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8 Fundamentals For Developing Mental Strength

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Mental strength is the most important quality any entrepreneur, businessman, or human being for that matter, can possess. Without it everything is difficult, happiness is evasive and life is mostly confusing.

Your capacity to view things in a way that allows you to be positive and enthusiastic, regardless of your setbacks or the challenges you face, can be the defining characteristic between merely getting by in life and achieving true success.

I am a firm believer that anything in life worth having can be obtained through specific and direct effort towards its attainment, and creating mental strength is no exception. Building mental strength will be vital to your success. Below, I have listed a few ways to develop your mental strength.

Here are 8 tips for creating mental strength:

1. Find the positive within every situation

Say you’re twelve months into your first start up. You’ve poured all of your savings into this venture and worked tirelessly day and night in an attempt to build your business and work towards making a profit. Unfortunately things haven’t gone to plan. Your product isn’t selling as well as expected and your consumers just aren’t taking to it as well as you’d hoped.

Right now you have two choices: You could get angry at your customers for not taking to the fantastic product you’ve created, and tell yourself that things just aren’t going to work out for you and your business or you could seek the positive in the situation by using it as an opportunity to learn what your consumers dislike about your product and how you can improve it to better suit their needs.

Seeking to uncover the good amongst the bad in your life is an important and necessary skill to have when developing your mental capacity, and not to mention you’ll be more content and happy when you do.

 

2. Read books. Lots of them

What better way to learn to enhance your mental strength than to learn from the experiences of mentally strong people. If you want to accelerate your progress, read, read and read some more. Why bother spending your whole life figuring things out through trial and error when you can learn lessons from those who have travelled before you?

Here are 5 great books for improving your mental strength:

 

3. View failure as a prerequisite to success

Failure is merely an opportunity to learn so that you can do better the next time. Nobody is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, and you will fail at many things before you die. Being mentally strong means viewing failure not as the end, but merely a stepping stone on the way to achieving your goals. When you fail, learn the lesson and move on.

“It is common sense to take a method and try it. If it fails, admit it frankly and try another.” – Franklin D Roosevelt

4. Learn to be present

Most people spend the majority of their lives either reflecting on the past or fearing what the future might hold. Being in this mental state is dangerous as we’re rarely satisfied with what we’ve achieved or where our lives are at currently. This forces us to dwell on the past and live within our dreams for what we want tomorrow, instead of focusing on living our lives today.

Try taking up Yoga, learning to meditate and simply try and focus on the ‘now’ and restrain your mind from wandering from the task at hand. This means staying off your phone while having a conversation with someone, and focusing intently on your duties throughout the day.

 

5. Take responsibility for everything that happens to you

We all know of the salesmen who blames the economy, his environment, his employer and anything but his own work output for not achieving his targets. The under developed mind has a tendency to look elsewhere when things go wrong, instead of looking inside for the reason for it’s failure.

One of the most important steps when working towards creating mental strength is to take responsibility for every outcome in your life. Don’t blame anyone or anything. Work out what you could have done better, learn from it, and make better decisions in the future. It is not until we learn to accept complete responsibility for the outcomes in our life that we can expect to come close to achieving our mental potential.

 

6. Realize that regardless of where you’re at in your life, you can always learn something new

To develop a strong mind, you have to have an open mind. Regardless of your position or experience you can always learn something new. Make an effort to network and meet new people, and seek to learn everything you can from whom you come into contact with. Never be so confident in your own knowledge that you are ignorant to learning new things or understanding different perspectives and points of view.

Make an effort to ask questions to whom you come into contact with, seek to view the world from their point of view, and be open to new perspectives. An open mind and a fierce desire for continuous education is a prerequisite to building mental strength.

 

7. Exercise and eat well

Creating a peak metal state is impossible without caring for your physical self. Your brain’s capacity is greatly increased when you exercise regularly and consume nutrient dense, high quality foods.

Mild dehydration or simple nutrient deficiencies developed through not consuming the foods your brain and body requires can lead to headaches, poor attention and ‘cloudy brain’, just to name a few. Not the characteristics you’re looking for when striving to develop mental strength. Think of it like this – do you think a high performance motor vehicle is going to perform to its capacity when it’s filled with poor quality fuel? I think you get the picture.

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.” – Jim Rohn

8. Learn the art of resilience

Without a resilient mental fortitude, huge success stories such as Starbucks, Harry Potter and Disney would be non existent. You’ll find it common practice for those who achieve great things to suffer through adversity, failure and setbacks in order to become successful. Your ability to be resilient and to never give up, regardless of the obstacle or challenge in your way is not only important, it is absolutely necessary to build your mental strength and achieve anything worthwhile in your life.

Instead of viewing failure and adversity as a hindrance to your efforts, expect it, plan for it, and make the best of every situation.

Which one of these do you think is most important and why? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Owen Hone is the creator and author of Evolve By O.H. He writes engaging content, designed to educate and inspire his readers to develop their body and mind synergistically, in order to achieve their potential in life. He has a passion for self development and pushing his body and mind to the limit, and enjoys travel, sports and good coffee! Feel free to connect with him on Facebook.

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  1. ezekiel damilola

    Mar 27, 2016 at 1:53 pm

    I think it’s the “fundamental 2” that talks about reading coz I see it as the finest way to develop the mind. It equally affords an individual the privilege of connecting most time with people he or she usually cannot or may not meet in person.

  2. Syed Aslam

    Jan 10, 2016 at 1:07 pm

    It’s really all good points. Thanks for the post.

  3. Jim Carlén

    Jan 10, 2016 at 12:38 am

    Really good, I did connect with it a a lot! I will share it at my blog tomorrow! =)

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 11, 2016 at 1:19 am

      Thanks Jim, and I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  4. S K Jain

    Jan 9, 2016 at 5:32 am

    Nice article. Addicted2Success seems to be a modern version of Dale Carnegie!

