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7 Signs That Showed Me I’m On The Path To Success

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In the last few weeks, I have begun to realise after reading many books that I am 100% on the path to success. I don’t tell you this to impress you but to impress upon you that self-development and the things we teach on Addicted2Success really do work if you allow them to.

Below are the seven signs that showed me I was on the path to success and that you should start being aware of.

1. Taking big risks as if it’s a habit

Subconsciously I have begun taking what I used to consider as big risks by habit. What this has done for me, has allowed my personal growth to multiply more than ever before. No longer am I worried about what people think and if everyone is doing something, like face painting (this happened at a function I was at the other day), I am perfectly comfortable in doing what I believe in and making sure it’s for the right reasons.

I never really knew what the path to success looked like until my mind started taking these risks and turning them into a video game that I wanted to win. We talk a lot on Addicted2Success about habits but never would I have ever thought that taking risks would become one of mine. It started out as taking smalls steps, but now these steps appear giant when I look back.

2. Career opportunities coming from everywhere

This is going to sound crazy, but for the last two years I have been swamped more than ever with career opportunities. This is yet another sign that I am on the path to success without even realising it. When I talk to other people, they keep wondering how this continues to happen to me.

The only way I can explain it is when you focus all your efforts on becoming a better version of you, the universe conspires in your favour to make your ultimate dreams come true. Between being offered amazing corporate roles, to being asked to invest in companies, to sitting on the board of amazing charities and being asked to attend ridiculously cool events, I am having to pinch myself each day.

There is no luck in any of this just lots and lots of personal growth and carefully focused attention towards success. If you’re not experiencing this just yet, set yourself a goal that for the next three months you will do nothing but consume self-development content in the form of books, documentaries, podcasts and audiobooks.

At the end of the three months, I want you to then spread at least one idea from this content with someone new each day. If you do this for three months, this new habit will pretty quickly see your career opportunities change for the better.

3. Strangers wanting to have coffee

I did an interesting exercise a few weeks ago and had a look at my iPhone calendar from a few years ago. When I compared it to now, there were dozens more requests to have coffee with people. I have added this to the list of things that have showed me that I am on the path to success.

The invitations seem to come out of nowhere. No matter where I go I seem to meet at least one interesting person who insists on having coffee at some point in the near future – for those of you who know me well, you know I only drink green tea, not coffee, but that’s another story.

I often return to my office after these encounters and don’t think much of it but then sure enough I have an email sitting in my inbox with the calendar invite. Some of these calendar invites are what turn into interviews on this site.

The crazy thing about these interviews is that I get to learn ideas and concepts that I could have never come across before. I then have to write out these concepts in the form of an article, which just reinforces and creates further references that I use to keep me on the path to success.

I once listened to a Tony Robbins audiotape that suggested that you should budget a portion of your monthly income into taking out successful people for coffee or lunch. I can’t stress enough that when I came across this idea, I begun to see the money spent on coffees and lunches as an investment in me, rather than an expense.

4. Red eyes being replaced with eyes whiter than whipped cream

I compared some photos of myself from a few years back and noticed that my eyes were no longer red like they used to be. It would not be uncommon for me to get at least five people per day comment on why I look so tired and how come my eyes are red, and even make jokes about me being stoned from marijuana (I despise marijuana).

If I compare the comments to now, most people are telling me I look full of energy, have glowing skin and seem very healthy. This has shown me that I am on the road to success because most successful people say that being healthy is a big part of where they are now.

When I had red eyes and felt sick every day I was being sucked in by the Western diet of high fats and sugars, which was affecting my mood and making me tired every day. When I began drinking more water and practicing the daily habit of drinking green juice, the red eyes disappeared overnight.

5. An influx of comments on your birthday

I recently had a birthday, and I saw further signs I was on the path to success when all my social media platforms and email lit up with people sending me birthday messages from all over the world. Only a year prior I would be lucky to get even a quarter of the messages I get now.

Once you start a life of growth and giving, people seem to reciprocate this back to you. I stopped focusing on what I could get and focused more on what I could give. The result was all the inspiring messages I got on my birthday. I now believe that it’s always best to be humble and appreciate even the little things like birthdays.

6. Daily inspirational emails from strangers

I am not making this up when I say that every day now I consistently get inspiring emails and messages from people of all walks of life. Many of them have read my articles or seen me at a function and just want to reach out.

