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How To Become A Millionaire Author

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Writing a book
is one of those experiences where simply just creating your own book is a reward in itself. But there is nothing wrong with wanting to be a major success either. We always hear breakthrough stories about authors like Stephen King, Nicholas Sparks, Stephenie Meyer, or J.K. Rowling who become overnight successes and very wealthy.

If you want to become a successful author then here are some steps that must be taken in order to achieve that goal. Keep in mind that the road to mainstream success is a varied one, but these principles should apply to every writer who wants success.

 

The Steps Of A Successful Author

The first thing you need to know is that you MUST hone your craft. You wouldn’t try to sell paintings if the only thing you know how to draw is a stick figure would you? Writing is an art just like any other, so you need to develop your craft as much as possible. This means experimenting with different writing styles, figuring out how you approach subject matter, and most importantly developing your professional tone. A mastery of the language you write in is vital. It is only when you know the rules of language that you can break them.

While mastering your craft it is also a good idea to find the best audience that fits your genre and begin to build a following. Publishing has changed a lot over the past ten years with the internet becoming an increasingly viable (and often necessary) means of gaining success. Using online writing sites where users give feedback will not only help you build up readers, but it will give you an idea of what readers are looking for.

JK-Rowling-Millionaire-AuthorOne of the keys to becoming a successful author is finding the right balance between meeting commercial imperatives without compromising your vision as an author. After all, success is not worth much if you think of yourself as a sell-out. You need to remember that no author gains success by playing it safe.

J.K. Rowling is a prime example of an author who gives her fans what they want while sticking to her creative guns and throwing in great twists that readers did not see coming. Remember that you attain success and fans as a result of your creativity. On the other side of that coin it cannot hurt to know what your audience wants, so long as you do not fall into the trap of constant fan service. It may seem to be a situation where you are trying to have your cake and eat it as well, but it is a balance that every author must work towards striking.

Developing the ability to write quickly is also vital. While it is most important to get your book right as you writing it, when you are trying to get it published time is of the essence, especially if you have a book deal. Learning to write under the pressure of a deadline will also help to make you a more productive writer, and if you can write quickly as well as write well then you are more desirable to publishers and worth their investment in you.

One of the most difficult steps to becoming a successful author is actually getting your book published. There are several steps you can take to become published, but none of them are exactly easy. E-books are becoming increasingly popular, but because of the lack of expense that goes into them the market is heavily saturated. Another form is self publication, this takes a little bit of cash initially but a number of authors have proven that this method is becoming more of a promising option.

Another option that many find helpful is to submit your work to a publishing house. You could even find an agent to do this for you, there are plenty agents out there, if you have the quality and they believe in you then they will get your work to the right publishing house for you. Just know that this process can be a little longer and you may find it frustrating. Don’t be discouraged if you receive a rejection letter as there are many authors who wrote best selling works that were turned down multiple times before finally landing a book deal.

NY Times best selling author Robert Kiyosaki, the author of ‘Rich Dad, Poor Dad’ had his ‘Rich Dad, Poor Dad’ book turned down by every publisher he approached and Barnes & Noble refused to stock his work initially. He decided to self publish the book and has sold over 26 million copies. This goes to show that you CAN make it happen by yourself, if you have quality work then others with promotional power ie.. Celebrities, Talk Shows, Radio Shows etc… Will spread the word of your amazing book which should in turn give you the leverage needed to move units.

Just remember, if you don’t self publish and you are going through a publishing house, be careful not to give away all your rights in your rush to get published. Take your publishing contract to an experienced lawyer who can explain all the terms before you decide to sign.

While being a well known author may seem like it should be easy enough once the big bucks are rolling in you need to keep in mind that fame won’t last without a solid building block to hold it up. The last thing you want to be is an author that is huge one day and gone the next. Whether you reach this stability through multiple sequels or through a just one timeless work of art it is completely up to you so long as you do eventually reach it in the end.

Checkout our article The Top 10 List Of The Highest Paid Authors to see how much a successful author really makes.

 

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Article By: Coty Ellis | Addicted2Success.com

I am the the Founder of Addicted2Success.com and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances. I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 100 million lives in the last 6 and a half years.

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  1. Bonnie E. Howard

    Oct 26, 2015 at 9:39 pm

    Seriously I’m blessed of this simple write-up because I feel and see need to be excited about what I have read here…..it’s going to improve my mentality and abilities towards becoming a better author.

    Actually, I have personally seen that the “book world” is majorly hanged on marketing, though the quality of your material is also a factor to be considered. I have written 2 books: the first is “The Pains Of The Youth” which I sold about one thousand copies within a month……. Up till now, I am receiving calls from many persons requesting of more copies, but I ceased the sale because I also listened to the complaints and choosed to aments some flaws.

    The second book is titled “Choice Power” which is actually waiting to get into the market at when some possible strategies are put in place to have a free marketing platform, and to have my speaking tone set.

