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We are creatures of habit. Unfortunately most people never decide how they want to live. As a result they get taken wherever the wind blows.

But not Addicted2Success readers, you want more. You live consciously. You decide how you want to live and what you want to have. You build the habits conducive to the good life.

Aristotle famously said:

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit”.

Unfortunately, most people never set goals, or challenge themselves. Year after year on December 31st whilst jacked up on alcohol, in the midst of self-pity they decide to set some new year’s resolutions. Their excitement may last for a few days, or even two weeks, however, because the resolution was formed on alcohol and emotion they rarely see this through.

How do I know? Because I was one of those frustrated individuals on every January the 15th. I decided 9 years ago to no longer be flimsy about my approach to life. I realised that if you don’t consciously choose the direction of your life, you will most likely go with your emotions. This is the last thing you want to do. Success will rarely come on this path.

When you decide the life you want, you start to think about your daily, seemingly unimportant actions. To the onlooker what you are doing seems irrelevant and redundant; you know that those conscious daily actions will become habits.

Your habits will naturally draw your dream life into existence. Leaving that onlooker dumfounded.

“If people knew how hard I had to work to gain my mastery, it wouldn’t seem so masterful at all.” – Michelangelo

Habits and the examined life is something I treasure greatly. About 10 years ago I was, well, a bit of a no-hoper. I was failing school, university was a no go and I lacked any kind of direction. That was until I read my first personal development book. 100s of books later, I’m now my own best-selling personal development author.

It wasn’t just knowledge that awakened me to my greatness. It was the action that succeeded it, that truly made the difference. I started doing 30 day challenges. With the sole purpose of building good, constructive habits that put me on course for the life I knew I was capable of.

In 30 days you can remove a vice or learn a new skill. The time frame holds you accountable to see the challenge through. The main benefit I found from challenging myself was the increase in discipline. Where I was disciplining one area of my life, all the other areas of my life became more structured and productive because I was motivated from honing my mind.

Over the last 10 years I’ve done various challenges such as quit meat, stopped consuming sugary drinks, started writing a book an hour a day and quit masturbating (it was hard – pun intended).

You really can use this simple tool to improve your life drastically. Before you get started ask yourself some questions like:

  • What area of my life can I improve?
  • What could I give up that would make me happier/healthier?
  • What would excite me for 30 days?

From your answers you should have an idea where you want to start.

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I have failed many times, so let me give you 5 tips to help you successfully complete your first 30 day challenge.

 

1. Know your success criteria

If you don’t know where you’re going you won’t know when you get there. By clearly defining your outcome and what you need to do (or don’t do) daily, you will be setting yourself up for success.

When I first started doing the challenges I would have a loose idea but never clearly define it. This caused many slip-ups, especially when I was quitting sugary drinks.

 

2. Nothing wrong with failing

Yep, it’s true. There is absolutely nothing wrong with failing a challenge. Mistakes happen, what matters is you learn from it and start again. Try not to leave it too long before you start the 30 days again, maximum of 3 days.

Life has a funny habit of getting in the way. Then it’s 2 months later and we never started again. See through what you committed to completing, after all there was a reason you started.

 

3. Visualise yourself succeeding 

Let’s say you are doing 5am wake ups for the 30 days. For a night owl this is an unbelievably hard challenge – I know I’ve done it. What helped me was visualising myself hearing the alarm clock, waking up (and being happy about it) and getting straight out of bed to make a coffee. You can do this daily, weekly or once. The more frequent you do it, the more impact it will have.

When we visualise a better future we are creating a neural pathway in our brain. This pathway will trick your mind into accepting this as truth.

 

4. Do one challenge at a time

It’s easy to get carried away. I’m still struggling to keep to one at a time. Now I just want change, hopefully you will too. If that’s the case it’s easy to want to do multiple challenges at once. The issue here is that we only have a finite amount of will power each day.

Some of these challenges can be very trying. To start with just pick one that will enrich your life.

Then after your first challenge, consider picking two that compliment each other if you have the desire to do more than one.

 

5. Reward yourself

It’s important to reward yourself. You may get disheartened at times throughout the challenge. Energy is low, will power fading and you are starting to forget why you even began.

It’s important to reward yourself each week with something that is meaningful to you. That may be your favourite meal, a hot bath or drinking with your buddies.

 

Conclusion

Most of my good habits that are building success in my life right now have come from doing these 30 day challenges.

By challenging yourself you will increase your motivation levels, clarity for your goals and be building success habits that will propel you towards your dreams.

So many people in life don’t try or at best set New Year’s resolutions, but you’re different.

Challenge yourself, I dare you!

 

New Years Resolution – Learning Better Habits

Stuart is author of the best-selling book ‘Challenge Yourself, I Dare You: A Better You In 30 Days’. Stuart’s focus is on empowering good people to realise the majesty that lies within them. You can find out more about Stuart here.

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  4. Trang, Dinh Thao Doan

    Jan 8, 2015 at 1:25 pm

    Hi Stuart,
    Firt and foremost, I wanna say thank you with all my heart for this useful post.
    I’m writing these lines for you with a strongly hope that you can help me or share to me what should I do to improve my status now.
    I’m 20 year olds. My body type is so sensible with weight. I used to lose weight successfully but in a unhealthy way. I study in university that far away from my house, living far away my mother so I don’t eat full. I always break the meal or only eat 2 meals a day and sleep when I’m tired. I lose 5 kilogram and have a shape body that I used to dream year ago. But now, when I finish my final exam of this semester, I come back home with mother & I begin back my unhealthy diet. I don’t know what’s the problem with my stomach ? Despite of eating full at lunch, 1-2hours later, I feel hungry, my stomach becomes bad, it makes me feel that I can’t stand unless eating so much sugary food. This status lasts around 10 days and now I raise 6kilogram, my body becomes so ugly and my mind is much worst right now.

    I really feel upset. I think that I’m a un-discipline person. I’ve read so many books about development-self , about how to change habit. But I still can’t control my stomach, my hand, my foot to find food.

    I find the support medicine to lose weight. It helps me, but, again, the lack of my discipline makes me fail. I addict in coffee, morning,afternoon and evening, whenever I sit in my work table, my mind think of coffee immediately. And coffee makes my support medicine useless.

    I really hope you can help me to find out a exit way for this bad status. Please help me !

    Wait your reply with all my hope !

    Best Regards,

    Trang.

