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How Writing One Simple Blog Article Can Change Someone Else’s World Forever

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One Blog Post Can Change The World

Three weeks ago I wrote an article about my friend who went from being worth $100M to being homeless. When I posted the article, I didn’t tell my friend about it. After the article had been up for a few days, I sent him an iMessage with a link to the article, having no idea what could happen.

Would he be angry with me for sharing his story? Would he tell me that some parts were wrong? Or, what I hoped, would it help him in some small way?

No one understood his story like I did. No one knew every detail like I did. No one took the bias away and just presented the facts.

 

So how did one blog article I wrote change everything for my friend?

Well, it started when he sent me an iMessage back to say he was deeply touched. That may seem insignificant, but this man is not the sort of person to show any emotion or use these types of words.

He then called me that night and told me he really liked the article and that he shared it with his wife who was there when the millions existed, and still there when the money went away. She had seen her daughters have no home to go to and nothing to eat – yet she still had hope.

My friend told me that his wife hadn’t seen their story presented in this way before and she was pleased. At the time, it seemed like something had changed just ever so slightly with him. It’s as if the fact that someone other than himself, as well of the millions of Addicted2Success followers, believed in him all of a sudden.

Up until this point in time, he was entirely reliant on his own optimism to keep battling through even though he continued to fall behind on his rent, lose another family home, and start all over. The amount of times he hit a rough period of his life just seemed to go on forever.

Like I said before, this man is as great and as a brilliant as Steve Jobs, as financially savvy as Warren Buffet, as sophisticated as any CEO of a Fortune 500 company, yet if you looked at him right now, you would never know it.

If you saw him in the supermarket struggling to pay for groceries each week, you would never know what he was capable of. You would never know the business genius that is standing before you.

Back to what I was saying when I spoke to him it was as if he had a different sense of belief that he didn’t have before. He started to see his hard times as something to celebrate. He then told me in his own way that he was going back to his true passion that made him rich in the first place and he was never going back to anything else.

 

The universe brings a blast from the past

My friend finally had some other people around him that he aspired to and in under a week, his luck already seemed to change. He went to negotiate his first real business deal, nearly got swindled, and then he was saved by an old school friend.

I mean what are the odds? The odds that somebody he went to school with would happen to be part of the same business deal as him and give him the one bit of information he needed to make some real money.

The deal he was looking at had been looked at by many people before him and everyone turned it down. What everyone before him didn’t know was that this opportunity was a gold mine, but you had to be prepared to look beyond the initial problems of the deal.

See, when others are scared to take an opportunity for all it’s worth even with its flaws, and back themselves 100%, that’s when entrepreneurship is truly at it’s highest within a person.

 

Giving back

The next thing that happened took me by even greater surprise. My friend messaged me and asked me about motivational speakers. He didn’t tell me why he wanted to know this information, but he didn’t have too – it was clear.

He thought that if Addicted2Success readers saw value in his story, then who else could benefit from it? I know he is now sitting at home thinking about how he can finally follow his passion and help others at the same time. Don’t be surprised if you see him on the speaking circuit soon.

 

The lesson

This is as far as the story has gone in a week but as you can see, all of us have the power to create change and move even the most unemotional people. It’s when you are able to have this effect on someone that you start to feel truly fulfilled.

How cool is it that this site has the power to literally change someone and help my friend see himself in a new way? This platform is ever so powerful, and I will continue to use it to create breakthroughs. Like the famous quote says, “be the change that you want to see in the world.”

Don’t let life pass you by, stuck in the same pattern day in and day out. Take a moment (through blogging if you want) to observe what you’re doing and how you can genuinely serve others. Bring yourself back to the present and stop trying to escape your reality.

It’s taken my friend nearly a decade to escape his nightmare, but even the most horrific situations will heal with time, and help you to rise up to your life’s purpose. He has a long way to go yet but through these dark times, a small pocket of light will always remain.

As you ignore the darkness and concentrate on this one pocket of light, it grows bigger just a little bit each day.

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The road is long and treacherous for everyone. Whether it is the celebrities that we envy or the social media stars we admire, everyone has the same battles; it ’s just that some choose to be vulnerable and share them with others for the greater good, and others choose to pretend they don’t exist.

Either way, we will all have that one day on earth when we come to the realization that we are very powerful individuals and that what we think is what becomes reality. When something seems challenging, choose growth instead of avoiding the situation.

When something doesn’t work out how you want it to, choose to think positively rather than getting stuck in the negative thinking that will create more pain for you. Your pain equals your success. Your success is your life story. Change your story, and you will change your life!