    The writing world has a lot of competition, and those whose self-confidence is weak constantly draws back. In all, just want to say ‘ride on’…………

  2. Housseina himou

    Jan 20, 2013 at 6:41 pm

    I read all your comments because I’m always looking for ways to become a successful author. The book I wrote is called “Let a child be a child. My mom story”. It was published On December 2011. A story of child bride in West Africa. I’m welcoming everybody’s tips on how I can do better, the sites and the people who can help me.

  3. Melanie Toye

    Sep 26, 2012 at 7:00 am

    I am on my way to becoming a Best Selling Author. Dream chasing is what I do and hard work and promotion is how I am going to get the title. Entice Me, a chick lit fiction novel, is self-published eBook available on all e-reading devices. I am on a 10 week campaign filled with interviews, published press releases, book reviews and more. I have created these opportunities which makes the feeling of success much more sweetier. I am currently writing an ebook on how to promote your books. It just takes a bit of cuts and creativity on how to go about it. You’re a writer, so you can do it.

  4. Phyllis Zuccarello

    Sep 20, 2012 at 11:09 am

    My book “When the Lights Are On But Nobody’s Home” was originally published in 2006 by a local publisher here in Phoenix, Az. It got a lot of 5 star reviews on amazon and I did book signings at some of the “what used to be” Borders Book Stores. I didn’t push it…I felt it needed more work. Because I own the rights to it I learned I could revise it so I did…on my own. It’s a book that takes readers on a Poetic Journey back to reality urging them to pay attention to what’s most important in a variety of situations. I also re-did the cover, much more appealing. This time I will give it my all to get it out. Readers are finding it to make a difference in their life. What is ahead of me is a challenge, I know, but it is such a unique book I have confidence it will do well. You should check it out on amazon, it is also available on kindle.

  5. Calvin

    Sep 19, 2012 at 3:28 pm

    I believe writing is like anything else you work hard to achieve success in. Whether your playing sports or CEO of a company failure is not an option. That’s why successful people train hard and win even when they fail, because they never give up. Writing is no different, I have self published and have not had much success yet. But I continue to write in my blog and am currently working on my next book. I just believe that just because it did not go well the first time that’s not how it’s going to always be. I continue to write because I believe in myself and I believe I have something to say that will help people live a better more meaningful life. So never give up, because you never know how close success really is.

  6. alec hudson

    Sep 5, 2012 at 12:52 am

    I wrote a book 3 years ago. I liked it, thought it offered solutions. Had to publish myself, as 85% of people do, and sold 20 copies. one has to be a celebrity or a proven seller. sorry, don’t believe you

    • maritakinney

      May 18, 2013 at 9:05 pm

      I read this blog and I’m currently working on a book to help authors just like you. I wrote my first book in 2009 and sold very little copies. The writer of this blog may have some insight for you too…just apply and see what happens. Then in 2013, I got it! I’m not famous, just a regular person like you. I sold over 300 copies within two weeks. That may not mean a lot to some folks, but that was huge for me and I believe that I have found a method that really works.

      Author of The Snow’s Meltdown

  7. Greg

    Sep 3, 2012 at 2:58 pm

    I agree somewhat…

    Writing a book is a creative mind game that seeks expression. So writing when you don’t want to (see#5) is not using your time wisely. How is one to concentrate and be creative when they dont want too? Authors need to clear their minds just like anyone else, even if this means spending time at the family bbq. We all need to recharge our batteries, being disciplined isnt always the key to success.

  8. Amandah

    Sep 3, 2012 at 1:16 pm

    Great article!

    I think you have to WANT to be a best-selling author. Translation: you’ll work your butt off. Writers are disciplined people. A novel won’t write itself. And you may have to miss out on family gatherings. Can you handle the backlash you may receive because you didn’t show up at a family reunion or BBQ? What about criticism? If you send your manuscript to traditional publishers, you may receive a few rejection letters. If you can’t handle rejection, being an author may not be for you. Most authors/writers write because they have to; otherwise, they’d burst at the seams. 🙂

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Stop Denying Your Negative Thoughts and Start Embracing Them

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Over the years, many of the talking heads and pundits in the personal development and success science industry have talked about the immediate replacement of negative thoughts with positive thoughts. The logic behind that particular behavioral strategy seems to make sense on the surface. Think about it, when a negative thought rears its ugly head, we should immediately dive into the repository of positive thoughts that we have available to us so that we could immediately begin to dwell on it.

Even further, some gurus of the genre suggest removing any chance of having a negative thought by the constant repetition of affirmations. Again, tried-and-true motivational technology that is very workable and still useful. I would suggest, however, that you view the above behaviors as tactics more than strategies.

I will further suggest to you that you do not abhor your negative thoughts but rather embrace them, examine them, and place them under a spotlight. My reasoning behind this goes back over 100 years into psychology with stimulus/response, that is, the cause and effect of certain behaviors. Many individuals look at a negative thought as a causative driver. The negative thought exists as a cause, and our behavior toward that cause will determine the effect.