    • Stuart Ralph

      Jan 10, 2015 at 11:24 pm

      Hi Trang,

      Thanks for your kind words and comment.

      Sorry to hear you have be struggling. The two best diets and ways to eat in my opinion is the Paleo Diet and the Slow Carb diet. They are both based on lots of vegetables and good meats/fish. They both limit and forbid carbs and refined sugars.

      You say you are having a tough time giving up sugar, this is because sugar is as addictive as some drugs. If sugar is your main issue do a 30 day challenge to quit it. Don’t go near any sugars, fully commit yourself to this.

      Or you could do the Paleo diet or slow carb diet for 30 days. However if you struggle with will power, maybe start with no sugary drinks or foods. The healthier you eat the more discipline and energy you will have.

      All the best!
      Stu

  5. RAM

    Dec 30, 2014 at 7:31 am

    WORTH READING . Well said . I am trying to build my body and am failing every time . The main reason is “I am not able to wake up early” I set alarm every night and thoguht of waking up at 6 !!! . But still I fail . I have missed my gym day today too . I am really worried about it .

    I KNOW IT . I have to make it as a habit to wake up at 6 !!! But I am not sure Whats making me not to do it . I have passion about it always . But now I am thinking IS IT REALLY MY PASSION . If its my passion then I could have been doing it right!!! I dont know how to figure it!!!

    • Cody Faldyn

      Dec 31, 2014 at 2:51 pm

      RAM do you read books? If so I recommend you check out either The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod or Limitless Energy by Brandon Epstein. If you like summaries like me, I work for The Entrepreneurs Library and we interviewed both authors. You can check em out on episodes 65 and 44 at theELpodcast.com/books.

      I was having the same problems until I met Brandon Epstein at a conference. He has been giving me endless amounts of tips and advice for the past 4 months and ive gotten alot better at seeing more energy and having an easier time waking up everyday at 5am. I suggest subscribing to his email list at entrepreneurfitness.com.

      Hope all this helps buddy! Stay strong there are many people willing to help you out. 🙂

      Happy 2015!

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 31, 2014 at 3:51 pm

      Thanks for the comment RAM. To add to Cody’s great advice. Is there another time you can train i.e. evening, lunchtime etc? If not consider a 30 day challenge, give a friend some money that they can keep if you don’t get up. It worked for me and I’m not a morning person. If the morning is the only time you can train then get to bed as early as you can, have your alarm clock away from your bed and have a motivational quote or pic of your goal by your alarm clock which will inspire you. It’s all about building the habit. Know that it will be really hard and painful, but after a week you’ll start to love it!

      Hope that helps,
      Stu

  6. Cody Faldyn

    Dec 29, 2014 at 9:43 pm

    YES!! I am not alone! (LOL). I met a colleague at a podcasting conference who got me hooked on 30 day challenges. Although I’ve been mainly trying food challenges, I’m going on my 3rd 30-day challenge and it’s life changing for sure. My friends think I’m crazy, so it feels awesome to have read this article today. Good stuff Stuart…definitely going to check out your book. 🙂 Cheers to being crazy!

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 30, 2014 at 11:06 am

      Hi Cody,

      Haha you are not alone. I too get weird looks for my challenges. I find it funny.

      Great work on the challenges so far. My book should have a few nuggets in there for you. You are already well on your way to an excellent life!

      Keep it up,
      Stu

  7. Jazzel Yousef

    Dec 27, 2014 at 6:56 pm

    This looks like a great way to accomplishing my goals. Lets do this!!

  8. juliana

    Dec 27, 2014 at 12:09 am

    my 2015 resolution is to start another ablog via wordpress,wish me success ..Thank you,happy year

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 27, 2014 at 10:47 am

      Hey Juliana,

      Thanks for reading. Good luck with your goal.

      To your success,
      Stu

  9. Tim Denning

    Dec 26, 2014 at 10:45 pm

    I did a 30 day challenge back in 2012 after attending a Tony Robbins event and I have still kept up the habit of cold press juicing to this day. Its a great way to try something new and turn it into a habit. I also had someone who had the same 30 days challenge as me so I was accountable for keeping the habit going otherwise I would have the pain of telling that person that I failed.
    So often people make news years resolutions and never stick to it. I found it important to write the goals down and then actively track them weekly or even daily. This important step is so widely known yet very few people actually do it. This is because their reasons for wanting the change are not strong enough. This is the most important thing to figure this out first.

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 27, 2014 at 10:45 am

      Hey Tim, thanks for reading. Great work on doing one and keeping it up to this day!!!

      Good luck in any future challenges.

      Stu

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5 Important Facts You Need to Know About Motivation

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Whether you are trying to lead a team of employees, teach a child, or even get through your own workday, staying motivated is key. Nonetheless, this isn’t always as easy as waking up and deciding to be motivated.

There’s a lot to know about motivation and what it can offer you – whether you are trying to motivate yourself or others, thus below are 5 points that are the most important to know:

1. Goals are Crucial

This one might sound like a cliche but you should make sure to set smaller goals on the way to the bigger one. A large project can be intimidating to work on – whether this is a job at work, weight loss goals, or anything else. The best way to keep motivation high is to take these jobs one bite at a time.

Rather than looking at a massive job, break it down into smaller goals or milestones. Focusing on completing these will be much less stressful than looking at an entire project all at once.

2. Give a Reason Why

If someone is working without purpose rather than working toward something, they are bound to lose motivation. After all, why shouldn’t they? On the other hand though, a purpose will make any task easier to accomplish. Think about being given a boring task; it would be easier to suffer through this if it was part of a bigger, more interesting project instead of just a meaningless task.

“When you feel like quitting think about why you started.”

3. Positive Reinforcement is Better Than Fear

It can sometimes seem that threatening to fail a difficult student or fire a lazy employee can be the best way to get them to work. However, while this may work for a bit, these employees and students fall back into old habits quickly.

What is more lasting, though, is positive reinforcement and incentives. Instead of threatening to fire an employee, it may work better if you promise employees the chance to grow. The concept of reward vs. punishment has been studied many times and the general consensus is that someone is far more likely to be motivated to correct and improve their behavior when they are promised a reward for improvement instead of a punishment for stagnancy.

