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7 Reasons Why Almost Being Murdered Is The Best Thing That Happened To Me

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During my teenage years, I dealt with an experience that completely shaped my life for the future. I want to share this experience with you because I think it will help you to be successful and really understand where you are at in your life.

One night I was walking home with a friend late at night. Being teenagers meant that we didn’t always have the money to go home in taxi’s when public transport stopped, so we made the decision to walk home. On our walk home, we stopped at a convenience store to get our junk food fix. I can’t quite remember what my friend got, but I got a packet of chips and a rainbow paddle pop. The reason I remember this so clearly was because it could have been my last meal. We continued our journey home, and I was about halfway through eating my rainbow paddle pop when I saw something on the other side of the traffic lights coming towards us. I wasn’t quite sure what it was until they got closer.

To my immense shock I realised it was a group of about 10 teenagers or more running towards my friend and I. A bolt of terror went up the back of my spine when they started running across the road towards us.

In the next few minutes, we were both attacked. I was hit with a baseball bat and a number of other items while my friend wasn’t so lucky, he was stabbed with a knife and was bleeding everywhere. Halfway through the attack I remember seeing my life flash before my eyes and wondering if this was the end. After being hit so many times the feeling is actually quite blissful, and you’re not in any pain. I think it was the adrenaline that kept me going. Then all of a sudden a hand reached out in front of me and picked me up off the ground. The stranger yelled at his friends and said “I know this guy, get off him.” At this stage, I could hear my friend in the distance but could not see him visually. Before I knew it the stranger said to me “run that way and don’t look back otherwise you will end up like your friend.”

I had a quick decision to make in my mind, take on a massive group of teenagers who were armed, or run and get help. Without thinking the answer just came to me, and I ran as fast as I could. Like a magic carpet ride, I arrived at a place where I was able to get help and get my friend attended to by two security guards. We both started to calm down and then before we knew it, the attackers returned, and we had to flee again along with the security guards. Again, like magic, I ran faster than I had ever gone before and managed to hide and not be seen.

Eventually, I called my friend, and we met up again. He was covered in blood and had knife wounds everywhere, but miraculously he was still alive, only just.

“I was badly injured as well but oddly enough, I still had the paddle pop stick and chip packet in my hands. I must have clung on to them for dear life without even knowing -it’s so odd the things that you do in times of terror”

I suppose I will never look at rainbow paddle pops the same again, although each time I do I will remember this situation and the positive things it did for me. Throughout the next few days, I wondered why I was saved and what almost happened to us. For a long time, I never knew what the universe was trying to tell me until years later. The part of the story that still blows people’s minds to this day is something I will share with you at the end of the seven lessons.

Below are the 7 reasons why this experience was one of the best things to happen to me.

1. There might be a signal you are missing

After this experience had occurred I realised that the universe was trying to tell me that I was on the wrong path and needed to change things. While I still don’t know why we were attacked, I know that it was definitely a signal for me to reevaluate things because clearly the previous signals were not getting through to me.

2. Seeing the worst thing possible can be refreshing

You might think I am crazy for saying this but I am at peace with myself because I have now seen the worst possible experience that I will ever see in my life, so I know what it takes mentally to overcome it and be able to take the lesson from it. The experience gave me certain strategies that I can now use and mechanisms that allow me to deal with bad situations. Most people might live 50 years before they ever have this life or death experience and by this time half of their life is gone and they can’t get the sustained rewards that I got, to change their life and get all the benefits that an experience like this can do for you.

3. Don’t judge anyone until you get to know them

While it would be easy to judge the characters involved in this story, you never really understand them until you spend time in their shoes. Maybe they had some bad things happen in their life, or maybe they had been beaten and felt that this was the solution to their problems.

4. Appreciate what you have

I got so many lessons from this experience but one of the most powerful was to appreciate what I have and be grateful because when your life flashes before your eyes, only the experiences you helped create will actually be remembered, and everything else will be forgotten. It also makes you think about your legacy and what you want to be remembered for. Do you want to be someone that played life at the highest level and was remembered for decades, or do you want to be remembered for playing life in the minor league and worrying about things that really don’t matter? I know which one I want, and I won’t ever stop.