So, following this logic, if an individual has a negative thought which makes them feel sad, and that sadness causes them to binge drink, by removing the negative thought you’ll have removed the motivation for binge drinking. Doesn’t that sound kind of silly? The suggestion here is to turn off the negative thought so that it will turn off the consumption of alcohol.

Of course, this makes sense if we view the negative thought as a primal force in behavior. So, what if we started to think of the negative thought more as the result of something else? It means that the “something else” must change first. What if we took a different approach? What if we looked at a negative thought as an effect of some larger causal factor?

“You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.” – Joel Osteen

By reversing the cause-and-effect motion of negative thinking (saying that the negative thought is an effect), we now can ask a deeper, more penetrative question: Why are we thinking that negative thought? What is the underlying cause of that specific train of thinking? By reversing the cause-and-effect relationship of negative thinking, it allows the negative thinker to assume the role of diagnostician!

Below is a three-step process you can use to examine your negative thoughts, the role of it in your life, and how you can get rid of them:

1. Simply acknowledge the negative thought

Recognize the fact that there’s a negative thought in your mind instead of trying to go through a process of emotionally overlaying positive thoughts on top of it. Can you see how this exacerbates the issue? You have a negative thought, you immediately recognize that it must be changed, and you frantically scurry through the museum of your mind to find a positive thought to replace it.

In the meantime, while you are trying to find that positive thought, you’re feeling anxious, nervous, and guilty! When you finally find a positive thought to replace that negative thought, the normal process is to squash it. But you can’t! It’s like trying to get rid of weeds by covering them with rocks.

They will always find another way around the rock. It is the same with negative thoughts. Consequently, try acknowledging the negative thought.

2. Affirm the negative thought

It is a part of you. Instead of denying its existence, accept that it is there in front of you and that you are now willing to deal with it. If any of you reading this are dog lovers, you will know that the best way to get a dog next to you is by attempting to push it away from you. Every time you push the dog away it gets closer. This is the same with negative thinking because the harder you push the closer it gets.

“Always turn a negative situation into a positive situation.” – Michael Jordan

3. Acquit the thought

Give it permission to leave you. Thank it for its past importance in your life and allow it to be on its way! At this point feel free to replace the negative thought with a positive thought. What will begin to happen when you place the negative thought under the spotlight is that you will see how insignificantly small it actually is.

This is a process I’ve been using for quite some time, and it works! Oh sure, I still use affirmations on a daily basis; as a matter fact I have them right here in front of me. I find that affirmations are a tremendous way to stay positive because it doesn’t allow any room for bad things to grow. But since the average person thinks 60,000 to 65,000 thoughts per day, let’s face it, a few negative thoughts have to squeak in there!

The best advice that I can give is to not freak out over a negative thought. Acknowledge it, affirm it, and acquit it! This is magic. Watch what happens!

How do you handle negative thoughts? Let us know your tips below!

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One Thing I Can Teach You About Life That Will Help You Forever.

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I used to be a very anxious person.

I was embarrassed by what I couldn’t do and every day was a struggle. From the moment I would wake up to the moment I’d go to bed, everything felt impossibly overwhelming. It’s a battle I’ve dealt with most of my life.

This daily struggle with mental illness taught me that the satisfaction didn’t lie in beating it; the satisfaction was in helping other people beat mental illness through my success in fighting it.


Recently, I was at work. It was a pretty standard day — nothing too exciting. I then had a catch up with one of the leaders I worked with.

She said something that got my attention: “One of our colleagues is battling a mental illness.”

I really wanted to help. My eyes lit up. There was no need to uncover my plan with anyone else. I knew that staying discrete was fundamental.

I approached the person in question and asked for a few minutes of their time.

I didn’t ask them to admit their mental illness struggle; I just shared my story.

I talked about the anxiety stopping me from having a normal life, eating the right foods, going on dates with girls, having the career I wanted and traveling the world.

I wasn’t sure if any of it was sinking in or even helping. I felt compelled to go on. One thing I knew was that he was paying attention. I could see it in his eyes.

I then went on to talk about how I beat mental illness. Strategies such as:

  • Creating fear lists
  • Seeking professional help
  • Working on myself
  • Books I read
  • Events I attended

Out of nowhere, he started opening up about his own struggle. I was shocked.
It wasn’t pretty. He had an extreme case of mental illness that I certainly couldn’t diagnose or give professional advice on.

All I could do was show him through my own story that there was hope

I offered him access to all the resources I had. I told him that he had my full support and I’d be happy to help in any way I could. He then said:

“What was your psychologist’s name?”

I told him I’d look it up and send it to him. I didn’t have the answer in front of me, but I was determined when I got home to find it.

At the end of the catch-up, he smiled. I don’t think he’d smiled like that in a very long time.

That smile gave me so much satisfaction. It made my own struggle with mental illness worth it. All those sleepless nights, times spent vomiting into the toilet and dark days where I didn’t want to go on made sense.


“It took more than seven years for me to understand that my own battle with mental illness actually had a benefit”

That benefit was the satisfaction in seeing someone beat their mental illness because I was able to defeat mine.