4. Motivated People are More Engaged

This fact just makes sense; if you are motivated about what you are doing, you are going to be more engaged. If you aren’t motivated, you won’t be nearly as engrossed in your work and won’t pay as close of an eye to it. There are two main ways this is crucial. For repetitive work or tasks, this means that you will be more attentive to detail, making you more detail-oriented and thoughtful of the task at hand.

In addition though, this makes more motivated people safer as well. If you are working in dangerous conditions, those people who are paying more attention to their jobs are bound to be safer on the job than those who aren’t. For example, imagine a doctor not being interested in or paying attention to his job; the results could very easily turn catastrophic.

“Throw yourself into some work you believe in with all you heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.” – Dale Carnegie

5. Creative Tasks are Easier to Get Motivated For

No matter how motivated you are naturally, if you are doing a simple, mind-numbing task constantly, you are bound to lose that motivation eventually. However, this can be combated with the use of more creative tasks.

Obviously, you aren’t always going to have a creative task available. There will also be a need to fill out a spreadsheet or do a mundane, repetitive task. When you can though, it is much easier to get excited and motivated about a task that gives you room to think.

This is a technique that can be used in any setting, not just the workplace. Take a classroom full of children for example. If a teacher announces that the class is going to do a worksheet, you won’t hear any excitement. On the other hand, if a teacher tells a class that they are to do an experiment, you are likely to see more children get excited.

While adults may not jump up and down in their seats like an elementary school student would, creative tasks still help to keep them engaged in what they are doing and make them feel like their ideas matter just as much as their labor.

How do you maintain your motivation from day to day? Let us know in the comments below!

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5 Things You Must Do When You Lack Inspiration

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Yes, we do feel motivated by reading quotes and watching movies like The Pursuit of Happiness and Soul Surfer. The protagonist makes you feel you are the hero as psychology would call this Experience-taking. However, sometimes these things are not enough to drive you to accomplish your goals and dreams.

Our mind and body wants peace, yet a lack of inspiration shouldn’t slow us down. We wait to be inspired and get no work done because of it.

Is inspiration  important to make us successful in our lives? Yes, because it acts as a trigger for the shotgun as it initiates the very vital ‘Beginning Process’ of which we are frightened to jump upon.

What exactly should you do when you lack the inspiration? Read the 5 points below:

1. Meditation Matters

You don’t need to do deep meditation wherein you train your mind to attain the desired state of consciousness. Meditation involves analyzing  all kinds of emotions like anger, hatred, compassion, and love. According to many psychological studies, it is revealed meditation drastically minimizes anxiety and stabilizes cognitive ability.

It not only allows you to become inspired but keeps your body physically fit. Today, people are suffering from mental illness like depression. Even when someone is stressed, it is hard to get inspired. If you are a beginner in meditation, you can still experience results. It eradicates all the hindrances that come in the way by calming us down. It is no revelation you perform better when you are relaxed and mindful.

If you are new to meditation check out the iOS app Calm and Android app Headspace. Using proven meditation and mindfulness techniques, these mobile applications train your mind for a healthier, and happier life.

“Quiet the mind, and the soul will speak.” – Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati

2. Pausing Social Media

From your smartphone to your computer, shut everything off and give yourself a needed and short break. Remember, there were no mobile devices 100 years ago so people had to find different ways of entertainment. Perhaps, talk to an old friend or ask the cute girl out in your class.

The psychology today surveyed 100 individuals of which 50 were given all the digital facilities and 50 were provided only the required devices. After the experiment, it was proved that the later group did 85% more effective work than the former. Digital Media is becoming crowded and constrained, so do not forget to stop and pause from time to time.

3. Take a Chill-pill

In our current culture, people seem to be rushing and hustling to get things done, andthey don’t take the time to give their body and brain much-needed rest. According to Phyllis Korkki, a writer for the NY Times, “Employees generally need to detach from their workspace to recharge their internal resources that provide cognitive recharging.”

According to Beth W. Orenstein of Everyday Fitness, “It is easy to get frustrated when we feel uninspired. When these moments come, it is often a good idea to take a break for a few days. Sometimes your mind just needs a break from all the noise and hustle.” We must realize if we don’t rest, our bodies and minds will have no time to recharge, and our inspiration levels will lower down.

“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” – Jim Goodwin

4. Miracles of Music

This is a head and heart combo, because scientifically, when you listen to your favorite music the soothing effect connects your brain and conscience emphatically. Maybe all you need is a soft jazz (it’s okay if your genre is a heavy metal) to get you out of your creative funk. Music does have a large influence on your emotions. Maybe you’re having a bad day and it is affecting your working ability. Listening to your favorite song might lift your mood and thus allow you to be more productive, innovative and creative in what you will do.

5. Shout out loud

Scientists bring this factor out frequently because people today don’t share their stuff. Their mind becomes a locker room where junk is stored, yet this garbage has to be removed. This negativity can and strain can be abolished when you shout loudly (at a place far which is calm and quiet).

Next time you feel uninspired, try attempting any of the above and you will be surprised how effective it works, because as psychologists say, “Human Beings came with a manual. All you need to know is how to read it.”

What are some ways you find inspiration? Let us know by commenting below!

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The Way To Begin…

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We all start somewhere. We may not know what our dream is to begin with.

This was certainly the case for me back in 2011. I’d hit rock bottom and everything in my life had gone wrong. There was no meaning in anything I was doing and I didn’t know why I existed. I had no dream and zero goals other than to survive the day.

My anxiety and stress levels were so high at that point in my life that just getting to go to bed at night was good enough.

 

So how do we begin anything?

I believe the way we begin is often by accident. We don’t always know when an idea is going to hit us or our life is going to change. For me, I certainly had no clue. My life up until that fateful day was spent chasing money and things that I thought mattered.

These were not things that mattered to me; they were things that mattered to society. Getting to where I was on that day was a complete accident. I always thought I was going to be this big time businessman importing stuff from China.

I thought that because I was born in the lucky country of Australia that I was entitled to success. This fateful day would soon teach me how wrong I was.

“Being wrong is often where it starts. Being wrong is where the accident of your success journey can begin”

 

There is one common trigger

That trigger is a low point where you decide that enough is enough. It often all begins when your pain levels reach and extreme point. It feels like your life is going to implode and that if you died tomorrow, it wouldn’t even matter.

My low point in 2011 became the defining moment where everything changed. I was not purposeful about my new path, but I had definitely had enough. Many of us get this same trigger. What I’ve found is that too many of us don’t use it. These low points are a gift and when you come face to face with one, you need to make the most of it.