What has been the most transformational blog post you have read? How did it affect you?

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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10 Comments

10 Comments

  1. Ghostwriting llc.

    May 29, 2018 at 7:47 pm

    Thanks for sharing such an interesting and heart touching story. Your friend do seems like a very sophisticated person as he doesn’t make any issue on discussing his story.

  2. Stealth for Men

    Jan 31, 2017 at 8:05 am

    Very interesting story. Thanks for sharing!

  3. ERICK WERE

    Apr 2, 2016 at 6:47 am

    Inspiring story right there. Thank you.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 4, 2016 at 9:40 am

      Thanks Erick for reading!

  4. Toño

    Mar 31, 2016 at 10:04 am

    I remember that story which I have read at my job at the very late evening. Thought to share the story about my father, but decided not to. This was very inspiring experience and actually I was very surprised by the desire and never quit attitude of your friend, he has some one hell of a willpower! And now it is amazing to read he is up again to something new, challenging and exciting. I also have to admit, you leveled up as well Tim, so to speak. You’ve raised up to a new level, new vision and I can see you getting better understanding of everything, unlocking the hidden knowledge within.

    I know that bloggin is your true passion, and you can spend hours on it but can I ask you where did you start from? I mean your very first article, was it some private message for yourself or did you just jump into it and started to write down your thoughts for everyone to observe?

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 31, 2016 at 10:35 pm

      Toño blogging started from my love for this website. I wanted to be involved anyway I could and writing was something I was always told I was good at. I never believed it but decided to give it a go. The more you do it the better you get at it and it can be very therapeutic. Thanks for your nice comment Toño!

  5. Gladness Nale

    Mar 31, 2016 at 6:52 am

    Brilliant article – thank you for sharing this experience !

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 31, 2016 at 10:32 pm

      Thanks for reading!

  6. Donald Benson

    Mar 31, 2016 at 3:03 am

    I’m a firm believer that sometimes we have to lose everything to not only find ourselves – but the true value in each of us.

    It is at that point we understand our true meaning and beauty of life.

    • Tim Denning

      Mar 31, 2016 at 10:33 pm

      Wow Donald what a powerful concept. I have had this very thing happen and I agree that it’s the one way to find your true value and what’s real. Thanks for sharing!

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The 6 Step Process for Delivering Critical Feedback in a Constructive Way

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We have all been in the position where we knew we needed to have a difficult conversation at work that involved delivering constructive feedback. Maybe a major deadline was missed, there was a clear decline in performance, or someone blatantly dropped the ball. Most of us avoid delivering the feedback, and the conversation can get pushed back again and again, wasting valuable time and money.

Delivering constructive feedback is challenging, and uncomfortable for most people, even highly trained leaders. Yet, delivering and accepting feedback is one of the most important keys for success. So why do we avoid these conversations? Because we never learned how to have them.

Open, honest, direct communication is not a skill we are taught in school. There is no “How to Have Tough Conversations” 101. As a clinical psychologist that specializes in couples work, I see just how important communication is in maintaining thriving relationships. I understand that good communication is the foundation of every successful relationship; both intimate relationships and your work relationships.

Below is a 6-step guide to providing constructive feedback:

Step 1: Clarity on the Goal of the Conversation  

The first step is to get clear on the goal of the feedback conversation. Are you planning to see a change in performance, simply communicate how you felt, or receive an apology? Get clear on what you are hoping to get out of the conversation. Be honest with yourself about what you need, what is most helpful to the relationship, and what is most helpful to the organization. Getting clear on the goal also ensures you are speaking with the right person.

“I think it’s very important to have a feedback loop, where you’re constantly thinking about what you’ve done and how you could be doing it better.” – Elon Musk

Step 2: Invitation

Set up a time to talk. Feedback conversations are not meant to be had in the hallway. It is important that both parties can set aside adequate time and have the space needed for dialogue. Additionally, there must be respect for both parties’ need for time to process information. For example, if you are delivering feedback, and the receiver needs time to process the feedback before responding, setting up a subsequent meeting will be most helpful.

Step 3: Ownership

Own the role you played in creating the situation. When you model ownership of blind spots, failures, or missteps, you set the stage for the receiver to do the same. For example, you may acknowledge that you were not aware of how to support your employee and not aware of the problem until x situation occurred. Equally important as owning your role, is owning your emotions. Own your emotions using “I” statements. For example, “I felt disappointed when I realized your sales performance had substantially declined”.

