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8 Fundamentals For Developing Mental Strength

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Mental strength is the most important quality any entrepreneur, businessman, or human being for that matter, can possess. Without it everything is difficult, happiness is evasive and life is mostly confusing.

Your capacity to view things in a way that allows you to be positive and enthusiastic, regardless of your setbacks or the challenges you face, can be the defining characteristic between merely getting by in life and achieving true success.

I am a firm believer that anything in life worth having can be obtained through specific and direct effort towards its attainment, and creating mental strength is no exception. Building mental strength will be vital to your success. Below, I have listed a few ways to develop your mental strength.

Here are 8 tips for creating mental strength:

1. Find the positive within every situation

Say you’re twelve months into your first start up. You’ve poured all of your savings into this venture and worked tirelessly day and night in an attempt to build your business and work towards making a profit. Unfortunately things haven’t gone to plan. Your product isn’t selling as well as expected and your consumers just aren’t taking to it as well as you’d hoped.

Right now you have two choices: You could get angry at your customers for not taking to the fantastic product you’ve created, and tell yourself that things just aren’t going to work out for you and your business or you could seek the positive in the situation by using it as an opportunity to learn what your consumers dislike about your product and how you can improve it to better suit their needs.

Seeking to uncover the good amongst the bad in your life is an important and necessary skill to have when developing your mental capacity, and not to mention you’ll be more content and happy when you do.

 

2. Read books. Lots of them

What better way to learn to enhance your mental strength than to learn from the experiences of mentally strong people. If you want to accelerate your progress, read, read and read some more. Why bother spending your whole life figuring things out through trial and error when you can learn lessons from those who have travelled before you?

Here are 5 great books for improving your mental strength:

 

3. View failure as a prerequisite to success

Failure is merely an opportunity to learn so that you can do better the next time. Nobody is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, and you will fail at many things before you die. Being mentally strong means viewing failure not as the end, but merely a stepping stone on the way to achieving your goals. When you fail, learn the lesson and move on.

“It is common sense to take a method and try it. If it fails, admit it frankly and try another.” – Franklin D Roosevelt

4. Learn to be present

Most people spend the majority of their lives either reflecting on the past or fearing what the future might hold. Being in this mental state is dangerous as we’re rarely satisfied with what we’ve achieved or where our lives are at currently. This forces us to dwell on the past and live within our dreams for what we want tomorrow, instead of focusing on living our lives today.

Try taking up Yoga, learning to meditate and simply try and focus on the ‘now’ and restrain your mind from wandering from the task at hand. This means staying off your phone while having a conversation with someone, and focusing intently on your duties throughout the day.

 

5. Take responsibility for everything that happens to you

We all know of the salesmen who blames the economy, his environment, his employer and anything but his own work output for not achieving his targets. The under developed mind has a tendency to look elsewhere when things go wrong, instead of looking inside for the reason for it’s failure.

One of the most important steps when working towards creating mental strength is to take responsibility for every outcome in your life. Don’t blame anyone or anything. Work out what you could have done better, learn from it, and make better decisions in the future. It is not until we learn to accept complete responsibility for the outcomes in our life that we can expect to come close to achieving our mental potential.

 

6. Realize that regardless of where you’re at in your life, you can always learn something new

To develop a strong mind, you have to have an open mind. Regardless of your position or experience you can always learn something new. Make an effort to network and meet new people, and seek to learn everything you can from whom you come into contact with. Never be so confident in your own knowledge that you are ignorant to learning new things or understanding different perspectives and points of view.

Make an effort to ask questions to whom you come into contact with, seek to view the world from their point of view, and be open to new perspectives. An open mind and a fierce desire for continuous education is a prerequisite to building mental strength.

 

7. Exercise and eat well

Creating a peak metal state is impossible without caring for your physical self. Your brain’s capacity is greatly increased when you exercise regularly and consume nutrient dense, high quality foods.

Mild dehydration or simple nutrient deficiencies developed through not consuming the foods your brain and body requires can lead to headaches, poor attention and ‘cloudy brain’, just to name a few. Not the characteristics you’re looking for when striving to develop mental strength. Think of it like this – do you think a high performance motor vehicle is going to perform to its capacity when it’s filled with poor quality fuel? I think you get the picture.

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.” – Jim Rohn

8. Learn the art of resilience

Without a resilient mental fortitude, huge success stories such as Starbucks, Harry Potter and Disney would be non existent. You’ll find it common practice for those who achieve great things to suffer through adversity, failure and setbacks in order to become successful. Your ability to be resilient and to never give up, regardless of the obstacle or challenge in your way is not only important, it is absolutely necessary to build your mental strength and achieve anything worthwhile in your life.

Instead of viewing failure and adversity as a hindrance to your efforts, expect it, plan for it, and make the best of every situation.

Which one of these do you think is most important and why? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Owen Hone is the creator and author of Evolve By O.H. He writes engaging content, designed to educate and inspire his readers to develop their body and mind synergistically, in order to achieve their potential in life. He has a passion for self development and pushing his body and mind to the limit, and enjoys travel, sports and good coffee! Feel free to connect with him on Facebook.

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  1. ezekiel damilola

    Mar 27, 2016 at 1:53 pm

    I think it’s the “fundamental 2” that talks about reading coz I see it as the finest way to develop the mind. It equally affords an individual the privilege of connecting most time with people he or she usually cannot or may not meet in person.

  2. Syed Aslam

    Jan 10, 2016 at 1:07 pm

    It’s really all good points. Thanks for the post.

  3. Jim Carlén

    Jan 10, 2016 at 12:38 am

    Really good, I did connect with it a a lot! I will share it at my blog tomorrow! =)

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 11, 2016 at 1:19 am

      Thanks Jim, and I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  4. S K Jain

    Jan 9, 2016 at 5:32 am

    Nice article. Addicted2Success seems to be a modern version of Dale Carnegie!