  5. Joel S

    Jan 5, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    Great article. It reminded me of of several core concepts that I’ve let slip from the forefront of my mind, where they belong! My only question is: What would you recommend doing to maintain a positive state of mind? Do you have any daily rituals, practices, or mental exercises you do? Thanks!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 6, 2016 at 8:41 pm

      Hey Joel! I’m glad you enjoyed it. Something that works really well for me, is that whenever I’m faced with a difficult situation, I say to myself “If you can’t control the situation, control your reaction to it”. The most important component of mental strength is realizing that you have the power to choose your reaction to every situation. Always try and seek the positive in the situation. If you look hard enough, you’ll always find it.

      I have recently starting trying my hand at meditating, which I have found really beneficial. If you’re new to it, try using the ‘Headspace’ app. Hope this helps. – Owen.

  6. Paul Damson Mwanelo

    Jan 3, 2016 at 3:34 pm

    Hello Owen! Let me say that you have done a commendable job with such a superb article.I have really enjoyed reading through it.I am really eager to try my best to find the books you listed above so that I can improve my mental strength if possible because I am not sure I will get them in bookshops here in Malawi.But I am willing to have them.Once again thanks for your unbeatable and great article!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 4, 2016 at 2:23 am

      Hey Paul! Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate the positive feedback! Unfortunately I am not sure where you could get your hands on these books in Malawi, although it might be possible to purchase an e-book version off Amazon.com? I hope you are able to get your hands on them, they will certainly help! Seeing that you liked this post, feel free to check out some of my other content on my personal site, evovlebyoh.com – Cheers!

  7. Usman Mahmood

    Jan 2, 2016 at 12:06 pm

    Great article and love all the points.

    The one that I feel connected to the most is point number 4 learning to be in the present. In life we have to control our mental state on a daily and likewise it is dangerous to be doubtful of what may happen. Eliminating such thoughts will help one be more appreciative of life because there are people in the world that are in more difficult situations than yourself. The best a person can do is try their hardest and any failure should be seen as a learning experience and another step to success. It also leads to a person being more happier; disciplined, goal orientated and optimistic.

    Never Give up!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 3, 2016 at 5:16 am

      Thanks Usman, I appreciate the feedback! You provide some great insight.

  8. Owen

    Jan 1, 2016 at 6:17 am

    Thanks for the feedback gentlemen. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. All the best to you in the new year!

  9. Douglas

    Jan 1, 2016 at 2:57 am

    Thank you sincerely from my heart for sharing this article ^^

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      You’re welcome Douglas. All the best to you mate!

  10. Lawrence Berry

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:39 am

    Learning mental strength is a valuable tool that can help you be more successful and ultimately happier in life. When you are mentally strong, you have the power to be more optimistic and more self-disciplined, two characteristics vital to success and happiness. I love the tips you have given here and learning to see the positives in everything, including failure is one of my favorites on the list. I also use meditation to help me as well.

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:19 pm

      So true Lawrence. Mental strength gives you the power to create your own happiness and success, specific to you and your own goals. I have only just recently started meditating and have found it very useful, if you have any tips feel free to share. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Cheers!

  11. Owen Hone

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:28 am

    Thanks

  12. Tim Denning

    Dec 31, 2015 at 10:51 pm

    Great article Owen and perfect advice for the New Year!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 1:24 am

      Thanks Tim, glad you enjoyed it!

  13. George

    Dec 31, 2015 at 9:42 pm

    All excellent pointers heading into 2016 … thanks!

    • Owen

      Dec 31, 2015 at 10:10 pm

      Thanks George, I’m glad you enjoyed the post! All the best to you in the new year. – Owen

  14. Jean-Paul Blommaert

    Dec 31, 2015 at 2:18 pm

    Great post. Definitely gonna read more about Mr Maxwell. I like nr 5. I would say and take it even a bit further is that never really “happens to us” we are all creating and attracting it with the thoughts & emotions we hold in our subconscious mind!

    • Owen Hone

      Dec 31, 2015 at 5:17 pm

      Thanks for your feedback Jean-Paul. I’m glad you enjoyed the post!

      I agree with you 100% – what we think and feel eventually becomes reality. All the best to you in the New Year! Owen

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How to Use the “Small Victories” Method to Avoid Burning Out

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Have you had a goal you begin to work toward only to run out of steam? Do you know what you need to do to get to where you want to be, but the necessary work feels overwhelming? “Small Victories” is the method to eliminate procrastination, dramatically increase productivity, and to make every part of the process not just bearable, but fun.

The journey from novice to rockstar is filled with a thousand small victories. Each victory increases your skill, your confidence, your positive expectation, and is ultimately the only way to really do something truly great.

Imagine you have a band in which everything was fun- fun to practice, fun to get together and create. The first victory was writing your first song. Afterwards, some friends come to watch you practice, and they cheer you on giving you another boost. Then you play your first show, do your first band photoshoot, and create a band website. After all this hard work, you record your first song as a band, have your first major show, your first tour, and develop the best thing so far which are your first true fans.

Each victory gives you the energy to get to the next victory

If you told the kid, it was going to take ten years of work to get to the end goal, without celebrating the small important victories in between, it would be illogical for any human to hunker down and work 10 years to get there. So how is this relevant? When starting a business or following your dream, incentivizing yourself with small victories will make you far more likely to make you continue on to your end goal. Without it, your willpower only lasts so long.

The small victories are the positive fuel to make it to the next milestone. You create small victories by finding a way to interact with people as a way to have an impact even if it’s small. For example, when people try to start businesses, often they try to get everything together before selling their first product. It could be months or years of work before they are at the level of their competition.