Step 4: Open, Honest, Direct Feedback

Feedback that dances around the problem does not do anyone any good. It only increases anxiety on behalf of the receiver, and potentially causes the feedback to get totally lost. The conversation needs to be open, honest, and direct. For example: “I felt concerned when you did not attend the last two strategy calls this month…It brought up questions for me about your commitment to the company.”

Step 5: Listen, Validate and Accept

When providing feedback, it is important both parties maintain an open mind, and respond in a way that communicates validation and acceptance. As soon as an individual gets defensive, feedback cannot be taken in, and the value of the conversation dramatically decreases. When providing feedback it is important to listen, validate, and accept your receiver’s viewpoint. Notice, I did not say agree. This looks something like saying: “I can see why X led you to commit Y , I understand you were under a great deal of stress/dealing with a personal situation/frustrated.”

“We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve.” – Bill Gates

Step 6: A Clear Plan for Moving Forward

In providing feedback, the magic is that now things can change! If feedback is never given, relationships end, things will stay the same, businesses will die, and money will be lost. If you have gotten to this step, that means you did the hard work, and now you get to put change into action. A clear plan includes an acknowledgement from both parties regarding what they will do differently to prevent the situation from occurring again, and how they will stay accountable in making the change happen.

The good news about delivering feedback is that the more you do it, the easier it gets. Remember, giving and receiving feedback is one of the most surefire ways to open yourself up to massive growth.

As a giver of feedback, it is your job to model openness and a desire for growth, so that the receiver may take in the feedback and make the necessary changes. Exceling at feedback delivery will help you set you apart from others and enable you to achieve extraordinary relationships, in both your personal and work lives.

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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5 Essential Skills to Drive Success in Every Niche

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There are many people who don’t have the courage to launch a business in a niche as they think they don’t have the right skills and experience to obtain success. While there are specific skills which determine the success in every niche, there are also some general skills which ensure success in any business you would try.

Below are 5 essential skills you need to drive success in every aspect of your life:

1. Ambition

When you launch a new business, you need to be prepared for difficult moments such as fighting the competition and winning your target audience. Moreover, if you follow some successful entrepreneurs, you should keep in mind that they also faced difficulties and continue to experience them. So, how does a successful entrepreneur get over all the difficulties?

The essential skill you need to possess is called ambition. Set small and clear milestones in your development plan and use your ambition to go over each difficulty and finalize what you had in your mind. It doesn’t matter how hard the path is going to be. Visualize your target and put in all the efforts to achieve it. Staying organized and scheduling each step to get things done are some of the techniques you can use to achieve success.

2. Listen to those around you

While listening to your instincts is necessary if you want to be a successful entrepreneur, this is not enough. As your business develops, you will have an entire team to manage and lead to success. Therefore, you cannot be a successful leader and have success in every niche unless you learn how to listen to the people around you.

You should listen to your employees and discover what they are expecting from you. This is the way to follow if you want to keep your team motivated and help them give the best of themselves.

On the other hand, you will need to listen to your customers to improve your products and services and provide excellent customer support. By listening carefully to the voice of your customers, you will be able to stand out of the competition and ensure their loyalty towards your brand.

“We see our customers as invited guests to a party, and we are the hosts. It’s our job every day to make every important aspect of the customer experience a little bit better.” – Jeff Bezos

3. Courage

When you decided to become an entrepreneur and build your own business, it means you are a courageous person. Courage will help you harness the power of creativity. Don’t be afraid to take risks if you feel a specific action will bring more success to your business.

Apart from doing intensive research on your ideas and developing the exact steps you are going to follow, you will need the courage to implement them. Not all the ideas will turn out to be successful.

Regardless, you will have something to learn from each success or mistake and this will help you move your business even further. When you have the courage to follow a path which is not very familiar to you, this is going to be the moment when you will widen your horizons and exceed your limits to achieve success.

4. Creativity and imagination

If you already implemented your idea and you see that it works, you most probably think that you don’t need to change anything to achieve more success. You need to keep in mind that customers’ preferences change and your competition is waiting for your mistakes to “steal” your clients.

Therefore, you need to use your creativity and imagination to improve your products and services to meet your customers’ expectations. What is more, creativity can also mean that you are open to talk to new people and use their experience to improve something in your business.

“Get closer than ever to your customers. So close that you tell them what they need well before they realize it themselves.” – Steve Jobs

5. Continuous learning

If you want to drive success in every niche you will need to show a willingness to learn. You need to stay updated with what happens in your niche and what your customers expect from you.

Education is not only something for school. It is a lifelong process, and you should be open to seek knowledge and improve your skills with every opportunity. An efficient trick is to stay close to people who are already successful in your industry, ask their opinions on various subjects and learn from their experience.