  5. Joel S

    Jan 5, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    Great article. It reminded me of of several core concepts that I’ve let slip from the forefront of my mind, where they belong! My only question is: What would you recommend doing to maintain a positive state of mind? Do you have any daily rituals, practices, or mental exercises you do? Thanks!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 6, 2016 at 8:41 pm

      Hey Joel! I’m glad you enjoyed it. Something that works really well for me, is that whenever I’m faced with a difficult situation, I say to myself “If you can’t control the situation, control your reaction to it”. The most important component of mental strength is realizing that you have the power to choose your reaction to every situation. Always try and seek the positive in the situation. If you look hard enough, you’ll always find it.

      I have recently starting trying my hand at meditating, which I have found really beneficial. If you’re new to it, try using the ‘Headspace’ app. Hope this helps. – Owen.

  6. Paul Damson Mwanelo

    Jan 3, 2016 at 3:34 pm

    Hello Owen! Let me say that you have done a commendable job with such a superb article.I have really enjoyed reading through it.I am really eager to try my best to find the books you listed above so that I can improve my mental strength if possible because I am not sure I will get them in bookshops here in Malawi.But I am willing to have them.Once again thanks for your unbeatable and great article!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 4, 2016 at 2:23 am

      Hey Paul! Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate the positive feedback! Unfortunately I am not sure where you could get your hands on these books in Malawi, although it might be possible to purchase an e-book version off Amazon.com? I hope you are able to get your hands on them, they will certainly help! Seeing that you liked this post, feel free to check out some of my other content on my personal site, evovlebyoh.com – Cheers!

  7. Usman Mahmood

    Jan 2, 2016 at 12:06 pm

    Great article and love all the points.

    The one that I feel connected to the most is point number 4 learning to be in the present. In life we have to control our mental state on a daily and likewise it is dangerous to be doubtful of what may happen. Eliminating such thoughts will help one be more appreciative of life because there are people in the world that are in more difficult situations than yourself. The best a person can do is try their hardest and any failure should be seen as a learning experience and another step to success. It also leads to a person being more happier; disciplined, goal orientated and optimistic.

    Never Give up!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 3, 2016 at 5:16 am

      Thanks Usman, I appreciate the feedback! You provide some great insight.

  8. Owen

    Jan 1, 2016 at 6:17 am

    Thanks for the feedback gentlemen. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. All the best to you in the new year!

  9. Douglas

    Jan 1, 2016 at 2:57 am

    Thank you sincerely from my heart for sharing this article ^^

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      You’re welcome Douglas. All the best to you mate!

  10. Lawrence Berry

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:39 am

    Learning mental strength is a valuable tool that can help you be more successful and ultimately happier in life. When you are mentally strong, you have the power to be more optimistic and more self-disciplined, two characteristics vital to success and happiness. I love the tips you have given here and learning to see the positives in everything, including failure is one of my favorites on the list. I also use meditation to help me as well.

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:19 pm

      So true Lawrence. Mental strength gives you the power to create your own happiness and success, specific to you and your own goals. I have only just recently started meditating and have found it very useful, if you have any tips feel free to share. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Cheers!

  11. Owen Hone

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:28 am

    Thanks

  12. Tim Denning

    Dec 31, 2015 at 10:51 pm

    Great article Owen and perfect advice for the New Year!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 1:24 am

      Thanks Tim, glad you enjoyed it!

  13. George

    Dec 31, 2015 at 9:42 pm

    All excellent pointers heading into 2016 … thanks!

    • Owen

      Dec 31, 2015 at 10:10 pm

      Thanks George, I’m glad you enjoyed the post! All the best to you in the new year. – Owen

  14. Jean-Paul Blommaert

    Dec 31, 2015 at 2:18 pm

    Great post. Definitely gonna read more about Mr Maxwell. I like nr 5. I would say and take it even a bit further is that never really “happens to us” we are all creating and attracting it with the thoughts & emotions we hold in our subconscious mind!

    • Owen Hone

      Dec 31, 2015 at 5:17 pm

      Thanks for your feedback Jean-Paul. I’m glad you enjoyed the post!

      I agree with you 100% – what we think and feel eventually becomes reality. All the best to you in the New Year! Owen

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The Super Power Of Charisma – How You Can Adopt It For Yourself

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There’s this dude at the office. He’s fucking unstoppable.

His shit don’t stink and everything he touches turns to gold. At least that’s what I used to think.

Really, in reality, he’s just charismatic.

That’s how he got the cool job, the hot wifey and why everyone wants to be friends with him including me.

What does he do? Let’s delve a little deeper and discuss the eight things that lead to being charismatic:

 

1. Being confident baby!

This dude at work has swag. He backs himself even if he has no freaking idea what’s going to go down homey. In a business context, people that are confident are proven to be more trustworthy.

We trust confident people because it’s infectious. We want to work and be around confident people because it feels good. When something feels good, we do it, and do it lots!

My buddy at work walks into the room and people shake his hand because his presence changes the game. He also does these few things:

– He dresses confidently
– He pops his chest out just a fraction (not like the guy on the Bonds Singlet packet)
– He looks people in the eye

Out of these three, looking people in the eye is the hardest to do. To look into someone’s eye is the most vulnerable state you can put yourself in.

“The difference is that when you’re vulnerable, you connect with people better”

It also shows that you’ve got guts and allows you to enter their world. Okay, that’s wacky stuff and I may sound like I’ve read one too many “Power Of the Universe” type books. Take it or leave it chief.

 

2. Passion surrounds them. It pours out of their eyeballs!

Even the words I write demonstrate this. You can tell from everything I’m saying right now that passion pours out of me. I freaking love what I do and it shows even though you can’t see me or hear my voice. Okay, that’s a fraction creepy…enough about me.

This almighty bloke at work is charismatic because his values and beliefs are based on his passion. Passion is like a magnet according to science. When we see passion, it makes us start acting with more passion. You’re drawn to charisma in the same way because you want more of it.

There’s no point pretending you don’t like to be passionate because we all do. Sometimes, we just get lost and lose our passion for life or our career. That’s okay! None of us are perfect souls who don’t lose our way once in a while. I’m fucking lost more than I’m on track half the time.

Bottom-line: charismatic people are surrounded by passion. I don’t care if it’s collecting matchsticks or building sand castles – find something to get excited about and then show your passion for it.