5. Everybody makes a mistake

Remember that everybody in life makes a mistake and nobody is perfect. Some of the most amazing entrepreneurs I have ever met have had childhoods of crime and drugs, yet they learnt the lesson and have gone on to make millions doing what they love. I met an amazing individual the other day that was an alcoholic and actually met his amazing wife in rehab. Together they host events to inspire entrepreneurs and give something to people that they can’t get anywhere else. Hearing some of the stories at these events puts chills down my spine just thinking about it. Is that the level you want to play at? To be able to put chills down people’s spines?

6. Always give people a second chance

Giving people, a second chance is a powerful habit that you should take up. We all know that giving is a very beneficial trait and is what the ultra-successful do, but it’s not just the giving of time or money, it’s the giving of second chances that will really separate you from the rest. Everybody makes a mistake, and everybody can be confused at one point in their life. It’s your understanding of this and the ability to give them another go that makes you an amazing person and will bring you all the things that you want. Just like the attackers made a mistake, there were plenty that I made myself. Seeing their flaws helped me see my own, which helped me learn the lesson.

Nobody goes out at night intending to do these types of things; it’s the references they have and what is going on in their life that create these actions. Just remember that any action can be temporary and that life is just made of seasons. They might have been in winter at this stage in their life, and now they are in summer.

7. We are all connected in some way

When the stranger reached out there hand and helped me off the ground, even though they didn’t know me very well they still must have felt the pain and connection to me, for them to be able to help. No matter what happens to you, if you are genuinely being yourself and living your life in a good way, then your luck will change one way or another.

So the part of the story that I left out was that thanks to a mutual friend I ended up becoming best friends with two of my attackers. One of them went on to become someone that I really respected and who now spends his time travelling the world and educating people on religion.

What initially looked like pure evil to a teenager was completely transformed into something that people wouldn’t recognise. While not everyone on the journey lived to tell their story, I believe that I survived so that I could share these experiences with you and hopefully inspire you to do something great. Even if I die tomorrow, I am grateful for that and thanks for reading this article.

If you have had a similar experience or life changing moment, please share it in the comments section below or message me privately on FACEBOOK.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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11 Comments

  1. Tyler

    Mar 18, 2016 at 6:10 am

    Great 7 things we all can live by.

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    • Tim Denning

      May 23, 2015 at 10:06 am

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  3. Bruce Haines

    May 14, 2015 at 1:09 am

    Outstanding insights forced on you at the time, but as you now can see, a blessing in your life. While not attacked as you were, I had a near death experience and nearly drowned in the ocean and it completely liberated my thinking and feeling in many ways. If we as human beings would just realize we are all connected and be kinder and more in-tune to those around us, life could be a marvelous experience for many. Thanks again for sharing…

    • Tim Denning

      May 15, 2015 at 10:16 am

      Thanks for sharing your story Bruce and totally agree, it feels great to be liberated by these types of experiences.

  4. lawrence berry

    May 8, 2015 at 4:55 pm

    This was a very intense story that Im sure would have changed my lide as well. When you face death, it csn really be an eye opener. Like you said, it really makes you appreciate what you have, and make you reevaluate your life. Sudenly, you begin to look at the big picture and the things that used to matter, dont anymore.

    • Tim Denning

      May 8, 2015 at 7:50 pm

      Thanks Lawrence for sharing your thoughts.

  5. Tim Denning

    May 5, 2015 at 11:17 pm

    Thanks Gabriel for sharing your thoughts and glad you got something out of it.

  6. Gabriel DoCarmo

    May 5, 2015 at 6:33 pm

    Wow amazing story. I’m blown away by what happened to you and your ability to turn that around, look at the positives, and come out ahead. Thank you so much for sharing!!