This sign of success comes because I think the law of attraction works in your favour when you put out messages into the world that are helpful and inspire people to change their life. I find that reading these messages each day compounds my motivation and passion even further.

A lot of the success signs I am sharing with you in this article have that magical compounding effect that Warren Buffet always talks about with investing. The hardest part for me was to get moving towards momentum. Once the momentum starts, you just need to control it, appreciate it and nurture it going forward.

7. Being asked to speak at different engagements

As I look back on the first half of this year, I have also been asked to speak on many different occasions. When you’re on the path to success people see value you in what you represent. It’s only human nature that people want you to share the value they see in what you do, with everybody else.

It’s after the extreme moments of growth that you find your true passion, which puts you on purpose; that focuses your attention on one pursuit. The thing I try and remember is It’s not that I was never good at what I am doing now, it’s just that I never focused enough time on it because my effort was spread too broadly.

I used to always believe that I wasn’t good at speaking in front of other people, and it just wasn’t part of my DNA. While I am a long way from being any good at speaking, I have come a long way this year towards being able to present moments of value for others.

If I am asked to speak about something that is outside of my true passion, I find that my speaking skills and confidence immediately drop right off. Even when I have spoken about something and thought I did a poor job of it, people still tell me I did very well.

I now try and remember that as long as I deliver at least one useful point, the rest of my talk can be a train wreck and people will still get value.

***Final Thought***

To sum up all of these signs that I am on a path to success, would be to say quite simply, have something of value to say, put your passion into it, give when you can and the universe will take care of the rest for you.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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12 Comments

12 Comments

  1. F

    Oct 27, 2015 at 4:35 pm

    Thank you….I’m drawing on this information.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 30, 2015 at 2:31 am

      No problem at all

  2. Rasher

    Aug 1, 2015 at 5:42 pm

    Great article ! Surrounding oneself with positive and successful people is always a bonus ! Wishing you all the very best as you travel on the path of greatness

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 3, 2015 at 10:01 am

      Thanks Rasher for your support and reading the article. Much respect!

  3. Lawrence Berry

    Jul 24, 2015 at 3:28 pm

    This is a great article and reading these things are like look at my own life. It is true that when you constantly work on yourself and your developing your skills, the world begin to open doors for you, you never thought possible. Its really great that you turned your life around and have reached the true path to success. A lot people don’t realize that there is a formula for success and reaching a personal excellence in your life. Once you figure out this formula, success is sure to come.

    • Tim Denning

      Jul 26, 2015 at 2:56 am

      Lawrence you nailed it. There is a formula to success and once you know what that formula is, the rest is straight forward. The only thing you need other than the formula though is a set of belief systems. If you’re on the path to success but you don’t believe you can achieve your goals, then the success formula really means nothing at all.

      Thanks as always Lawrence for your wisdom.

  4. Toby Nwazor

    Jul 23, 2015 at 6:37 am

    Hello Tim,

    This is incredible and I can only but say congratulations. Success is attractive and when you succeed a lot of people will want to associate with you. The point about strangers asking to have coffee with you made me chuckle, but it is true.

    I hope your success never ends. Kudos

    • Tim Denning

      Jul 24, 2015 at 10:30 am

      Wow! Thanks Toby that’s very nice of you to say. I had second thoughts about the coffee part but I thought, it’s the truth so why not talk about it.

  5. Heitem Ak

    Jul 23, 2015 at 5:02 am

    Nice one Tim!

    “There is no luck in any of this just lots and lots of personal growth and carefully focused attention towards success.”

    Can’t stress that enough. Focused and calculated actions are a must!

    There is no place for luck.

    Heitem Ak

    • Tim Denning

      Jul 24, 2015 at 10:29 am

      Heitem, thanks for your kind comment. Believing that luck is what will make you successful he false hope.

  6. anomuogharan tanrose

    Jul 23, 2015 at 3:20 am

    Thanks Tim for sharing your experience. Learnt a lot from this.

    • Tim Denning

      Jul 24, 2015 at 10:28 am

      Not a problem anomuogharan glad you learnt something.

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6 Things You Should Do if You Want to Live a Successful and Prosperous Life

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Not every individual believes in the same definition of success. People live by their own rules and thus, define success uniquely. No matter how distinct all such definitions of success may sound, they certainly have something in common. Plus, they are not limited to just work or business. Being able to lead a happier, healthier personal life also determines social success.

