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New Years Resolution Challenge

We are creatures of habit. Unfortunately most people never decide how they want to live. As a result they get taken wherever the wind blows.

But not Addicted2Success readers, you want more. You live consciously. You decide how you want to live and what you want to have. You build the habits conducive to the good life.

Aristotle famously said:

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit”.

Unfortunately, most people never set goals, or challenge themselves. Year after year on December 31st whilst jacked up on alcohol, in the midst of self-pity they decide to set some new year’s resolutions. Their excitement may last for a few days, or even two weeks, however, because the resolution was formed on alcohol and emotion they rarely see this through.

How do I know? Because I was one of those frustrated individuals on every January the 15th. I decided 9 years ago to no longer be flimsy about my approach to life. I realised that if you don’t consciously choose the direction of your life, you will most likely go with your emotions. This is the last thing you want to do. Success will rarely come on this path.

When you decide the life you want, you start to think about your daily, seemingly unimportant actions. To the onlooker what you are doing seems irrelevant and redundant; you know that those conscious daily actions will become habits.

Your habits will naturally draw your dream life into existence. Leaving that onlooker dumfounded.

“If people knew how hard I had to work to gain my mastery, it wouldn’t seem so masterful at all.” – Michelangelo

Habits and the examined life is something I treasure greatly. About 10 years ago I was, well, a bit of a no-hoper. I was failing school, university was a no go and I lacked any kind of direction. That was until I read my first personal development book. 100s of books later, I’m now my own best-selling personal development author.

It wasn’t just knowledge that awakened me to my greatness. It was the action that succeeded it, that truly made the difference. I started doing 30 day challenges. With the sole purpose of building good, constructive habits that put me on course for the life I knew I was capable of.

In 30 days you can remove a vice or learn a new skill. The time frame holds you accountable to see the challenge through. The main benefit I found from challenging myself was the increase in discipline. Where I was disciplining one area of my life, all the other areas of my life became more structured and productive because I was motivated from honing my mind.

Over the last 10 years I’ve done various challenges such as quit meat, stopped consuming sugary drinks, started writing a book an hour a day and quit masturbating (it was hard – pun intended).

You really can use this simple tool to improve your life drastically. Before you get started ask yourself some questions like:

  • What area of my life can I improve?
  • What could I give up that would make me happier/healthier?
  • What would excite me for 30 days?

From your answers you should have an idea where you want to start.

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I have failed many times, so let me give you 5 tips to help you successfully complete your first 30 day challenge.

 

1. Know your success criteria

If you don’t know where you’re going you won’t know when you get there. By clearly defining your outcome and what you need to do (or don’t do) daily, you will be setting yourself up for success.

When I first started doing the challenges I would have a loose idea but never clearly define it. This caused many slip-ups, especially when I was quitting sugary drinks.

 

2. Nothing wrong with failing

Yep, it’s true. There is absolutely nothing wrong with failing a challenge. Mistakes happen, what matters is you learn from it and start again. Try not to leave it too long before you start the 30 days again, maximum of 3 days.

Life has a funny habit of getting in the way. Then it’s 2 months later and we never started again. See through what you committed to completing, after all there was a reason you started.

 

3. Visualise yourself succeeding 

Let’s say you are doing 5am wake ups for the 30 days. For a night owl this is an unbelievably hard challenge – I know I’ve done it. What helped me was visualising myself hearing the alarm clock, waking up (and being happy about it) and getting straight out of bed to make a coffee. You can do this daily, weekly or once. The more frequent you do it, the more impact it will have.

When we visualise a better future we are creating a neural pathway in our brain. This pathway will trick your mind into accepting this as truth.

 

4. Do one challenge at a time

It’s easy to get carried away. I’m still struggling to keep to one at a time. Now I just want change, hopefully you will too. If that’s the case it’s easy to want to do multiple challenges at once. The issue here is that we only have a finite amount of will power each day.

Some of these challenges can be very trying. To start with just pick one that will enrich your life.

Then after your first challenge, consider picking two that compliment each other if you have the desire to do more than one.

 

5. Reward yourself

It’s important to reward yourself. You may get disheartened at times throughout the challenge. Energy is low, will power fading and you are starting to forget why you even began.

It’s important to reward yourself each week with something that is meaningful to you. That may be your favourite meal, a hot bath or drinking with your buddies.

 

Conclusion

Most of my good habits that are building success in my life right now have come from doing these 30 day challenges.

By challenging yourself you will increase your motivation levels, clarity for your goals and be building success habits that will propel you towards your dreams.

So many people in life don’t try or at best set New Year’s resolutions, but you’re different.