 

3. They’re not vain: selfies are not their highest priority.

This charismatic chappy at work doesn’t spend half his days taking selfies of himself and then posting it on social media.

He doesn’t take photos of his food and then post it on social – he just eats it. He’d rather jump off a bridge than be a pretentious snob who’s insecure and has an inflated ego to compensate.

“The number one sign of a pretentious person vs a charismatic person is that they take credit for things they didn’t do”

Or they make things sound ten times bigger than they actually are in reality. Don’t fall for this trap young Indiana Jones. You’re better than that!

 

4. Expressing yourself through great stories

Storytelling is one of the many traits a charismatic person has. If you listen closely to their stories, you’ll notice they use strong phrases like “I know X to be true” instead of phrases like “I think,” or “I hope” which sounds weak.

Through stories, you can be: funny, vulnerable and share embarrassing moments. That’s what charismatic people do and they draw everyone in through their stories. As a side note, their stories don’t go on forever and they know how to get to the point.

Become a charismatic poet through stories about your experiences. Educate and inspire people around you and you’ll be acting charismatic by default.

 

5. Make other people feel comfortable around you

Not everyone is a hero and is comfortable being charismatic and confident. You can demonstrate charisma by learning to make others feel relaxed around you. Make other people the center of attention and let them feel special. There’s a subtle difference between charisma and hogging the conversation with your own bombastic, overpowering, unnecessary and selfish talk.

Back down; you’re not that big of a deal. Once you do that, you’ll have entered the universe of charisma.

 

6. A clear purpose and vision. In other words, they know why.

Part of what makes up the DNA of a charismatic person is their purpose or vision for their life. Quite simply, they know what they’re on this planet to do. They have a goal, it’s measurable, and they’ll stop at nothing until they achieve it.

To be in this state requires a certain sort of self-confidence that charismatic people have in spades. People seem to rally around a person who knows their purpose.

You can’t do anything and be motivated unless you know why. Without a why you’ll never build up enough momentum to reach any sort of peak performance. Mediocrity happens to us when we give up too easily. When we start a new pursuit for 4 weeks and then give up.

Map the seven seas of why you exist. Do a heap of self-reflection if you need to, to find this vision and bring it to the surface.

 

7. They look approachable

Most people look like they’re zombies when you walk past them and they almost look like they’re going to explode if you dare talk to them. That’s not charisma pal!

That unapproachable zombie look is called being scared, fearful and afraid due to a lack of self-awareness and a lack of self-improvement. It’s not the end of the world and it can be turned around.

The difference with charismatic people is one little, tiny thing: they smile. All you have to do is change one little thing – smile a bit more. Smiling is contagious and it makes people feel confident. It also makes you feel freaking amazing too!

 

8. They give more than anyone else and expect jack in return

This last one is the toughest trait of charismatic people. It sounds incredibly difficult and that’s because it is. We all have our own selfish desires that make us feel good, although only for a moment.

Charismatic people wow everyone around them by always going above and beyond to give. They either give time, money, knowledge or a listening ear to those who need it. The crazy, passionate, charismatic people even combine several of these to produce an outcome that can only be described as extraordinary.

Many of us do in fact give; the challenge is we expect something back. Worse, we even complain when we do an honorable act and get nothing in return. This is not how to play the game of life. This selfish behavior will make you very unhappy until you cut it the hell out!

“The secret to living is giving ” Tony Robbins

So let’s go over this one more time boss. To harness the superpower of giving that leads to charisma you must:

– Be prepared to give more than anybody else
– Expect nothing in return
– Ensure your own foolish and selfish desires are not front of mind every day

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The Real Reason Why Your Dreams Don’t Become a Reality According to ‘The 10x Rule’ by Grant Cardone

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Everyone has dreams. We all want to make something of ourselves yet it’s only a tiny percentage of people ever follow through. The self-help world encourages us to “Think Big”, “Follow Your Passions”, “Live as if there was no such thing as failure” and it usually just leads to keeping people stuck in a dream state, wishing, hoping and fantasizing yet never actually moving forward.

Why is this? Thinking big is just one part of the equation. This missing piece in the jigsaw is a bias towards massive action. Big Dreams + Little Action = disappointment and frustration.

Thinking and dreaming big must match with the equal and equivalent amount of action for it to go anywhere. When you combine big thinking with massive action you will be surprised at how much you are capable of, once you tap into the power of momentum.

What stops most people from achieving their goals?

I’ve been reading Grant Cardone’s “The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure” and in his view success comes from taking 10 times more action than you previously anticipated.

What stops most people from achieving a goal is underestimating the time, effort and energy involved in completing the project. They don’t spend enough time listing the steps required to succeed, the adversity they will need to overcome to push things through and the price they must pay to attain the goal.

If the number one sticking point in goal attainment is a lack of action then it’s obvious that the solution is in massive action. So what happens is they give up at the first sign of frustration or disappointment.

“Never reduce a target. Instead increase actions. When you start rethinking your targets, making up excuses, and letting yourself off the hook, you are giving up on your dreams.” – Grant Cardone

When I look back on my own life, anything I have ever achieved that was worthwhile did take an extraordinary amount of effort. Anytime I have ever coasted or done a “normal” amount of work, I would fall short of my target and feel the pain of frustration and disappointment which lead to reducing my targets.

In “The 10 X Rule” Cardone talks about his own failures in business and how he bounced back; “I committed to making this work by increasing my efforts 10 times. And as soon as I did that, everything started to change – immediately. I went back into the marketplace with the right estimation of effort and started seeing results. Instead of making two to three calls a day, I started doing 20 to 30

Most people fail only because they are operating at the wrong degree of action. There are 4 degrees of action which you can choose from:

  1. Do Nothing
  2. Retreat
  3. Take Normal Levels of Action
  4. Take Massive Action

At the “do nothing” level people are just accepting what comes their way. They are not pushing themselves or motivated to improve any area of their lives.

Retreaters are those who have taken action, experienced some setbacks or failures and retreated back into “doing nothing”. Examples of this include “Most businesses fail anyway so I am going to give up”, “Marriages aren’t working out these days so I will stay single”, “Businesses aren’t employing so I am going to file for unemployment benefit”.

