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8 Fundamentals For Developing Mental Strength

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Mental strength is the most important quality any entrepreneur, businessman, or human being for that matter, can possess. Without it everything is difficult, happiness is evasive and life is mostly confusing.

Your capacity to view things in a way that allows you to be positive and enthusiastic, regardless of your setbacks or the challenges you face, can be the defining characteristic between merely getting by in life and achieving true success.

I am a firm believer that anything in life worth having can be obtained through specific and direct effort towards its attainment, and creating mental strength is no exception. Building mental strength will be vital to your success. Below, I have listed a few ways to develop your mental strength.

Here are 8 tips for creating mental strength:

1. Find the positive within every situation

Say you’re twelve months into your first start up. You’ve poured all of your savings into this venture and worked tirelessly day and night in an attempt to build your business and work towards making a profit. Unfortunately things haven’t gone to plan. Your product isn’t selling as well as expected and your consumers just aren’t taking to it as well as you’d hoped.

Right now you have two choices: You could get angry at your customers for not taking to the fantastic product you’ve created, and tell yourself that things just aren’t going to work out for you and your business or you could seek the positive in the situation by using it as an opportunity to learn what your consumers dislike about your product and how you can improve it to better suit their needs.

Seeking to uncover the good amongst the bad in your life is an important and necessary skill to have when developing your mental capacity, and not to mention you’ll be more content and happy when you do.

 

2. Read books. Lots of them

What better way to learn to enhance your mental strength than to learn from the experiences of mentally strong people. If you want to accelerate your progress, read, read and read some more. Why bother spending your whole life figuring things out through trial and error when you can learn lessons from those who have travelled before you?

Here are 5 great books for improving your mental strength:

 

3. View failure as a prerequisite to success

Failure is merely an opportunity to learn so that you can do better the next time. Nobody is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, and you will fail at many things before you die. Being mentally strong means viewing failure not as the end, but merely a stepping stone on the way to achieving your goals. When you fail, learn the lesson and move on.

“It is common sense to take a method and try it. If it fails, admit it frankly and try another.” – Franklin D Roosevelt

4. Learn to be present

Most people spend the majority of their lives either reflecting on the past or fearing what the future might hold. Being in this mental state is dangerous as we’re rarely satisfied with what we’ve achieved or where our lives are at currently. This forces us to dwell on the past and live within our dreams for what we want tomorrow, instead of focusing on living our lives today.

Try taking up Yoga, learning to meditate and simply try and focus on the ‘now’ and restrain your mind from wandering from the task at hand. This means staying off your phone while having a conversation with someone, and focusing intently on your duties throughout the day.

 

5. Take responsibility for everything that happens to you

We all know of the salesmen who blames the economy, his environment, his employer and anything but his own work output for not achieving his targets. The under developed mind has a tendency to look elsewhere when things go wrong, instead of looking inside for the reason for it’s failure.

One of the most important steps when working towards creating mental strength is to take responsibility for every outcome in your life. Don’t blame anyone or anything. Work out what you could have done better, learn from it, and make better decisions in the future. It is not until we learn to accept complete responsibility for the outcomes in our life that we can expect to come close to achieving our mental potential.

 

6. Realize that regardless of where you’re at in your life, you can always learn something new

To develop a strong mind, you have to have an open mind. Regardless of your position or experience you can always learn something new. Make an effort to network and meet new people, and seek to learn everything you can from whom you come into contact with. Never be so confident in your own knowledge that you are ignorant to learning new things or understanding different perspectives and points of view.

Make an effort to ask questions to whom you come into contact with, seek to view the world from their point of view, and be open to new perspectives. An open mind and a fierce desire for continuous education is a prerequisite to building mental strength.

 

7. Exercise and eat well

Creating a peak metal state is impossible without caring for your physical self. Your brain’s capacity is greatly increased when you exercise regularly and consume nutrient dense, high quality foods.

Mild dehydration or simple nutrient deficiencies developed through not consuming the foods your brain and body requires can lead to headaches, poor attention and ‘cloudy brain’, just to name a few. Not the characteristics you’re looking for when striving to develop mental strength. Think of it like this – do you think a high performance motor vehicle is going to perform to its capacity when it’s filled with poor quality fuel? I think you get the picture.

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.” – Jim Rohn

8. Learn the art of resilience

Without a resilient mental fortitude, huge success stories such as Starbucks, Harry Potter and Disney would be non existent. You’ll find it common practice for those who achieve great things to suffer through adversity, failure and setbacks in order to become successful. Your ability to be resilient and to never give up, regardless of the obstacle or challenge in your way is not only important, it is absolutely necessary to build your mental strength and achieve anything worthwhile in your life.

Instead of viewing failure and adversity as a hindrance to your efforts, expect it, plan for it, and make the best of every situation.

Which one of these do you think is most important and why? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Owen Hone is the creator and author of Evolve By O.H. He writes engaging content, designed to educate and inspire his readers to develop their body and mind synergistically, in order to achieve their potential in life. He has a passion for self development and pushing his body and mind to the limit, and enjoys travel, sports and good coffee! Feel free to connect with him on Facebook.

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24 Comments

  1. ezekiel damilola

    Mar 27, 2016 at 1:53 pm

    I think it’s the “fundamental 2” that talks about reading coz I see it as the finest way to develop the mind. It equally affords an individual the privilege of connecting most time with people he or she usually cannot or may not meet in person.

  2. Syed Aslam

    Jan 10, 2016 at 1:07 pm

    It’s really all good points. Thanks for the post.

  3. Jim Carlén

    Jan 10, 2016 at 12:38 am

    Really good, I did connect with it a a lot! I will share it at my blog tomorrow! =)

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 11, 2016 at 1:19 am

      Thanks Jim, and I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  4. S K Jain

    Jan 9, 2016 at 5:32 am

    Nice article. Addicted2Success seems to be a modern version of Dale Carnegie!

  5. Joel S

    Jan 5, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    Great article. It reminded me of of several core concepts that I’ve let slip from the forefront of my mind, where they belong! My only question is: What would you recommend doing to maintain a positive state of mind? Do you have any daily rituals, practices, or mental exercises you do? Thanks!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 6, 2016 at 8:41 pm

      Hey Joel! I’m glad you enjoyed it. Something that works really well for me, is that whenever I’m faced with a difficult situation, I say to myself “If you can’t control the situation, control your reaction to it”. The most important component of mental strength is realizing that you have the power to choose your reaction to every situation. Always try and seek the positive in the situation. If you look hard enough, you’ll always find it.