  7. Matthew Collinson

    May 5, 2015 at 1:32 am

    Great article. Thank you for sharing such a tragic and enlightening story. One of the greatest motivational tools that I use to this day is to ask myself if I died this very day would I be happy? This allows me to accomplish so much more in a day. It gives me the perspective that I want to be happy and I want everyone around me to be happy. I then transpose that feeling to working like I was going to be gone tomorrow because we never know. It is a great gift that you have shared with us. Thank you.

    • Tim Denning

      May 7, 2015 at 10:34 am

      Thanks Matt. I think the question you ask is a great one and it helps keep you on track and remember whats really important.

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How to Be a Selfless Leader in Your Business

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Leaders are required to make decisions daily that impact the success of the business and its bottom line. Understanding leadership training key terms can offer insight into core values and principles associated with leading people. Leadership training prepares leaders to recognize a variety of leadership styles prevalent in many organizations, the significance of communication, team building, and establishing a vision.

The following 6 key terms are important to building foundational skills in leadership:

1. Leadership style

Leadership style is the process of exploring the methods leaders use to approach guiding human capital in the workplace or on organized projects. It can encompass persuasive presentation skills that inspires trust, integrity, character, positive role modeling and other behaviors useful when working towards a goal.

2. Vision planning

According to leadership experts, a vision is an idealized picture or snapshot of the future, and vision planning is the ability to communicate core values and articulate a sense of direction by implementing a plan as it pertains to this vision. Organizational vision encompasses a strategic plan that generates motivational impact and leads employees to a specific outcome or shared desired goal.

“A great leader’s courage to fulfill his vision comes from passion, not position.” – John Maxwell

3. Team building

Team building is the method a leader chooses to empower a group of people using motivational strategies and guidance to accomplish a specific task. Effective team building must encompass an understanding of organizational culture and the dynamics of teamwork in order to exceed shared goals and objectives.

4. Communication

Communication is the ability to impart and exchange information through the process of listening, writing and speaking. Successful leaders understand that enhancing communication skills not only makes them more effective as leaders, but boosts the company’s success as well.

5. Performance evaluation

An important aspect of leadership training is determining whether the steps taken towards a goal are working. One of the many roles of a successful leader is to appraise or assess the effectiveness of both individual and collective workplace skills and strategies to achieve stated goals.

“A good objective of leadership is to help those who are doing poorly to do well and to help those who are doing well to do even better.” – Jim Rohn

6. Decision making

The term decision making is the process of choosing from several ideas or choices. It’s the practice of targeted determinations that can offer creative problem solving solutions. This is a vital skill in developing potential leaders because it strengthens the use of critical thinking and resourcefulness to make choices on behalf of the company.

How to be a selfless leader in your business organization

Many leaders try to play it safe when leading their business. In other words, they don’t really lead. They are afraid of taking risks and possibly making some people unhappy. It’s important to note that when you own a business, you may make decisions that won’t make everyone happy. Ideally, your culture will be set up so that what you do is transparent and enables people to speak up and share their concerns.

At the same time, people in an organization want their leaders to lead and part of that involves the leader making a passionate commitment to the direction the business needs to go in. When there isn’t clear leadership in a business, then the business is like a ship that is moving in a circle. It’s going nowhere.

A leader must always make it clear that what they are doing is actually serving the best interests of the business as opposed to their own best interests. If people in the organization think that a leader is abusing their position, it can create a toxic situation in the business bringing it down as people leave or sabotage the business.

A leader must be selfless, focused on what will truly benefit the business and the people in it. They must be willing to share the spotlight, instead of taking all the credit and must recognize the value of trusting the talents of the people they work with.

Recently, I was talking with a client of mine. He was having some personnel issues, and I suggested he carefully evaluate the talents of each person involved. After doing that, he made some changes in roles, and the people involved were much happier because they were doing the work that capitalized on their talents.

Throughout this process he was transparent and he made it clear that the changes he was making were for the benefit of the company. Each person involved saw that because the leader was honest and focused on the success of the business. He wasn’t making changes to make it easier for him, but rather making changes that would really help the business succeed. That’s the kind of leadership that is needed when a business undergoes changes or needs to focus on a specific direction.