These low points are the motivation and change in mindset that you need. I took my sign that my life needed to change and became obsessed.

 

What does the start of the journey look like?

It doesn’t look all that flash to begin with. The start of a journey towards success never does look amazing.

Mine was so simple it almost seems make-believe. I want to describe it for you in extreme detail so you can see just how simple it was.

On that fateful day where everything collapsed, I made a very small decision. It’s probably the smallest change in my life I have ever made. This decision changed everything.

“All I did was decide to walk around the neighborhood block, where I lived, once per day”

The duration was so short that it was impossible not to do. At this stage in my life, I was not conscious of anything and knew nothing about success or psychology.

I did this walk for a few days and then my mind told me that I wasn’t maximising the time. See, I am one of those crazy people who always has to be hyper productive. In this case, my hyper-productive mind was the greatest gift I had been given.

The next part is still a bit blurry. Having had no clue what to do other than doing my daily walk, I did what all millennials do: I asked Google for answers. I’m not sure what the series of search terms was that led me to Tony Robbins, nor do I care.

Once I found a Tony Robbins video on Youtube, I became hooked. All the answers I was seeking became instantly available to me. At this point, I turned into a total freak.

I got my iPod, downloaded a whole bunch of Tony Robbins audiotapes, and went for a walk every single day. Many of these walks became longer than one hour. I walked as fast as I could and I had a look of determination on my face that made me look like I had been possessed by the devil.

So the turning point was really these walks, combined with listening to audiotapes.

 

What does all of this mean for you?

That’s a damn good question cowboy. What it means for you is that you may be over thinking your next move. Your next move needs to be a decision. I recommend making lots of small decisions and trying many new things.

The thing that will take you on the next journey that could lead to your life’s purpose and / or dream is probably way simpler than you think. As humans, we over think success and we look for gianormous triggers or external factors before we’re willing to make a decision.

I believe it’s the small decisions that help you begin. It’s the little things you’re dismissing like taking a walk around the neighborhood block that could potentially change your circumstances.

 

Finding that trigger or habit is not enough

Even if you discover something like walking, which has a major effect on you, it’s not enough. You still need to get off your ass and make a decision. What is that decision you ask?

That decision is to no longer to accept your current results. It’s a decision to cut off from everything else and become intensely focused on one pursuit. If all you do is find a new habit that keeps you in the same rut you’ve been in, you’ll never start your own journey.

I used to be so lazy, indecisive and lack discipline. These were the traits that were holding me back. On many of these walks I went on, I decided that I’d no longer settle for these loser behaviors.

 

See yourself for what you can become, not who you currently are

“When you begin a new road towards success, you have to think of yourself differently. You absolutely must see yourself as who you can become and not who you currently are”

During my transformation, I focused on all the potential that I had and what I would look like in the future. I thought about standing on stages in front of thousands of people and doing something that filled me with joy and passion. I saw videos of thought leaders like Eric Thomas and told myself that I could live my life at the same level.

To this day, those thoughts have never left me and I never will let them go. Until you’ve been all the way to the lowest of lows, you’ll never know what it’s like to dream big.

You have so much more within you. Yes, people will laugh at you and think you’re dumb. The only reason they think like that is because they are pissed off at their own failures and misfortunes.

 

Going to Mars

Let me give you an example of people not believing. I’m coaching this young kid right now and he had the idea to take his product to Mars. When he told me that, he thought I’d laugh like everyone else. What he didn’t expect was for me to encourage him.

I told him that if he truly believed that his product could be on Mars, that he should shout it from the rooftop. I told him that he should look people in the eye and tell them he was going to Mars with his product!

If he focuses on who he is right now – a young kid with no money, no work experience and no product – he would never get started.

If he believed all the critics who have never achieved any such goal as going to Mars, he’d never begin.

The way to begin is not just to make a decision, but be bold and believe in yourself. You must believe before anyone will believe in what you’re starting.

If that means you are going to take your product to Mars then so be it.

 

***Final words***

Don’t let any outside force stop you from beginning any longer. You’ve wasted enough time as it is and life is too short to waste any more time. Go out there and begin. The start is always the hardest part, but it’s also the most rewarding.

Remember what I said before: the beginning will be made up of a few very small decisions and actions. Don’t look for that massive defining moment because chances are it will never come.

Get started right now and believe you were born to do something incredible. We’re all capable of greatness once we find a way to begin. Beginning the journey is where it all starts. No one knows what the end will look like and that’s half the fun.

Time to take the first step.

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You Can Have The Best Day Of Your Life Today – Trust Me

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Today was one of the best days of my life.

The last month, in fact, has been a dream. I’ve had to pinch myself to make sure I am not fantasizing about what I am experiencing.

The last year has been full of very hard work, lots of tears, a rollercoaster of emotions, forgiveness and gratitude.

I’ve recently got the career opportunities I’ve wanted, I’ve been able to get better at public speaking, my writing has been read more than ever and I have some amazing new friends. I’m not saying this to brag because that is definitely not me; I’m saying it to inspire you to have your own best day.

To have the best day of your life, you must setup your life the way you want it.

 

Decide on what you want

This fantastic day didn’t happen to me by accident. I earned every minute of it through my efforts. Those emotions I spoke about are what gave me the energy to power towards this phenomenal day.

I decided what I wanted. I painted a rough picture and focused on how I wanted to feel more than anything. Trying to be too exact can often put this goal of an ideal day too far into the future that you never get to touch it with your two beautiful hands.

“You’ll know when you have made the right set of decisions because each day will get closer to being your best day”

You’ll feel a shift in your psychology, your emotions and the presence you give to other people. You’ll start noticing that people compliment you a lot on the positivity you make them feel.

Positivity is infectious and it’s how you get the courage to make the right decisions that will give you the end result which is your best day.

 

The best day is often the simplest

You don’t need to fly to the moon and back to experience the best day of your life. What’s crazy is that your best day is simplistic. Your best day is unique to you and no two best days are alike.

My best day was dumb as hell. I spent time with a magnificent person, ate healthy food, enjoyed the sunshine and realized that I’ve become a champion in my own eyes (in my humble opinion).

 

Breaking the groove is the key

Days will flow into years without you realizing unless you stop your mind in its tracks.

Breaking the groove of your boredom and habits that don’t serve you, will allow you to get closer to your best day. During your best day, you’re present and fully aware of everything that’s going on.