Search for ‘How to Succeed in Life’ online, and you will find numerous blogs and videos defining the same things in different ways. But is that all you really need to succeed in life? Not really.

The first and foremost thing to realize is that success is not just about achievement or the end results. Instead, it is the journey to the end, a goal or vision. No doubt, every individual wants to succeed in life. The mere thought of succeeding can fill the mind with excitement, zeal, and gains.

More than what most of the people commonly know about success, there are lots of unwritten rules that can only be known with experience. Alongside, you might have heard some people saying that not everyone has the right skills to succeed. True, but in this assertion, you need not focus on its negative sense, but on the term ‘Skills.’

Skills can be developed. This simply means you can succeed, no matter how hard the journey. Both in business and life, success can be achieved by focusing more on what needs to be done right away.

To succeed, you should know how to improve your skills and maximize your success potential. The best part is you can make the achievement of success simple for yourself.

Here are 6 things you should do if you want to live a successful life:

1. Prepare A Success-Driven Mindset

Just like seeds which lie at the root of every well-grown tree, optimistic thoughts lie at the root of an individual’s success. Those who succeed in life do not have a magic wand to make wonders happen, but a success-driven mindset. Along with the skills and knowledge they have, their mindsets are hard-wired to not just survive, but thrive.

To have an optimistic spirit forever is what matters when it comes to success. Just keep on reminding yourself that you can learn to lead and succeed in life, while also weeding out every negative thought that says you can’t.

Be determined to work hard towards your goals. Stay away from the naysayers and continue doing your best every single day. Doing this will make it easier for you to achieve even the most difficult dreams you have in mind.

2. Don’t Fear What Others Will Say

Fear of criticism is indeed one of the most critical fears people face in their lives. It robs an individual’s ability to start doing what they should do and destroys their imagination. Some people can even be found losing self-reliance just because they think more about what others will say when they do what they want to.

When it comes to following a dream, you should be ready to take calculated risks without feeling fearful about possible criticism that can happen. Don’t hesitate in trying new things and following new paths. Look at the difficulties you face as opportunities to learn more. This is how you can write a new definition of success for others to follow.

“Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember, the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Manage Your Time Instead of Wasting It

A common habit shared by all successful people in this world is that they prefer not to waste time. Instead, they manage their time effectively and utilize it for the valuable things they do.

You might have thought you’d be unable to achieve success because you have less time to do what you really want to. But think of it differently. Everyone has the same twenty-four hours in a day to live and achieve success.

If you feel you do not have much time to follow your dreams, the first thing you need to do is to identify where your time gets wasted. Then avoid wasting time that way. Invest it in doing something fruitful and in the line of success you have envisioned for your life.

4. Break Your Big Dream into Smaller Goals

We all are taught to dream big, and there is nothing wrong with it. But it often happens that some people start to feel lost while envisioning the end-result they are aiming for. They have no plans, just a vision that can be taken forward.

The journey to becoming successful in achieving your dream may seem complicated and full of hurdles now, but these complications will lessen up as you continue to do your part to make it come true.

So, don’t worry or feel frightened about your big dream. Instead, break it down into smaller goals that you can achieve each day or within a specific time period. Just continue doing the required research and learn as you do things. You will be amazed when you get to see that the goals you reached each day have helped you get closer to your ultimate dream.

“The greater danger for most of us isn’t that our aim is too high and miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” – Michelangelo

5. Never Stop Learning

As mentioned above, success is a journey, not the endpoint. Once you achieve one milestone at work or in life, you need to put yourself up for the next. This means you need to continue learning new things with time.

You may be feeling you have learned enough and do not need any more knowledge, but this is not true. The scope of learning is nearly infinite. It is just that our mind is limited to learn and remember things.

Progressive learning is one of the key differences between successful people and those who fail. So, always continue to learn new things in the direction of your ultimate dream in life. Challenge yourself and be better than your current form of being.

6. Step Up from Failures with A Lesson Learnt

You might have thought hard times and hardships don’t exist in the lives of successful people. This is not true because even successful people are humans like you or anyone else. They do make mistakes, face failures, and get knocked down.

What makes successful people different is their ability to bounce back from failures and regain their state of mind. They step up each time they fail with a valuable lesson learned for the time ahead. This ‘Never-Give-Up’ attitude sets them apart from the masses. This is a must have if you want to be successful in life.