What does being a selfless leader mean to you? How do you focus on the welfare of your business and show that to the people involved in the business? Share with us below!

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Things You Need to Know to Succeed as a Life Coach

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Becoming a life coach is one of the biggest choices you will ever make. Your choice in this field will change how you treat your spouse, how you empathize with others, and how you manage your business.

When I decided to make life coaching my goal, I had many steps to take before I reached the finish line and I wasn’t quite sure how to motivate myself to get there. I know that I am not the only one who struggles with staying motivated. That’s why I’m sharing with you the secrets that helped me make my dreams a reality.

Dan Sullivan is the founder of The Strategic Coach, a company that helps entrepreneurs grow their businesses. Dan is often considered to be the number one entrepreneurship coach on the planet. If there is anyone who can motivate you to make your dreams a reality and go for gold – it’s him.

Here are the 2 life-changing ideas I learned about becoming a life coach:

1. Keep Selling Yourself

Don’t sell yourself short – but keep selling yourself on your future. Dan Sullivan suggests that the reason why we, as entrepreneurs, can’t focus on achieving our goals is that we haven’t actually sold ourselves on our project or endeavor. I believe this wholeheartedly. We may have listed our pros and cons, we have an ideal outcome, and we may even have a backup plan – but we haven’t truly committed to our goal.

In order to properly take advantage of an opportunity, we must be focused. There is no doubt that we live in a new age of multi-tasking. We watch videos while we respond to e-mails, we’re glued to our phones when we’re out on dates with our spouses – we even have the option to have two multi-tasking windows open on our smart devices so that we can do different things at the same time.

But studies show multitasking accomplishes less in the long-run. Multitasking reduces both our performance and efficiency. Dan suggests instead of trying to do everything at once, sell yourself on three tasks a day. The next day, sell yourself on three more. This will help you to have more focus and drive on what you are doing. You will accomplish more and feel better about fulfilling your goals.

2. The 3 Wins are Everything

Dan suggests that positive focus is everything when it comes to succeeding in business. That’s why he developed “The 3 Wins” mindset. After the day is done and you’re getting ready for bed, focus on three wins you had. By focusing on the three things you did right, you practice gratitude in your personal life. You set goals, reach them, and then celebrate them – no matter how small! This can help you have a more positive mindset going forward.

Dan Sullivan explains, “I would look at tomorrow… and I’d say, ‘Well these are gonna be my three biggest wins for tomorrow’. So, I would go to bed feeling good about the day, excited about the next day, and I would get up the next morning excited. So, then I would go out that day and try to have to three wins, but often times what happened is that I had wins that were bigger than the three I imagined the night before.”

The feeling of accomplishment is addictive. Not only does it feel great to get work done and accomplish our goals, but it encourages us to keep working hard in life. We work hard to grow our business, to maintain a healthy marriage, and to give our clients our best. By focusing on The 3 Wins, we view each day as a new opportunity to stay motivated and achieve something great.

How to Succeed in Becoming a Life Coach

Along with these life-changing ideas, here are some other great tips for anyone who is thinking of becoming a life coach.

1. Rapport is Essential

When you are becoming a life coach, you learn that your ability to have a rapport with your clients is just as important as the chemistry you felt with your spouse when you first started dating. Are you good at striking up a conversation? Do you have a knack for getting people to trust you or open up about their problems? If so, then you will be a natural at building your entrepreneurial business because your ability to connect with your clients is important.

2. Ask the Important Questions

As a life coach, it’s your job to ask the hard questions. This means that you must be intuitive about your client and really get to know and understand their thoughts and intentions. Only then can you help them reach their life goals.

3. Get Comfortable with Silence

Silence between two people can be the most uncomfortable, awkward, cringe-worthy experience, but as a life coach, it’s your job to let it happen anyway. When there is silence, your client will be eager to fill the void, which often leads them to show vulnerability and really work through their issues.

4. Don’t Take Things Personally

Your clients are not always going to gel with you. This may cause them to leave your services. Don’t take it personally. Alternatively, you may have a great rapport with your client, but that doesn’t always mean that they will take your advice. This can be frustrating for you, but don’t let it overwhelm you. Instead, look at it as an opportunity to continue building trust between you and your client.