It’s probably the greatest satisfaction of my entire life.

That’s one thing I can teach you about life that will help you forever.

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5 Productivity Shifts You Need to Make to Make 2019 Your Best Year Yet

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Everyone wants more time, that is something almost all of us share. Time is the most valuable resource and when you learn how to make your time work for you and how to get the most out of it – you experience life differently.  

Improving how you manage your time is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself – it’s a real game changer in your business and personal life. There are many ways that you can get more productive and get the right things done sooner; but not all of them are obvious or bring the same results.

Here are 5 productivity shifts you want to make if you are trying to make the most out of 2019:

1. Ditch your to do list

Productive people don’t keep to-do lists, they schedule everything they need to do in their calendar and work directly from their calendar!  To-Do lists are just ineffective and they are impeding your productivity. A never ending list of items only leaves you overwhelmed and with a false sense of ‘productivity’.  

If you schedule your To Do’s directly into your calendar at a time to get them done, you commit to it and you are more likely to get it done. Less is more – you don’t need a separate list to remind you what you need to do.

“Productivity is less about what you do with your time and more about how you run your mind.” – Robin Sharma

2. Give up on motivation

Productive people don’t always have to be motivated before starting something. They balance discipline with motivation and do what they need to do, regardless of motivation. When we come up with resistance to take action on what we have planned, we might tell ourselves that we are not motivated and we believe that we need to be motivated to complete any task.

If you want to increase your productivity, you need to challenge yourself more in the moment to take action and give up on motivation sometimes. Do what you need to in order to get the results you want in the future. Don’t make decisions based on how you feel now, make them based on what result you are really after.

3. Master your mornings

Wake up early and get yourself into the productive mindset with your routine and diet! Productive people start the day with some sort of routine, whether it’s meditation, exercise or visualization, etc. AND they have a healthy breakfast to fuel them for the day. Your health is everything when it comes to productivity, what you eat directly affects your productivity.

We can just no longer ignore the direct connection any more. Get in the right mindset to start your day and fuel your mind and body to get the most out of it. Starting your day off in any other way undermines your success – there is no doubt.

4. Schedule according to energy

Productive people know their energy cycles and they plan tasks around their energy levels. Why plan something at a time when you know it will be hard to rise to the challenge? Schedule tasks that require focus and concentration for those times of day that you feel the best and you will find it’s easier to follow through and you will be at your best to perform. Identify your filler tasks and complete those when your energy drops. Be more realistic when scheduling your tasks and set yourself up for wins.

“Productivity is never an accident it’s the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning & focused effort.” – Paul Meyer

5. Working backwards

Productive people always focus on those activities that will take them to the next level. They plan backwards, they look at their goals, then identify the tasks they need to do to support those goals. Those tasks get broken down into weekly actions. That’s how they plan.

Don’t only plan on tasks that come in or those which you ‘feel’ or ‘think’ you should be doing. Your day needs to consist of at least one activity that directly supports your longer term objectives, your big project. What sounds like common sense is definitely not common practice.

Create the right habits to achieve your goals, work on adopting easy tips and techniques so you can manage your time and yourself better to get things done.

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You Need to Grow Your Memory in Order to Grow Your Life

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We all have access to the most powerful computer ever created in the universe…our brain. Unfortunately, few of us have ever been taught how to use our minds efficiently, and even fewer have learned how to develop a fabulous memory. Thankfully, like any skill, memorising can be learned and using the correct strategies, your memory can be improved in only days.

One of the best coaches on memory is Dominic O’Brien the eight-time world memory champion. Self-taught after watching Creighton Carvello memorise a pack of cards on the BBC’s Record Breakers programme. Dominic, through his work on memory, has given us many tools and techniques for improving memory.

Below are 5 rules that will help you develop a better memory:

1. The Rule of Five

Probably seen as one of the most significant contributions to the body of knowledge on memory is O’Brien’s Rule of Five. This rule details how to remember things using a strategy of regular staged repetition.

These stages are as follows:

  • First Review:Immediately
  • Second Review:Twenty-four hours later
  • Third Review:One week later
  • Fourth Review:One month later
  • Fifth Review:Three months later

Utilising stage repetition at these intervals ingrains the memory for the long term.

2. The Dominic System

The Dominic System is a system for remembering numbers. The system is a Person Action system where the association between two sets of paired numbers is the person with the action of the next person.

1139 would become Andre Agassi doing a roundhouse kick which is the action of Chuck Norris. This system combined with the journey method allows for long random numbers to be easily recalled without error. The fantastic thing about this system is that you get to customise for yourself with memorable people and unique actions which when combined really make it easy for you to recall numbers. The table below associates each number to a letter.

Number     0     1    2     3     4     5     6     7     8     9
Letter     O     A     B     C     D    E     S     G     H     N

Creating a simple document with pairs of numbers in one column, the letter pairs in the next and an action column will help you learn this system quickly.

