Success Advice
How to Incorporate the Vision of Others for Business Success
When you start a business, it’s your vision of a better solution that gets you started. For me, it was the vision of providing a better way for businesses to manage their accounting processes and streamline the fulfillment processes. From the beginning, I knew I couldn’t do it alone and although it started as my own vision for business and my own vision of success, I quickly realized that it in order to empower and encourage my employees and business partners, that I’d need to incorporate their visions of success into my own if I wanted my business to truly succeed.
Even my vision of success has changed throughout the years since I’ve owned and operated my business… Originally, I was dead set on a number. My success was predicated on my ability to become a millionaire. That was it. If I was a millionaire, I would be successful. If I could prove “everybody” wrong and show them that I was capable of earning a million dollars, then I could sleep well at night knowing that I had achieved success.
Well, I shortly realized that my definition of success was attainable but that it wasn’t actually going to help me feel fully fulfilled. I’d already learned after getting my girlfriend pregnant in high school that I could provide for myself and others. I learned how valuable sales are to a business and how to build deep relationships with potential customers and clients. Once you realize that becoming a millionaire is attainable, and a huge boost to your confidence, but not the thing that will actually lead you to feeling fulfilled, you have to revisit the drawing board and look at a better way to create that feeling of success.
For me, I realized that I had to start incorporating the visions of those that had bought into mine. First and foremost, I had to have shared conviction with my business partner, Trevor Cowley. I had to sit down and have conversations with him about what he wanted from the business, I had to figure out what his vision of success was.
This required a level of vulnerability that I didn’t know it was going to… The thought of not owning complete control of the direction of my business was something that seemed threatening to my idea of success. It was counterintuitive but would be one of the best decisions I ever made in business.
Napoleon Hill says a mastermind is, “The coordination of knowledge and effort between two or more people who work towards a definite purpose in a spirit of harmony…no two minds ever come together without thereby creating a third, invisible intangible force, which may be likened to a third mind.” Until I was able to incorporate the visions of Trevor in my business, I wasn’t able to truly understand or tap into this idea of a mastermind. I was unable to tap into the power of a unified force that was more powerful than the sum of its parts.
“A team aligned behind a vision will move mountains.” – Kevin Rose
That doesn’t mean all conversations were easy or that we always had the same vision. When you start looking for business partners and looking to share a vision with others. They will inevitably have a different vision and idea of what success looks like to them. You won’t always agree on what that exact vision is and it will require some amount of negotiation in order to accomplish that shared vision. There will be “give and take,” and sometimes you’ll have to adjust your idea of what success looks like in order to allow both visions to fit into the larger puzzle.
Be prepared to have these conversations and to negotiate with your business partners about what success looks like to them. Tim Ferriss says “your success in life is in proportion to the number of uncomfortable conversations you’re willing to have and how well you negotiate them,” I wholeheartedly agree with that sentiment and it’s proved true with my business and personal conversations…
Next comes the question of how to incorporate the visions of those who have bought into your long-term vision but aren’t partners in the company… After some time, it was clear that Trevor and I had a shared vision of success and that we were moving forward towards it with momentum. It was also clear that we had inspired some of those who worked for us in a big way. They were fully committed to our vision of success and we wanted to reward them. We wanted them to know that we care about their vision of success as much as they cared about our business.
We knew we had key players in our business that needed to be valued more than just the salary and compensation package that we were currently providing, but we didn’t want to give them equity in the company. It’s easy for a business owner to want to give equity to those that are working hard for your business’s success… but I’ve found that it’s not always the best decision for your business. More effectively, we’ve found that sharing in the profit of the company and giving monetary incentive in the case of buyout is a great way to show your key players how much you care about them without giving away principal ownership.
On top of that, giving key players in your company a voice and listening to their vision of what the company could be gives you valuable information about the direction of your company and ways that you can grow and expand your business to provide better service for more customers.
At the end of the day, I’ve realized that personal success is good but creating success for others is great and a great way to ensure that my business continues to grow. I’ve realized that now that my networth is well north of a million, that I want to provide that for others. It’s amazing to see how much the vision for my business has changed. The new vision for Trevor and I is to create millionaires with our business and allow our customers to spend more time doing what they love with their family.
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Life
9 Harsh Truths Every Young Man Must Face to Succeed in the Modern World
Before chasing success, every young man needs to face these 9 brutal realities shaping masculinity in the modern world.
Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.
Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”
But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.
Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.
Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.
1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse
As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.
Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.
Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:
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Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.
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Read quality literature in your free time.
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Nurture a strong relationship with your family.
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Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.
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Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.
The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.
2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay
You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.
If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.
3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome
Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.
You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.
The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.
4. Rejection Is Never Personal
Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.
Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.
5. Women Value Comfort and Security
Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.
Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.
Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.
6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons
A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.
Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.
Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.
7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form
Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.
It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.
If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.
8. Teaching Is Leadership in Disguise
Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.
Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.
Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.
9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams
One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.
That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.
Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.
Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.
Final Thoughts
The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.
Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.
Because at the end of the day, success isn’t about luck. It’s about who you become when life tests you the most.
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