      I have recently starting trying my hand at meditating, which I have found really beneficial. If you’re new to it, try using the ‘Headspace’ app. Hope this helps. – Owen.

  6. Paul Damson Mwanelo

    Jan 3, 2016 at 3:34 pm

    Hello Owen! Let me say that you have done a commendable job with such a superb article.I have really enjoyed reading through it.I am really eager to try my best to find the books you listed above so that I can improve my mental strength if possible because I am not sure I will get them in bookshops here in Malawi.But I am willing to have them.Once again thanks for your unbeatable and great article!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 4, 2016 at 2:23 am

      Hey Paul! Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate the positive feedback! Unfortunately I am not sure where you could get your hands on these books in Malawi, although it might be possible to purchase an e-book version off Amazon.com? I hope you are able to get your hands on them, they will certainly help! Seeing that you liked this post, feel free to check out some of my other content on my personal site, evovlebyoh.com – Cheers!

  7. Usman Mahmood

    Jan 2, 2016 at 12:06 pm

    Great article and love all the points.

    The one that I feel connected to the most is point number 4 learning to be in the present. In life we have to control our mental state on a daily and likewise it is dangerous to be doubtful of what may happen. Eliminating such thoughts will help one be more appreciative of life because there are people in the world that are in more difficult situations than yourself. The best a person can do is try their hardest and any failure should be seen as a learning experience and another step to success. It also leads to a person being more happier; disciplined, goal orientated and optimistic.

    Never Give up!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 3, 2016 at 5:16 am

      Thanks Usman, I appreciate the feedback! You provide some great insight.

  8. Owen

    Jan 1, 2016 at 6:17 am

    Thanks for the feedback gentlemen. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. All the best to you in the new year!

  9. Douglas

    Jan 1, 2016 at 2:57 am

    Thank you sincerely from my heart for sharing this article ^^

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      You’re welcome Douglas. All the best to you mate!

  10. Lawrence Berry

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:39 am

    Learning mental strength is a valuable tool that can help you be more successful and ultimately happier in life. When you are mentally strong, you have the power to be more optimistic and more self-disciplined, two characteristics vital to success and happiness. I love the tips you have given here and learning to see the positives in everything, including failure is one of my favorites on the list. I also use meditation to help me as well.

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:19 pm

      So true Lawrence. Mental strength gives you the power to create your own happiness and success, specific to you and your own goals. I have only just recently started meditating and have found it very useful, if you have any tips feel free to share. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Cheers!

  11. Owen Hone

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:28 am

    Thanks

  12. Tim Denning

    Dec 31, 2015 at 10:51 pm

    Great article Owen and perfect advice for the New Year!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 1:24 am

      Thanks Tim, glad you enjoyed it!

  13. George

    Dec 31, 2015 at 9:42 pm

    All excellent pointers heading into 2016 … thanks!

    • Owen

      Dec 31, 2015 at 10:10 pm

      Thanks George, I’m glad you enjoyed the post! All the best to you in the new year. – Owen

  14. Jean-Paul Blommaert

    Dec 31, 2015 at 2:18 pm

    Great post. Definitely gonna read more about Mr Maxwell. I like nr 5. I would say and take it even a bit further is that never really “happens to us” we are all creating and attracting it with the thoughts & emotions we hold in our subconscious mind!

    • Owen Hone

      Dec 31, 2015 at 5:17 pm

      Thanks for your feedback Jean-Paul. I’m glad you enjoyed the post!

      I agree with you 100% – what we think and feel eventually becomes reality. All the best to you in the New Year! Owen

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3 Life Lessons in Perseverance to Achieve Your Wildest Dreams

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I have two careers as an actor and a marketer with each having its own unique challenges. However, the number of parallels I continue to find in my chosen professions never ceases to amaze me. Of these lessons, perhaps one of the most valuable is that of persistence, and the mental resilience I’ve had to learn. You can’t be an actor without resilience as I experience rejection dozens of times per week.

Acting is a lesson in endurance, not a sprint. When you think about it though, doesn’t that apply to any career? It’s not easy to “Keep on keeping on.” No matter what path life has led you down, I’m sure you’ve experienced plenty of bumps. Sometimes, those bumps turn into potholes that the universe seems to refuse to fix.

As an actor, rejection is par for the course. Thankfully, I’ve learned how to persevere in spite of it. When life gets especially challenging, and you are dealing with change, disappointment or missteps, make use of these life lessons and continue pressing on towards your goal.

Below are 3 lessons in perseverance which will help you achieve your wildest dreams:

1. Know when it’s time to recalibrate

Goals are an important and necessary tool to reach our full potential. They keep us focused to help make small decisions on a daily basis such as if I should get up for that 8 a.m. run along with bigger decisions such as if I should take a new job offer. While setting goals is essential, don’t let them overpower you.

Tunnel vision in reaching your goals adds unnecessary pressure. This causes us to make mistakes we wouldn’t have made otherwise. Get too obsessed with a goal and you’ll forget the big picture, such as why you chose this course to begin with. Take a lesson from one of my favorite casting directors, Dave Newman of McSweeney Newman Casting.

Forget trying to “make it big” as an actor. It is normal to wait years before booking work with a decent paycheck. If you’re in the room with Dave, it’s hard not to let the pressure take over your performance.

In the words of Dave, as soon as those words from A Chorus Line enter your head, “God, I hope I get it!” it’s time to adjust your mindset. Dave advises taking a step back, refocusing, and doing anything that isn’t acting. Sometimes the best way to reach a goal is by shifting your gaze just for a moment. Take the pressure off and recalibrate your thoughts. You’ll come back recharged with a fresh perspective to pursue your objectives.

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney

2. Appreciate the journey

Perseverance requires a heaping dose of appreciation. This means acknowledging all the wins in your life, both big and small. Even if you haven’t yet met your goal, remember that you are moving towards it and that alone is an achievement.