You can make becoming a life coach a reality. Stay motivated by selling yourself on new ideas and strategies every day. It’s also beneficial to remind yourself of your three wins and always strive to keep growing and getting better. By becoming a life coach, you show people that you care, have an excellent rapport, and aren’t afraid of the hard questions – or the silence!

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Consistency Is the Hidden Power to Your Success

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It’s often difficult to start a new habit or change an old behavior. There are enough books and courses online that will teach you about planning your day, planning your night, organizing your home, filtering through paperwork, and on and on it goes.

In the midst of a lot of busywork, though, there lies what I believe is a hidden secret to anyone’s success. Getting into detail about this secret, though, calls for a little reflection on your part. Look at the people you admire, whether alive or dead. Reading about their successes and failures teaches powerful lessons for life.

People will talk about “getting into a groove” and how it feels good. Writing, for me, comes a lot better when I am in a groove or in the flow. Words and phrases come quite easily because I’m sitting down to have a written conversation with you. By the way, it also helps to have a lot of experience as a writer in the back pocket too.

The Answer Lies Within The Question

What’s the secret?” you keep asking. Look at what you are doing in your life today. In business, are you moving forward or stagnant? Connecting with new leads or looking to keep the wolves at bay by taking anything offered? Are you making time to actually do the work while also having some fun?

When you look at the values and practices of successful businesses and entrepreneurs, the one thing that is obvious is that they have developed a level of consistency in their actions. Did it happen overnight after having an awakening experience? Probably not. It was a lot of little things, done over a period of time, and it produced success.

Consistency in business, relationships, friendships, health, wellness, spirituality…you name it. Staying consistent with your actions will lead to results. Here’s a quick caveat: Make sure these consistent habits and behaviors are healthy and nurturing. It does matter in business that you develop a pattern of consistency which reflects a deep level of appreciation for people in your business or on your team.

“Success isn’t always about greatness. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come.” – Dwayne The Rock Johnson

Time and time again, studies have shown how actually being consistent in showing employees appreciation and gratitude can raise the level of work much higher. If you consistently show up as a little tyrant and liar, then you’re going to get burned. If you consistently show up as someone who reflects humility, gratitude and thankfulness for what is going on in your business and life, then you’ll get more of it.

Like attracts like. It’s just that simple. Consistency is one of the most powerful practices and forces that you can add into your business and life.

Here are three specific suggestions that can help you develop a strong core of consistency today:

1. Start out small

Let’s use a restaurant analogy real quick. You walk into a place and you’re hungry. You look at the menu and see a full-course meal that has everything you love in it. Therefore, you order it. The platter comes and you go, “Oh man, that’s a lot of food.” Eat the whole platter in one sitting and you might have a bellyache later on.

If you looked at the platter, took a little bit and ate that, then you’d have some leftovers. You start out small on the meal, not stuff your face with all the food at once. Same concept with consistency. Start out small on what you want to achieve. Just make a little beginning and follow that path.

2. Take your time

What’s the hurry here? Consistency doesn’t pick up right away if you do a total deep dive into it. You have to take your time and go at your own pace. Look, peeking at what Mr. X or Mrs. L is doing will not help you one bit. Patience and persistence are two little powerful motors to help consistency become a part of your life. Even then, though, you have to take your time. Your time, not someone else’s.

“It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, it’s what we do consistently.” – Tony Robbins

3. Appreciate the journey

While you are on the road to consistency, there are going to be bumps along the way. Just know that going forward. There are two ways to look at this: get frustrated and angry and simply say “nope, this consistency thing isn’t worth it”; or, just continue on the path and appreciate all the stops along the way. Developing a practice of appreciation and gratitude can also play roles in you trusting that level of consistency to appear in your life.

Consistency does equal success. How you define success might be as simple as getting up in the morning and feeling grateful you have a roof over your head, food to eat, and clothes to wear. It might be closing the biggest business deal in your life. It might be looking at your children and knowing they are healthy, well, and happy. It also might be that you survived going through hell in life and made it through just fine.