Your best day is not about being productive; it’s about living in the moment and being happy and grateful for everything your best day has brought you.

“Until you get out of your messed up routine that has put you into a landslide of nothingness, you’ll continually miss every opportunity to have your best day and then repeat it for the future”

Routine is not all it’s cracked up to be. Routine has got you to where you are. It may be time to break it into little, tiny pieces.

 

Every day can be extraordinary

I’m not at this level yet but I know people who are. What if the circumstances of your day didn’t get in the way of it being mind-blowing? What if all you had to do was develop enough of a positive mindset to see mostly good things happening?

Being inspired, like how I’ve just described, is possible. Anything is possible when you believe it is. Each day can be your best day once you get on a roll. Before you can do that, you need to know what your best day feels like. Once you get a taste of it, you should have the drug that will get you addicted.

The people who I’ve seen have the best day, every day, have four main traits:

– They practice nonreactivity
– They find happiness in the littlest things
– They write down three things they’re grateful for every 24 hours
– Their default facial expression is a smile

 

Try and outdo yourself

Okay, so I have had one of my best days. Do I stop here and say “Yay I won?” Hell no brothers and sisters. The goal is to make your life into something that feels like that best day, every day. Writing down your best day is crucial because you’ll be surprised how easily you forget the contents and feelings of that day.

When you reminisce on that day, try only to do one thing: remember how you felt. For me, today, I felt confident, relaxed, inspired, happy and loved all at once. It’s the best feeling in the world and almost impossible to describe fully in words.

The whole challenge of describing my best day is how I know that I’ve hit a peak in my life.

At the top of the mountain, you feel like nothing can take you down. From this position, you feel like you can help so many people to live an inspired life.

Emotion starts to drive you and you concentrate on the way you make people feel rather than trying to be cool or sound smart / funny. The world, after your best day, will never be the same again.

You’ll have a permanent high to reflect on.

You’ll know what it’s like to have truly lived.

What’s important will finally become clear to you.

You’ll have ridiculous clarity on where you are going to spend your time.

 

It’s your turn

You’ve heard about my best day, now I want you to have yours. I want you to hit a new record in the story of your life. Having the best day of your life is possible for all of us. It’s not a far away land that we can never reach. It’s not a land that can only be reached on a golden chariot.

Today I’ve had my best day. Today I want you to have your best day. Your best day is where you show everybody the best of you. It’s where you show us all what you’ve been up to behind closed doors.

Your best day is where you get to celebrate, knowing that you’ve become someone you can be proud of. It’s your turn to have the best day of your life.

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Whether you are trying to lead a team of employees, teach a child, or even get through your own workday, staying motivated is key. Nonetheless, this isn’t always as easy as waking up and deciding to be motivated. (more…)

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    I’m 20 year olds. My body type is so sensible with weight. I used to lose weight successfully but in a unhealthy way. I study in university that far away from my house, living far away my mother so I don’t eat full. I always break the meal or only eat 2 meals a day and sleep when I’m tired. I lose 5 kilogram and have a shape body that I used to dream year ago. But now, when I finish my final exam of this semester, I come back home with mother & I begin back my unhealthy diet. I don’t know what’s the problem with my stomach ? Despite of eating full at lunch, 1-2hours later, I feel hungry, my stomach becomes bad, it makes me feel that I can’t stand unless eating so much sugary food. This status lasts around 10 days and now I raise 6kilogram, my body becomes so ugly and my mind is much worst right now.

    I really feel upset. I think that I’m a un-discipline person. I’ve read so many books about development-self , about how to change habit. But I still can’t control my stomach, my hand, my foot to find food.

    I find the support medicine to lose weight. It helps me, but, again, the lack of my discipline makes me fail. I addict in coffee, morning,afternoon and evening, whenever I sit in my work table, my mind think of coffee immediately. And coffee makes my support medicine useless.

    I really hope you can help me to find out a exit way for this bad status. Please help me !

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    • Stuart Ralph

      Jan 10, 2015 at 11:24 pm

      Hi Trang,

      Thanks for your kind words and comment.

      Sorry to hear you have be struggling. The two best diets and ways to eat in my opinion is the Paleo Diet and the Slow Carb diet. They are both based on lots of vegetables and good meats/fish. They both limit and forbid carbs and refined sugars.

      You say you are having a tough time giving up sugar, this is because sugar is as addictive as some drugs. If sugar is your main issue do a 30 day challenge to quit it. Don’t go near any sugars, fully commit yourself to this.

      Or you could do the Paleo diet or slow carb diet for 30 days. However if you struggle with will power, maybe start with no sugary drinks or foods. The healthier you eat the more discipline and energy you will have.

      All the best!
      Stu

  5. RAM

    Dec 30, 2014 at 7:31 am

    WORTH READING . Well said . I am trying to build my body and am failing every time . The main reason is “I am not able to wake up early” I set alarm every night and thoguht of waking up at 6 !!! . But still I fail . I have missed my gym day today too . I am really worried about it .

    I KNOW IT . I have to make it as a habit to wake up at 6 !!! But I am not sure Whats making me not to do it . I have passion about it always . But now I am thinking IS IT REALLY MY PASSION . If its my passion then I could have been doing it right!!! I dont know how to figure it!!!

    • Cody Faldyn

      Dec 31, 2014 at 2:51 pm

      RAM do you read books? If so I recommend you check out either The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod or Limitless Energy by Brandon Epstein. If you like summaries like me, I work for The Entrepreneurs Library and we interviewed both authors. You can check em out on episodes 65 and 44 at theELpodcast.com/books.

      I was having the same problems until I met Brandon Epstein at a conference. He has been giving me endless amounts of tips and advice for the past 4 months and ive gotten alot better at seeing more energy and having an easier time waking up everyday at 5am. I suggest subscribing to his email list at entrepreneurfitness.com.

      Hope all this helps buddy! Stay strong there are many people willing to help you out. 🙂

      Happy 2015!

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 31, 2014 at 3:51 pm

      Thanks for the comment RAM. To add to Cody’s great advice. Is there another time you can train i.e. evening, lunchtime etc? If not consider a 30 day challenge, give a friend some money that they can keep if you don’t get up. It worked for me and I’m not a morning person. If the morning is the only time you can train then get to bed as early as you can, have your alarm clock away from your bed and have a motivational quote or pic of your goal by your alarm clock which will inspire you. It’s all about building the habit. Know that it will be really hard and painful, but after a week you’ll start to love it!