If you look closely at all the definitions of success, you will find that they are all based on individual experience. Hardships do not only imply a failure to achieve your dreams but the treasure of lessons for you to succeed.

The next time you feel like you can’t achieve anything in any form, try to look at yourself, analyze what you need to do, and just do it.

What do you think is the biggest characteristic of successful people? Share your thoughts below!

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19 Success Mantras From Zig Ziglar to Help You Unleash Your True Potential

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There’s a good reason why Zig Ziglar is considered by many as the Godfather of motivation. Ziglar did not beat around the bush; he had a clear set of ideas, with easy to implement strategies coupled with powerful tonality and delivery that made him one of the best in the business.

The following is a collection of 19 success mantras from Ziglar that will inspire and motivate you to take the right action and unleash your greatest potential.

1. Create a very specific and detailed goal

“You need a plan to build a house. To build a life, it is even more important to have a plan or goal.” – Zig Ziglar

The first success mantra from Ziglar is to set specific goals, because goals help you focus.

Ziglar wants you to set following types of goals:

  • Big goals: Big goals are the type of goals that cause excitement and motivate you. If setbacks happen, focusing on these big goals will help push you forward.
  • Long range goals: These can include monthly and yearly goals.
  • Daily goals: Daily goals help you work consistently toward your long range goals.

Once your goals are in place, you can develop a plan on how to achieve them. Find out what obstacles you face, the skills you need to learn, and the people you need to meet in order to achieve your goals.

You don’t need to have everything figured out in the beginning. You can alter your goals and plans as you progress and as things become clear.

2. Visualize reaching your goals

If you want to reach your goal, you must see it, be able to smell, touch and taste it, know how it looks and what it feels like in your own mind.” – Zig Ziglar

Imagination (or seeing things using your mind’s eye) is the most powerful tool at your disposal. You can achieve miracles if you use this tool properly.

So take a few moments daily to relax, clear your mind and actually visualize yourself living the type of life you intend to live. See yourself with the nice things you want in your life such as owning a house or taking a vacation. While you are doing this, bring some emotion into your body to mimic the emotions you would feel when you actually achieve your dreams.

Visualizing this way helps change your attitude, removes limiting beliefs and reprograms your subconscious mind with positive, empowering beliefs, so you can move toward your goals faster.

3. Plan your day first thing in the morning

Every morning, run through your mind the things you are going to be doing. As you plan the day, as you think of all the things you have got to be excited about, it really does renew your energy.” – Zig Ziglar

A powerful tactic to ensure that you achieve your daily goals is to plan your day first thing in the morning. You can sit in silence and simply visualize all the things you are going to do today and how you are going to do it. As you visualize your day this way, you are filled with positive energy that will motivate you to utilize your time perfectly and take the right action.

4. Develop habits for success

Motivation gets you going and habit gets you there.” – Zig Ziglar

Ziglar is right in pointing out that, motivation doesn’t last forever, but habits once formed, last forever. As human beings, we are creatures of habit. Habit forming is difficult in the beginning, but it’s formed, you start doing it effortlessly.

In order to reach success, you need to substitute your bad habits with good ones. For instance, a good habit would be getting up early in the morning, planning your day, and working for 1 to 2 hours without giving into distractions. Remember that habits are formed once you repeatedly do something for 21 consecutive days.

5. Believe that you can

Before you can reach that goals, it is true that whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you are generally right.” – Zig Ziglar

If deep inside, you do not believe that you have what it takes to reach your goals, then you will never reach them. Therefore, it is crucial that you believe in your abilities and back yourself up to reach your goals. Whenever thoughts of self doubt arise, do not pay them any heed and instead shift your focus to empowering and uplifting thoughts of self belief.

6. Optimize your mind

Remember, you are what you are and where you are because of what’s going on in your mind. And you can change what you are and where you are by changing what goes into your mind.” – Zig Ziglar

As we grow up, we unconsciously imbibe a lot of negative and limiting beliefs from our surroundings. These beliefs unless discarded will hamper your growth, so become conscious of your limiting thoughts. Study these thoughts and figure out from where they arise.

In other words, what beliefs in your subconscious are responsible for them. Once you are aware of these beliefs, stop giving them power by consciously shifting your attention from the negative thoughts to positive and empowering thoughts. Using affirmations and positive self talk is also a great way to reprogram your subconscious mind.