“Nothing can substitute for just plain hard work. I had to put in the time to get back. And it was a grind. It meant training and sweating every day. But I was completely committed to working out to prove to myself that I still could do it.” – Andre Agassi

3. The Link Method

This method relies on two essential elements of memory, association and exaggeration. Utilising these two elements, it is possible to link together unrelated objects to allow you to remember them.

Trying to remember a list of five separate words such as: balloon, papaya, gold, football and hat, might go something like this. You imagine seeing a giant balloon and inside the balloon you can see a small papaya, in bursting the balloon the papaya falls out and as it hits the floor a gold football bounces into a large sombrero.

4. The Journey Method

Using location has been a fundamental part of mnemonics almost since time began. Before humans, writing elders would pass knowledge to others using stories of journeys, with each piece of knowledge being associated with a location on the journey.

O’Brien’s system utilises journeys that you would undertake on a daily basis, like your commute to work or train stations on well-known line. Items are then associated and exaggerated along the journey, so for instance if you were trying to remember a list of ten random things you would associate each piece along with a unique ten stop journey and utilise exaggeration to make the items more memorable.

“You are well equipped with an incredible potential for absorbing knowledge…Anything’s possible.” – Dominic O’Brien

5. The Story Method

To remember groups of information, create a story that links them together. Remembering the planets of the solar system and their position relative to the Sun, Mercury, Venus, Earth, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus and Neptune.

Imagine that Mercury was hitting the nineties as Venus tossed the tennis ball into the air, striking the ball it soared over the net striking the earth and bouncing high into the air, knocking the mars bar out of Jupiter’s hand, and so on.

Developing a good memory will assist markedly in all of your personal development goals as well as assisting greatly in your daily life. The methods above are tried and tested by one of the leading memory champions. Whether you want to become the next World Memory Champion or just improve your recall, the techniques outlined above will assist greatly.

Combining the various elements will create an exponential improvement in your memory that you will find hard to believe, and you will be kicking yourself for not applying them sooner. The best part about using these methods is that they are fun, so enjoy using them.

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Instead of complaining about the ebb and flow of tough times, we need to learn how to overcome them. We often let bad news cast a pall on our day, but taking it in and moving on with life is what we need to do and that’s a challenge. (more…)

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  1. Bonnie E. Howard

    Oct 26, 2015 at 9:39 pm

    Seriously I’m blessed of this simple write-up because I feel and see need to be excited about what I have read here…..it’s going to improve my mentality and abilities towards becoming a better author.

    Actually, I have personally seen that the “book world” is majorly hanged on marketing, though the quality of your material is also a factor to be considered. I have written 2 books: the first is “The Pains Of The Youth” which I sold about one thousand copies within a month……. Up till now, I am receiving calls from many persons requesting of more copies, but I ceased the sale because I also listened to the complaints and choosed to aments some flaws.

    The second book is titled “Choice Power” which is actually waiting to get into the market at when some possible strategies are put in place to have a free marketing platform, and to have my speaking tone set.

    The writing world has a lot of competition, and those whose self-confidence is weak constantly draws back. In all, just want to say ‘ride on’…………

  2. Housseina himou

    Jan 20, 2013 at 6:41 pm

    I read all your comments because I’m always looking for ways to become a successful author. The book I wrote is called “Let a child be a child. My mom story”. It was published On December 2011. A story of child bride in West Africa. I’m welcoming everybody’s tips on how I can do better, the sites and the people who can help me.

  3. Melanie Toye

    Sep 26, 2012 at 7:00 am

    I am on my way to becoming a Best Selling Author. Dream chasing is what I do and hard work and promotion is how I am going to get the title. Entice Me, a chick lit fiction novel, is self-published eBook available on all e-reading devices. I am on a 10 week campaign filled with interviews, published press releases, book reviews and more. I have created these opportunities which makes the feeling of success much more sweetier. I am currently writing an ebook on how to promote your books. It just takes a bit of cuts and creativity on how to go about it. You’re a writer, so you can do it.

  4. Phyllis Zuccarello

    Sep 20, 2012 at 11:09 am

    My book “When the Lights Are On But Nobody’s Home” was originally published in 2006 by a local publisher here in Phoenix, Az. It got a lot of 5 star reviews on amazon and I did book signings at some of the “what used to be” Borders Book Stores. I didn’t push it…I felt it needed more work. Because I own the rights to it I learned I could revise it so I did…on my own. It’s a book that takes readers on a Poetic Journey back to reality urging them to pay attention to what’s most important in a variety of situations. I also re-did the cover, much more appealing. This time I will give it my all to get it out. Readers are finding it to make a difference in their life. What is ahead of me is a challenge, I know, but it is such a unique book I have confidence it will do well. You should check it out on amazon, it is also available on kindle.

  5. Calvin

    Sep 19, 2012 at 3:28 pm

    I believe writing is like anything else you work hard to achieve success in. Whether your playing sports or CEO of a company failure is not an option. That’s why successful people train hard and win even when they fail, because they never give up. Writing is no different, I have self published and have not had much success yet. But I continue to write in my blog and am currently working on my next book. I just believe that just because it did not go well the first time that’s not how it’s going to always be. I continue to write because I believe in myself and I believe I have something to say that will help people live a better more meaningful life. So never give up, because you never know how close success really is.