The above five essential skills will help you build a successful business in every niche. A true leader is ambitious, knows to listen to the people around him, and is always open to learning from others.

No matter the size of your business, you will need to be creative and use your imagination to improve your products and services. These skills will help any leader develop new skills, stand out of the crowd, and strengthen his position on the market.

What skill do you think is most important to be successful in life? Let us know below!

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5 Key Investment Principles from Warren Buffett

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Warren Buffett is a mentor for a lot of traders. Why shouldn’t he be? After all, his investing principles have earned him the title of the world’s greatest investor. His way of working is a little contradictory to many others in the arena of online trading. He doesn’t invest the way it’s depicted in the popular media. He is the kind of investor who likes buying and holding.

Buffett has taught us that once you buy a stock, hold it no matter what. Forget that there is a recession in the economy or it is at its boom. Whether it’s good times or bad, you’re supposed to hold onto the stock.

Buffett doesn’t just buy stocks for the sake of holding them. He buys them for a specific reason. When those reasons no longer exist, he sells the stocks. He not only looks for good prices but sound management and a competitive advantage. He shared his opinion that companies such as IBM, Sears, and GM are great but they cannot stay competitive for long. Therefore, these companies shouldn’t be a part of your portfolio.

Why not learn from the pro himself and invest the right way? Here are 5 key principles to begin with:

1. Invest In What You Know

Before investing in a stock, it is very important to understand what a company does and how it makes its money. Ever wondered why Buffett has always avoided investing in tech stocks? It’s because he does not completely understand their business model. He sticks to what he knows.

This also explains why he prefers investing in Berkshire’s stocks. It represents a diverse mix of stocks such as utilities, banking, and insurance and consumer products. All of these are businesses that Buffett understands very well. No wonder he has invested a significant amount of money here.

“Beware the investment activity that produces applause; the great moves are usually greeted by yawns.”  – Warren Buffett

2. Before Buying a Stock, List the Criteria

It makes sense to buy stocks on the basis of criteria, right? After all, you’re ensuring that you don’t end up investing in something unfavorable. You could be searching for stocks in a certain industry with a set price to earnings ratio.

Buffett never makes the price of the stock the sole criteria of his buying decision. Sometimes, great companies end up taking a price dip because of the market situation. However, holding onto these stocks could still turn out to be favorable.

3. Be Aggressive During Tough Times

Generally, it’s not recommended to time the market. But if you’re a long-term investor, you’ll be fine no matter when you buy. This means that even during the tough economic times, you shouldn’t settle down. Keep on looking for opportunities. This is what Warren Buffett does because he knows that things will eventually turn around.

Buffett is known for capitalizing on opportunities during and after the great recession. Bank of America investment is one of the best examples of this. In his latest annual letter, Buffett said that “dark clouds will fill the sky almost after every decade. But it certainly will rain gold.” So don’t despair, keep on investing.

4. Don’t Worry About the Day to Day Market Movements

Along with other tips, Buffett also said that you must only buy a stock if you are comfortable holding on to it in case the stock market shuts down for a decade. Since you are holding onto the stocks for 10 or more years, there is no point in losing sleep over the minor swings.

Ignore the headlines about the trade wars, the government shutdown, and other chaotic news. Instead, you focus on learning the potential growth of your company over the course of time. The fact is, stock prices keep on changing, but it’s not significant if the company’s business still has a bright future.

“Only buy something that you’d be perfectly happy to hold if the market shut down for 10 years.” – Warren Buffett

5. Buy Buffett’s Stocks

Buffett keeps everything simple when it comes to investing. If you don’t want to do the guesswork and research to figure out which stocks to buy, simply invest in the stocks Buffett already owns. But, make sure you understand the business. Buffett discloses his holdings publically each quarter. He has capital in companies such as Wells Fargo, Apple, and Bank of America. To keep things simple, you can buy the shares of Berkshire Hathaway itself.

Warren Buffett hasn’t been successful all by himself. He has a team of investors who help him do legal work and give him investment tips. He’s also a part of an advisor network because he understands that an investor needs all the help he can get. It’s amazing that a billionaire like him still listens to others.

Now that you know how to invest like Buffett, it’s time you prepare your investment strategy. These principles are not hard and fast criteria, they are simply a discipline strategy all investors should stick to. Along with these, you can use math, technical analysis, fundamental analysis, and even stock charts to make a decision. You may not end up a billionaire, but you will avoid losses and make more profits than your fellows.

Which one of the 5 key investment principles from above resonated with you most? Let us know below!

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