I am a series of small victories and large defeats and I am as amazed as any other that I have gotten from there to here. Charles Bukowski

Say you’re creating a bakery, it could be a year before anyone tried your first baked good if you go the traditional brick and mortar route without any small victories. This comes with great financial cost and energy. You also lose out on the opportunity to improve your craft, your products, your image and your connections with others who can take your business to greater heights.

However, if you go with the method of small victories instead, you would start by creating a cult following amongst friends and family with your decadent treats. Next, you would bake them at home and sell them at local events, farmers markets, and maybe even at local businesses. This can give you the opportunity to create a strong local and social media following well before the opening of your first actual store.

Work and effort without small victories lead to burnout

We need to build rewards along the way into our endeavors, because this provides encouragement to keep going. Each moment is a separate gift, an experience where something was fulfilled, where something was accomplished, no matter how small, and being a recluse until the grand unveiling will have so many missed opportunities along the way.

Small victories are also an opportunity to develop your skills, get feedback – positive or constructive – and considerably increase opportunities. Small victories increase your credibility by showing a track record and the trajectory you’re on by increasing your ability to attract investors and partners.

“Success is rarely the result of one swell swoop, but more often the culmination of many, many small victories.” – Joseph M. Marshall III

The idea of celebrating small victories can be applied to any subject. In weight loss, for instance, seeing pounds melt away will give you the positive mindset to continue and even improve the choices you make to enhance your physique. Sharing your success with others will bring in the element of positive encouragement. It can also motivate others to come with you on the journey. Your small victories can inspire others to start their own journey.

What small victory did you achieve today which will bring you a step closer to your goals? Let us know below!

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Setting Up Your Mindset to Win: How to Achieve Success in Your Life and Career

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How did Usain Bolt become so successful? He seems superhuman, doesn’t he? Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Paul Bocuse… all these people have something special in them. They became the stars in their niche. Have you ever wondered why? No, they do not have any superhuman capacity. They are simple people, just like you and I. They, too, had flaws. Their mindset, however, is what set them apart. If you want to win in your career and in life, generally, you need the mindset of a winner. You have to think like a true champion, so you’ll overcome your flaws and emphasize your strengths.

So how do you set the mindset to win? Here are 5 suggestions to get you started:

1. When You Can’t Achieve a Goal, Get Help

Have you heard of Paul Bocuse? He was one of the most famous chefs of his time, and he was named as the chef of the century. This is a good example of the point we’re about to make. Even the best are not almighty, they have to learn from someone. Paul Bocuse learned from another famous chef. He constantly worked to improve his skills and he learned along the way.

The lesson is: you cannot do everything on your own. This is the first thing you have to do: learn and find the right person to learn from. Are there any books by the champions of your chosen niche? Get them and read them. Can you get a mentor? Of course, you can! Start connecting with people on LinkedIn. Your alumni network is a great source of mentorship opportunities, too. Don’t be afraid to reach out and say that you want to learn from someone.   

“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Work on Your Resilience

Here’s the most important life lesson you’ll ever learn: things don’t always go as expected. When you strive towards a particular goal, the chances of failure are real. When Usain Bolt started training, he wasn’t the fastest man on Earth. He worked towards that goal and he was resilient enough to go through all the obstacles he faced. We couldn’t possibly assume that such success came easily for him.

The journey towards a successful life is not a straight line, it’s a bumpy road full of difficulties and setbacks. The average person would give up along the way, but a champion would stay resilient. It’s the mindset that makes a true difference. The good news is that the more obstacles you overcome, the more resilient you become.

3. Focus

What do you want in your career and in your life? This is not something that can go with the flow. You cannot simply live your life one random day after another and expect great things to come your way. You have to focus on particular goals and work your way up there.

Ken Chenault, CEO of American Express, has a nice tip for everyone who wants to become successful: “Dedicate yourself to a core set of values. Without them, you will never be able to find personal fulfillment, and you will never be able to lead effectively.”

Simple and straight to the point, right? So set your goals! Find that major goal you want to achieve and break it up into smaller achievements. Then, start accomplishing things on a daily basis. You need to devote your life to achieving that goal.

4. Be Bold

Steve Jobs wasn’t focused on getting an average job, achieving average results and living an average life. He had big dreams and bold goals. All successful people have something in common at the starting point, a bold dream. Being afraid to dream big is a huge mistake. Set your imagination free! What’s the biggest thing you’d like to achieve? If you believe in yourself and you start working towards that goal one day after another, you’ll unlock your true potential. You’ll realize that not many things are impossible. You can achieve much more than you believe you’re capable of.

“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” – Steve Jobs

5. If You Fall, Get Back Up

Have you ever wondered why Richard Branson became so successful? The answer is simple: never gave up, no matter what hardships he faced. His first company didn’t make money. The test flight of Virgin Atlantic Airlines almost crashed because of a flock of birds. Virgin Cola, his soda company, failed miserably. He almost got himself killed during his trip around the world. Richard Branson has done many things, but do you know what he never did? Give up. No matter how serious the failure was, he always found the strength to get back up on his feet and carry on with life. That’s the mindset of a champion!

Never allow yourself to get disappointed from failure. Do not fall back into average just because your big dream doesn’t seem to be working. Failure is not a big deal. It’s just part of the journey, and everyone has to face it. If you carry on, you’ll find success along the way.

So you want to be a champion? You better start working towards that goal without wasting any time. The first step is changing your mindset. Hopefully, the tips above inspired you to do that.