      Hope that helps,
      Stu

  6. Cody Faldyn

    Dec 29, 2014 at 9:43 pm

    YES!! I am not alone! (LOL). I met a colleague at a podcasting conference who got me hooked on 30 day challenges. Although I’ve been mainly trying food challenges, I’m going on my 3rd 30-day challenge and it’s life changing for sure. My friends think I’m crazy, so it feels awesome to have read this article today. Good stuff Stuart…definitely going to check out your book. 🙂 Cheers to being crazy!

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 30, 2014 at 11:06 am

      Hi Cody,

      Haha you are not alone. I too get weird looks for my challenges. I find it funny.

      Great work on the challenges so far. My book should have a few nuggets in there for you. You are already well on your way to an excellent life!

      Keep it up,
      Stu

  7. Jazzel Yousef

    Dec 27, 2014 at 6:56 pm

    This looks like a great way to accomplishing my goals. Lets do this!!

  8. juliana

    Dec 27, 2014 at 12:09 am

    my 2015 resolution is to start another ablog via wordpress,wish me success ..Thank you,happy year

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 27, 2014 at 10:47 am

      Hey Juliana,

      Thanks for reading. Good luck with your goal.

      To your success,
      Stu

  9. Tim Denning

    Dec 26, 2014 at 10:45 pm

    I did a 30 day challenge back in 2012 after attending a Tony Robbins event and I have still kept up the habit of cold press juicing to this day. Its a great way to try something new and turn it into a habit. I also had someone who had the same 30 days challenge as me so I was accountable for keeping the habit going otherwise I would have the pain of telling that person that I failed.
    So often people make news years resolutions and never stick to it. I found it important to write the goals down and then actively track them weekly or even daily. This important step is so widely known yet very few people actually do it. This is because their reasons for wanting the change are not strong enough. This is the most important thing to figure this out first.

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 27, 2014 at 10:45 am

      Hey Tim, thanks for reading. Great work on doing one and keeping it up to this day!!!

      Good luck in any future challenges.

      Stu

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5 Important Facts You Need to Know About Motivation

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Whether you are trying to lead a team of employees, teach a child, or even get through your own workday, staying motivated is key. Nonetheless, this isn’t always as easy as waking up and deciding to be motivated.

There’s a lot to know about motivation and what it can offer you – whether you are trying to motivate yourself or others, thus below are 5 points that are the most important to know:

1. Goals are Crucial

This one might sound like a cliche but you should make sure to set smaller goals on the way to the bigger one. A large project can be intimidating to work on – whether this is a job at work, weight loss goals, or anything else. The best way to keep motivation high is to take these jobs one bite at a time.

Rather than looking at a massive job, break it down into smaller goals or milestones. Focusing on completing these will be much less stressful than looking at an entire project all at once.

2. Give a Reason Why

If someone is working without purpose rather than working toward something, they are bound to lose motivation. After all, why shouldn’t they? On the other hand though, a purpose will make any task easier to accomplish. Think about being given a boring task; it would be easier to suffer through this if it was part of a bigger, more interesting project instead of just a meaningless task.

“When you feel like quitting think about why you started.”

3. Positive Reinforcement is Better Than Fear

It can sometimes seem that threatening to fail a difficult student or fire a lazy employee can be the best way to get them to work. However, while this may work for a bit, these employees and students fall back into old habits quickly.

What is more lasting, though, is positive reinforcement and incentives. Instead of threatening to fire an employee, it may work better if you promise employees the chance to grow. The concept of reward vs. punishment has been studied many times and the general consensus is that someone is far more likely to be motivated to correct and improve their behavior when they are promised a reward for improvement instead of a punishment for stagnancy.

4. Motivated People are More Engaged

This fact just makes sense; if you are motivated about what you are doing, you are going to be more engaged. If you aren’t motivated, you won’t be nearly as engrossed in your work and won’t pay as close of an eye to it. There are two main ways this is crucial. For repetitive work or tasks, this means that you will be more attentive to detail, making you more detail-oriented and thoughtful of the task at hand.

In addition though, this makes more motivated people safer as well. If you are working in dangerous conditions, those people who are paying more attention to their jobs are bound to be safer on the job than those who aren’t. For example, imagine a doctor not being interested in or paying attention to his job; the results could very easily turn catastrophic.

“Throw yourself into some work you believe in with all you heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.” – Dale Carnegie

5. Creative Tasks are Easier to Get Motivated For

No matter how motivated you are naturally, if you are doing a simple, mind-numbing task constantly, you are bound to lose that motivation eventually. However, this can be combated with the use of more creative tasks.

Obviously, you aren’t always going to have a creative task available. There will also be a need to fill out a spreadsheet or do a mundane, repetitive task. When you can though, it is much easier to get excited and motivated about a task that gives you room to think.

This is a technique that can be used in any setting, not just the workplace. Take a classroom full of children for example. If a teacher announces that the class is going to do a worksheet, you won’t hear any excitement. On the other hand, if a teacher tells a class that they are to do an experiment, you are likely to see more children get excited.

While adults may not jump up and down in their seats like an elementary school student would, creative tasks still help to keep them engaged in what they are doing and make them feel like their ideas matter just as much as their labor.

How do you maintain your motivation from day to day? Let us know in the comments below!

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Yes, we do feel motivated by reading quotes and watching movies like The Pursuit of Happiness and Soul Surfer. The protagonist makes you feel you are the hero as psychology would call this Experience-taking. However, sometimes these things are not enough to drive you to accomplish your goals and dreams.

Our mind and body wants peace, yet a lack of inspiration shouldn’t slow us down. We wait to be inspired and get no work done because of it.

Is inspiration  important to make us successful in our lives? Yes, because it acts as a trigger for the shotgun as it initiates the very vital ‘Beginning Process’ of which we are frightened to jump upon.

What exactly should you do when you lack the inspiration? Read the 5 points below:

1. Meditation Matters

You don’t need to do deep meditation wherein you train your mind to attain the desired state of consciousness. Meditation involves analyzing  all kinds of emotions like anger, hatred, compassion, and love. According to many psychological studies, it is revealed meditation drastically minimizes anxiety and stabilizes cognitive ability.

