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Attention: Here’s the Lazy Guide to Improving Your Willpower

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Ever felt helpless before? When you know you’re doing the wrong thing but you can`t keep off it. Alcohol, drugs, food, laziness and tens of hours wasted on meaningless things. You know you should stop, but you can`t.

Broken promises, missed opportunities, and low self esteem all are by products of low self control. But, what if you could flip this indecisiveness and helplessness upside down and double your willpower with simple, applicable steps?

Well, it is possible. All you need is a strategy to multiply your willpower even by 10% and every impossible will become possible. How?

Use the following 7 tested, super-helpful tips:

1. Get a rule book

A rule book is notebook or a Word file where you collect the advice you want to follow. The notes you take about life and the quotes you wish to live by. Leonardo Da Vinci used this technique to boost both his creativity and self discipline leaving more than 7,000 pages full of quotes, affirmations and analysis of mistakes he made and wanted to fix.

To boost willpower spend ten minutes each morning revising and memorizing the rules you`ve freely chosen to live by and collected in your book. Soon you’ll start altering your behaviors to better ones without relying much on willpower

2. Focus on one thing

Narrow your focus as much as possible and work on only one big goal at a time, Bruce Lee was correct when he said, “the successful warrior is just an average man with a laser-like focus.”

In one study, researchers found that college students who tried to chase new goals, quit bad habits or learn new skills during the exam period, not just failed at their quest, but also did badly academically. When they were supposed to study hard they highlighted a notable drop in willpower and a strong desire to waste time, eat, and drink more.  Worse, they almost lost the desire to study.

The takeaway? Focus on one big goal and dedicate all your resources towards achieving it (including your dreams and money). By doing this you’ll harness all your powers in one place and it will be much easier for you to stay persistent at difficult times rather instead of spreading yourself too thin.

“The successful warrior is just an average man with a laser-like focus.” – Bruce Lee

3. Gradually toughen up

Even the smallest act of persistence done consistently will affect your willpower in the long run. In one study, two weeks of working on their posture increased the willpower of a group of participants who saw themselves become more punctual all from a simple act of self-discipline repeated frequently.

So what to do? Find something that will slightly test your willpower, and make a habit out of it. Spend 10 seconds under cold water whenever you finish a hot bath, ditch the elevator when going to work, wait half a minute before eating delicious meals, or do 10-20 pushups every morning. Small, yet consistent, habits like these will help make you tougher on the long term.

4. Eat and sleep for a stronger mind

Don’t neglect the effect of bad sleeping and eating habits on your willpower. In one study, researchers found that the decisions made by judges in parole courts were significantly influenced by how hungry/filled a judge is. Judges were 65% more likely to release a criminal on parole either early in the morning after breakfast or later after lunch breaks.

Neuroscientists also found that adults with inconsistent bedtimes lack proper persistence, lose focus frequently, make sloppy decisions and react emotionally to stressful situations. The takeaway? Eat enough calories, don’t make critical decisions on an empty stomach, and sleep between 7-9 hours at night to avoid wrecking your willpower.

5. Get reckless

When a ceramic professor chose to play the quality-VS-quantity game with his students, he found that those who were asked to deliver X pounds of pots by the end of the semester not only met their target, but their pots looked much better than those of their peers who were asked to deliver just one perfectly looking piece to get an A.

What does this mean? The first step to learn any skill is focusing on how often, rather than how well, you practice this skill.  Rather than seeing yourself as a loser who can’t learn anything (which kills self-esteem), aim to practice for X minutes/hours each day for several weeks before judging yourself. You will do well, and the little perfectionist inside you will no longer harm you.

“I’ve never been reckless – it’s always calculated. I’m mischievous, but I’m calculated.” – Drake

6. Be productive for short periods

All frustrations come when it has been 4 or 5 hours since you woke up and you realize you’ve done nothing important.

If you chronically procrastinate and need a smooth slide into productivity then keep every ounce of focus you have on maintaining two hours of focused work every work day. No matter how “weak” you think you are, you still can work 1 or 2 hours straight without distractions or checking your phone.

Get a calendar and mark each day you stick to this habit. Within 3-4 weeks your productivity will pop up, guaranteed.

7. Distract and schedule

There are two great techniques for tricking your mind to persist when needed. The first one is to use distractions to keep your mind off temptations and short-lived gratifications. In the famous marshmallow experiment done by Stanford, the kids scoring high on willpower used napping and toys to stay candy-free until the end of the experiment.

The second one is to schedule what can’t be done right away. If you can’t do something right now, schedule it and don`t think about until its time comes. Develop this skill and you will exceptionally limit that inner voice urging you to procrastinate.

Are these tips helpful in improving your willpower? Please leave your thoughts below!

Image courtesy of Twenty20.com.

Marwan Jamal is a fitness and health blogger at healthline.com. He’s a great fan of the gym and a healthy diet. He follows the trends in fitness, gym, and healthy life and loves to share his knowledge through useful and informative articles.

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9 Harsh Truths Every Young Man Must Face to Succeed in the Modern World

Before chasing success, every young man needs to face these 9 brutal realities shaping masculinity in the modern world.

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Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.

Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”

But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.

Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.

Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.

1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse

As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.

Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.

Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:

  • Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.

  • Read quality literature in your free time.

  • Nurture a strong relationship with your family.

  • Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.

  • Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.

The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.

2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay

You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.

If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.

3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome

Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.

You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.

The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.

4. Rejection Is Never Personal

Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.

Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.

5. Women Value Comfort and Security

Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.

Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.

Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.

6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons

A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.

Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.

Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.

7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form

Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.

It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.

If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.

8. Teaching Is Leadership in Disguise

Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.

Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.

Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.

9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams

One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.

That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.

Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.

Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.

Final Thoughts

The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.

Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.

Because at the end of the day, success isn’t about luck. It’s about who you become when life tests you the most.

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Work-Life Balance Isn’t a Myth: Here’s How to Actually Make It Happen

Work stress doesn’t have to win, here’s how to protect your peace and thrive in any workplace.

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Starting a new job often comes with excitement and ambition. Yet, beneath that initial enthusiasm, many employees quickly encounter the reality of workplace challenges, especially stress. (more…)

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Most people chase success only to find emptiness, this model reveals why true happiness lies somewhere else.

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11 Mark Manson Lessons That’ll Redefine Success in the Digital Age

Success in the digital age isn’t about hacks, it’s about the raw, real lessons Mark Manson actually lives by.

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