As Linda Gillum, Casting Director at Chicago theatre Remy Bumppo explains, “With everything you do, you’re planting seeds.” It takes time for the seeds of success to grow. As an actor, my seeds take a lot of sunshine, water, and gratitude for the little things. A win can be as simple as improving my technique or getting an audition; I can’t base my happiness on booked jobs.

Persistence becomes much easier when you notice your achievements despite those potholes surrounding you. Celebrate the small wins; they’re what milestones are built on. Even if your manager or co-workers don’t recognize your work, give yourself that pat on the back.

To stay motivated, make a mental highlight reel of your achievements. Afterwards, be ready to hit the play button whenever you need a quick pick-me-up.

3. Embrace mistakes or at least be okay with them

No matter how much you hate mistakes, they’ll keep happening. Some people seem to move on from mistakes quickly, letting them roll off their backs. For others, that’s not the case (If you’re fighting to be perfect or gain confidence I’m talking to you!). The fear to avoid mistakes can be crippling.

This is also true in acting, where you work and wait years for a five-minute audition that could change everything. However, my best work won’t come unless I live in the moment and trust my instincts. And you know what that means, things can go wrong in an instant. But guess what? I still have to dive in, and I mean all in. If I don’t risk it all, my audition will suck, and I’ll lose before I even walk through the door.

We all recognize that positives, including life lessons, come from mistakes. However, that doesn’t stop the nosedive mistakes caused on emotions and confidence. Sometimes, we do everything in our power to avoid that feeling.

“The phoenix must burn to emerge.” – Janet Fitch

Remember that there’s truth in the statement, “The biggest mistake is not making mistakes.” One way to get over your fear of failure is to make your focus on continuous improvement, not perfection. Teaching yourself to be okay with mistakes takes time but is necessary to maintain resilience.

You can allow yourself a learning curve, but it is essential to work on letting go of missteps. It takes practice to let go of the could have or would have statements. The good news is practice and persistence go hand-in-hand.

Take stock of what makes you happy in life, and turn to those things when mistakes happen. Little by little, as you learn to turn your attention elsewhere when missteps occur, you’ll train your brain to move on. This is how mistakes lose their power over you and enable you to pursue your goal with confidence.

Persistence is a state of mind. In the end, it means being kind to yourself. Know when to give yourself a break and pat on the back as you recharge your batteries. Then, you’ll find yourself able to maneuver whatever twists and turns life throws your way.

How do you remain determined in reaching your goals when it seems like the day won’t come? Let us know your advice and tips for your fellow entrepreneurs below!

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Dress for Success: 4 Small Fashion Choices That Make All the Difference

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When it comes to succeeding in business, making a good impression is just as much about your inner qualities as it is about your outer presentation. The fact of the matter is that your clothing and color choices, affect others’ perception of you. Believe it or not, you can achieve fashion-inspired success without splurging on a pair of Louboutins or shelling out $1000 for a designer suit. Just a few striking accessories can often complete the picture.

It may sound ridiculous that small accessories can affect the vibe you give off. It’s true, and certain accessories can even send certain messages. A recent study conducted by the University of Hertfordshire found that well-dressed male figures (whose faces were not shown) were perceived to be more confident, trustworthy, and well-to-do. Even minor adjustments to their clothing, such as adding on an accessory or more closely tailoring the suit, impacted these impressions.

However, our clothes not only impact the way others perceive us, but the way we perceive ourselves. A study conducted by the Scientific American, found that those who “suit up” performed better in cognitive tests. It suggests that being well-dressed releases more testosterone, which in turn increases confidence.

This allows well-dressed professionals to negotiate better deals, and in the long run, potentially make more money. So, maybe you’ve got the clothes, but what are the finishing touches you can put on your outfit to send an even stronger message? See below!

1. Wear a watch

A beautiful watch makes all the difference – and this goes for men and women. Even a simple button-down and jeans, or plain-colored dress, can be exponentially stylized by a standout watch. Charismatic individuals tend to talk more with their hands, too, as this captivates their listeners. Wearing a flashy wrist accessory like a watch will make your points even more engrossing. Furthermore, wearing a watch sends a subconscious message: you’re always on time. Individuals who wear a watch can always keep track of time and therefore, will never be late to a meeting.

“To me, clothing is a form of self-expression – There are hints about who you are in what you wear.” – Marc Jacobs

2. Tie it off with a tie pin

The one criticism of men’s business fashion is that it lacks variety. Let’s face it, while women have an infinite number of patterns, dress lengths, colors, and sleeve styles to choose from, men are pretty much locked into one outfit: the suit. You can buy one in suede, another in navy blue, throw in a paisley tie, but it’s simply not enough.

Adding on a tie pin will make a significant difference. Not only does it add a little shimmer to an otherwise dull suit, but it adds personality too. The kind of tie pin you choose says a lot about you. Maybe you’re a simple guy who just likes sterling silver, or you may choose to tout your school pride by wearing the colors of your alma mater (which, by the way, can also make a great conversation starter).

You can also create custom tie pins that feature the name of your company, or perhaps a saying that you’re fond of. The options are limitless.

3. A quality briefcase

It doesn’t even matter if you have nothing to carry around, the key is to never show up empty-handed. A quality leather briefcase is an important asset for men and women. Backpacks and most handbags don’t signify professionalism. A briefcase, on the other hand, symbolizes professionalism and importance. After all, what else would you carry in a briefcase except for a load of important documents and files, right?

The truth is, it doesn’t matter if all you have in your briefcase is a Kit-Kat Bar. All that matters is that it’s by your side and contains the essentials – a beautiful silver pen (perhaps with your name engraved), a notepad or iPad, and business cards that can be pulled out in a flash without having to rummage through your pockets.

“You can have anything you want in life if you dress for it.” – Edith Head

4. Nice sunglasses

It’s a sunny day and you’ve got a working lunch across town. Rather than squinting your way from Point A to Point B, top off your look with a pair of stylish sunglasses. Not only do these send a more casual vibe when tucked in your pocket, but the right sunglasses can give you a sleek aesthetic (think 007, but with business lunches). Wayfarers a la Audrey Hepburn and aviators a la Tom Cruise are the go-to choices for business professional sunglasses. You can’t go wrong with either of these styles.

The bottom line is that you choose how you wish to be viewed. The lesson here is much akin to the old adage: “don’t dress for the job you have, dress for the job you want.” And if you have the job you want, don’t send your fashion choices to the sidelines. Not only can clothes/accessories indicate our knowledge and experience, but also our authority.