The third degree is normal levels of action which is usually considered adequate. Grant says this is the most dangerous level where most people blend in, never stand out and thus never achieve the real success they wanted.

Lastly there is massive action which Cardone states is our most natural state. This is where you burst forth with 10 times the action you previously anticipated. “The goal is to be seen, thought of and considered – in one way or another. Your only problem is obscurity not talent”.

Obscurity is your only problem not talent. I like that. I am sure you all know someone who is less capable than you but experiencing much more success than you are. Why? Because they are more known and fearlessly putting themselves “out there”. So which degree of action are you taking currently? And will you commit to taking 10x action?

“Regardless of which degree of action you operate in, they all require work in their own way.” – Grant Cardone

So why not set your goals and actions higher than you ever imagined because it is highly likely you are not only underestimating the time, energy and effort involved in your endeavour, you are also likely underestimating your own capabilities and potential. Set high goals and never stop fighting.

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My Thoughts On Money After Being Both Rich And Poor

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I’ve been in financial situations where I couldn’t even afford a pizza.

I know what it’s like to have more money than you can spend. I know what it’s like to see your goals turn into cold hard cash.

Through these two extremes of poverty and wealth, I’ve learned a thing or two about money.

 

Your mind constructs money

Whether you feel rich or not has to do with your mind.

You can have $100 in your bank account and feel like the richest guy or girl in California. How rich you feel comes down to your internal programming. If you practice being grateful, then you’ll find yourself believing that you are already rich. You can have all the money this world has to offer and still feel poor.

“The time I felt the poorest was when I had the most money, but zero meaning for my life”

I always felt at this time in my life like I needed more. I always felt I wasn’t enough. When I went through the whole personal development transformation phase of my life, all of a sudden, just having money to buy a hot chocolate felt amazing!

Be careful what the world tells you about money. You get to decide the difference between rich vs. poor. The money you have in your bank account doesn’t answer this question for you.

 

Meaning Vs. Money

When I discovered a meaning for my life, suddenly money wasn’t as important. The dumb thing was that money started to find its way into my life again without me focusing on it. People were attracted to the meaning I had created for my life which then bought me more abundance.

My advice to anyone reading this is to focus on finding out the meaning of your life. If you can’t figure it out, then create one. Think about who you admire and the meaning they have for their life, and create something similar for yourself.

If you want to inspire people, then do it.
If you want to create a business that gives back, then do it.
If you want to write blog posts like this one to help people in life, then do it.

During the time I had more money than I knew what to do with, I had no idea what I was put on this Earth to do. I would import widget A, make some money, import widget B, and then start all over again. I felt like a robot repeating a pattern. At the end of the process, I got another couple of zeroes in my bank account.

Those zeros on the screen of my Internet banking got very boring, very quickly.

As soon as I found something that lit me up and helped others, the focus on seeing more zero’s on my Internet banking screen disappeared.

 

Im not saying money doesn’t matter

If you just read that Tim Denning thinks money doesn’t matter, then you didn’t get me.

Money does matter, but it shouldn’t be your primary focus. Your primary focus should be finding meaning which will lead you to something that self-motivates you. This self-motivating activity can then be monetized to give you the resources you need to live like food, shelter and maybe a vacation once in a while.

What I want you to feel is that your focus is on something other than money.

“Having been both rich and poor, I’ve mostly felt nothing at both extremes”

 

Meaning can also be found in life’s simple pleasures

I remember the feeling I got from reading Unlimited Power.
I remember what it was like when I fell in love for the first time.
I remember how cool it was to go on my very first overseas holiday.

All of these memories gave me a meaning for my life and made me feel something. Each memory created a variety of emotions that I can still remember as I reminisce on these pastimes.

Meaning came to me through the simplest of pleasures. I didn’t need a million dollar Lamborghini to make me feel like I was on top of the world. Lying on a beach with friends spending no money gave me far more than I could ever imagine.

If you’d told me this five years ago, I would have called you a liar. Having been both rich and poor, I now understand what meaning money gives me: not much.

 

Final words on money…

Focus on who you can become. Find or create a meaning for your life than transcends money.

Go beyond what society tells you about money. Most of it is a lie. Money will not give you meaning or make you happy.

Only you can create happiness and meaning for yourself.

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5 Powerful Lessons About Success From Highly Successful Mentors

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We can’t help it. When we read an interview with a high flying, successful person, we secretly compare ourselves to them with our mind making little mental notes. Their lives seem perfect, and they seem so poised and confident. I wish I could be like that. Why do they seem to have it all, while I am struggling? When will things ever go my way?

For the longest time, I too believed in these popular myths of success, until I met several CEOs who became my mentors. When I asked each one of them what is the one biggest lesson they would like to share, their answers were unexpected, powerful and humbling.

These are the 5 powerful and humbling lessons they shared about success:

1. Nobody has Their Stuff Together

Just when you least expect it, an obstacle pops up, threatening to derail you from your goal. And sometimes, the bad news just keeps coming, which kicks you in the gut and you feel ready to give up. In comparison, successful people seem to be blazing trails of success. It almost seems unfair. While they appear to be picture perfect, where nothing can go wrong, the truth of it is this:

Nobody has their stuff together. We see these crowning moments of glory. But we don’t see the private, vulnerable moments behind the scenes. The sleepless nights worrying about what to do, where a series of wrong decisions resulted in people getting laid off. The endless meals alone in yet another soulless hotel room, with no one to share the burden with, because they don’t have the time to make a relationship work.

Obstacles and problems will always exist, no matter who you are. However, the challenges appearing to each of us is unique, and help us grow beyond the level we are at. A successful life is not about a lack of challenges, it’s about navigating and growing through the challenges so that we continue evolving to become the fullest potential of who we are.

2. Uncertainty Never Disappears

Brimming with confidence and well spoken, they always seem to know exactly what to say, and what to do in any situation. They seem to be the last people on earth to flail and feel vulnerable.

While on the surface they appear to be confident, the struggle with not knowing what to do plagues them as much as us. This can be the uncertainty of making a project work, because they have never done it before or lacking the necessary experience.