  6. alec hudson

    Sep 5, 2012 at 12:52 am

    I wrote a book 3 years ago. I liked it, thought it offered solutions. Had to publish myself, as 85% of people do, and sold 20 copies. one has to be a celebrity or a proven seller. sorry, don’t believe you

    • maritakinney

      May 18, 2013 at 9:05 pm

      I read this blog and I’m currently working on a book to help authors just like you. I wrote my first book in 2009 and sold very little copies. The writer of this blog may have some insight for you too…just apply and see what happens. Then in 2013, I got it! I’m not famous, just a regular person like you. I sold over 300 copies within two weeks. That may not mean a lot to some folks, but that was huge for me and I believe that I have found a method that really works.

      Author of The Snow’s Meltdown

  7. Greg

    Sep 3, 2012 at 2:58 pm

    I agree somewhat…

    Writing a book is a creative mind game that seeks expression. So writing when you don’t want to (see#5) is not using your time wisely. How is one to concentrate and be creative when they dont want too? Authors need to clear their minds just like anyone else, even if this means spending time at the family bbq. We all need to recharge our batteries, being disciplined isnt always the key to success.

  8. Amandah

    Sep 3, 2012 at 1:16 pm

    Great article!

    I think you have to WANT to be a best-selling author. Translation: you’ll work your butt off. Writers are disciplined people. A novel won’t write itself. And you may have to miss out on family gatherings. Can you handle the backlash you may receive because you didn’t show up at a family reunion or BBQ? What about criticism? If you send your manuscript to traditional publishers, you may receive a few rejection letters. If you can’t handle rejection, being an author may not be for you. Most authors/writers write because they have to; otherwise, they’d burst at the seams. 🙂

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Stop Denying Your Negative Thoughts and Start Embracing Them

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Over the years, many of the talking heads and pundits in the personal development and success science industry have talked about the immediate replacement of negative thoughts with positive thoughts. The logic behind that particular behavioral strategy seems to make sense on the surface. Think about it, when a negative thought rears its ugly head, we should immediately dive into the repository of positive thoughts that we have available to us so that we could immediately begin to dwell on it.

Even further, some gurus of the genre suggest removing any chance of having a negative thought by the constant repetition of affirmations. Again, tried-and-true motivational technology that is very workable and still useful. I would suggest, however, that you view the above behaviors as tactics more than strategies.

I will further suggest to you that you do not abhor your negative thoughts but rather embrace them, examine them, and place them under a spotlight. My reasoning behind this goes back over 100 years into psychology with stimulus/response, that is, the cause and effect of certain behaviors. Many individuals look at a negative thought as a causative driver. The negative thought exists as a cause, and our behavior toward that cause will determine the effect.

So, following this logic, if an individual has a negative thought which makes them feel sad, and that sadness causes them to binge drink, by removing the negative thought you’ll have removed the motivation for binge drinking. Doesn’t that sound kind of silly? The suggestion here is to turn off the negative thought so that it will turn off the consumption of alcohol.

Of course, this makes sense if we view the negative thought as a primal force in behavior. So, what if we started to think of the negative thought more as the result of something else? It means that the “something else” must change first. What if we took a different approach? What if we looked at a negative thought as an effect of some larger causal factor?

“You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.” – Joel Osteen

By reversing the cause-and-effect motion of negative thinking (saying that the negative thought is an effect), we now can ask a deeper, more penetrative question: Why are we thinking that negative thought? What is the underlying cause of that specific train of thinking? By reversing the cause-and-effect relationship of negative thinking, it allows the negative thinker to assume the role of diagnostician!

Below is a three-step process you can use to examine your negative thoughts, the role of it in your life, and how you can get rid of them:

1. Simply acknowledge the negative thought

Recognize the fact that there’s a negative thought in your mind instead of trying to go through a process of emotionally overlaying positive thoughts on top of it. Can you see how this exacerbates the issue? You have a negative thought, you immediately recognize that it must be changed, and you frantically scurry through the museum of your mind to find a positive thought to replace it.

In the meantime, while you are trying to find that positive thought, you’re feeling anxious, nervous, and guilty! When you finally find a positive thought to replace that negative thought, the normal process is to squash it. But you can’t! It’s like trying to get rid of weeds by covering them with rocks.

They will always find another way around the rock. It is the same with negative thoughts. Consequently, try acknowledging the negative thought.

2. Affirm the negative thought

It is a part of you. Instead of denying its existence, accept that it is there in front of you and that you are now willing to deal with it. If any of you reading this are dog lovers, you will know that the best way to get a dog next to you is by attempting to push it away from you. Every time you push the dog away it gets closer. This is the same with negative thinking because the harder you push the closer it gets.