How has a nice outfit helped you in your professional career? Comment below!

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How Creativity Leads to a More Successful Life

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Human beings are curious, inquisitive and creative. We have a deep desire to make meaning of our world and each other by creating. Each culture brings new ideas and meaning to gain a sense of belonging and purpose. Success comes from understanding your contribution to the world and the spark of this contribution comes from a creative place. Understanding the power that comes from creativity can help to elevate you in many ways.

Mary Lou Cook said, “Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, taking risks, breaking rules, making mistakes and having fun.” Having fun is part of the human experiment that not only provides a sense of purpose, but builds our humanity and scales our ability to succeed. Too many of us don’t allow ourselves a creative outlet or space because we don’t see the value in it if it doesn’t lead to a specific outcome.

Creativity is ever more important in today’s connection economy, because it is the outcome. As the world continues to race toward innovation, faster, cheaper, and quicker, are what distinguishes us from the crowd in terms of individual creative contribution. The more we share and create, the more we find out how valuable this concept is. Creativity cannot be outsourced, it must be cultivated, challenged, and inspired by human curiosity.

Below are 4 ways in which creativity leads to a more successful life:

1. Creativity Creates Deeper Connection to Work

Creativity is the act of experimenting and learning about what works and what may not. When we see creativity as a part of our work and not something left to a small artistic elite then we can create a deeper connection to the work we are meant to do in the world. If we see work as a part of our bigger purpose then our success will increase when we spend time being creative.

The more your creative footprint can be seen, understood, and felt, the more impact you will have. If you see an opportunity to think outside of the box in a particular situation because you see the world differently than your peers, then you have the edge to provide value that no one else can. And, guess what? Each one of us sees the world differently as part of our own uniqueness.

You already possess that special edge even if you were unsure of it before now. If you constantly avoid sharing your creative thoughts you are resisting your inner talents and hiding from the possibilities that lie within the power of your creativity.

“The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.” – Dorothy Parker

2. Incorporate More Creativity into Your Life

One of the ways you can grow in your ability to bring creativity in your life is to spend time having a “What if” mentality. Spending quality time wondering, dreaming and not stressed about the consequences of being wrong can be freeing.

If what we created wasn’t judged or had no real consequence beyond an act of wonder, we might dream up new solutions to old problems. Elon Musk allowed this “What if” mentality wondering what if he created a company that would make commercial space flight possible? His company is built not around what is, but what might be.

By bringing this sense of wonder and playfulness into our work, life and contribution, we can let go of some of the self-imposed limits we have placed on our own success. If we treat our work and life a bit more like play, we will see a growth in our ability to perform and contribute even more to the already exciting and wonderful world we live in.

3. Opportunity for New Thinking

Sometimes when we are working on a project, either in a team or solo, we might find that we are hitting a wall with a project or in finding a solution to a problem. Instead of looking for the answer, sometimes we need to allow our creative brain to play and search for answers that might be hidden.

By hidden, I mean not yet created. Take some time to remove yourself from the work at hand and just wonder. Consider ways that might seem impossible to do but might spark new ideas. New learning can come from adding two crazy ideas together or taking an old idea and making a wild new way of thinking about it.

For example, posing a question and just wondering about a solution might spark a solution that was not seen. How might we improve the passenger boarding process at the airport so that we can foresee new ideas that were not there before.

“Every child is an artist, the problem is staying an artist when you grow up” – Pablo Picasso

4. Create New Learning Pathways and Increase Brain Activity

When we are creative, we start to open our minds to new thinking. We begin to see new thinking and opportunities that we didn’t notice before. We also silence our amygdala or our lizard brain that is often in fight or flight mode to protect us.

When we are in a state of creative flow we silence the need to protect ourselves and find more peace and openness to new ideas and success. Try drawing on paper using colors, images and textures to visually create and noodle over ideas.

By using colors and a variety of mixed media aside from computers, smartphones and other electronics, you will invite a playful, often semi-dormant, part of your subconscious mind to work in upping your creativity game. The subtle connections and associations that occur in our brains when we use visualization can lead us to embark on new discoveries and success.

How has using your own creativity helped you succeed? Let us know in the comments below!

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Challenge Your Comfort Zone: 4 Behaviors to Master Effortless Execution

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Comfort zones are strange psychological oddities. They exist, but they are hard to pin down. Here is a comfort zone summary: In each of us there exists a psychological boundary. As long as we behave within the confines of that boundary, in other words, inside the zone, we feel by definition, comfortable. When we venture outside of the boundary, we feel uncomfortable.

Think about waking up and brushing your teeth. Are you challenged? That behavior has become so ingrained into your personal morning routine that you probably don’t even think about it or remember doing it.

Now, think about having to give a 30-minute presentation to the board of directors of your company. Are you palms starting to sweat yet? In the former example, we are well within our comfort zone while in the latter, well on the outside of it. The question before us is how do we expand our comfort zone so that a behavior like speaking in front of the board of directors is just as easy as brushing our teeth?

I have been training and coaching on comfort zone expansion for many years, and I’ve come up with 4 behaviors that will get you outside of your comfort zone so that you too can experience the joys associated with continued success.

Before I give you the behaviors, let me cover a few axioms that should sell you on the idea as to why you want to get your comfort zone to expand. (Keep in mind the expansion (or contraction) of your comfort zone is totally up to you. It is a decision that you need to make and that you need to follow through on. No one can do it for you!)

Axioms:

  • Successful people do what unsuccessful people are unwilling to do! Face it, the reason people become successful is because of achievement! They have a bias toward action.
  • Successful people are people who reside at the edge of their comfort zone. These are the people that volunteer to take on that tough client, head up that tough project, chair that committee that no one else wants to. Don’t get me wrong, they are nervous and doubtful of their abilities and are afraid, but they do it anyway. Why? Because they are hardwired for success.
  • Successful people are people who begin to feel comfortable feeling uncomfortable. These are people who are consistently on the edge of their comfort zone, thus they got use to it. Now, taking on the tough assignment is second nature to them.

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” – Brian Tracy

So, as you can see, success and stepping outside of the boundaries in which you feel safe and secure are really the same thing. Success comes to those who say they have the courage to try something new; something different.