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3 Important Principles You Need to Know That All Billionaires Have in Common

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I’ve always been highly interested in the similarities amongst the world’s wealthiest. Their habits, successes, mindset, and failures have fascinated me. The journey to great prosperity can seem overwhelming, but if you apply success principles to any endeavor you can quickly and efficiently overcome challenges and expand.

Michael J. Gabrielli, founder of WeRunAds, has spent hundreds of hours and tens of thousands of dollars studying billionaires and their habits. Michael has also studied over 2000 different billionaires and from this experience he’s found three principles they all had in common.

Here are the 3 principles the billionaires all had in common:

1. Be in a rapid growth industry at the right time

Timing is so important. Billionaires know when the time is right to enter a market. Most billionaires do not enter first or second into a market because of the inherent risks involved. Many billionaires let the pioneers pave the way and then leverage the knowledge gained to innovate and optimize in order to create something that works.

The key is to find an industry that is soon to take off. Stepping in at the right time is important. Let’s take a real life example that is known all too well– the founder and CEO of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg. When he entered the scene, the idea of a social network was moderately known, but it was still not quite predicted to be the monster it is today.

Others like Friendster, Myspace, etc. had made some headway into this fledgeling industry and then Facebook entered leveraging the knowledge and expertise gained from the early pioneers. Zuckerberg saw the huge potential of social networking, took what was done previously and made it better.

He is presently worth over $66 Billion and the company has surpassed the 2 billion users mark with 1.4 billion using the platform daily. Not surprisingly, many billionaires were not the first to pioneer the industry they would later find success in. They came in at the right moment, learned from the mistakes and triumphs of their predecessors, and made a lasting final product.

Here’s a practical 3 question exercise you can do to judge if you have the right timing with your current venture:

  1. Look at your industry and say—is this brand new?
  2. Am I trying to invent something that doesn’t exist?
  3. Am I too late to the party?

2. Position yourself better

In addition to finding the right industry and getting in at the right time, billionaires position themselves in the best way. They provide the solution to the need and they think outside the box to do it. Optimal positioning is a commonality amongst billionaires. For example, during the California Gold Rush, people rushed to mine for the gold itself blinded by the promise of large profits.

However, it turned out that Sam Brannan had the better idea for how to position himself for success. He knew the chances of finding gold were risky, so instead he committed to a sure thing. He manufactured the tools that were needed by all the miners to mine gold. As each new miner migrated West, they were happily met by Brannan and his company who were ready and waiting to sell these new hopefuls the shovels and tools they’d need to strike it rich.

Digging for gold seemed to be the most profitable route, however, greater returns were yielded in the supplying of materials required to mine for gold! A good company that also illustrates this concept is Microsoft. They did not seek to create their own computer, but the software that computers would run on. Most people mistakenly think they have to “go for the gold” to attain wealth, but it’s evident in history that selling the necessary tools to the gold miners can be far more profitable.

The two questions you need to ask yourself to see how you could position yourself correctly are, “What industries will need the supplies that I could provide? And, “Am I following the trend instead of innovating?

“Big shots are only little shots that keep shooting. I can see your sun rise out of obscurity. Keep shooting” – Ikechukwu Joseph

3. Take calculated risks

Most people choose the safe bet that is secure, however, this is not common among billionaires. Billionaires take big calculated risks in order to propel themselves to higher levels of influence and success. The most important thing to note here is that while to others the risks seem big—to billionaires, they are calculated.Risk and Calculated Risk are not the same. Calculated risk is measured and well-thought-out. Risk is impulsive and immeasurable. Understanding the difference between the two is a commonality among billionaires. The world’s most prominent figures have at some point in their lives disagreed with the ordinary and took a shot at the unknown. Proper calculation and clever thinking certainly accompanied the bold moves they made in their careers.

Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks, is a great example of this. He had grown up in poverty and made his way out to earn a comfortable wage as an executive at a company that manufactured coffeemakers.

“Risk more than others think safe.” – Howard Schultz

He risked it all when he discovered a small coffee shop named “Starbucks” in Seattle that prompted him to quit his job and step out to create a company that was inspired by the Italian coffee culture and personal relationship people could have with their coffee.

Of the 242 people he spoke to, 217 said no to investing with him. Despite the discouragement, lack of agreement, and investment, Schultz kept pushing on. Fast forward to present time, and Starbucks’ is a massive success. Strong intuition and unshakeable belief is common among high achievers. Many successful billionaires risked their safe jobs, personal assets, and even their reputation to take calculated risks that they knew would pay off huge in the end.

The questions you need to ask yourself now are, “where can I take a calculated risk? Am I holding back when I should be going forward? What tangible steps can I take today to move forward?”

These 3 success principles are staple elements that are common among many billionaires. Now, there are more principles that you must discover and implement in order to become a billionaire. Work diligently and do all that can be done each day. Be inquisitive and study those that you wish to emulate.

Which one of these principles do you need to work on more this year? Let us know in the comments below!

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One Question You Must Answer to Ensure Personal Success

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I don’t believe in quick fixes, in get-rich-quick schemes, or any other system that guarantees instant success with only a modicum of effort. But, I do believe it’s possible to condense great strings of logical thought and intellectual algorithms into basics. I like to keep things simple! Many of my clients love the fact that I don’t overly complete things, and frankly, so do I! I like to ask simple questions whose answers can be had quickly but require some focus in obtaining the outcome.

Here’s the question I always ask: What is standing between your current reality (where you are now) and your ultimate vision (where you want to be)? Are the impediments psychological, physical, emotional or some other reason?

Until you answer what is causing the difference between your AS IS and your SHOULD BE, you will be stuck spinning your wheels in the mud and the muck of the former. This is an important question that requires a level of mental self-examination. And the answer to this question may require a lifetime of introspection. It is an important question to answer because if you know where you want to go that provides direction but examining why you are not there yet can provide momentum. (In other words, by answering the question it may get you there faster!)