They can be worried that by taking this on, they might be biting off more than they can chew and experience massive failure and disastrous consequences. Nonetheless, the difference for them is despite their fears, they say yes and go ahead.

“Human spirit is the ability to face the uncertainty of the future with curiosity and optimism. It is the belief that problems can be solved, differences resolved. It is a type of confidence. And it is fragile. It can be blackened by fear and superstition.” – Bernard Beckett

3. Jump Before You Are Ready

Uncertainty and not knowing is a part of life. It never goes away. If you stay where you are, it feels safe and comfortable. But, it is a guarantee that you would not rise beyond where you are now if you don’t step out and make your move.

To take the leap of faith, your work through the uncertainty is the only way to grow. The fear of the unknown is not as scary as we make it out to be. All you have to do is to ask yourself “Do I believe I have what it takes to figure it out?” If your gut says yes, go for it.

4. It’s Not about External Motivation

Most successful people come with the traditional markers of success. Wealth. Status. A comfortable lifestyle. However, external motivation – the cars, the houses, the jewelry etc – can only motivate them so much.

Their motivation stems not from the outside – but from within themselves. It’s about their internal drive to be better thus building and expanding a grander vision of what they wish to create, and where they want to be.

That internal motivation is the driving force that pushes them through when things start to fall apart, because then it’s a battle within to overcome these setbacks and achieve their vision.

5. They Are Mental Ninja Masters

When everything that could go wrong, would go wrong, it’s natural to beat ourselves up. This negative feedback loop keeps replaying in our minds, and we start believing our negative self-talk, which threatens to spiral out of control and bring us down.

A few years ago, one of the CEOs I interviewed, Dave, was going through a particularly difficult time. Several major business deals fell through in quick succession. He emptied his life savings trying to keep things afloat, only for it to backfire and lost his life savings in the process.

He was faced with the real possibility of laying off hundreds of people at the company. Many lives were at stake here, and the pressure was on. He faltered, but only for a day.

He then rallied and continued to hustle. He hustled harder, stronger and faster than ever before. It was fascinating and impressive. What was his secret to bouncing back so fast from all the punches thrown at him?

He didn’t allow the negativity to control him. He controlled and directed his mind. Half the battle is with ourselves. We are often our own worst enemy with our negative self-talk.

Mastering control over your mind, instead of letting your mind control you is half the battle. Stop the negative self-talk when it happens. Redirect it towards positive action to achieve the outcome you desire.

“Protect your enthusiasm from the negativity of others.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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I love social media. It can help you make friends, share your life, build a network, and even build a business. In the same token, social media can easily become an enemy of success as a hindrance and consumer of attention. (more…)

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  1. ezekiel damilola

    Mar 27, 2016 at 1:53 pm

    I think it’s the “fundamental 2” that talks about reading coz I see it as the finest way to develop the mind. It equally affords an individual the privilege of connecting most time with people he or she usually cannot or may not meet in person.

  2. Syed Aslam

    Jan 10, 2016 at 1:07 pm

    It’s really all good points. Thanks for the post.

  3. Jim Carlén

    Jan 10, 2016 at 12:38 am

    Really good, I did connect with it a a lot! I will share it at my blog tomorrow! =)

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 11, 2016 at 1:19 am

      Thanks Jim, and I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  4. S K Jain

    Jan 9, 2016 at 5:32 am

    Nice article. Addicted2Success seems to be a modern version of Dale Carnegie!

  5. Joel S

    Jan 5, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    Great article. It reminded me of of several core concepts that I’ve let slip from the forefront of my mind, where they belong! My only question is: What would you recommend doing to maintain a positive state of mind? Do you have any daily rituals, practices, or mental exercises you do? Thanks!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 6, 2016 at 8:41 pm

      Hey Joel! I’m glad you enjoyed it. Something that works really well for me, is that whenever I’m faced with a difficult situation, I say to myself “If you can’t control the situation, control your reaction to it”. The most important component of mental strength is realizing that you have the power to choose your reaction to every situation. Always try and seek the positive in the situation. If you look hard enough, you’ll always find it.

      I have recently starting trying my hand at meditating, which I have found really beneficial. If you’re new to it, try using the ‘Headspace’ app. Hope this helps. – Owen.

  6. Paul Damson Mwanelo

    Jan 3, 2016 at 3:34 pm

    Hello Owen! Let me say that you have done a commendable job with such a superb article.I have really enjoyed reading through it.I am really eager to try my best to find the books you listed above so that I can improve my mental strength if possible because I am not sure I will get them in bookshops here in Malawi.But I am willing to have them.Once again thanks for your unbeatable and great article!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 4, 2016 at 2:23 am

      Hey Paul! Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate the positive feedback! Unfortunately I am not sure where you could get your hands on these books in Malawi, although it might be possible to purchase an e-book version off Amazon.com? I hope you are able to get your hands on them, they will certainly help! Seeing that you liked this post, feel free to check out some of my other content on my personal site, evovlebyoh.com – Cheers!

  7. Usman Mahmood

    Jan 2, 2016 at 12:06 pm

    Great article and love all the points.

    The one that I feel connected to the most is point number 4 learning to be in the present. In life we have to control our mental state on a daily and likewise it is dangerous to be doubtful of what may happen. Eliminating such thoughts will help one be more appreciative of life because there are people in the world that are in more difficult situations than yourself. The best a person can do is try their hardest and any failure should be seen as a learning experience and another step to success. It also leads to a person being more happier; disciplined, goal orientated and optimistic.

    Never Give up!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 3, 2016 at 5:16 am

      Thanks Usman, I appreciate the feedback! You provide some great insight.

  8. Owen

    Jan 1, 2016 at 6:17 am

    Thanks for the feedback gentlemen. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. All the best to you in the new year!

  9. Douglas

    Jan 1, 2016 at 2:57 am

    Thank you sincerely from my heart for sharing this article ^^

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      You’re welcome Douglas. All the best to you mate!

  10. Lawrence Berry

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:39 am

    Learning mental strength is a valuable tool that can help you be more successful and ultimately happier in life. When you are mentally strong, you have the power to be more optimistic and more self-disciplined, two characteristics vital to success and happiness. I love the tips you have given here and learning to see the positives in everything, including failure is one of my favorites on the list. I also use meditation to help me as well.