How do you develop a bias toward action and stepping outside of your comfort zone? Try these 4 behaviors:

1. Do the same thing you have always done, only do it different

Take a different route to work. Try a different place for lunch (or at least something different on the menu). Use a different treadmill at the gym. Take a different route on your evening run. Get the idea? Take a different spin on the same old – same old.

2. Do the same thing you have always done, just do more of it

So, you wake up at 5:30 and run a mile? Good for you. Try waking up at 5:15 and run a mile and half. Is that too much of a change? No problem. Take 2 weeks to just wake up at 5:15. Spend a few extra minutes getting use to that time. Then start your mile and a half run after the 2 weeks of getting up 15 minutes early.

3. Stretch yourself; challenge yourself

But don’t venture so far outside of your comfort zone that you lose hope and get demotivated. If you have never exercised before, don’t expect to spend 3 hours at the gym your first day. (I love working out, but if I ever had to spend 3 hours at the gym, even after all these years, I would probably join the kingdom of coach potato!) Go slow, but go steady. No one says that you need to go a mile outside of your zone. Try venturing out an inch, then another inch, then a foot, and so on.

“There is no challenge more challenging than the challenge to improve yourself.”

4. Celebrate your victories

Congratulate yourself on your little successes. There is nothing so demotivating as to tell yourself that you will celebrate after victory, but never have a solid definition of success to gauge your celebration against.

If you begin to practice these behaviors and do so on a daily basis, you will begin to become aware of the fact that you are living on the edge of your comfort zone. You are trying new things that frighten you but are relishing in the exhilaration of those exciting new behaviors.

Richard Branson said that if our goals don’t scare us, they aren’t big enough. The way you determine bigger goals is to step outside of that land that is safe and secure and venture out into the wilderness of that frightening land of discomfort. Soon, you will claim that land as your own and it will be comfortable.

You may ask, what should I do then? That is, when I have attained comfort in doing what I felt uncomfortable doing in the past? The answer is simple: Keep going!

What is a big goal you have for yourself which you want to accomplish by the end of the year? Let us know in the comments so we can all encourage each other!

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3 Life Lessons in Perseverance to Achieve Your Wildest Dreams

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I have two careers as an actor and a marketer with each having its own unique challenges. However, the number of parallels I continue to find in my chosen professions never ceases to amaze me. Of these lessons, perhaps one of the most valuable is that of persistence, and the mental resilience I’ve had to learn. You can’t be an actor without resilience as I experience rejection dozens of times per week. (more…)

Kristen McCabe is a marketer at G2 Crowd who calls both Chicago and Australia home. Her background includes marketing, events, and public relations across various industries including film, publishing, professional associations, and tech. Also an actor, Kristen loves applying the craft of acting to the profession of marketing to create marketing strategies with authenticity and heart. Find Kristen on Twitter:  @AusmericanGirl

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24 Comments

  1. ezekiel damilola

    Mar 27, 2016 at 1:53 pm

    I think it’s the “fundamental 2” that talks about reading coz I see it as the finest way to develop the mind. It equally affords an individual the privilege of connecting most time with people he or she usually cannot or may not meet in person.

  2. Syed Aslam

    Jan 10, 2016 at 1:07 pm

    It’s really all good points. Thanks for the post.

  3. Jim Carlén

    Jan 10, 2016 at 12:38 am

    Really good, I did connect with it a a lot! I will share it at my blog tomorrow! =)

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 11, 2016 at 1:19 am

      Thanks Jim, and I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  4. S K Jain

    Jan 9, 2016 at 5:32 am

    Nice article. Addicted2Success seems to be a modern version of Dale Carnegie!

  5. Joel S

    Jan 5, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    Great article. It reminded me of of several core concepts that I’ve let slip from the forefront of my mind, where they belong! My only question is: What would you recommend doing to maintain a positive state of mind? Do you have any daily rituals, practices, or mental exercises you do? Thanks!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 6, 2016 at 8:41 pm

      Hey Joel! I’m glad you enjoyed it. Something that works really well for me, is that whenever I’m faced with a difficult situation, I say to myself “If you can’t control the situation, control your reaction to it”. The most important component of mental strength is realizing that you have the power to choose your reaction to every situation. Always try and seek the positive in the situation. If you look hard enough, you’ll always find it.

      I have recently starting trying my hand at meditating, which I have found really beneficial. If you’re new to it, try using the ‘Headspace’ app. Hope this helps. – Owen.

  6. Paul Damson Mwanelo

    Jan 3, 2016 at 3:34 pm

    Hello Owen! Let me say that you have done a commendable job with such a superb article.I have really enjoyed reading through it.I am really eager to try my best to find the books you listed above so that I can improve my mental strength if possible because I am not sure I will get them in bookshops here in Malawi.But I am willing to have them.Once again thanks for your unbeatable and great article!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 4, 2016 at 2:23 am

      Hey Paul! Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate the positive feedback! Unfortunately I am not sure where you could get your hands on these books in Malawi, although it might be possible to purchase an e-book version off Amazon.com? I hope you are able to get your hands on them, they will certainly help! Seeing that you liked this post, feel free to check out some of my other content on my personal site, evovlebyoh.com – Cheers!

  7. Usman Mahmood

    Jan 2, 2016 at 12:06 pm

    Great article and love all the points.

    The one that I feel connected to the most is point number 4 learning to be in the present. In life we have to control our mental state on a daily and likewise it is dangerous to be doubtful of what may happen. Eliminating such thoughts will help one be more appreciative of life because there are people in the world that are in more difficult situations than yourself. The best a person can do is try their hardest and any failure should be seen as a learning experience and another step to success. It also leads to a person being more happier; disciplined, goal orientated and optimistic.

    Never Give up!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 3, 2016 at 5:16 am

      Thanks Usman, I appreciate the feedback! You provide some great insight.

  8. Owen

    Jan 1, 2016 at 6:17 am

    Thanks for the feedback gentlemen. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. All the best to you in the new year!

  9. Douglas

    Jan 1, 2016 at 2:57 am

    Thank you sincerely from my heart for sharing this article ^^

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      You’re welcome Douglas. All the best to you mate!