“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston S. Churchill

It’s just like following a road map. A map is useless unless you know two things, where you are, and where you want to go. What might be stopping you (or at least slowing you down) from the ultimate destination of your passion and life’s fulfilment?

I’ve asked many people about this over the years and have heard these four reasons that keep people from moving forward.

1. Lack of vision

How do you plan to get there, if you don’t know where “there” is? The most difficult undertaking in the world is to sit quietly with a blank sheet of paper and chart out your life. I know, I have many blank sheets of paper to prove it. However, I also found out that it only takes one sheet, with a few well-crafted lines of thought to give you the direction you need. But you need to start!

2. Lack of goals

So, you know where you want to go, you just don’t know how to get there. The second hardest thing in the world is to have a sheet of paper with your ultimate destination on top, and the rest blank as you ask yourself, now what or how do I get to my vision? The process of functional decomposition means breaking down the larger process into steps that are both actionable and motivational. In other words, the steps are small enough to do and you remain motivated because they are so small.

“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn

3. You don’t believe you can get there

You want to, but there is a script running through your head telling you to go home, make some chicken soup and don’t leave the house until these foolish notions of greatness are gone. Think about it, your parents never did what you are trying to do, no one in your family has ever done it, you are far too old (or too young) to do that, you don’t have the right education…your rationalizing can go on for a lifetime! Here is my suggestion when it comes to running those self-deprecating scripts: STOP IT!

4. You are lazy

You won’t admit this to yourself, but perhaps you are just plain lazy. I’ve seen it so many times; individuals majoring in minors. Performing high fun, low payoff activities instead of the low fun, high payoff activities. (And, by the way, who ever said that a high payoff activity can’t be fun? There’s that darn script again.) As a species we are inclined to take the path of least resistance, but that path may not lead us to our vision, but you must admit, we are having a great time NOT moving toward our vision! Laziness is not “doing nothing.” It’s doing the wrong thing because that’s what you want to do, and, very often, we know it’s the wrong thing to do!

There you have the four possible things that might be holding you back from the realization of your vision. Are any of them hitting home? Answer this question before you move on:

What is standing between my current reality and my ultimate vision of success?

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How to Use the “Small Victories” Method to Avoid Burning Out

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Have you had a goal you begin to work toward only to run out of steam? Do you know what you need to do to get to where you want to be, but the necessary work feels overwhelming? “Small Victories” is the method to eliminate procrastination, dramatically increase productivity, and to make every part of the process not just bearable, but fun. (more…)

Zachariah Bourne is the Author of the upcoming book "Blissed Out". He’s a writer for Success Magazine and Huff Post and Co-Authors articles with Jacquelyn Denissoff. As a producer, songwriter and artist living in NYC, he uses music as a way to spread the message of positivity to the world. Follow him on Instagram or go check out his YouTube.

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  1. ezekiel damilola

    Mar 27, 2016 at 1:53 pm

    I think it’s the “fundamental 2” that talks about reading coz I see it as the finest way to develop the mind. It equally affords an individual the privilege of connecting most time with people he or she usually cannot or may not meet in person.

  2. Syed Aslam

    Jan 10, 2016 at 1:07 pm

    It’s really all good points. Thanks for the post.

  3. Jim Carlén

    Jan 10, 2016 at 12:38 am

    Really good, I did connect with it a a lot! I will share it at my blog tomorrow! =)

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 11, 2016 at 1:19 am

      Thanks Jim, and I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  4. S K Jain

    Jan 9, 2016 at 5:32 am

    Nice article. Addicted2Success seems to be a modern version of Dale Carnegie!

  5. Joel S

    Jan 5, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    Great article. It reminded me of of several core concepts that I’ve let slip from the forefront of my mind, where they belong! My only question is: What would you recommend doing to maintain a positive state of mind? Do you have any daily rituals, practices, or mental exercises you do? Thanks!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 6, 2016 at 8:41 pm

      Hey Joel! I’m glad you enjoyed it. Something that works really well for me, is that whenever I’m faced with a difficult situation, I say to myself “If you can’t control the situation, control your reaction to it”. The most important component of mental strength is realizing that you have the power to choose your reaction to every situation. Always try and seek the positive in the situation. If you look hard enough, you’ll always find it.

      I have recently starting trying my hand at meditating, which I have found really beneficial. If you’re new to it, try using the ‘Headspace’ app. Hope this helps. – Owen.

  6. Paul Damson Mwanelo

    Jan 3, 2016 at 3:34 pm

    Hello Owen! Let me say that you have done a commendable job with such a superb article.I have really enjoyed reading through it.I am really eager to try my best to find the books you listed above so that I can improve my mental strength if possible because I am not sure I will get them in bookshops here in Malawi.But I am willing to have them.Once again thanks for your unbeatable and great article!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 4, 2016 at 2:23 am

      Hey Paul! Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate the positive feedback! Unfortunately I am not sure where you could get your hands on these books in Malawi, although it might be possible to purchase an e-book version off Amazon.com? I hope you are able to get your hands on them, they will certainly help! Seeing that you liked this post, feel free to check out some of my other content on my personal site, evovlebyoh.com – Cheers!

  7. Usman Mahmood

    Jan 2, 2016 at 12:06 pm

    Great article and love all the points.

    The one that I feel connected to the most is point number 4 learning to be in the present. In life we have to control our mental state on a daily and likewise it is dangerous to be doubtful of what may happen. Eliminating such thoughts will help one be more appreciative of life because there are people in the world that are in more difficult situations than yourself. The best a person can do is try their hardest and any failure should be seen as a learning experience and another step to success. It also leads to a person being more happier; disciplined, goal orientated and optimistic.