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:19 pm

      So true Lawrence. Mental strength gives you the power to create your own happiness and success, specific to you and your own goals. I have only just recently started meditating and have found it very useful, if you have any tips feel free to share. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Cheers!

  11. Owen Hone

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:28 am

    Thanks

  12. Tim Denning

    Dec 31, 2015 at 10:51 pm

    Great article Owen and perfect advice for the New Year!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 1:24 am

      Thanks Tim, glad you enjoyed it!

  13. George

    Dec 31, 2015 at 9:42 pm

    All excellent pointers heading into 2016 … thanks!

    • Owen

      Dec 31, 2015 at 10:10 pm

      Thanks George, I’m glad you enjoyed the post! All the best to you in the new year. – Owen

  14. Jean-Paul Blommaert

    Dec 31, 2015 at 2:18 pm

    Great post. Definitely gonna read more about Mr Maxwell. I like nr 5. I would say and take it even a bit further is that never really “happens to us” we are all creating and attracting it with the thoughts & emotions we hold in our subconscious mind!

    • Owen Hone

      Dec 31, 2015 at 5:17 pm

      Thanks for your feedback Jean-Paul. I’m glad you enjoyed the post!

      I agree with you 100% – what we think and feel eventually becomes reality. All the best to you in the New Year! Owen

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The Super Power Of Charisma – How You Can Adopt It For Yourself

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There’s this dude at the office. He’s fucking unstoppable.

His shit don’t stink and everything he touches turns to gold. At least that’s what I used to think.

Really, in reality, he’s just charismatic.

That’s how he got the cool job, the hot wifey and why everyone wants to be friends with him including me.

What does he do? Let’s delve a little deeper and discuss the eight things that lead to being charismatic:

 

1. Being confident baby!

This dude at work has swag. He backs himself even if he has no freaking idea what’s going to go down homey. In a business context, people that are confident are proven to be more trustworthy.

We trust confident people because it’s infectious. We want to work and be around confident people because it feels good. When something feels good, we do it, and do it lots!

My buddy at work walks into the room and people shake his hand because his presence changes the game. He also does these few things:

– He dresses confidently
– He pops his chest out just a fraction (not like the guy on the Bonds Singlet packet)
– He looks people in the eye

Out of these three, looking people in the eye is the hardest to do. To look into someone’s eye is the most vulnerable state you can put yourself in.

“The difference is that when you’re vulnerable, you connect with people better”

It also shows that you’ve got guts and allows you to enter their world. Okay, that’s wacky stuff and I may sound like I’ve read one too many “Power Of the Universe” type books. Take it or leave it chief.

 

2. Passion surrounds them. It pours out of their eyeballs!

Even the words I write demonstrate this. You can tell from everything I’m saying right now that passion pours out of me. I freaking love what I do and it shows even though you can’t see me or hear my voice. Okay, that’s a fraction creepy…enough about me.

This almighty bloke at work is charismatic because his values and beliefs are based on his passion. Passion is like a magnet according to science. When we see passion, it makes us start acting with more passion. You’re drawn to charisma in the same way because you want more of it.

There’s no point pretending you don’t like to be passionate because we all do. Sometimes, we just get lost and lose our passion for life or our career. That’s okay! None of us are perfect souls who don’t lose our way once in a while. I’m fucking lost more than I’m on track half the time.

Bottom-line: charismatic people are surrounded by passion. I don’t care if it’s collecting matchsticks or building sand castles – find something to get excited about and then show your passion for it.

 

3. They’re not vain: selfies are not their highest priority.

This charismatic chappy at work doesn’t spend half his days taking selfies of himself and then posting it on social media.

He doesn’t take photos of his food and then post it on social – he just eats it. He’d rather jump off a bridge than be a pretentious snob who’s insecure and has an inflated ego to compensate.

“The number one sign of a pretentious person vs a charismatic person is that they take credit for things they didn’t do”

Or they make things sound ten times bigger than they actually are in reality. Don’t fall for this trap young Indiana Jones. You’re better than that!

 

4. Expressing yourself through great stories

Storytelling is one of the many traits a charismatic person has. If you listen closely to their stories, you’ll notice they use strong phrases like “I know X to be true” instead of phrases like “I think,” or “I hope” which sounds weak.

Through stories, you can be: funny, vulnerable and share embarrassing moments. That’s what charismatic people do and they draw everyone in through their stories. As a side note, their stories don’t go on forever and they know how to get to the point.

Become a charismatic poet through stories about your experiences. Educate and inspire people around you and you’ll be acting charismatic by default.

 

5. Make other people feel comfortable around you

Not everyone is a hero and is comfortable being charismatic and confident. You can demonstrate charisma by learning to make others feel relaxed around you. Make other people the center of attention and let them feel special. There’s a subtle difference between charisma and hogging the conversation with your own bombastic, overpowering, unnecessary and selfish talk.

Back down; you’re not that big of a deal. Once you do that, you’ll have entered the universe of charisma.

 

6. A clear purpose and vision. In other words, they know why.

Part of what makes up the DNA of a charismatic person is their purpose or vision for their life. Quite simply, they know what they’re on this planet to do. They have a goal, it’s measurable, and they’ll stop at nothing until they achieve it.

To be in this state requires a certain sort of self-confidence that charismatic people have in spades. People seem to rally around a person who knows their purpose.

You can’t do anything and be motivated unless you know why. Without a why you’ll never build up enough momentum to reach any sort of peak performance. Mediocrity happens to us when we give up too easily. When we start a new pursuit for 4 weeks and then give up.

Map the seven seas of why you exist. Do a heap of self-reflection if you need to, to find this vision and bring it to the surface.

 

7. They look approachable

Most people look like they’re zombies when you walk past them and they almost look like they’re going to explode if you dare talk to them. That’s not charisma pal!

That unapproachable zombie look is called being scared, fearful and afraid due to a lack of self-awareness and a lack of self-improvement. It’s not the end of the world and it can be turned around.