  10. Lawrence Berry

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:39 am

    Learning mental strength is a valuable tool that can help you be more successful and ultimately happier in life. When you are mentally strong, you have the power to be more optimistic and more self-disciplined, two characteristics vital to success and happiness. I love the tips you have given here and learning to see the positives in everything, including failure is one of my favorites on the list. I also use meditation to help me as well.

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 3:19 pm

      So true Lawrence. Mental strength gives you the power to create your own happiness and success, specific to you and your own goals. I have only just recently started meditating and have found it very useful, if you have any tips feel free to share. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Cheers!

  11. Owen Hone

    Jan 1, 2016 at 1:28 am

    Thanks

  12. Tim Denning

    Dec 31, 2015 at 10:51 pm

    Great article Owen and perfect advice for the New Year!

    • Owen Hone

      Jan 1, 2016 at 1:24 am

      Thanks Tim, glad you enjoyed it!

  13. George

    Dec 31, 2015 at 9:42 pm

    All excellent pointers heading into 2016 … thanks!

    • Owen

      Dec 31, 2015 at 10:10 pm

      Thanks George, I’m glad you enjoyed the post! All the best to you in the new year. – Owen

  14. Jean-Paul Blommaert

    Dec 31, 2015 at 2:18 pm

    Great post. Definitely gonna read more about Mr Maxwell. I like nr 5. I would say and take it even a bit further is that never really “happens to us” we are all creating and attracting it with the thoughts & emotions we hold in our subconscious mind!

    • Owen Hone

      Dec 31, 2015 at 5:17 pm

      Thanks for your feedback Jean-Paul. I’m glad you enjoyed the post!

      I agree with you 100% – what we think and feel eventually becomes reality. All the best to you in the New Year! Owen

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3 Life Lessons in Perseverance to Achieve Your Wildest Dreams

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I have two careers as an actor and a marketer with each having its own unique challenges. However, the number of parallels I continue to find in my chosen professions never ceases to amaze me. Of these lessons, perhaps one of the most valuable is that of persistence, and the mental resilience I’ve had to learn. You can’t be an actor without resilience as I experience rejection dozens of times per week.

Acting is a lesson in endurance, not a sprint. When you think about it though, doesn’t that apply to any career? It’s not easy to “Keep on keeping on.” No matter what path life has led you down, I’m sure you’ve experienced plenty of bumps. Sometimes, those bumps turn into potholes that the universe seems to refuse to fix.

As an actor, rejection is par for the course. Thankfully, I’ve learned how to persevere in spite of it. When life gets especially challenging, and you are dealing with change, disappointment or missteps, make use of these life lessons and continue pressing on towards your goal.

Below are 3 lessons in perseverance which will help you achieve your wildest dreams:

1. Know when it’s time to recalibrate

Goals are an important and necessary tool to reach our full potential. They keep us focused to help make small decisions on a daily basis such as if I should get up for that 8 a.m. run along with bigger decisions such as if I should take a new job offer. While setting goals is essential, don’t let them overpower you.

Tunnel vision in reaching your goals adds unnecessary pressure. This causes us to make mistakes we wouldn’t have made otherwise. Get too obsessed with a goal and you’ll forget the big picture, such as why you chose this course to begin with. Take a lesson from one of my favorite casting directors, Dave Newman of McSweeney Newman Casting.

Forget trying to “make it big” as an actor. It is normal to wait years before booking work with a decent paycheck. If you’re in the room with Dave, it’s hard not to let the pressure take over your performance.

In the words of Dave, as soon as those words from A Chorus Line enter your head, “God, I hope I get it!” it’s time to adjust your mindset. Dave advises taking a step back, refocusing, and doing anything that isn’t acting. Sometimes the best way to reach a goal is by shifting your gaze just for a moment. Take the pressure off and recalibrate your thoughts. You’ll come back recharged with a fresh perspective to pursue your objectives.

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney

2. Appreciate the journey

Perseverance requires a heaping dose of appreciation. This means acknowledging all the wins in your life, both big and small. Even if you haven’t yet met your goal, remember that you are moving towards it and that alone is an achievement.

As Linda Gillum, Casting Director at Chicago theatre Remy Bumppo explains, “With everything you do, you’re planting seeds.” It takes time for the seeds of success to grow. As an actor, my seeds take a lot of sunshine, water, and gratitude for the little things. A win can be as simple as improving my technique or getting an audition; I can’t base my happiness on booked jobs.

Persistence becomes much easier when you notice your achievements despite those potholes surrounding you. Celebrate the small wins; they’re what milestones are built on. Even if your manager or co-workers don’t recognize your work, give yourself that pat on the back.

To stay motivated, make a mental highlight reel of your achievements. Afterwards, be ready to hit the play button whenever you need a quick pick-me-up.

3. Embrace mistakes or at least be okay with them

No matter how much you hate mistakes, they’ll keep happening. Some people seem to move on from mistakes quickly, letting them roll off their backs. For others, that’s not the case (If you’re fighting to be perfect or gain confidence I’m talking to you!). The fear to avoid mistakes can be crippling.

This is also true in acting, where you work and wait years for a five-minute audition that could change everything. However, my best work won’t come unless I live in the moment and trust my instincts. And you know what that means, things can go wrong in an instant. But guess what? I still have to dive in, and I mean all in. If I don’t risk it all, my audition will suck, and I’ll lose before I even walk through the door.

We all recognize that positives, including life lessons, come from mistakes. However, that doesn’t stop the nosedive mistakes caused on emotions and confidence. Sometimes, we do everything in our power to avoid that feeling.

“The phoenix must burn to emerge.” – Janet Fitch

Remember that there’s truth in the statement, “The biggest mistake is not making mistakes.” One way to get over your fear of failure is to make your focus on continuous improvement, not perfection. Teaching yourself to be okay with mistakes takes time but is necessary to maintain resilience.

You can allow yourself a learning curve, but it is essential to work on letting go of missteps. It takes practice to let go of the could have or would have statements. The good news is practice and persistence go hand-in-hand.

Take stock of what makes you happy in life, and turn to those things when mistakes happen. Little by little, as you learn to turn your attention elsewhere when missteps occur, you’ll train your brain to move on. This is how mistakes lose their power over you and enable you to pursue your goal with confidence.