7. Develop a positive self image

If you don’t see yourself as a winner, then you cannot perform as a winner.” – Zig Ziglar

How you perceive yourself in your mind’s eye is one of the most important factors that determines whether or not you will succeed.

If you think of yourself as someone who has what it takes to achieve success, you will achieve success, but if you think you are not good enough, you will see your reality reflecting that thought back to you. In-fact, your currently reality is reflective of the self image that you hold within.

Therefore, become conscious of the type of image you hold of yourself in your mind. Ask yourself these questions: How do I view myself? Do I think I am capable of reaching success? Do I believe that I deserve success? Do I see myself as a winner that everyone looks up to?

Simply becoming conscious of your self image can help you alter it from negative to positive.

8. Don’t worry about what others think of you

“Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember ~ the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.” – Zig Ziglar

People will always have something to say and you cannot please everyone. Don’t waste your time and energy worrying about other people’s actions and opinions. Keep your attention focused on your priorities because that’s what matters.

9. Learn from your mistakes

If you learn from defeat, you haven’t really lost.” – Zig Ziglar

It’s only human to make mistakes. The important thing therefore is to not dwell over your mistakes and instead, ask yourself, what your mistakes are trying to teach you. In doing so, learn from your mistakes, because they are the greatest factors for your personal growth.

10. Always be open to learning

Life is a classroom – only those who are willing to be lifelong learners will move to the head of the class.” – Zig Ziglar

The moment you think you know everything is the moment you stop growing. In order to succeed, you need to keep growing. Always keep an open mind, and always be open to learning. Do not become a slave to your beliefs, doctrines, and ideologies.

11. Practice delayed gratification

The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what you want most for what you want right now.” –  Zig Ziglar

Studies prove that delayed gratification is a key factor toward achieving success. Make it a habit to not let distractions or short term pleasures take your focus away from achieving your long term pleasures and future rewards. The more you practice doing this, the stronger your self control becomes helping you achieve your long term goals faster.

12. Connect with yourself

Outside of your relationship with God, the most important relationship you can have is with yourself. We must be healthy internally, emotionally and spiritually – in order to create healthy relationships with others.” – Zig Ziglar

Spend time with yourself. Get to know and understand yourself by practicing self reflection. The more you know yourself, the more you get in touch with your true nature, desires, and goals. Similarly, only by knowing yourself can you begin to know others. Only by loving yourself can you start attracting the right people into your life. All of these characteristics are crucial for success.

13. Spend time in solitude

If you want to build a winning attitude, you need to take time to be quiet. And you need to do it at-least three to four times a week.” – Zig Ziglar

Ziglar is a major advocate of spending time in solitude. Spending time in solitude helps you reconnect with yourself. It also helps you clear your mind and attract life changing ideas. So make it a habit to spend time alone doing nothing. Spending even a few minutes with your own reflective thoughts can make a huge difference.

14. Surround yourself with uplifting people

Surround yourself with people who want the best for you and the people you love!” – Zig Ziglar

For the most part, people can be divided into two categories – the lilies and the leeches. The lilies are those who uplift you and leeches are those who drain you.

If you are surrounded by leeches all day long, they will suck your energy dry and you will find yourself feeling a lot less motivated and productive. Instead, when you surround yourself with good people, you will find yourself full of positive energy to take action.

So make a conscious effort to cut out toxic people from your life and surround yourself with people who inspire you to be yourself and who accept you for who you are.

15. Express gratitude

Of all the “attitudes” we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life changing.” – Zig Ziglar

Expressing gratitude changes your mindset from one of lack to one of abundance. When you feel abundance, you attract abundance into your life. Therefore, every day make it a point to feel gratitude for everything that you have in your life.

16. Value your time and use it effectively

If you don’t plan your time, someone else will help you waste it.” – Zig Ziglar

Use time as your most valuable resource. This is where planning your day can help you immensely. When you have a set plan in place, you will automatically learn to say no to things that are not productive.

17. Start slow and develop as you go

Peak performance is dependent on passion, grit, determination, and a willingness to do something poorly until you can do it well.” – Zig Ziglar

You don’t need to have everything figured out from the very beginning. It is also not important that you are an expert in your field of work from the very beginning. You can begin small with whatever you have and develop as you go along. Remember that it is the slow and steady that wins the race.

18. Do not compare yourself to others

Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others.” – Zig Ziglar

In order to reach your goals, it is important that you know your strengths and abilities. Focus on them instead of focusing on your weaknesses. When you compare yourself to others, you automatically start to see things that you lack and lose perspective. Get rid of the habit of comparing yourself to others, and keep your focus on yourself.