    Never Give up!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 3, 2016 at 5:16 am

      Thanks Usman, I appreciate the feedback! You provide some great insight.

  8. Owen

    Jan 1, 2016 at 6:17 am

    Thanks for the feedback gentlemen. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. All the best to you in the new year!

  9. Douglas

    Jan 1, 2016 at 2:57 am

    Thank you sincerely from my heart for sharing this article ^^

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      You’re welcome Douglas. All the best to you mate!

  10. Lawrence Berry

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:39 am

    Learning mental strength is a valuable tool that can help you be more successful and ultimately happier in life. When you are mentally strong, you have the power to be more optimistic and more self-disciplined, two characteristics vital to success and happiness. I love the tips you have given here and learning to see the positives in everything, including failure is one of my favorites on the list. I also use meditation to help me as well.

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:19 pm

      So true Lawrence. Mental strength gives you the power to create your own happiness and success, specific to you and your own goals. I have only just recently started meditating and have found it very useful, if you have any tips feel free to share. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Cheers!

  11. Owen Hone

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:28 am

    Thanks

  12. Tim Denning

    Dec 31, 2015 at 10:51 pm

    Great article Owen and perfect advice for the New Year!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 1:24 am

      Thanks Tim, glad you enjoyed it!

  13. George

    Dec 31, 2015 at 9:42 pm

    All excellent pointers heading into 2016 … thanks!

    • Owen

      Dec 31, 2015 at 10:10 pm

      Thanks George, I’m glad you enjoyed the post! All the best to you in the new year. – Owen

  14. Jean-Paul Blommaert

    Dec 31, 2015 at 2:18 pm

    Great post. Definitely gonna read more about Mr Maxwell. I like nr 5. I would say and take it even a bit further is that never really “happens to us” we are all creating and attracting it with the thoughts & emotions we hold in our subconscious mind!

    • Owen Hone

      Dec 31, 2015 at 5:17 pm

      Thanks for your feedback Jean-Paul. I’m glad you enjoyed the post!

      I agree with you 100% – what we think and feel eventually becomes reality. All the best to you in the New Year! Owen

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How to Use the “Small Victories” Method to Avoid Burning Out

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Have you had a goal you begin to work toward only to run out of steam? Do you know what you need to do to get to where you want to be, but the necessary work feels overwhelming? “Small Victories” is the method to eliminate procrastination, dramatically increase productivity, and to make every part of the process not just bearable, but fun.

The journey from novice to rockstar is filled with a thousand small victories. Each victory increases your skill, your confidence, your positive expectation, and is ultimately the only way to really do something truly great.

Imagine you have a band in which everything was fun- fun to practice, fun to get together and create. The first victory was writing your first song. Afterwards, some friends come to watch you practice, and they cheer you on giving you another boost. Then you play your first show, do your first band photoshoot, and create a band website. After all this hard work, you record your first song as a band, have your first major show, your first tour, and develop the best thing so far which are your first true fans.

Each victory gives you the energy to get to the next victory

If you told the kid, it was going to take ten years of work to get to the end goal, without celebrating the small important victories in between, it would be illogical for any human to hunker down and work 10 years to get there. So how is this relevant? When starting a business or following your dream, incentivizing yourself with small victories will make you far more likely to make you continue on to your end goal. Without it, your willpower only lasts so long.

The small victories are the positive fuel to make it to the next milestone. You create small victories by finding a way to interact with people as a way to have an impact even if it’s small. For example, when people try to start businesses, often they try to get everything together before selling their first product. It could be months or years of work before they are at the level of their competition.

I am a series of small victories and large defeats and I am as amazed as any other that I have gotten from there to here. Charles Bukowski

Say you’re creating a bakery, it could be a year before anyone tried your first baked good if you go the traditional brick and mortar route without any small victories. This comes with great financial cost and energy. You also lose out on the opportunity to improve your craft, your products, your image and your connections with others who can take your business to greater heights.

However, if you go with the method of small victories instead, you would start by creating a cult following amongst friends and family with your decadent treats. Next, you would bake them at home and sell them at local events, farmers markets, and maybe even at local businesses. This can give you the opportunity to create a strong local and social media following well before the opening of your first actual store.

Work and effort without small victories lead to burnout

We need to build rewards along the way into our endeavors, because this provides encouragement to keep going. Each moment is a separate gift, an experience where something was fulfilled, where something was accomplished, no matter how small, and being a recluse until the grand unveiling will have so many missed opportunities along the way.

Small victories are also an opportunity to develop your skills, get feedback – positive or constructive – and considerably increase opportunities. Small victories increase your credibility by showing a track record and the trajectory you’re on by increasing your ability to attract investors and partners.

“Success is rarely the result of one swell swoop, but more often the culmination of many, many small victories.” – Joseph M. Marshall III

The idea of celebrating small victories can be applied to any subject. In weight loss, for instance, seeing pounds melt away will give you the positive mindset to continue and even improve the choices you make to enhance your physique. Sharing your success with others will bring in the element of positive encouragement. It can also motivate others to come with you on the journey. Your small victories can inspire others to start their own journey.

What small victory did you achieve today which will bring you a step closer to your goals? Let us know below!

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Setting Up Your Mindset to Win: How to Achieve Success in Your Life and Career

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How did Usain Bolt become so successful? He seems superhuman, doesn’t he? Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Paul Bocuse… all these people have something special in them. They became the stars in their niche. Have you ever wondered why? No, they do not have any superhuman capacity. They are simple people, just like you and I. They, too, had flaws. Their mindset, however, is what set them apart. If you want to win in your career and in life, generally, you need the mindset of a winner. You have to think like a true champion, so you’ll overcome your flaws and emphasize your strengths.

