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7 Reasons Why Almost Being Murdered Is The Best Thing That Happened To Me

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During my teenage years, I dealt with an experience that completely shaped my life for the future. I want to share this experience with you because I think it will help you to be successful and really understand where you are at in your life.

One night I was walking home with a friend late at night. Being teenagers meant that we didn’t always have the money to go home in taxi’s when public transport stopped, so we made the decision to walk home. On our walk home, we stopped at a convenience store to get our junk food fix. I can’t quite remember what my friend got, but I got a packet of chips and a rainbow paddle pop. The reason I remember this so clearly was because it could have been my last meal. We continued our journey home, and I was about halfway through eating my rainbow paddle pop when I saw something on the other side of the traffic lights coming towards us. I wasn’t quite sure what it was until they got closer.

To my immense shock I realised it was a group of about 10 teenagers or more running towards my friend and I. A bolt of terror went up the back of my spine when they started running across the road towards us.

In the next few minutes, we were both attacked. I was hit with a baseball bat and a number of other items while my friend wasn’t so lucky, he was stabbed with a knife and was bleeding everywhere. Halfway through the attack I remember seeing my life flash before my eyes and wondering if this was the end. After being hit so many times the feeling is actually quite blissful, and you’re not in any pain. I think it was the adrenaline that kept me going. Then all of a sudden a hand reached out in front of me and picked me up off the ground. The stranger yelled at his friends and said “I know this guy, get off him.” At this stage, I could hear my friend in the distance but could not see him visually. Before I knew it the stranger said to me “run that way and don’t look back otherwise you will end up like your friend.”

I had a quick decision to make in my mind, take on a massive group of teenagers who were armed, or run and get help. Without thinking the answer just came to me, and I ran as fast as I could. Like a magic carpet ride, I arrived at a place where I was able to get help and get my friend attended to by two security guards. We both started to calm down and then before we knew it, the attackers returned, and we had to flee again along with the security guards. Again, like magic, I ran faster than I had ever gone before and managed to hide and not be seen.

Eventually, I called my friend, and we met up again. He was covered in blood and had knife wounds everywhere, but miraculously he was still alive, only just.

“I was badly injured as well but oddly enough, I still had the paddle pop stick and chip packet in my hands. I must have clung on to them for dear life without even knowing -it’s so odd the things that you do in times of terror”

I suppose I will never look at rainbow paddle pops the same again, although each time I do I will remember this situation and the positive things it did for me. Throughout the next few days, I wondered why I was saved and what almost happened to us. For a long time, I never knew what the universe was trying to tell me until years later. The part of the story that still blows people’s minds to this day is something I will share with you at the end of the seven lessons.

Below are the 7 reasons why this experience was one of the best things to happen to me.

1. There might be a signal you are missing

After this experience had occurred I realised that the universe was trying to tell me that I was on the wrong path and needed to change things. While I still don’t know why we were attacked, I know that it was definitely a signal for me to reevaluate things because clearly the previous signals were not getting through to me.

2. Seeing the worst thing possible can be refreshing

You might think I am crazy for saying this but I am at peace with myself because I have now seen the worst possible experience that I will ever see in my life, so I know what it takes mentally to overcome it and be able to take the lesson from it. The experience gave me certain strategies that I can now use and mechanisms that allow me to deal with bad situations. Most people might live 50 years before they ever have this life or death experience and by this time half of their life is gone and they can’t get the sustained rewards that I got, to change their life and get all the benefits that an experience like this can do for you.

3. Don’t judge anyone until you get to know them

While it would be easy to judge the characters involved in this story, you never really understand them until you spend time in their shoes. Maybe they had some bad things happen in their life, or maybe they had been beaten and felt that this was the solution to their problems.

4. Appreciate what you have

I got so many lessons from this experience but one of the most powerful was to appreciate what I have and be grateful because when your life flashes before your eyes, only the experiences you helped create will actually be remembered, and everything else will be forgotten. It also makes you think about your legacy and what you want to be remembered for. Do you want to be someone that played life at the highest level and was remembered for decades, or do you want to be remembered for playing life in the minor league and worrying about things that really don’t matter? I know which one I want, and I won’t ever stop.

5. Everybody makes a mistake

Remember that everybody in life makes a mistake and nobody is perfect. Some of the most amazing entrepreneurs I have ever met have had childhoods of crime and drugs, yet they learnt the lesson and have gone on to make millions doing what they love. I met an amazing individual the other day that was an alcoholic and actually met his amazing wife in rehab. Together they host events to inspire entrepreneurs and give something to people that they can’t get anywhere else. Hearing some of the stories at these events puts chills down my spine just thinking about it. Is that the level you want to play at? To be able to put chills down people’s spines?