19. Be persistent

If you have the character to hang in there when its tough, you will develop or acquire every other characteristic necessary to WIN in the game of life.” – Zig Ziglar

And finally, the most important of all is to be persistent in your efforts even when the going gets tough.

Ziglar’s book, ‘See You At The Top’, was rejected 39 times before it was published in the year 1975. The book is still in print today and is considered an American classic. Goes to show what persistence can help you achieve. It does not matter how slow you are as long as you are persistent.

Which one of Zig Zaglar’s 19 success mantras resonated most with you and why? Share your thoughts below!

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4 Ways You Can Master Magnetic Confidence – Ashley Hann

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What does confidence mean to you? For me, it is a deep, unshakable internal knowing of your value, your worth, what you bring to the world and who you really are. I believe that in order to experience our own greatness, we must first know it exists within ourselves. We must believe it in order to see it.

Once you have arrived at this deep knowing, you will be able to experience and exude your own personal magnetism. I define magnetic confidence as the ability to attract anything and everything that is in alignment with who you are and what you want, and repel everything that isn’t.

You become polarizing.

In this Addicted2Success podcast episode, Joel Brown asked me to break down four ways that you can master your own magnetic confidence so that you can create the results you want and live a life in alignment with who you are.

This is a postscript and addition to everything that was discussed in the episode. We hope you enjoy!

1. FACE THE UGLY: Shine Light On The Darkness

Everyone and their mom is talking about positivity and being positive. Now look, I’m all for positivity. I love it. However, what I am seeing is more and more people trying to be positive prematurely. They are painting over their pain with positivity. While this may work in the moment, the underlying issue is not being dealt with so it will keep resurfacing every time it is triggered. What we resist, persists. Plus, when we paint over, repress or sweep things under the rug, we are adding to the darkness within us because secrecy breeds shame.

The only way to overcome our darkness is to shine light on it. Don’t shove it down, hide it, repress it or judge it. See it, accept it and embrace it so that you can move through it.

Look, everyone has a dark side and a light side. This is what makes us human. We must learn to see the beauty in the contrast and channel our dark energy into light. The more we resist this darkness, the more it will build inside of us. We must embrace these parts of us so that we can transform our pain into our power.

2. F*^K WHAT PEOPLE THINK: You Do You, Boo

#FACT: People will judge you.

Ashley Hannawacker in Bali

The quicker you can make peace with the fact that judgement is inevitable, the less it’s going to affect you. The greatest leaders on this planet have judgers, nay-sayers and haters. And guess what? The reason they are great leaders is because they don’t let those judgements or the fear of judgement stop them.

I’m also going to challenge you on something. You ready for this?

It’s not the judgment you’re afraid of. You’re scared of what the judgements might mean about you. You’re making it mean things like “I’m not worthy”, “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not smart enough”, etc. Well, do you want to know the good news? You are in charge of the meaning! So why not make judgement mean something that actually forwards you? For me, I let the number of haters be a gauge of my success and how big of a game I’m playing. The more haters I have, the more I know I’m showing up unapologetically in my power and in my truth. This meaning I’ve created forwards me. What meaning can you create?

If you want to be confident, you must reinterpret and shift your relationship with judgement and haters in a way that empowers you. You must let the rude, mean comments drip off of your back like water. You’ve got to let it all push you forward instead of hold you back. Remember: magnetic confidence will make you polarizing. This means there will be people who don’t agree with you, dislike you, and may even hate you… and that’s more than O.K., that’s GREAT.

3. SHIFT THE STORY: Rewrite Your Stories, Rewire Your Mind

You are the sole, uncontested author of your life. You are not a victim. You haven’t been dealt a crappy deck of cards. You have actually been given a very precious gift called life where you have the ability to write your own story and create your own reality.

We are meaning-making machines. We create meanings and stories for just about everything that occurs in our lives. The question is, are the stories you are telling yourself empowering you or disempowering you?

When I find myself thinking something that’s draining my energy and doesn’t feel good, I’ll ask myself: “Can I 100% know that that’s true?” And if the answer is no, then I choose a different story that is also not 100% true, but that actually makes me feel good.

If you’re going to create a story, you might as well create one that feels good and empowers you!

