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How To Go From Being A Dreamer To A High Achiever

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We’ve all got something we want to achieve in our life, but why do many of us never smash our goals to pieces? Why do we talk for years about what we’d like to bring to fruition and then never take action?

The answer to these two questions is that we’re stuck in a pattern of dreaming. Dreaming feels good and it doesn’t require us to do any work. We can romanticize for years and think about all the nice feelings that our dream could bring us.

Screw pretend feelings, I want the real feelings that you get from living your life’s purpose and succeeding at your goals! I want everyone reading this to go from being a dreamer to a high achiever.

First, you need to know what dreamers do and then I’ll talk about what high achievers do differently.

Dreamers talk a lot

Lot’s of talking and not much action. There is lot’s of “I should do this” or “I am going to do that.” High achievers just take action and apologize for their stuff ups later.

Dreamers over plan

Ever met a dude who has three degrees, and is in their thirties and still studying? They’re lost in the planning and knowledge stage and haven’t yet moved to the “It’s time to take freaking action and get on with the job stage.”

Planning can drown you in fear of how something may work out. The truth is no one really knows for sure whether your plan will unfold the way you want it to. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have one; it just means you shouldn’t waste years on figuring out what you’re going to do and how.

You’ll figure things out along the way and your plan will need to change to adapt to your learning’s consistently.

Dreamer’s waffle on when they communicate

That’s because they are not sure what they stand for, what their goals are and who their audience is. When you know what you want and the goals you want to achieve, you get very good at being able to communicate in a straightforward, succinct and clear manner. Get to the point.

Dreamers chop and change

That’s not to say you can’t make changes, but dreamers always seem to have a new idea or goal every week. They chop and change more than they change their underwear. At some point, you need to get clear and commit to focusing on a small number of goals.

“Dabbling leads to mediocrity. Focus leads to mastery”

Dreamers talk but they don’t listen

The keys to their dream are in the listening, but they stand in their own way. When you hear what people have to say, you learn a hell of a lot. None of us know everything which means we need to listen to those who have the knowledge we seek.

Listening is a skill and it’s something high achievers do very well. It’s also about listening and then filtering out what is not relevant to your specific goals. Blindly listening and applying everything you’re told will see you move away from your vision, and towards something you don’t want.

Here’s what high achievers do:

High achievers follow their passion

Unlike dreamers, high achievers base their entire life around a passion. They don’t dabble in things that they’re not passionate about as a way to try and impress others or create wealth (even though it may take years). High achievers know that their passion is the only thing that will drive them forward when they suffer a setback.

High achievers know that it’s so easy to lose the game when you don’t have passion to keep you going.

“Passion is what get’s you started and it’s what will keep you going. Without passion, your goals become unfulfilled dreams. You give up without knowing why”

High achievers also know that your passion can take time to find. They try lots of different pursuits until they find something that does the following:

– Lights them up
– Is something they would do for free if they had to
– Is something that can serve others
– Is something that can get them out of bed in the morning

High achievers take action before they lose a thought

In this new age where we have an intention span that’s less than a gold fish, high achievers know that they have to take action before they lose a thought. It might be an idea they had that they email to themselves straight away.

It might be making a phone call after hearing something that aligns with their vision. It might be signing up for a program because it has the content they have been missing. To sum up, it’s the following:

Taking action in the moment rather than saying I’ll look at that tomorrow.

It’s a subtle difference and it’s the single biggest thing that sets apart dreamers, from achievers.

High achievers ask for help

Nothing worth achieving can be done by yourself. Even if it’s only having someone tell you what they did to achieve a similar goal, you must have other people on your journey. This requires you to be strong and not be afraid to ask for help. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak; it makes you a high achiever.

“Stick to what you know best and don’t try and be the ‘Eddie Expert’ of everything”

High achievers know their strengths and they exploit them

Out of all the tools you have at your disposal, you’ll suck at most of them. You don’t need every single tool in existence to bring your goals to life; you only need a few. Hitting your head against the wall trying to improve your weaknesses is time-consuming.

High achievers prefer to focus their energy on the things that they are good at so they can reach a level of mastery that puts them in the top 1% of their field. It’s a different way of thinking and I’ve seen it work for me firsthand.

High achievers pursue happiness and fulfillment above all else

The reason why you want to achieve your goals is the part you must figure out. Dreamers don’t know why they want to achieve a goal or they are copying someone else’s definition of success.

High achievers have worked out their why and it’s always tied to a sense of fulfillment which produces happiness. Chasing fulfillment is much more powerful than chasing a goal. Goals provide you with a strategy and a game plan for achieving success, but they are not what high achievers think about as the end result.

High achievers know the power of their thoughts

Primarily because they are masters of their own mind. At some point they have become curious at how their mind works and probably read at least one book on psychology. Before saying what’s on their mind, they think first.

Before any major decision, they weigh up the positives and the negatives. They then use their intuition and experience to execute with a high level of faith.

You could say that high achievers are obsessed with keeping their mindset in line. They reward themselves for keeping their mind in control. They may even celebrate this weird achievement.

“A positive mindset is what allows them to go from dreaming to achieving. It’s the secret sauce in their burrito. It’s the yummy melted cheese on top of their nachos”

High achievers don’t outsource the blame

That’s because they know that they are in control of every little thing that happens. Their dream is won or lost because of them, not some catastrophic event that they didn’t see coming. A disastrous event can wipe out your dream. The lessons you get from this failure allow you to come back ten times harder, so it’s no excuse, only a blessing.

High achievers rise early

4 am to be exact. Just kidding! They do, however, rise early. While everyone is wasting away their life sleeping because they’ve overdosed on the many indulgences that society can shoot at us like an out of control fire hose, high achievers are rising early and working while the world sleeps.

By the time everyone else wakes, high achievers have already achieved more than most people will get done in a day. There’s something so beautiful about waking up while the city sleeps. It’s a strange kind of peace that helps you see your dream in the flesh rather than imagine it for eternity.

High achievers don’t give up

It ain’t all lolly pops and meat pies. High achievers expect roadblocks. They expect the worst kind of stuff ups imaginable. They go to F Up nights and think of what could potentially happen to them. Because they’re prepared, setbacks don’t faze them

Expecting the unexpected stops you from giving up when times get tough (and they will). Knowing that your setbacks are not unique to you helps stop you from getting romantic. You stop telling stories of hard luck because you know luck has nothing to do with it.


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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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