6. Always give people a second chance

Giving people, a second chance is a powerful habit that you should take up. We all know that giving is a very beneficial trait and is what the ultra-successful do, but it’s not just the giving of time or money, it’s the giving of second chances that will really separate you from the rest. Everybody makes a mistake, and everybody can be confused at one point in their life. It’s your understanding of this and the ability to give them another go that makes you an amazing person and will bring you all the things that you want. Just like the attackers made a mistake, there were plenty that I made myself. Seeing their flaws helped me see my own, which helped me learn the lesson.

Nobody goes out at night intending to do these types of things; it’s the references they have and what is going on in their life that create these actions. Just remember that any action can be temporary and that life is just made of seasons. They might have been in winter at this stage in their life, and now they are in summer.

7. We are all connected in some way

When the stranger reached out there hand and helped me off the ground, even though they didn’t know me very well they still must have felt the pain and connection to me, for them to be able to help. No matter what happens to you, if you are genuinely being yourself and living your life in a good way, then your luck will change one way or another.

So the part of the story that I left out was that thanks to a mutual friend I ended up becoming best friends with two of my attackers. One of them went on to become someone that I really respected and who now spends his time travelling the world and educating people on religion.

What initially looked like pure evil to a teenager was completely transformed into something that people wouldn’t recognise. While not everyone on the journey lived to tell their story, I believe that I survived so that I could share these experiences with you and hopefully inspire you to do something great. Even if I die tomorrow, I am grateful for that and thanks for reading this article.

If you have had a similar experience or life changing moment, please share it in the comments section below or message me privately on FACEBOOK.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Tyler

    Mar 18, 2016 at 6:10 am

    Great 7 things we all can live by.

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    • Tim Denning

      May 23, 2015 at 10:06 am

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  3. Bruce Haines

    May 14, 2015 at 1:09 am

    Outstanding insights forced on you at the time, but as you now can see, a blessing in your life. While not attacked as you were, I had a near death experience and nearly drowned in the ocean and it completely liberated my thinking and feeling in many ways. If we as human beings would just realize we are all connected and be kinder and more in-tune to those around us, life could be a marvelous experience for many. Thanks again for sharing…

    • Tim Denning

      May 15, 2015 at 10:16 am

      Thanks for sharing your story Bruce and totally agree, it feels great to be liberated by these types of experiences.

  4. lawrence berry

    May 8, 2015 at 4:55 pm

    This was a very intense story that Im sure would have changed my lide as well. When you face death, it csn really be an eye opener. Like you said, it really makes you appreciate what you have, and make you reevaluate your life. Sudenly, you begin to look at the big picture and the things that used to matter, dont anymore.

    • Tim Denning

      May 8, 2015 at 7:50 pm

      Thanks Lawrence for sharing your thoughts.

  5. Tim Denning

    May 5, 2015 at 11:17 pm

    Thanks Gabriel for sharing your thoughts and glad you got something out of it.

  6. Gabriel DoCarmo

    May 5, 2015 at 6:33 pm

    Wow amazing story. I’m blown away by what happened to you and your ability to turn that around, look at the positives, and come out ahead. Thank you so much for sharing!!

  7. Matthew Collinson

    May 5, 2015 at 1:32 am

    Great article. Thank you for sharing such a tragic and enlightening story. One of the greatest motivational tools that I use to this day is to ask myself if I died this very day would I be happy? This allows me to accomplish so much more in a day. It gives me the perspective that I want to be happy and I want everyone around me to be happy. I then transpose that feeling to working like I was going to be gone tomorrow because we never know. It is a great gift that you have shared with us. Thank you.

    • Tim Denning

      May 7, 2015 at 10:34 am

      Thanks Matt. I think the question you ask is a great one and it helps keep you on track and remember whats really important.

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3 Steps to Overcome Your Brain Biases and Become a Better Leader

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If I asked you what time it was, you would likely look at your watch or a clock and read the time out to me. And if I were to ask you where you were, you would likely tell me the exact place, city, or state. If I were to then ask you who you were, you would likely identify yourself by your name, demographics, and perhaps a work description. On the surface, answering these questions correctly would indicate that you were not delirious. But are these answers technically correct?