“Always turn a negative situation into a positive situation.” – Michael Jordan

3. Acquit the thought

Give it permission to leave you. Thank it for its past importance in your life and allow it to be on its way! At this point feel free to replace the negative thought with a positive thought. What will begin to happen when you place the negative thought under the spotlight is that you will see how insignificantly small it actually is.

This is a process I’ve been using for quite some time, and it works! Oh sure, I still use affirmations on a daily basis; as a matter fact I have them right here in front of me. I find that affirmations are a tremendous way to stay positive because it doesn’t allow any room for bad things to grow. But since the average person thinks 60,000 to 65,000 thoughts per day, let’s face it, a few negative thoughts have to squeak in there!

The best advice that I can give is to not freak out over a negative thought. Acknowledge it, affirm it, and acquit it! This is magic. Watch what happens!

How do you handle negative thoughts? Let us know your tips below!

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One Thing I Can Teach You About Life That Will Help You Forever.

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I used to be a very anxious person.

I was embarrassed by what I couldn’t do and every day was a struggle. From the moment I would wake up to the moment I’d go to bed, everything felt impossibly overwhelming. It’s a battle I’ve dealt with most of my life.

This daily struggle with mental illness taught me that the satisfaction didn’t lie in beating it; the satisfaction was in helping other people beat mental illness through my success in fighting it.


Recently, I was at work. It was a pretty standard day — nothing too exciting. I then had a catch up with one of the leaders I worked with.

She said something that got my attention: “One of our colleagues is battling a mental illness.”

I really wanted to help. My eyes lit up. There was no need to uncover my plan with anyone else. I knew that staying discrete was fundamental.

I approached the person in question and asked for a few minutes of their time.

I didn’t ask them to admit their mental illness struggle; I just shared my story.

I talked about the anxiety stopping me from having a normal life, eating the right foods, going on dates with girls, having the career I wanted and traveling the world.

I wasn’t sure if any of it was sinking in or even helping. I felt compelled to go on. One thing I knew was that he was paying attention. I could see it in his eyes.

I then went on to talk about how I beat mental illness. Strategies such as:

  • Creating fear lists
  • Seeking professional help
  • Working on myself
  • Books I read
  • Events I attended

Out of nowhere, he started opening up about his own struggle. I was shocked.
It wasn’t pretty. He had an extreme case of mental illness that I certainly couldn’t diagnose or give professional advice on.

All I could do was show him through my own story that there was hope

I offered him access to all the resources I had. I told him that he had my full support and I’d be happy to help in any way I could. He then said:

“What was your psychologist’s name?”

I told him I’d look it up and send it to him. I didn’t have the answer in front of me, but I was determined when I got home to find it.

At the end of the catch-up, he smiled. I don’t think he’d smiled like that in a very long time.

That smile gave me so much satisfaction. It made my own struggle with mental illness worth it. All those sleepless nights, times spent vomiting into the toilet and dark days where I didn’t want to go on made sense.


“It took more than seven years for me to understand that my own battle with mental illness actually had a benefit”

That benefit was the satisfaction in seeing someone beat their mental illness because I was able to defeat mine.

It’s probably the greatest satisfaction of my entire life.

That’s one thing I can teach you about life that will help you forever.

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5 Productivity Shifts You Need to Make to Make 2019 Your Best Year Yet

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Everyone wants more time, that is something almost all of us share. Time is the most valuable resource and when you learn how to make your time work for you and how to get the most out of it – you experience life differently.  

Improving how you manage your time is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself – it’s a real game changer in your business and personal life. There are many ways that you can get more productive and get the right things done sooner; but not all of them are obvious or bring the same results.

Here are 5 productivity shifts you want to make if you are trying to make the most out of 2019:

1. Ditch your to do list

Productive people don’t keep to-do lists, they schedule everything they need to do in their calendar and work directly from their calendar!  To-Do lists are just ineffective and they are impeding your productivity. A never ending list of items only leaves you overwhelmed and with a false sense of ‘productivity’.  

If you schedule your To Do’s directly into your calendar at a time to get them done, you commit to it and you are more likely to get it done. Less is more – you don’t need a separate list to remind you what you need to do.

“Productivity is less about what you do with your time and more about how you run your mind.” – Robin Sharma

2. Give up on motivation

Productive people don’t always have to be motivated before starting something. They balance discipline with motivation and do what they need to do, regardless of motivation. When we come up with resistance to take action on what we have planned, we might tell ourselves that we are not motivated and we believe that we need to be motivated to complete any task.

If you want to increase your productivity, you need to challenge yourself more in the moment to take action and give up on motivation sometimes. Do what you need to in order to get the results you want in the future. Don’t make decisions based on how you feel now, make them based on what result you are really after.

3. Master your mornings

Wake up early and get yourself into the productive mindset with your routine and diet! Productive people start the day with some sort of routine, whether it’s meditation, exercise or visualization, etc. AND they have a healthy breakfast to fuel them for the day. Your health is everything when it comes to productivity, what you eat directly affects your productivity.