So how do you set the mindset to win? Here are 5 suggestions to get you started:

1. When You Can’t Achieve a Goal, Get Help

Have you heard of Paul Bocuse? He was one of the most famous chefs of his time, and he was named as the chef of the century. This is a good example of the point we’re about to make. Even the best are not almighty, they have to learn from someone. Paul Bocuse learned from another famous chef. He constantly worked to improve his skills and he learned along the way.

The lesson is: you cannot do everything on your own. This is the first thing you have to do: learn and find the right person to learn from. Are there any books by the champions of your chosen niche? Get them and read them. Can you get a mentor? Of course, you can! Start connecting with people on LinkedIn. Your alumni network is a great source of mentorship opportunities, too. Don’t be afraid to reach out and say that you want to learn from someone.   

“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Work on Your Resilience

Here’s the most important life lesson you’ll ever learn: things don’t always go as expected. When you strive towards a particular goal, the chances of failure are real. When Usain Bolt started training, he wasn’t the fastest man on Earth. He worked towards that goal and he was resilient enough to go through all the obstacles he faced. We couldn’t possibly assume that such success came easily for him.

The journey towards a successful life is not a straight line, it’s a bumpy road full of difficulties and setbacks. The average person would give up along the way, but a champion would stay resilient. It’s the mindset that makes a true difference. The good news is that the more obstacles you overcome, the more resilient you become.

3. Focus

What do you want in your career and in your life? This is not something that can go with the flow. You cannot simply live your life one random day after another and expect great things to come your way. You have to focus on particular goals and work your way up there.

Ken Chenault, CEO of American Express, has a nice tip for everyone who wants to become successful: “Dedicate yourself to a core set of values. Without them, you will never be able to find personal fulfillment, and you will never be able to lead effectively.”

Simple and straight to the point, right? So set your goals! Find that major goal you want to achieve and break it up into smaller achievements. Then, start accomplishing things on a daily basis. You need to devote your life to achieving that goal.

4. Be Bold

Steve Jobs wasn’t focused on getting an average job, achieving average results and living an average life. He had big dreams and bold goals. All successful people have something in common at the starting point, a bold dream. Being afraid to dream big is a huge mistake. Set your imagination free! What’s the biggest thing you’d like to achieve? If you believe in yourself and you start working towards that goal one day after another, you’ll unlock your true potential. You’ll realize that not many things are impossible. You can achieve much more than you believe you’re capable of.

“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” – Steve Jobs

5. If You Fall, Get Back Up

Have you ever wondered why Richard Branson became so successful? The answer is simple: never gave up, no matter what hardships he faced. His first company didn’t make money. The test flight of Virgin Atlantic Airlines almost crashed because of a flock of birds. Virgin Cola, his soda company, failed miserably. He almost got himself killed during his trip around the world. Richard Branson has done many things, but do you know what he never did? Give up. No matter how serious the failure was, he always found the strength to get back up on his feet and carry on with life. That’s the mindset of a champion!

Never allow yourself to get disappointed from failure. Do not fall back into average just because your big dream doesn’t seem to be working. Failure is not a big deal. It’s just part of the journey, and everyone has to face it. If you carry on, you’ll find success along the way.

So you want to be a champion? You better start working towards that goal without wasting any time. The first step is changing your mindset. Hopefully, the tips above inspired you to do that.

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3 Important Principles You Need to Know That All Billionaires Have in Common

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I’ve always been highly interested in the similarities amongst the world’s wealthiest. Their habits, successes, mindset, and failures have fascinated me. The journey to great prosperity can seem overwhelming, but if you apply success principles to any endeavor you can quickly and efficiently overcome challenges and expand.

Michael J. Gabrielli, founder of WeRunAds, has spent hundreds of hours and tens of thousands of dollars studying billionaires and their habits. Michael has also studied over 2000 different billionaires and from this experience he’s found three principles they all had in common.

Here are the 3 principles the billionaires all had in common:

1. Be in a rapid growth industry at the right time

Timing is so important. Billionaires know when the time is right to enter a market. Most billionaires do not enter first or second into a market because of the inherent risks involved. Many billionaires let the pioneers pave the way and then leverage the knowledge gained to innovate and optimize in order to create something that works.

The key is to find an industry that is soon to take off. Stepping in at the right time is important. Let’s take a real life example that is known all too well– the founder and CEO of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg. When he entered the scene, the idea of a social network was moderately known, but it was still not quite predicted to be the monster it is today.

Others like Friendster, Myspace, etc. had made some headway into this fledgeling industry and then Facebook entered leveraging the knowledge and expertise gained from the early pioneers. Zuckerberg saw the huge potential of social networking, took what was done previously and made it better.

He is presently worth over $66 Billion and the company has surpassed the 2 billion users mark with 1.4 billion using the platform daily. Not surprisingly, many billionaires were not the first to pioneer the industry they would later find success in. They came in at the right moment, learned from the mistakes and triumphs of their predecessors, and made a lasting final product.

Here’s a practical 3 question exercise you can do to judge if you have the right timing with your current venture:

  1. Look at your industry and say—is this brand new?
  2. Am I trying to invent something that doesn’t exist?
  3. Am I too late to the party?

2. Position yourself better

In addition to finding the right industry and getting in at the right time, billionaires position themselves in the best way. They provide the solution to the need and they think outside the box to do it. Optimal positioning is a commonality amongst billionaires. For example, during the California Gold Rush, people rushed to mine for the gold itself blinded by the promise of large profits.

However, it turned out that Sam Brannan had the better idea for how to position himself for success. He knew the chances of finding gold were risky, so instead he committed to a sure thing. He manufactured the tools that were needed by all the miners to mine gold. As each new miner migrated West, they were happily met by Brannan and his company who were ready and waiting to sell these new hopefuls the shovels and tools they’d need to strike it rich.