Biological research indicates that superficial orientation to time, place, or person is actually far from accurate. Rather, leaders might benefit from tending toward a non-dual awareness of the world, or at least offer themselves the opportunity to see the world this way. For time, place, and person, the biological realities differ from what we might initially think.

1. Don’t let the past dictate the future

We are not ever-present in the moment, nor should we be. In the human brain, the past, present, and future are all represented at the same time. Although we consciously organize our experiences using this segmentation of time, each of these networks can intrude upon the other. In fact, what you remember can influence what you can imagine for yourself in the future as well.

As a leader, ensure that you frequently examine your memory for positive reminders and biases, take advantage of your presence circuits by incorporating mindfulness practices into your day, and use your “possibility” circuits to imagine or simulate future scenarios. In fact, in the brain, imagination is a lot like reality.

Using all three components at all times will help you to become aware of biases and could also help you escape traps or an impasse. For instance, when a possible solution for product development is vague, thinking in terms of what you want and then reverse-engineering this process to make what you imagine could be helpful.

Walt Disney saw great success after building Disneyland in Anaheim, California, but outside interests began crowding his theme park. When he decided to build another park in Florida, Disney didn’t let the experience of California dissuade him. He expanded his vision to something greater — a city of tomorrow. He created fake companies to secretly purchase acres upon acres of land near where Interstate 4 intersected with the Florida turnpike so his company could develop the area around the theme park.

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.” – Walt Disney

2. Think beyond your reach

We are not where we think we are. The notion of “place” has become increasingly irrelevant in a globalized world. With the increasing interconnectedness of societies, cultures, and economies, leaders need to be careful not to think of themselves too locally. When leaders are global in their thinking, they are likely to elicit more widespread cooperation from international markets.

Ask yourself, “What communities beyond my local community do I want to impact?” and “What communities am I impacting?” When you take this approach, it can help your advertising strategies, for example, become more congruous with specific or global markets. Also, leaders who think globally will be more aware of competition from afar and opportunities for collaboration, too.

Jack Ma can be credited with being a global thinker for founding Alibaba, allowing Chinese consumers to access domestic and international markets that they could not previously access. By moving into e-commerce, online banking, and cloud computing, Alibaba has expanded into India and Southeast Asia. Alibaba’s Electronic World Trade Platform has even enabled farmers in Rwanda to sell coffee in China. This is a perfect example of thinking beyond your reach.

3. Connect the body and mind

We are not what we think we are. We are made up of 50% human and 50% bacterial cells. And water comprises 60% of our body weight. So we are basically bags of water and bacteria — with a dash of human cells thrown in for good measure.

Also, though we might think of ourselves as being separate from other people and things, many people or things you encounter in your life are stored in your brain’s memory centers. Our brain tissue contains images, voices, and other attributes of people and things, too. We are not actually as separate as we think.

Take care of your bacteria, and they will take care of you. Having the right balance of bacteria is of paramount importance to effective functioning because the wrong balance can make you depressed or anxious. Taking a probiotic can help restore this balance. Understanding that you are part human, part bacteria can change the way you take care of your moods by essentially reminding you to take care of your gut.

Mindy Grossman, the CEO of WW International — formerly Weight Watchers — is a good example of someone who understands the mind-body connection. Grossman has led the company’s focus from strictly weight loss to wellness through healthy habits. Part of the transformation includes a partnership with meditation app Headspace to help members maintain a positive mindset.

“It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.” – Mahatma Gandhi

When you engage in non-dual awareness by recognizing that your brain fuses and connects time, places, and people, your leadership capacities might also be enhanced. As Warren Bennis, founding chairman of the Leadership Institute at the University of Southern California, suggests, “Becoming a leader is synonymous with becoming yourself.” And your “self” is more intriguing and mysterious than you might first imagine.

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3 Ways to Optimize Your Life for Success

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Welcome to the 21st Century! The era of the Internet and computers, lack of focus and superficiality. I know it sounds scary, maybe a little more exaggerated, but it’s true. We live in a world of short posts and 3-minute videos. We barely engage in deep learning, deep thinking, and deep focus to produce iPhone-level products or services. So, the majority of us are actually a failure, thousands of miles away from achieving our life goals and business visions. How do we turn things around? We need to optimize our lives.

Here are 3 tried and tested tips that will help optimize your life for success:

1. Upgrade your sleep

When I started my freelance writing career—about seven years ago—I was passionate and excited at the beginning. I’d fill my To-Do list with 6-10 items, worked until 12 am, set my alarm to go off at 3 am, and had my running shoes close to my bed before I went to sleep. However, I barely accomplished anything. I usually became weak and bored before noon.