Persistence is a state of mind. In the end, it means being kind to yourself. Know when to give yourself a break and pat on the back as you recharge your batteries. Then, you’ll find yourself able to maneuver whatever twists and turns life throws your way.

How do you remain determined in reaching your goals when it seems like the day won’t come? Let us know your advice and tips for your fellow entrepreneurs below!

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Dress for Success: 4 Small Fashion Choices That Make All the Difference

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When it comes to succeeding in business, making a good impression is just as much about your inner qualities as it is about your outer presentation. The fact of the matter is that your clothing and color choices, affect others’ perception of you. Believe it or not, you can achieve fashion-inspired success without splurging on a pair of Louboutins or shelling out $1000 for a designer suit. Just a few striking accessories can often complete the picture.

It may sound ridiculous that small accessories can affect the vibe you give off. It’s true, and certain accessories can even send certain messages. A recent study conducted by the University of Hertfordshire found that well-dressed male figures (whose faces were not shown) were perceived to be more confident, trustworthy, and well-to-do. Even minor adjustments to their clothing, such as adding on an accessory or more closely tailoring the suit, impacted these impressions.

However, our clothes not only impact the way others perceive us, but the way we perceive ourselves. A study conducted by the Scientific American, found that those who “suit up” performed better in cognitive tests. It suggests that being well-dressed releases more testosterone, which in turn increases confidence.

This allows well-dressed professionals to negotiate better deals, and in the long run, potentially make more money. So, maybe you’ve got the clothes, but what are the finishing touches you can put on your outfit to send an even stronger message? See below!

1. Wear a watch

A beautiful watch makes all the difference – and this goes for men and women. Even a simple button-down and jeans, or plain-colored dress, can be exponentially stylized by a standout watch. Charismatic individuals tend to talk more with their hands, too, as this captivates their listeners. Wearing a flashy wrist accessory like a watch will make your points even more engrossing. Furthermore, wearing a watch sends a subconscious message: you’re always on time. Individuals who wear a watch can always keep track of time and therefore, will never be late to a meeting.

“To me, clothing is a form of self-expression – There are hints about who you are in what you wear.” – Marc Jacobs

2. Tie it off with a tie pin

The one criticism of men’s business fashion is that it lacks variety. Let’s face it, while women have an infinite number of patterns, dress lengths, colors, and sleeve styles to choose from, men are pretty much locked into one outfit: the suit. You can buy one in suede, another in navy blue, throw in a paisley tie, but it’s simply not enough.

Adding on a tie pin will make a significant difference. Not only does it add a little shimmer to an otherwise dull suit, but it adds personality too. The kind of tie pin you choose says a lot about you. Maybe you’re a simple guy who just likes sterling silver, or you may choose to tout your school pride by wearing the colors of your alma mater (which, by the way, can also make a great conversation starter).

You can also create custom tie pins that feature the name of your company, or perhaps a saying that you’re fond of. The options are limitless.

3. A quality briefcase

It doesn’t even matter if you have nothing to carry around, the key is to never show up empty-handed. A quality leather briefcase is an important asset for men and women. Backpacks and most handbags don’t signify professionalism. A briefcase, on the other hand, symbolizes professionalism and importance. After all, what else would you carry in a briefcase except for a load of important documents and files, right?

The truth is, it doesn’t matter if all you have in your briefcase is a Kit-Kat Bar. All that matters is that it’s by your side and contains the essentials – a beautiful silver pen (perhaps with your name engraved), a notepad or iPad, and business cards that can be pulled out in a flash without having to rummage through your pockets.

“You can have anything you want in life if you dress for it.” – Edith Head

4. Nice sunglasses

It’s a sunny day and you’ve got a working lunch across town. Rather than squinting your way from Point A to Point B, top off your look with a pair of stylish sunglasses. Not only do these send a more casual vibe when tucked in your pocket, but the right sunglasses can give you a sleek aesthetic (think 007, but with business lunches). Wayfarers a la Audrey Hepburn and aviators a la Tom Cruise are the go-to choices for business professional sunglasses. You can’t go wrong with either of these styles.

The bottom line is that you choose how you wish to be viewed. The lesson here is much akin to the old adage: “don’t dress for the job you have, dress for the job you want.” And if you have the job you want, don’t send your fashion choices to the sidelines. Not only can clothes/accessories indicate our knowledge and experience, but also our authority.

How has a nice outfit helped you in your professional career? Comment below!

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How Creativity Leads to a More Successful Life

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Human beings are curious, inquisitive and creative. We have a deep desire to make meaning of our world and each other by creating. Each culture brings new ideas and meaning to gain a sense of belonging and purpose. Success comes from understanding your contribution to the world and the spark of this contribution comes from a creative place. Understanding the power that comes from creativity can help to elevate you in many ways.

Mary Lou Cook said, “Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, taking risks, breaking rules, making mistakes and having fun.” Having fun is part of the human experiment that not only provides a sense of purpose, but builds our humanity and scales our ability to succeed. Too many of us don’t allow ourselves a creative outlet or space because we don’t see the value in it if it doesn’t lead to a specific outcome.

Creativity is ever more important in today’s connection economy, because it is the outcome. As the world continues to race toward innovation, faster, cheaper, and quicker, are what distinguishes us from the crowd in terms of individual creative contribution. The more we share and create, the more we find out how valuable this concept is. Creativity cannot be outsourced, it must be cultivated, challenged, and inspired by human curiosity.

Below are 4 ways in which creativity leads to a more successful life:

1. Creativity Creates Deeper Connection to Work

Creativity is the act of experimenting and learning about what works and what may not. When we see creativity as a part of our work and not something left to a small artistic elite then we can create a deeper connection to the work we are meant to do in the world. If we see work as a part of our bigger purpose then our success will increase when we spend time being creative.

The more your creative footprint can be seen, understood, and felt, the more impact you will have. If you see an opportunity to think outside of the box in a particular situation because you see the world differently than your peers, then you have the edge to provide value that no one else can. And, guess what? Each one of us sees the world differently as part of our own uniqueness.

You already possess that special edge even if you were unsure of it before now. If you constantly avoid sharing your creative thoughts you are resisting your inner talents and hiding from the possibilities that lie within the power of your creativity.