Digging for gold seemed to be the most profitable route, however, greater returns were yielded in the supplying of materials required to mine for gold! A good company that also illustrates this concept is Microsoft. They did not seek to create their own computer, but the software that computers would run on. Most people mistakenly think they have to “go for the gold” to attain wealth, but it’s evident in history that selling the necessary tools to the gold miners can be far more profitable.

The two questions you need to ask yourself to see how you could position yourself correctly are, “What industries will need the supplies that I could provide? And, “Am I following the trend instead of innovating?

“Big shots are only little shots that keep shooting. I can see your sun rise out of obscurity. Keep shooting” – Ikechukwu Joseph

3. Take calculated risks

Most people choose the safe bet that is secure, however, this is not common among billionaires. Billionaires take big calculated risks in order to propel themselves to higher levels of influence and success. The most important thing to note here is that while to others the risks seem big—to billionaires, they are calculated.Risk and Calculated Risk are not the same. Calculated risk is measured and well-thought-out. Risk is impulsive and immeasurable. Understanding the difference between the two is a commonality among billionaires. The world’s most prominent figures have at some point in their lives disagreed with the ordinary and took a shot at the unknown. Proper calculation and clever thinking certainly accompanied the bold moves they made in their careers.

Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks, is a great example of this. He had grown up in poverty and made his way out to earn a comfortable wage as an executive at a company that manufactured coffeemakers.

“Risk more than others think safe.” – Howard Schultz

He risked it all when he discovered a small coffee shop named “Starbucks” in Seattle that prompted him to quit his job and step out to create a company that was inspired by the Italian coffee culture and personal relationship people could have with their coffee.

Of the 242 people he spoke to, 217 said no to investing with him. Despite the discouragement, lack of agreement, and investment, Schultz kept pushing on. Fast forward to present time, and Starbucks’ is a massive success. Strong intuition and unshakeable belief is common among high achievers. Many successful billionaires risked their safe jobs, personal assets, and even their reputation to take calculated risks that they knew would pay off huge in the end.

The questions you need to ask yourself now are, “where can I take a calculated risk? Am I holding back when I should be going forward? What tangible steps can I take today to move forward?”

These 3 success principles are staple elements that are common among many billionaires. Now, there are more principles that you must discover and implement in order to become a billionaire. Work diligently and do all that can be done each day. Be inquisitive and study those that you wish to emulate.

Which one of these principles do you need to work on more this year? Let us know in the comments below!

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One Question You Must Answer to Ensure Personal Success

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I don’t believe in quick fixes, in get-rich-quick schemes, or any other system that guarantees instant success with only a modicum of effort. But, I do believe it’s possible to condense great strings of logical thought and intellectual algorithms into basics. I like to keep things simple! Many of my clients love the fact that I don’t overly complete things, and frankly, so do I! I like to ask simple questions whose answers can be had quickly but require some focus in obtaining the outcome.

Here’s the question I always ask: What is standing between your current reality (where you are now) and your ultimate vision (where you want to be)? Are the impediments psychological, physical, emotional or some other reason?

Until you answer what is causing the difference between your AS IS and your SHOULD BE, you will be stuck spinning your wheels in the mud and the muck of the former. This is an important question that requires a level of mental self-examination. And the answer to this question may require a lifetime of introspection. It is an important question to answer because if you know where you want to go that provides direction but examining why you are not there yet can provide momentum. (In other words, by answering the question it may get you there faster!)

“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston S. Churchill

It’s just like following a road map. A map is useless unless you know two things, where you are, and where you want to go. What might be stopping you (or at least slowing you down) from the ultimate destination of your passion and life’s fulfilment?

I’ve asked many people about this over the years and have heard these four reasons that keep people from moving forward.

1. Lack of vision

How do you plan to get there, if you don’t know where “there” is? The most difficult undertaking in the world is to sit quietly with a blank sheet of paper and chart out your life. I know, I have many blank sheets of paper to prove it. However, I also found out that it only takes one sheet, with a few well-crafted lines of thought to give you the direction you need. But you need to start!

2. Lack of goals

So, you know where you want to go, you just don’t know how to get there. The second hardest thing in the world is to have a sheet of paper with your ultimate destination on top, and the rest blank as you ask yourself, now what or how do I get to my vision? The process of functional decomposition means breaking down the larger process into steps that are both actionable and motivational. In other words, the steps are small enough to do and you remain motivated because they are so small.

“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn

3. You don’t believe you can get there

You want to, but there is a script running through your head telling you to go home, make some chicken soup and don’t leave the house until these foolish notions of greatness are gone. Think about it, your parents never did what you are trying to do, no one in your family has ever done it, you are far too old (or too young) to do that, you don’t have the right education…your rationalizing can go on for a lifetime! Here is my suggestion when it comes to running those self-deprecating scripts: STOP IT!

4. You are lazy

You won’t admit this to yourself, but perhaps you are just plain lazy. I’ve seen it so many times; individuals majoring in minors. Performing high fun, low payoff activities instead of the low fun, high payoff activities. (And, by the way, who ever said that a high payoff activity can’t be fun? There’s that darn script again.) As a species we are inclined to take the path of least resistance, but that path may not lead us to our vision, but you must admit, we are having a great time NOT moving toward our vision! Laziness is not “doing nothing.” It’s doing the wrong thing because that’s what you want to do, and, very often, we know it’s the wrong thing to do!

There you have the four possible things that might be holding you back from the realization of your vision. Are any of them hitting home? Answer this question before you move on:

What is standing between my current reality and my ultimate vision of success?

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