I noticed that I was putting a huge strain on myself. I was sleep deprived, which is the primary reason why I didn’t have the energy and the drive to accomplish my tasks. Many studies have shown that sleep-deprivation affects productivity.

As soon as I began increasing my sleeping time from 4 hours to 7 hours, my whole life changed. I started producing a lot and earning a lot more than before while also improving my health. With more sleep, I get the emotional energy and willpower I need to read, learn, and optimize my career.

“By helping us keep the world in perspective, sleep gives us a chance to refocus on the essence of who we are. And in that place of connection, it is easier for the fears and concerns of the world to drop away.” – Arianna Huffington

2. Read every day

I get it. You’re in the middle-class struggling to survive. You simply have enough to deal with. Reading? That’s not included on your to-do list. Well, if that’s you, then you’re not alone. The global literacy rates are at an all-time high at 84 percent, which means people don’t read as much anymore.

We already have enough on our plates. In fact, a study by the National Endowment for the Arts has found that the reading culture among American adults has drastically declined. That’s a big issue in our world.

Nothing can prevent you from reading, not even your plate that’s chock-full of other life’s priorities. If you want to produce more and impact the world around you, you’ve got to read more and learn more.

Take a look at the visionaries and business titans in our world. All of them are avid readers and avid learners. Bill Gates is a bibliophile and Phil Knight, the founder of Nike, reveres books. In fact, Knight customized his library to the extent that, before you enter into his library, you have to take off your shoes and bow.

So, what would you do next? Take Roald Dahl’s advice, captured in this beautiful line of the poem: “So please, oh please, we beg, we pray / go throw your TV set away / and in its place, you can install / a lovely bookshelf on the wall.”

3. Use Pomodoro to time yourself

You can’t go far in life if you can’t stay totally focused on a task. If you want to achieve your goals, you have got to stay laser-focused on a single task before jumping on to another. Why? Because goals are not achieved in one session, they’re achieved in a series of tasks, one after the other.

To install the focus habit in your system; therefore, you need to use a time-management kind of “system” that will keep you firm and attentive on a specific project. Pomodoro is that time-management tool that will help you stay focused.

It’s an excellent app that lets you set a timer for a particular task. You can set it for 30, 60, or 90 minutes and stop working when it goes off. I use it all the time, and I can’t imagine my work life without it.

“I know when I stay focused, good things will undoubtedly happen.” – Marc Trestman

Optimizing your life for more power, passion, and productivity is not about working hard late at night or running multiple projects at a time. It’s about maintaining your health and recharging your energy (having a deep, quality sleep), updating your knowledge (by reading every day), and staying focused on a project—until you accomplished it (by using Pomodoro technique to boost your concentration).

Of course, developing these sets of habits is not easy. You’ll fail and get frustrated, but as the productivity guru Robin Sharma beautifully puts it, “all changes are hard at first, messy at the middle, and beautiful at the end.”

Which one of these three ways to optimize your life resonated most with you and why? Share your thoughts below!

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If You Want Your Business to Grow, You Need to Increase Your Capacity in the Following 4 Areas

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Every entrepreneur must come face to face with the reality that there is only a limited amount of time, money, and people that you can use within your current position. The question is how do we increase or maximize the things that we find limiting?

As we walk through our hectic and often over packed ten, twelve, or fourteen hour work days, one of the questions that we should be asking is “What can I do to get more, to do more?” Instead, we just put our heads down and plow through the ever growing mountain of work. We are limited by capacity.

Webster’s dictionary defines capacity as “the maximum amount that something can contain.” As an entrepreneur, we have to be a little more creative than the average person and find ways to increase our capacity.

Below, we’ll identify the four areas where we need more capacity and ways to get more with less:

1. Time

Every human on this planet is granted twenty-four hours a day. That is it. Your capacity is a total of twenty-four hours. Within that amount of time you must manage several different demands. Our goal is to buy back our time, when we can, and operate at peak performance when we are accomplishing our daily task list.

First, without staying in performance shape, you will lose the ability to stay at optimal performance levels. Our bodies are truly a machine with an amazing capacity, but when it is abused by lack of sleep, improper nutrition, and lack of exercise, you are reducing the capacity at which you are able to work and function. The closer you are to peak performance, the more you are able to accomplish in a shorter amount of time.