“The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.” – Dorothy Parker

2. Incorporate More Creativity into Your Life

One of the ways you can grow in your ability to bring creativity in your life is to spend time having a “What if” mentality. Spending quality time wondering, dreaming and not stressed about the consequences of being wrong can be freeing.

If what we created wasn’t judged or had no real consequence beyond an act of wonder, we might dream up new solutions to old problems. Elon Musk allowed this “What if” mentality wondering what if he created a company that would make commercial space flight possible? His company is built not around what is, but what might be.

By bringing this sense of wonder and playfulness into our work, life and contribution, we can let go of some of the self-imposed limits we have placed on our own success. If we treat our work and life a bit more like play, we will see a growth in our ability to perform and contribute even more to the already exciting and wonderful world we live in.

3. Opportunity for New Thinking

Sometimes when we are working on a project, either in a team or solo, we might find that we are hitting a wall with a project or in finding a solution to a problem. Instead of looking for the answer, sometimes we need to allow our creative brain to play and search for answers that might be hidden.

By hidden, I mean not yet created. Take some time to remove yourself from the work at hand and just wonder. Consider ways that might seem impossible to do but might spark new ideas. New learning can come from adding two crazy ideas together or taking an old idea and making a wild new way of thinking about it.

For example, posing a question and just wondering about a solution might spark a solution that was not seen. How might we improve the passenger boarding process at the airport so that we can foresee new ideas that were not there before.

“Every child is an artist, the problem is staying an artist when you grow up” – Pablo Picasso

4. Create New Learning Pathways and Increase Brain Activity

When we are creative, we start to open our minds to new thinking. We begin to see new thinking and opportunities that we didn’t notice before. We also silence our amygdala or our lizard brain that is often in fight or flight mode to protect us.

When we are in a state of creative flow we silence the need to protect ourselves and find more peace and openness to new ideas and success. Try drawing on paper using colors, images and textures to visually create and noodle over ideas.

By using colors and a variety of mixed media aside from computers, smartphones and other electronics, you will invite a playful, often semi-dormant, part of your subconscious mind to work in upping your creativity game. The subtle connections and associations that occur in our brains when we use visualization can lead us to embark on new discoveries and success.

How has using your own creativity helped you succeed? Let us know in the comments below!

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Challenge Your Comfort Zone: 4 Behaviors to Master Effortless Execution

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Comfort zones are strange psychological oddities. They exist, but they are hard to pin down. Here is a comfort zone summary: In each of us there exists a psychological boundary. As long as we behave within the confines of that boundary, in other words, inside the zone, we feel by definition, comfortable. When we venture outside of the boundary, we feel uncomfortable.

Think about waking up and brushing your teeth. Are you challenged? That behavior has become so ingrained into your personal morning routine that you probably don’t even think about it or remember doing it.

Now, think about having to give a 30-minute presentation to the board of directors of your company. Are you palms starting to sweat yet? In the former example, we are well within our comfort zone while in the latter, well on the outside of it. The question before us is how do we expand our comfort zone so that a behavior like speaking in front of the board of directors is just as easy as brushing our teeth?

I have been training and coaching on comfort zone expansion for many years, and I’ve come up with 4 behaviors that will get you outside of your comfort zone so that you too can experience the joys associated with continued success.

Before I give you the behaviors, let me cover a few axioms that should sell you on the idea as to why you want to get your comfort zone to expand. (Keep in mind the expansion (or contraction) of your comfort zone is totally up to you. It is a decision that you need to make and that you need to follow through on. No one can do it for you!)

Axioms:

  • Successful people do what unsuccessful people are unwilling to do! Face it, the reason people become successful is because of achievement! They have a bias toward action.
  • Successful people are people who reside at the edge of their comfort zone. These are the people that volunteer to take on that tough client, head up that tough project, chair that committee that no one else wants to. Don’t get me wrong, they are nervous and doubtful of their abilities and are afraid, but they do it anyway. Why? Because they are hardwired for success.
  • Successful people are people who begin to feel comfortable feeling uncomfortable. These are people who are consistently on the edge of their comfort zone, thus they got use to it. Now, taking on the tough assignment is second nature to them.

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” – Brian Tracy

So, as you can see, success and stepping outside of the boundaries in which you feel safe and secure are really the same thing. Success comes to those who say they have the courage to try something new; something different.

How do you develop a bias toward action and stepping outside of your comfort zone? Try these 4 behaviors:

1. Do the same thing you have always done, only do it different

Take a different route to work. Try a different place for lunch (or at least something different on the menu). Use a different treadmill at the gym. Take a different route on your evening run. Get the idea? Take a different spin on the same old – same old.

2. Do the same thing you have always done, just do more of it

So, you wake up at 5:30 and run a mile? Good for you. Try waking up at 5:15 and run a mile and half. Is that too much of a change? No problem. Take 2 weeks to just wake up at 5:15. Spend a few extra minutes getting use to that time. Then start your mile and a half run after the 2 weeks of getting up 15 minutes early.

3. Stretch yourself; challenge yourself

But don’t venture so far outside of your comfort zone that you lose hope and get demotivated. If you have never exercised before, don’t expect to spend 3 hours at the gym your first day. (I love working out, but if I ever had to spend 3 hours at the gym, even after all these years, I would probably join the kingdom of coach potato!) Go slow, but go steady. No one says that you need to go a mile outside of your zone. Try venturing out an inch, then another inch, then a foot, and so on.

“There is no challenge more challenging than the challenge to improve yourself.”

4. Celebrate your victories

Congratulate yourself on your little successes. There is nothing so demotivating as to tell yourself that you will celebrate after victory, but never have a solid definition of success to gauge your celebration against.

If you begin to practice these behaviors and do so on a daily basis, you will begin to become aware of the fact that you are living on the edge of your comfort zone. You are trying new things that frighten you but are relishing in the exhilaration of those exciting new behaviors.

Richard Branson said that if our goals don’t scare us, they aren’t big enough. The way you determine bigger goals is to step outside of that land that is safe and secure and venture out into the wilderness of that frightening land of discomfort. Soon, you will claim that land as your own and it will be comfortable.

You may ask, what should I do then? That is, when I have attained comfort in doing what I felt uncomfortable doing in the past? The answer is simple: Keep going!

What is a big goal you have for yourself which you want to accomplish by the end of the year? Let us know in the comments so we can all encourage each other!

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