The difference with charismatic people is one little, tiny thing: they smile. All you have to do is change one little thing – smile a bit more. Smiling is contagious and it makes people feel confident. It also makes you feel freaking amazing too!

 

8. They give more than anyone else and expect jack in return

This last one is the toughest trait of charismatic people. It sounds incredibly difficult and that’s because it is. We all have our own selfish desires that make us feel good, although only for a moment.

Charismatic people wow everyone around them by always going above and beyond to give. They either give time, money, knowledge or a listening ear to those who need it. The crazy, passionate, charismatic people even combine several of these to produce an outcome that can only be described as extraordinary.

Many of us do in fact give; the challenge is we expect something back. Worse, we even complain when we do an honorable act and get nothing in return. This is not how to play the game of life. This selfish behavior will make you very unhappy until you cut it the hell out!

“The secret to living is giving ” Tony Robbins

So let’s go over this one more time boss. To harness the superpower of giving that leads to charisma you must:

– Be prepared to give more than anybody else
– Expect nothing in return
– Ensure your own foolish and selfish desires are not front of mind every day

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The Real Reason Why Your Dreams Don’t Become a Reality According to ‘The 10x Rule’ by Grant Cardone

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Everyone has dreams. We all want to make something of ourselves yet it’s only a tiny percentage of people ever follow through. The self-help world encourages us to “Think Big”, “Follow Your Passions”, “Live as if there was no such thing as failure” and it usually just leads to keeping people stuck in a dream state, wishing, hoping and fantasizing yet never actually moving forward.

Why is this? Thinking big is just one part of the equation. This missing piece in the jigsaw is a bias towards massive action. Big Dreams + Little Action = disappointment and frustration.

Thinking and dreaming big must match with the equal and equivalent amount of action for it to go anywhere. When you combine big thinking with massive action you will be surprised at how much you are capable of, once you tap into the power of momentum.

What stops most people from achieving their goals?

I’ve been reading Grant Cardone’s “The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure” and in his view success comes from taking 10 times more action than you previously anticipated.

What stops most people from achieving a goal is underestimating the time, effort and energy involved in completing the project. They don’t spend enough time listing the steps required to succeed, the adversity they will need to overcome to push things through and the price they must pay to attain the goal.

If the number one sticking point in goal attainment is a lack of action then it’s obvious that the solution is in massive action. So what happens is they give up at the first sign of frustration or disappointment.

“Never reduce a target. Instead increase actions. When you start rethinking your targets, making up excuses, and letting yourself off the hook, you are giving up on your dreams.” – Grant Cardone

When I look back on my own life, anything I have ever achieved that was worthwhile did take an extraordinary amount of effort. Anytime I have ever coasted or done a “normal” amount of work, I would fall short of my target and feel the pain of frustration and disappointment which lead to reducing my targets.

In “The 10 X Rule” Cardone talks about his own failures in business and how he bounced back; “I committed to making this work by increasing my efforts 10 times. And as soon as I did that, everything started to change – immediately. I went back into the marketplace with the right estimation of effort and started seeing results. Instead of making two to three calls a day, I started doing 20 to 30

Most people fail only because they are operating at the wrong degree of action. There are 4 degrees of action which you can choose from:

  1. Do Nothing
  2. Retreat
  3. Take Normal Levels of Action
  4. Take Massive Action

At the “do nothing” level people are just accepting what comes their way. They are not pushing themselves or motivated to improve any area of their lives.

Retreaters are those who have taken action, experienced some setbacks or failures and retreated back into “doing nothing”. Examples of this include “Most businesses fail anyway so I am going to give up”, “Marriages aren’t working out these days so I will stay single”, “Businesses aren’t employing so I am going to file for unemployment benefit”.

The third degree is normal levels of action which is usually considered adequate. Grant says this is the most dangerous level where most people blend in, never stand out and thus never achieve the real success they wanted.

Lastly there is massive action which Cardone states is our most natural state. This is where you burst forth with 10 times the action you previously anticipated. “The goal is to be seen, thought of and considered – in one way or another. Your only problem is obscurity not talent”.

Obscurity is your only problem not talent. I like that. I am sure you all know someone who is less capable than you but experiencing much more success than you are. Why? Because they are more known and fearlessly putting themselves “out there”. So which degree of action are you taking currently? And will you commit to taking 10x action?

“Regardless of which degree of action you operate in, they all require work in their own way.” – Grant Cardone

So why not set your goals and actions higher than you ever imagined because it is highly likely you are not only underestimating the time, energy and effort involved in your endeavour, you are also likely underestimating your own capabilities and potential. Set high goals and never stop fighting.

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My Thoughts On Money After Being Both Rich And Poor

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I’ve been in financial situations where I couldn’t even afford a pizza.

I know what it’s like to have more money than you can spend. I know what it’s like to see your goals turn into cold hard cash.

Through these two extremes of poverty and wealth, I’ve learned a thing or two about money.

 

Your mind constructs money

Whether you feel rich or not has to do with your mind.

You can have $100 in your bank account and feel like the richest guy or girl in California. How rich you feel comes down to your internal programming. If you practice being grateful, then you’ll find yourself believing that you are already rich. You can have all the money this world has to offer and still feel poor.

“The time I felt the poorest was when I had the most money, but zero meaning for my life”

I always felt at this time in my life like I needed more. I always felt I wasn’t enough. When I went through the whole personal development transformation phase of my life, all of a sudden, just having money to buy a hot chocolate felt amazing!

Be careful what the world tells you about money. You get to decide the difference between rich vs. poor. The money you have in your bank account doesn’t answer this question for you.

 

Meaning Vs. Money

When I discovered a meaning for my life, suddenly money wasn’t as important. The dumb thing was that money started to find its way into my life again without me focusing on it. People were attracted to the meaning I had created for my life which then bought me more abundance.

My advice to anyone reading this is to focus on finding out the meaning of your life. If you can’t figure it out, then create one. Think about who you admire and the meaning they have for their life, and create something similar for yourself.

If you want to inspire people, then do it.
If you want to create a business that gives back, then do it.
If you want to write blog posts like this one to help people in life, then do it.