We can just no longer ignore the direct connection any more. Get in the right mindset to start your day and fuel your mind and body to get the most out of it. Starting your day off in any other way undermines your success – there is no doubt.

4. Schedule according to energy

Productive people know their energy cycles and they plan tasks around their energy levels. Why plan something at a time when you know it will be hard to rise to the challenge? Schedule tasks that require focus and concentration for those times of day that you feel the best and you will find it’s easier to follow through and you will be at your best to perform. Identify your filler tasks and complete those when your energy drops. Be more realistic when scheduling your tasks and set yourself up for wins.

“Productivity is never an accident it’s the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning & focused effort.” – Paul Meyer

5. Working backwards

Productive people always focus on those activities that will take them to the next level. They plan backwards, they look at their goals, then identify the tasks they need to do to support those goals. Those tasks get broken down into weekly actions. That’s how they plan.

Don’t only plan on tasks that come in or those which you ‘feel’ or ‘think’ you should be doing. Your day needs to consist of at least one activity that directly supports your longer term objectives, your big project. What sounds like common sense is definitely not common practice.

Create the right habits to achieve your goals, work on adopting easy tips and techniques so you can manage your time and yourself better to get things done.

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You Need to Grow Your Memory in Order to Grow Your Life

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We all have access to the most powerful computer ever created in the universe…our brain. Unfortunately, few of us have ever been taught how to use our minds efficiently, and even fewer have learned how to develop a fabulous memory. Thankfully, like any skill, memorising can be learned and using the correct strategies, your memory can be improved in only days.

One of the best coaches on memory is Dominic O’Brien the eight-time world memory champion. Self-taught after watching Creighton Carvello memorise a pack of cards on the BBC’s Record Breakers programme. Dominic, through his work on memory, has given us many tools and techniques for improving memory.

Below are 5 rules that will help you develop a better memory:

1. The Rule of Five

Probably seen as one of the most significant contributions to the body of knowledge on memory is O’Brien’s Rule of Five. This rule details how to remember things using a strategy of regular staged repetition.

These stages are as follows:

  • First Review:Immediately
  • Second Review:Twenty-four hours later
  • Third Review:One week later
  • Fourth Review:One month later
  • Fifth Review:Three months later

Utilising stage repetition at these intervals ingrains the memory for the long term.

2. The Dominic System

The Dominic System is a system for remembering numbers. The system is a Person Action system where the association between two sets of paired numbers is the person with the action of the next person.

1139 would become Andre Agassi doing a roundhouse kick which is the action of Chuck Norris. This system combined with the journey method allows for long random numbers to be easily recalled without error. The fantastic thing about this system is that you get to customise for yourself with memorable people and unique actions which when combined really make it easy for you to recall numbers. The table below associates each number to a letter.

Number     0     1    2     3     4     5     6     7     8     9
Letter     O     A     B     C     D    E     S     G     H     N

Creating a simple document with pairs of numbers in one column, the letter pairs in the next and an action column will help you learn this system quickly.

“Nothing can substitute for just plain hard work. I had to put in the time to get back. And it was a grind. It meant training and sweating every day. But I was completely committed to working out to prove to myself that I still could do it.” – Andre Agassi

3. The Link Method

This method relies on two essential elements of memory, association and exaggeration. Utilising these two elements, it is possible to link together unrelated objects to allow you to remember them.

Trying to remember a list of five separate words such as: balloon, papaya, gold, football and hat, might go something like this. You imagine seeing a giant balloon and inside the balloon you can see a small papaya, in bursting the balloon the papaya falls out and as it hits the floor a gold football bounces into a large sombrero.

4. The Journey Method

Using location has been a fundamental part of mnemonics almost since time began. Before humans, writing elders would pass knowledge to others using stories of journeys, with each piece of knowledge being associated with a location on the journey.

O’Brien’s system utilises journeys that you would undertake on a daily basis, like your commute to work or train stations on well-known line. Items are then associated and exaggerated along the journey, so for instance if you were trying to remember a list of ten random things you would associate each piece along with a unique ten stop journey and utilise exaggeration to make the items more memorable.

“You are well equipped with an incredible potential for absorbing knowledge…Anything’s possible.” – Dominic O’Brien

5. The Story Method

To remember groups of information, create a story that links them together. Remembering the planets of the solar system and their position relative to the Sun, Mercury, Venus, Earth, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus and Neptune.

Imagine that Mercury was hitting the nineties as Venus tossed the tennis ball into the air, striking the ball it soared over the net striking the earth and bouncing high into the air, knocking the mars bar out of Jupiter’s hand, and so on.

Developing a good memory will assist markedly in all of your personal development goals as well as assisting greatly in your daily life. The methods above are tried and tested by one of the leading memory champions. Whether you want to become the next World Memory Champion or just improve your recall, the techniques outlined above will assist greatly.

Combining the various elements will create an exponential improvement in your memory that you will find hard to believe, and you will be kicking yourself for not applying them sooner. The best part about using these methods is that they are fun, so enjoy using them.

Which one of these memorizing methods sounds most interesting to you? Share with us below!

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