In the episode, I go into a bit more detail on how to do this. I highly recommend you listen because this is a crucial part of becoming your most magnetically confident self.

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4. WATCH YOUR WORDS: Eliminate These From Your Vocabulary Now

It’s one thing to think something disempowering, it is another to actually say it out loud. When you think a thought out loud, you are giving energy to the thought. We must be deliberate and intentional about what we choose to give energy to. Your words become worlds!

Here are some words to eliminate from your vocabulary immediately:

  • “Can’t”
  • “Have to”
  • “Should”
  • “Hope”
  • “Try”

Listen to the full episode at the top of this article to understand why these words are detrimental to your confidence and success. You’ll also learn what you can replace them with that will actually fuel you and boost your self confidence.

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How to Be a Selfless Leader in Your Business

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Leaders are required to make decisions daily that impact the success of the business and its bottom line. Understanding leadership training key terms can offer insight into core values and principles associated with leading people. Leadership training prepares leaders to recognize a variety of leadership styles prevalent in many organizations, the significance of communication, team building, and establishing a vision.

The following 6 key terms are important to building foundational skills in leadership:

1. Leadership style

Leadership style is the process of exploring the methods leaders use to approach guiding human capital in the workplace or on organized projects. It can encompass persuasive presentation skills that inspires trust, integrity, character, positive role modeling and other behaviors useful when working towards a goal.

2. Vision planning

According to leadership experts, a vision is an idealized picture or snapshot of the future, and vision planning is the ability to communicate core values and articulate a sense of direction by implementing a plan as it pertains to this vision. Organizational vision encompasses a strategic plan that generates motivational impact and leads employees to a specific outcome or shared desired goal.

“A great leader’s courage to fulfill his vision comes from passion, not position.” – John Maxwell

3. Team building

Team building is the method a leader chooses to empower a group of people using motivational strategies and guidance to accomplish a specific task. Effective team building must encompass an understanding of organizational culture and the dynamics of teamwork in order to exceed shared goals and objectives.

4. Communication

Communication is the ability to impart and exchange information through the process of listening, writing and speaking. Successful leaders understand that enhancing communication skills not only makes them more effective as leaders, but boosts the company’s success as well.

5. Performance evaluation

An important aspect of leadership training is determining whether the steps taken towards a goal are working. One of the many roles of a successful leader is to appraise or assess the effectiveness of both individual and collective workplace skills and strategies to achieve stated goals.

“A good objective of leadership is to help those who are doing poorly to do well and to help those who are doing well to do even better.” – Jim Rohn

6. Decision making

The term decision making is the process of choosing from several ideas or choices. It’s the practice of targeted determinations that can offer creative problem solving solutions. This is a vital skill in developing potential leaders because it strengthens the use of critical thinking and resourcefulness to make choices on behalf of the company.

How to be a selfless leader in your business organization

Many leaders try to play it safe when leading their business. In other words, they don’t really lead. They are afraid of taking risks and possibly making some people unhappy. It’s important to note that when you own a business, you may make decisions that won’t make everyone happy. Ideally, your culture will be set up so that what you do is transparent and enables people to speak up and share their concerns.

At the same time, people in an organization want their leaders to lead and part of that involves the leader making a passionate commitment to the direction the business needs to go in. When there isn’t clear leadership in a business, then the business is like a ship that is moving in a circle. It’s going nowhere.

A leader must always make it clear that what they are doing is actually serving the best interests of the business as opposed to their own best interests. If people in the organization think that a leader is abusing their position, it can create a toxic situation in the business bringing it down as people leave or sabotage the business.

A leader must be selfless, focused on what will truly benefit the business and the people in it. They must be willing to share the spotlight, instead of taking all the credit and must recognize the value of trusting the talents of the people they work with.

Recently, I was talking with a client of mine. He was having some personnel issues, and I suggested he carefully evaluate the talents of each person involved. After doing that, he made some changes in roles, and the people involved were much happier because they were doing the work that capitalized on their talents.

Throughout this process he was transparent and he made it clear that the changes he was making were for the benefit of the company. Each person involved saw that because the leader was honest and focused on the success of the business. He wasn’t making changes to make it easier for him, but rather making changes that would really help the business succeed. That’s the kind of leadership that is needed when a business undergoes changes or needs to focus on a specific direction.

What does being a selfless leader mean to you? How do you focus on the welfare of your business and show that to the people involved in the business? Share with us below!

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