During the time I had more money than I knew what to do with, I had no idea what I was put on this Earth to do. I would import widget A, make some money, import widget B, and then start all over again. I felt like a robot repeating a pattern. At the end of the process, I got another couple of zeroes in my bank account.

Those zeros on the screen of my Internet banking got very boring, very quickly.

As soon as I found something that lit me up and helped others, the focus on seeing more zero’s on my Internet banking screen disappeared.

 

Im not saying money doesn’t matter

If you just read that Tim Denning thinks money doesn’t matter, then you didn’t get me.

Money does matter, but it shouldn’t be your primary focus. Your primary focus should be finding meaning which will lead you to something that self-motivates you. This self-motivating activity can then be monetized to give you the resources you need to live like food, shelter and maybe a vacation once in a while.

What I want you to feel is that your focus is on something other than money.

“Having been both rich and poor, I’ve mostly felt nothing at both extremes”

 

Meaning can also be found in life’s simple pleasures

I remember the feeling I got from reading Unlimited Power.
I remember what it was like when I fell in love for the first time.
I remember how cool it was to go on my very first overseas holiday.

All of these memories gave me a meaning for my life and made me feel something. Each memory created a variety of emotions that I can still remember as I reminisce on these pastimes.

Meaning came to me through the simplest of pleasures. I didn’t need a million dollar Lamborghini to make me feel like I was on top of the world. Lying on a beach with friends spending no money gave me far more than I could ever imagine.

If you’d told me this five years ago, I would have called you a liar. Having been both rich and poor, I now understand what meaning money gives me: not much.

 

Final words on money…

Focus on who you can become. Find or create a meaning for your life than transcends money.

Go beyond what society tells you about money. Most of it is a lie. Money will not give you meaning or make you happy.

Only you can create happiness and meaning for yourself.

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5 Powerful Lessons About Success From Highly Successful Mentors

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We can’t help it. When we read an interview with a high flying, successful person, we secretly compare ourselves to them with our mind making little mental notes. Their lives seem perfect, and they seem so poised and confident. I wish I could be like that. Why do they seem to have it all, while I am struggling? When will things ever go my way?

For the longest time, I too believed in these popular myths of success, until I met several CEOs who became my mentors. When I asked each one of them what is the one biggest lesson they would like to share, their answers were unexpected, powerful and humbling.

These are the 5 powerful and humbling lessons they shared about success:

1. Nobody has Their Stuff Together

Just when you least expect it, an obstacle pops up, threatening to derail you from your goal. And sometimes, the bad news just keeps coming, which kicks you in the gut and you feel ready to give up. In comparison, successful people seem to be blazing trails of success. It almost seems unfair. While they appear to be picture perfect, where nothing can go wrong, the truth of it is this:

Nobody has their stuff together. We see these crowning moments of glory. But we don’t see the private, vulnerable moments behind the scenes. The sleepless nights worrying about what to do, where a series of wrong decisions resulted in people getting laid off. The endless meals alone in yet another soulless hotel room, with no one to share the burden with, because they don’t have the time to make a relationship work.

Obstacles and problems will always exist, no matter who you are. However, the challenges appearing to each of us is unique, and help us grow beyond the level we are at. A successful life is not about a lack of challenges, it’s about navigating and growing through the challenges so that we continue evolving to become the fullest potential of who we are.

2. Uncertainty Never Disappears

Brimming with confidence and well spoken, they always seem to know exactly what to say, and what to do in any situation. They seem to be the last people on earth to flail and feel vulnerable.

While on the surface they appear to be confident, the struggle with not knowing what to do plagues them as much as us. This can be the uncertainty of making a project work, because they have never done it before or lacking the necessary experience.

They can be worried that by taking this on, they might be biting off more than they can chew and experience massive failure and disastrous consequences. Nonetheless, the difference for them is despite their fears, they say yes and go ahead.

“Human spirit is the ability to face the uncertainty of the future with curiosity and optimism. It is the belief that problems can be solved, differences resolved. It is a type of confidence. And it is fragile. It can be blackened by fear and superstition.” – Bernard Beckett

3. Jump Before You Are Ready

Uncertainty and not knowing is a part of life. It never goes away. If you stay where you are, it feels safe and comfortable. But, it is a guarantee that you would not rise beyond where you are now if you don’t step out and make your move.

To take the leap of faith, your work through the uncertainty is the only way to grow. The fear of the unknown is not as scary as we make it out to be. All you have to do is to ask yourself “Do I believe I have what it takes to figure it out?” If your gut says yes, go for it.

4. It’s Not about External Motivation

Most successful people come with the traditional markers of success. Wealth. Status. A comfortable lifestyle. However, external motivation – the cars, the houses, the jewelry etc – can only motivate them so much.

Their motivation stems not from the outside – but from within themselves. It’s about their internal drive to be better thus building and expanding a grander vision of what they wish to create, and where they want to be.

That internal motivation is the driving force that pushes them through when things start to fall apart, because then it’s a battle within to overcome these setbacks and achieve their vision.

5. They Are Mental Ninja Masters

When everything that could go wrong, would go wrong, it’s natural to beat ourselves up. This negative feedback loop keeps replaying in our minds, and we start believing our negative self-talk, which threatens to spiral out of control and bring us down.

A few years ago, one of the CEOs I interviewed, Dave, was going through a particularly difficult time. Several major business deals fell through in quick succession. He emptied his life savings trying to keep things afloat, only for it to backfire and lost his life savings in the process.

He was faced with the real possibility of laying off hundreds of people at the company. Many lives were at stake here, and the pressure was on. He faltered, but only for a day.

He then rallied and continued to hustle. He hustled harder, stronger and faster than ever before. It was fascinating and impressive. What was his secret to bouncing back so fast from all the punches thrown at him?

He didn’t allow the negativity to control him. He controlled and directed his mind. Half the battle is with ourselves. We are often our own worst enemy with our negative self-talk.

Mastering control over your mind, instead of letting your mind control you is half the battle. Stop the negative self-talk when it happens. Redirect it towards positive action to achieve the outcome you desire.

“Protect your enthusiasm from the negativity of others.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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