you see where this is going?

It is easy to see that if this continues for any prolonged period of time you have a pretty exact formula for being unhappy and unsuccessful.

The 3 parts of the Negative Life Cycle become ingrained. You become overweight (sometimes severely so), you are always making bad use of the words and pictures in your mind (you hate people, the world and everything in it) and you are now in the habit of inaction because you believe that it is just the way you are and you can’t change now anyway.


Escape Your Rut with the PMA SystemTM

The PMA System

In this Universe of ours, everything always has an opposite: Up and down, Left & Right, Hot & Cold. One simply could not exist without the other. It was upon my enlightenment to this phenomenon that I sensed that there must be people out there that are just as fulfilled, happy and successful as their rut dwelling counterparts are miserable, lost and unsuccessful. That led me to believe that they were doing exactly the opposite of people who are in a rut.

Hey Presto! I started changing people’s lives by really delving into how they treated and used their bodies, what pictures/self-talk they made in their minds and what action they took and so “The PMA SyestemTM” was born.


Do It Now!

If you are stuck in a rut in any area of your life, implement The PMA SystemTM NOW! Yes right now, not in 20 minutes not in 2 days, not in 3 weeks; you can get started RIGHT NOW. Let’s use your body/health as an example. If you are not happy with it create a Goal that would make you feel so phenomenal that you start to feel it right now, your breathing changes, your shoulders rise and you start to smile as you start to  ‘see yourself’ as amazing as you know you can be (here is the Miracle Mindset kicking in already). Continue to hold on to that vision of yourself and what you will look and feel like. Feel grateful as if that is the body that you have already! Now it’s time for ACTION, and not just a little bit of action ABUNDANT ACTION!

Join a gym, plan your new healthy eating regimen, buy a workout DVD, go for a walk, and set your alarm for an hour earlier tomorrow morning. It is easy to see how you can rapidly set the wheels in motion so you are living in a positive way where good things keep happening. There are many applications for the PMA system, both in a second by second environment and also in the formation and realisation of longer term goals.

Jermaine Harris is a Coach, Trader, Author and Speaker. He is passionate about human potential and empowering others to change their lives in the same way he did. Jermaine believes that the opposite of being 'stuck in a rut' is possible and explains how in his book, The Rut Buster. Get to know Jermaine better at:



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20 Ways You Can Become a Powerful Communicator



Emile Steenveld Speaker and Coach

Some people seem to naturally know how to effectively communicate in a group setting. They can express themselves clearly and listen attentively without dominating the conversation.

Being a powerful communicator is important for several reasons, including building and maintaining relationships, achieving goals, resolving conflicts, improving productivity, leading and influencing others, advancing in your career, expressing yourself more confidently and authentically, and improving your mental and emotional well-being. Effective communication is an essential life skill that can benefit you in all aspects of your life.

But, don’t worry if you don’t naturally possess this skill, as effective communication is something that can be developed with practice, planning and preparation.

1.  Listen actively: Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker and responding to what they are saying.


2. Use “I” statements: Speak from your own perspective and avoid placing blame or making accusations.


3. Avoid assumptions: Don’t make assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling.


4. Be clear: Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and concisely by getting to the point and avoid using jargon or overly complex language.


5. Show empathy: Show that you understand and care about the other person’s feelings.


6. Offer valuable insights: When speaking in a group, provide a valuable takeaway or actionable item that people can walk away with.


7. Be an active listener: Listen attentively and respond accordingly, incorporating your points into the conversation.


8. Choose the right time: Pick the most opportune time to speak to ensure that you have the group’s attention and can deliver your message without interruption.


9. Be the unifying voice: Step in and unify the group’s thoughts to calm down the discussion and insert your point effectively.


10. Keep responses concise: Keep responses short and to the point to show respect for others’ time.


11. Avoid unnecessary comments: Avoid commenting on everything and only speak when you have something important to say.


12. Cut the fluff: Avoid being long-winded and get straight to the point.


13. Prepare ahead of time: Sort out your points and practice them before speaking in a group.


14. Smile and be positive: Smile and nod along as others speak, to build a positive relationship and be respected when it’s your turn to speak.


15. Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and feelings.


16. Ask questions: Ask questions to clarify any confusion or misunderstandings.


17. Avoid interrupting: Allow the other person to finish speaking without interruption.


18. Practice active listening: Repeat what the other person said to ensure you have understood correctly.


19. Use your body language too: Use nonverbal cues such as eye contact, facial expressions, and body language to convey your message and build rapport.


20. Be aware of the tone of your voice: it should be calm and assertive, not aggressive or passive.


By keeping these tips in mind, you can improve your communication skills and become a more powerful communicator, which can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a more fulfilling life.

I you want to learn how to become more confident in life then you can join my weekly mentorship calls and 40+ online workshops at so you can master your life with more success.

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