Second is our mental condition. Here is what my experience has taught me. If I am mentally rested, I can think and make decisions faster because I can reason more quickly in addition to understanding the circumstances and information at an extremely fast pace. 

When your brain is healthy, it becomes easier to absorb and process information at a lightning fast rate. Taking the time to allow your brain to rest will give it the ability to function at peak performance.

Third is our ability to train and delegate. So often, entrepreneurs are control freaks. No one can do it as good, as fast, or with the same passion as they can. While that may be true in most cases, you are only one person with twenty-four hours in a day. 

You’ve got to delegate and accept people’s help. If you add one person that’s willing to give you eight hours of work a day, you have now bought back hours in your day to focus on activities that will generate more income and grow your business. Why wouldn’t you want to add more hours to your day by delegating out the appropriate task to qualified individuals?

“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.” – Zig Ziglar

2. Money

Money tends to be a sensitive topic. We all have beliefs that were formed through our childhood on the concept of money. With many different views and beliefs on this topic, let’s just focus on the fact that money is a tool that will either help grow the company or a tool that limits a company’s growth.

It is always amazing that the faster a company grows, the greater the challenge of money becomes, and this could potentially cause the company to implode on its own success. How do we then increase the capacity and have more money available to keep the company healthy?

Here are a couple of things to watch out for: 

  • Keep an eye on your budget and get accurate figures. 
  • Look at your Accounts Receivables. If they get too long, they could cause significant cash flow issues. 
  • Find investment opportunities. There are many private investors that are often willing to invest in companies that have true growth with solid foundations. 
  • Look at additional profit generators, products, or services that fit within your current business model. 

Each of these are ways to increase the capacity that money contributes to the growth of your business.

3. Space and Supply

I will never forget exactly where I was standing when I had a manufacture call and tell me they were unable to supply anymore products. They had sold us everything they had, and they weren’t going to have anything available to sell for at least another six months. At that time, we were selling customer printed t-shirts and had tens of thousands of orders that we needed to fulfill within the next thirty days.

Space and Supply are tied closely together. Space is often associated with the production. Do you have a space large enough to meet the demands of the supply? If production can only create 1,000 products a day and buyers need 5,000 a day, there is a conflict. 

A business needs to understand that challenge, and there are only 3 solutions to this problem: The business figures out how to increase production within the current workable hours, adds more workable hours with the equipment and space, or adds more equipment and space to increase production.

Space and supplies are assets that can be used towards the business advantage. Here are a few questions to ask when making decisions based on space and supply. 

  • Evaluate your supply channel. Are they able to maintain a solid supply of your raw product materials to match your growth as a company? 
  • Are there back up supply manufactures that can create a safety net for your raw products? 
  • Evaluate the amount of space you have available along with the time the space is usable. Can you run a second or third shift with the current space and equipment?

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. People

Your employees are likely going to be the most important way to create more capacity. We talked briefly about delegating to qualified individuals to increase capacity around your own personal time. The next phase is to create more capacity by adding additional, trained people. 

You need to create leaders of leaders instead of you being the leader of followers. Don’t miss this because the greatest of all companies focuses on increasing their capacity by training leaders of leaders and not just a loyal following.

Entrepreneurs tend to be a lonely bunch of souls. Too often, we are misunderstood and looked at with slight amount of annoyance. Others just don’t always know how to take someone that is passionately thinking outside the box. 

People skills are a must in order to have more than just yourself work to achieve that dream. As an entrepreneur, develop the social skills to work with individuals that are different than yourself.  

Here is a 3 step plan to have great capacity with people as your allies:

  1. Start by learning how to delegate your own tasks to buy back your time. Identify the tasks that are easiest to delegate and document how you do them. This will give you a specific job description, set achievable goals, and create a daily action plan that is now something that is teachable. 
  2. Use this system and apply it to the other things you are currently doing. I would suggest building out an organization chart and dividing the different tasks you do within the company. Then create a plan that will allow you to hire the right person and move you onto the next area in the organization that you will systematize. 
  3. Finally, create the culture. Culture is like a child, it will grow whether or not you pay attention to it. So be intentional. Learn what it takes to build a culture that attracts the employees that want to be there and grow with the company. 

Each of these four areas has an incredible amount of potential to increase your capacity, and allow your business to grow. Don’t attempt to tackle everything at once. Identify just one area that you will commit to grow within the next three to six months. Take action and implement. 