It not only allows you to become inspired but keeps your body physically fit. Today, people are suffering from mental illness like depression. Even when someone is stressed, it is hard to get inspired. If you are a beginner in meditation, you can still experience results. It eradicates all the hindrances that come in the way by calming us down. It is no revelation you perform better when you are relaxed and mindful.

If you are new to meditation check out the iOS app Calm and Android app Headspace. Using proven meditation and mindfulness techniques, these mobile applications train your mind for a healthier, and happier life.

“Quiet the mind, and the soul will speak.” – Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati

2. Pausing Social Media

From your smartphone to your computer, shut everything off and give yourself a needed and short break. Remember, there were no mobile devices 100 years ago so people had to find different ways of entertainment. Perhaps, talk to an old friend or ask the cute girl out in your class.

The psychology today surveyed 100 individuals of which 50 were given all the digital facilities and 50 were provided only the required devices. After the experiment, it was proved that the later group did 85% more effective work than the former. Digital Media is becoming crowded and constrained, so do not forget to stop and pause from time to time.

3. Take a Chill-pill

In our current culture, people seem to be rushing and hustling to get things done, andthey don’t take the time to give their body and brain much-needed rest. According to Phyllis Korkki, a writer for the NY Times, “Employees generally need to detach from their workspace to recharge their internal resources that provide cognitive recharging.”

According to Beth W. Orenstein of Everyday Fitness, “It is easy to get frustrated when we feel uninspired. When these moments come, it is often a good idea to take a break for a few days. Sometimes your mind just needs a break from all the noise and hustle.” We must realize if we don’t rest, our bodies and minds will have no time to recharge, and our inspiration levels will lower down.

“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” – Jim Goodwin

4. Miracles of Music

This is a head and heart combo, because scientifically, when you listen to your favorite music the soothing effect connects your brain and conscience emphatically. Maybe all you need is a soft jazz (it’s okay if your genre is a heavy metal) to get you out of your creative funk. Music does have a large influence on your emotions. Maybe you’re having a bad day and it is affecting your working ability. Listening to your favorite song might lift your mood and thus allow you to be more productive, innovative and creative in what you will do.

5. Shout out loud

Scientists bring this factor out frequently because people today don’t share their stuff. Their mind becomes a locker room where junk is stored, yet this garbage has to be removed. This negativity can and strain can be abolished when you shout loudly (at a place far which is calm and quiet).

Next time you feel uninspired, try attempting any of the above and you will be surprised how effective it works, because as psychologists say, “Human Beings came with a manual. All you need to know is how to read it.”

What are some ways you find inspiration? Let us know by commenting below!

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The Way To Begin…

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We all start somewhere. We may not know what our dream is to begin with.

This was certainly the case for me back in 2011. I’d hit rock bottom and everything in my life had gone wrong. There was no meaning in anything I was doing and I didn’t know why I existed. I had no dream and zero goals other than to survive the day.

My anxiety and stress levels were so high at that point in my life that just getting to go to bed at night was good enough.

 

So how do we begin anything?

I believe the way we begin is often by accident. We don’t always know when an idea is going to hit us or our life is going to change. For me, I certainly had no clue. My life up until that fateful day was spent chasing money and things that I thought mattered.

These were not things that mattered to me; they were things that mattered to society. Getting to where I was on that day was a complete accident. I always thought I was going to be this big time businessman importing stuff from China.

I thought that because I was born in the lucky country of Australia that I was entitled to success. This fateful day would soon teach me how wrong I was.

“Being wrong is often where it starts. Being wrong is where the accident of your success journey can begin”

 

There is one common trigger

That trigger is a low point where you decide that enough is enough. It often all begins when your pain levels reach and extreme point. It feels like your life is going to implode and that if you died tomorrow, it wouldn’t even matter.

My low point in 2011 became the defining moment where everything changed. I was not purposeful about my new path, but I had definitely had enough. Many of us get this same trigger. What I’ve found is that too many of us don’t use it. These low points are a gift and when you come face to face with one, you need to make the most of it.

These low points are the motivation and change in mindset that you need. I took my sign that my life needed to change and became obsessed.

 

What does the start of the journey look like?

It doesn’t look all that flash to begin with. The start of a journey towards success never does look amazing.

Mine was so simple it almost seems make-believe. I want to describe it for you in extreme detail so you can see just how simple it was.

On that fateful day where everything collapsed, I made a very small decision. It’s probably the smallest change in my life I have ever made. This decision changed everything.

“All I did was decide to walk around the neighborhood block, where I lived, once per day”

The duration was so short that it was impossible not to do. At this stage in my life, I was not conscious of anything and knew nothing about success or psychology.

I did this walk for a few days and then my mind told me that I wasn’t maximising the time. See, I am one of those crazy people who always has to be hyper productive. In this case, my hyper-productive mind was the greatest gift I had been given.

The next part is still a bit blurry. Having had no clue what to do other than doing my daily walk, I did what all millennials do: I asked Google for answers. I’m not sure what the series of search terms was that led me to Tony Robbins, nor do I care.

Once I found a Tony Robbins video on Youtube, I became hooked. All the answers I was seeking became instantly available to me. At this point, I turned into a total freak.

I got my iPod, downloaded a whole bunch of Tony Robbins audiotapes, and went for a walk every single day. Many of these walks became longer than one hour. I walked as fast as I could and I had a look of determination on my face that made me look like I had been possessed by the devil.

So the turning point was really these walks, combined with listening to audiotapes.

 

What does all of this mean for you?

That’s a damn good question cowboy. What it means for you is that you may be over thinking your next move. Your next move needs to be a decision. I recommend making lots of small decisions and trying many new things.

The thing that will take you on the next journey that could lead to your life’s purpose and / or dream is probably way simpler than you think. As humans, we over think success and we look for gianormous triggers or external factors before we’re willing to make a decision.

I believe it’s the small decisions that help you begin. It’s the little things you’re dismissing like taking a walk around the neighborhood block that could potentially change your circumstances.

 

Finding that trigger or habit is not enough

Even if you discover something like walking, which has a major effect on you, it’s not enough. You still need to get off your ass and make a decision. What is that decision you ask?

That decision is to no longer to accept your current results. It’s a decision to cut off from everything else and become intensely focused on one pursuit. If all you do is find a new habit that keeps you in the same rut you’ve been in, you’ll never start your own journey.

I used to be so lazy, indecisive and lack discipline. These were the traits that were holding me back. On many of these walks I went on, I decided that I’d no longer settle for these loser behaviors.