All it takes is a few consistent actions to change the way you show up in this world. We all need people and examples that remind us about the little secret of consistency. Take your mind off of your phone and out of your laptop sometimes. Look around. You can find these types of success stories all around. They reflect their own results of the power of consistency. Tap into this power today and change your world, along with others too.

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4 Ways You Can Develop Indispensable People as a Business Owner

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In a world where more artificial intelligence, robots and automation are taking over, good employees are beginning to feel less and less indispensable. However, they don’t need to be because robots and AI cannot replace human common sense and authentic, heartfelt engagement. That being said, more and more employers are looking for good employees who want to become great leaders within the organization and are willing to make the investment.

Here are 4 ways organizations can develop indispensable employees:

1. Invest in training & personal development

Personal development is definitely the responsibility of an employee and their own willingness to improve themselves overall. But when you combine that with an employer who is looking to keep quality talent and who sees the tremendous value in assisting their employees growth, the results are incredible.

Statistics show as one of the top three non-financial motivators, 76% of employees want opportunities for career growth. They also show that corporate training has grown to over $70 billion in the United States alone. Companies that do make the investment in their employee’s learning and development tend to lead the way and sustain longevity.

They also become the most sought after places to work for. When you help grow your employees, your employees will help grow your business.

“Clients do not come first. Employees come first. If you take care of your employees, they will take care of the clients.” – Richard Branson

2. Empower them with decision-making abilities

You will find that many companies try to create a “think like an owner” mentality throughout their organizations. While this is a great strategy to implement, it cannot be fully accomplished when an employee does not have the appropriate decision making capabilities.

Companies that empower their employees to make the proper decisions (within reason and to a certain extent), become more effective and efficient as a whole. They are able to provide support to both their internal and external customers without having to wait for longer than needed timeframes to get responses.

Empowering employees through training and mentoring is one of the best practices a company can make. The more power an employee has to make certain decisions, the more sense of ownership is displayed and taken, making it a win-win for everyone.

3. Keep them informed and up to date

A wise man once said, “knowledge is power” so if you want your organization to be a powerful force in your industry, your employees need to be informed. Companies that have an effective system in place to keep employees informed and up to date usually have a higher rate of productivity and success.

Most communication within organizations is only shared within their respective departments where the information is pertinent. But imagine how much more would be able to get done if everyone was aware of what was going on company wide (again to a certain extent). That’s why interdepartmental communication is vital and in order for that to happen, employees need to be kept abreast.

For example, have you ever spoken to different people at a company and have gotten different information? That’ because they are not on the same page or haven’t been informed properly.

If an employee knew “generally speaking” about the happenings in other departments, they may be able to assist the customer base more effectively and avoid unnecessary transfers.

A good way to start this practice of being informed would be to share the company’s wins and losses, successes and failures, and any other significant changes the company may have made. When this happens, everyone is made aware and everyone is on the same page.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

4. Develop a true culture of open communication

Honest and open communication is important in the workplace because it affects the ability of everyone being able to work together (as a team). Many employees don’t engage more frequently when asked to because of fear of being ridiculed and even losing their jobs. Why is it that most employees feel more comfortable expressing themselves during normal team meetings but are more reserved in meetings where upper leaders are present?

Could it be that clear lines of open communication have not been established? Studies show that companies who operate in an open forum style atmosphere have higher levels of employee engagement. Engaged employees are more likely to stay with an organization and in return you have less turnovers.

Creating a culture of true and honest communication also develops confidence in the upper leadership team amongst employees. When the leaders of an organization displays proper and safe two-way communication, it also helps the employees feel like their making a difference and their opinions matter.

Implementing these tips will not only help you to develop indispensable employees but will also increase engagement and sustainability. It will also help you to develop an indispensable team to help take your organization to the next level.

How does your boss encourage you to become better? If you’re the boss, how do you encourage your employees to be more productive? Share your thoughts below!

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