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The Importance of Failure: Why We Should Fail Forward

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What Is failing forward? Will Smith said it best in a viral Instagram video that engaged the world. “You’ve gotta take a shot, you have to live at the edge of your capabilities. You gotta live where you’re almost certain you’re going to fail. Failure actually helps you to recognize the areas where you need to evolve. So fail early, fail often, fail forward.”

Failing forward is about using leverage on your mistakes and making a realistic assessment of the risks involved. It’s your ability to live with the downside, control your emotions and experiment with new approaches. When we fail forward, we need to look at the reason why we fail and understand that it’s all part of the process of achievement.

Here are 4 Reasons Why We Fail:

1. We Are Too Distracted

Distractions are everywhere. They can take us off course and could make it impossible to keep our mind on our goal or purpose. It’s important to be selective, strategic and supportive in our distractions. We all control certain aspects of our day, so be selective and prioritise tasks that are in line with your goals.

We should be strategic by understanding when we work best. Personally, I write more efficiently in the early mornings and late evenings. So that’s what I stick to. Try different things and see when you are least distracted. You’ll then be able to be supportive and generous with your time. Being supportive of others costs us little and drives our own success whilst boosting our health and happiness.

2. Lack of Self Belief

Lack of self belief runs differently from person to person. Our experiences, childhood history, genes, culture and life circumstances play a part in our self confidence. The truth is, we can’t alter the experiences that our past has given us. What we can do though, is change our thoughts to gain more belief in ourselves. Ways to increase our self-belief is to find out more about ourselves. We can do this by taking care of ourselves physically and emotionally. Giving ourselves a healthy support system and understanding our emotions are just a couple of ways to practice self-belief.

3. Fear of Failure

Failure often induces fear. When we fear failure, we allow ourselves to stop doing the things that can help us achieve our goals, help us move forward and open up possibilities we never thought were possible. We should have faith in ourselves and start to shift our inner dialogue from ‘not good enough’ to ‘more than enough’. If our inner critic takes the lead on self talk, then it’s more than likely we aren’t feeling good enough. It’s important to surround ourselves with positive people and positive thoughts.

4. Procrastination

Procrastination is a common reason for failure. It’s delaying or putting off a task or action to attend to at a later time. Procrastination is essentially giving in, to feel good. We prefer avoiding negative emotions and stressful tasks, which are the very things we procrastinate about. The first step to overcoming procrastination is recognising we do it.

We then need to understand why we do it and use appropriate strategies to prevent it from happening. We may not know that we are procrastinating and this can be damaging to reaching our full potential. With a solid understanding, we can get to the core of our reasons and make positive changes to fail forward.

Now that you know why we fail, here are the 3 ways you can fail forward:

1. Take Risks

When risks are taken, we generally overestimate the chances of something going wrong. What we focus on tends to magnify in our imagination and in return, causes us to misjudge an outcome of a situation. The reality is, the likelihood is often a far better return than we imagine it out to be. To take risks, we should not be afraid of failure.

2. Understanding Failure Should Be Your Motivation

It may sound comical but, be happy when you fail. We’ve been taught to believe that when we fail it’s because of bad attempts, bad judgment and bad luck at improving our lives. For example, we link failure with the colour red (to stop) and success with the colour green (to keep going). In reality, we are stronger and more courageous when we fail. It’s a sign of improvement, so we should recognise that failure is growth and if we’re not making mistakes, we are not really trying. Use failure as motivation and keep going.

3. Perseverance

Perseverance is the ability to recover from failure. Your chances of success is also dependent on your persistence and your willingness to persevere. You have two options when you fail: Become self-defeated or become resilient and encouraged. Perseverance requires a goal, a passion and patience. It’s important to set your own pace when persevering and not comparing your failures to others. In doing this, when we fail forward, we are more in tune with ourselves and more controlled with new approaches.

“Recognize that you will spend much of your life making mistakes. If you can take action and keep making mistakes, you gain experience.” – John C. Maxwell

Think of it this way. When we’re at the gym pushing ourselves in the weight room, the trainer would yell “One more rep!”. Our trainer wants us to succeed, but also wants us to fail. They want us to be uncomfortable to the point where our muscles fatigue. Why? Because of muscle adaptation. That’s where our muscle growth comes from. It’s the ability to learn how to get comfortable being uncomfortable. This concept doesn’t just apply physically within our muscles, it applies mentally and in our minds. In understanding this perspective, we can fail forward with more awareness and are in a better position to achieve success.

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