 

See yourself for what you can become, not who you currently are

“When you begin a new road towards success, you have to think of yourself differently. You absolutely must see yourself as who you can become and not who you currently are”

During my transformation, I focused on all the potential that I had and what I would look like in the future. I thought about standing on stages in front of thousands of people and doing something that filled me with joy and passion. I saw videos of thought leaders like Eric Thomas and told myself that I could live my life at the same level.

To this day, those thoughts have never left me and I never will let them go. Until you’ve been all the way to the lowest of lows, you’ll never know what it’s like to dream big.

You have so much more within you. Yes, people will laugh at you and think you’re dumb. The only reason they think like that is because they are pissed off at their own failures and misfortunes.

 

Going to Mars

Let me give you an example of people not believing. I’m coaching this young kid right now and he had the idea to take his product to Mars. When he told me that, he thought I’d laugh like everyone else. What he didn’t expect was for me to encourage him.

I told him that if he truly believed that his product could be on Mars, that he should shout it from the rooftop. I told him that he should look people in the eye and tell them he was going to Mars with his product!

If he focuses on who he is right now – a young kid with no money, no work experience and no product – he would never get started.

If he believed all the critics who have never achieved any such goal as going to Mars, he’d never begin.

The way to begin is not just to make a decision, but be bold and believe in yourself. You must believe before anyone will believe in what you’re starting.

If that means you are going to take your product to Mars then so be it.

 

***Final words***

Don’t let any outside force stop you from beginning any longer. You’ve wasted enough time as it is and life is too short to waste any more time. Go out there and begin. The start is always the hardest part, but it’s also the most rewarding.

Remember what I said before: the beginning will be made up of a few very small decisions and actions. Don’t look for that massive defining moment because chances are it will never come.

Get started right now and believe you were born to do something incredible. We’re all capable of greatness once we find a way to begin. Beginning the journey is where it all starts. No one knows what the end will look like and that’s half the fun.

Time to take the first step.

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Today was one of the best days of my life.

The last month, in fact, has been a dream. I’ve had to pinch myself to make sure I am not fantasizing about what I am experiencing.

The last year has been full of very hard work, lots of tears, a rollercoaster of emotions, forgiveness and gratitude.

I’ve recently got the career opportunities I’ve wanted, I’ve been able to get better at public speaking, my writing has been read more than ever and I have some amazing new friends. I’m not saying this to brag because that is definitely not me; I’m saying it to inspire you to have your own best day.

To have the best day of your life, you must setup your life the way you want it.

 

Decide on what you want

This fantastic day didn’t happen to me by accident. I earned every minute of it through my efforts. Those emotions I spoke about are what gave me the energy to power towards this phenomenal day.

I decided what I wanted. I painted a rough picture and focused on how I wanted to feel more than anything. Trying to be too exact can often put this goal of an ideal day too far into the future that you never get to touch it with your two beautiful hands.

“You’ll know when you have made the right set of decisions because each day will get closer to being your best day”

You’ll feel a shift in your psychology, your emotions and the presence you give to other people. You’ll start noticing that people compliment you a lot on the positivity you make them feel.

Positivity is infectious and it’s how you get the courage to make the right decisions that will give you the end result which is your best day.

 

The best day is often the simplest

You don’t need to fly to the moon and back to experience the best day of your life. What’s crazy is that your best day is simplistic. Your best day is unique to you and no two best days are alike.

My best day was dumb as hell. I spent time with a magnificent person, ate healthy food, enjoyed the sunshine and realized that I’ve become a champion in my own eyes (in my humble opinion).

 

Breaking the groove is the key

Days will flow into years without you realizing unless you stop your mind in its tracks.

Breaking the groove of your boredom and habits that don’t serve you, will allow you to get closer to your best day. During your best day, you’re present and fully aware of everything that’s going on.

Your best day is not about being productive; it’s about living in the moment and being happy and grateful for everything your best day has brought you.

“Until you get out of your messed up routine that has put you into a landslide of nothingness, you’ll continually miss every opportunity to have your best day and then repeat it for the future”

Routine is not all it’s cracked up to be. Routine has got you to where you are. It may be time to break it into little, tiny pieces.

 

Every day can be extraordinary

I’m not at this level yet but I know people who are. What if the circumstances of your day didn’t get in the way of it being mind-blowing? What if all you had to do was develop enough of a positive mindset to see mostly good things happening?

Being inspired, like how I’ve just described, is possible. Anything is possible when you believe it is. Each day can be your best day once you get on a roll. Before you can do that, you need to know what your best day feels like. Once you get a taste of it, you should have the drug that will get you addicted.

The people who I’ve seen have the best day, every day, have four main traits:

– They practice nonreactivity
– They find happiness in the littlest things
– They write down three things they’re grateful for every 24 hours
– Their default facial expression is a smile

 

Try and outdo yourself

Okay, so I have had one of my best days. Do I stop here and say “Yay I won?” Hell no brothers and sisters. The goal is to make your life into something that feels like that best day, every day. Writing down your best day is crucial because you’ll be surprised how easily you forget the contents and feelings of that day.

When you reminisce on that day, try only to do one thing: remember how you felt. For me, today, I felt confident, relaxed, inspired, happy and loved all at once. It’s the best feeling in the world and almost impossible to describe fully in words.

The whole challenge of describing my best day is how I know that I’ve hit a peak in my life.

At the top of the mountain, you feel like nothing can take you down. From this position, you feel like you can help so many people to live an inspired life.

Emotion starts to drive you and you concentrate on the way you make people feel rather than trying to be cool or sound smart / funny. The world, after your best day, will never be the same again.

You’ll have a permanent high to reflect on.

You’ll know what it’s like to have truly lived.

What’s important will finally become clear to you.

You’ll have ridiculous clarity on where you are going to spend your time.

 

It’s your turn

You’ve heard about my best day, now I want you to have yours. I want you to hit a new record in the story of your life. Having the best day of your life is possible for all of us. It’s not a far away land that we can never reach. It’s not a land that can only be reached on a golden chariot.

Today I’ve had my best day. Today I want you to have your best day. Your best day is where you show everybody the best of you. It’s where you show us all what you’ve been up to behind closed doors.

Your best day is where you get to celebrate, knowing that you’ve become someone you can be proud of. It’s your turn to have the best day of your life.

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