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Coaching Yourself Into Success: 3 Mindful Points That Accelerate Results




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Coaching yourself through your day is an outstanding way to dramatically improve your results. Of course, all types of coaching are good, but getting high-power coaching from top coaches is incredibly good and can take things beyond your wildest expectations. However, having coaches like that with you, constantly checking your mindset throughout your day, is either going to be hugely inconvenient for your work and relationships.

This is where mindfulness and coaching blend together to form an amazing route to success. Naturally, being mindful is good because it keeps your thoughts in check and helps you overcome certain challenges within your mind. 

Mindful Coaching Through The NLP Cartesian Coordinates For Growth And Success

Within NLP, cartesian coordinates bring an outstanding way of busting through limiting beliefs, procrastination, and things you’re holding yourself back from. They’re also incredibly simple to use. Ask yourself the following four questions:

  • What wouldn’t happen if I did?
  • What would happen if I did?
  • What would happen if I didn’t?
  • What wouldn’t happen if I didn’t?

Regardless of what you’re holding back from, these four questions can bring a huge amount of insight which quite often shocks the coaching clients I work with when they encounter them.

NLP’s cartesian coordinates expose a totally new set of information which few people are actually aware of. Consequently, they make decisions based on incomplete data, often leading to outcomes they wished to avoid. In exposing that extra information in a mindful way, you can then coach yourself into far better decisions which can put a rocket under your success building efforts.

As such, these are some of the coaching techniques which most coaches would likely prefer kept secret. Personally I think cartesian coordinates and the value they yield are too valuable to keep a secret.

“Free your expectation of the future from the grip of past failure.” – John Seymour

Coaching Through The Wider Mindful Success Impact Paradigm

Success impact is something most people rarely think about. What most people do is set a goal and achieve it. We all have experiences of successfully achieving goals which have some unintended negative impact on others and backlash which comes as a result. This can detract from that success or can nullify it completely. 

Another great NLP technique comes in the shape of what is effectively a success impact paradigm. That is, understanding the wider impact of successfully achieving your goals. Naturally, you know of how goal achievement is going to impact you. This NLP technique looks at whether that goal achievement is ethically good for others around you, and then for the wider world too.

The intent with this is developing goals that are going to bring positive impact on all levels for yourself, others, and the wider world. Coaching yourself through this can help you accomplish your goals in a way which makes them far easier to achieve because they also bring wider support from others who will benefit.

With every goal, dream, and even smaller things like business decisions, applying this success impact paradigm will help you develop greater success. 

Coaching Yourself Into Mindfully Letting Go And Moving On For Faster Success

Dragging baggage from the past through the present and into the future is one of the worst things people can do. Being able to let go of the past is a wise habit to coach yourself into.

Truly letting go of the past is a mindset condition that coaching yourself into can bring incredible benefits. The decisiveness of only accepting and keeping positive benefit driven things in your life leverages your ability to generate success.

This does require a fairly disciplined level of mindfulness along with discipline when coaching yourself through deciding what is worth keeping and what you need to let go. 

Think of hoarders, the clutter they have, and how it affects their space. Then think of feng shui, clean flowing energy which focuses in with ease, allowing positive feeling and success to come with greater ease. This psychological process of letting go, through all the mental and emotional baggage you accumulate, brings success and happiness with far greater ease. 

Just think of how much energy and strength it takes to move in one direction, when you’re being pulled in a different one. It puts you under strain and forces you to focus harder. Yet, when you have nothing pulling you off course, your energy and focus aligns in a pure way which brings far easier results. 

“The mind moves in the direction of our currently dominating thought.” – Earl Nightingale

Coaching Yourself Into Mindful Alignment So That Dreams And Goals Come Through Successfully And With Ease

Alignment is key to everything where energy is concerned. When working on successful achievement of goals and dreams, that alignment taken to the core of your mindset is what brings the best results in the most time efficient way. 

Incorporating everything we spoke about above into your daily habits can massively transform your ability to achieve success. Having worked with them for well over a decade, I can happily testify to the difference they make. I know when I stop using them, I have far more challenges. 

Coaching yourself into success, streamlining your mindset, and aligning with positive psychology makes your journey far easier and enjoyable. Getting quality coaching that uproots deep issues is worthwhile, and for when you are unable to have your coach with you 24/7, these mindful points used in self coaching help you gain amazing breakthroughs.

How do you coach yourself and make sure you’re on the path to success? Share your thoughts with us below!

Stephen Frost is a coach and personal development expert who helps people revolutionize their lives and businesses. He is the founder of Surging Life as well as the founder of Online Coaching Coach, author of the bestselling book ‘Life Unleashed’ and working on his vision of changing the lives of 1 billion people worldwide.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not




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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch




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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance




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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show




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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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