Challenge yourself, I dare you!

 

New Years Resolution – Learning Better Habits

Stuart is author of the best-selling book ‘Challenge Yourself, I Dare You: A Better You In 30 Days’. Stuart’s focus is on empowering good people to realise the majesty that lies within them. You can find out more about Stuart here.

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  4. Trang, Dinh Thao Doan

    Jan 8, 2015 at 1:25 pm

    Hi Stuart,
    Firt and foremost, I wanna say thank you with all my heart for this useful post.
    I’m writing these lines for you with a strongly hope that you can help me or share to me what should I do to improve my status now.
    I’m 20 year olds. My body type is so sensible with weight. I used to lose weight successfully but in a unhealthy way. I study in university that far away from my house, living far away my mother so I don’t eat full. I always break the meal or only eat 2 meals a day and sleep when I’m tired. I lose 5 kilogram and have a shape body that I used to dream year ago. But now, when I finish my final exam of this semester, I come back home with mother & I begin back my unhealthy diet. I don’t know what’s the problem with my stomach ? Despite of eating full at lunch, 1-2hours later, I feel hungry, my stomach becomes bad, it makes me feel that I can’t stand unless eating so much sugary food. This status lasts around 10 days and now I raise 6kilogram, my body becomes so ugly and my mind is much worst right now.

    I really feel upset. I think that I’m a un-discipline person. I’ve read so many books about development-self , about how to change habit. But I still can’t control my stomach, my hand, my foot to find food.

    I find the support medicine to lose weight. It helps me, but, again, the lack of my discipline makes me fail. I addict in coffee, morning,afternoon and evening, whenever I sit in my work table, my mind think of coffee immediately. And coffee makes my support medicine useless.

    I really hope you can help me to find out a exit way for this bad status. Please help me !

    Wait your reply with all my hope !

    Best Regards,

    Trang.

    • Stuart Ralph

      Jan 10, 2015 at 11:24 pm

      Hi Trang,

      Thanks for your kind words and comment.

      Sorry to hear you have be struggling. The two best diets and ways to eat in my opinion is the Paleo Diet and the Slow Carb diet. They are both based on lots of vegetables and good meats/fish. They both limit and forbid carbs and refined sugars.

      You say you are having a tough time giving up sugar, this is because sugar is as addictive as some drugs. If sugar is your main issue do a 30 day challenge to quit it. Don’t go near any sugars, fully commit yourself to this.

      Or you could do the Paleo diet or slow carb diet for 30 days. However if you struggle with will power, maybe start with no sugary drinks or foods. The healthier you eat the more discipline and energy you will have.

      All the best!
      Stu

  5. RAM

    Dec 30, 2014 at 7:31 am

    WORTH READING . Well said . I am trying to build my body and am failing every time . The main reason is “I am not able to wake up early” I set alarm every night and thoguht of waking up at 6 !!! . But still I fail . I have missed my gym day today too . I am really worried about it .

    I KNOW IT . I have to make it as a habit to wake up at 6 !!! But I am not sure Whats making me not to do it . I have passion about it always . But now I am thinking IS IT REALLY MY PASSION . If its my passion then I could have been doing it right!!! I dont know how to figure it!!!

    • Cody Faldyn

      Dec 31, 2014 at 2:51 pm

      RAM do you read books? If so I recommend you check out either The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod or Limitless Energy by Brandon Epstein. If you like summaries like me, I work for The Entrepreneurs Library and we interviewed both authors. You can check em out on episodes 65 and 44 at theELpodcast.com/books.

      I was having the same problems until I met Brandon Epstein at a conference. He has been giving me endless amounts of tips and advice for the past 4 months and ive gotten alot better at seeing more energy and having an easier time waking up everyday at 5am. I suggest subscribing to his email list at entrepreneurfitness.com.

      Hope all this helps buddy! Stay strong there are many people willing to help you out. 🙂

      Happy 2015!

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 31, 2014 at 3:51 pm

      Thanks for the comment RAM. To add to Cody’s great advice. Is there another time you can train i.e. evening, lunchtime etc? If not consider a 30 day challenge, give a friend some money that they can keep if you don’t get up. It worked for me and I’m not a morning person. If the morning is the only time you can train then get to bed as early as you can, have your alarm clock away from your bed and have a motivational quote or pic of your goal by your alarm clock which will inspire you. It’s all about building the habit. Know that it will be really hard and painful, but after a week you’ll start to love it!

      Hope that helps,
      Stu

  6. Cody Faldyn

    Dec 29, 2014 at 9:43 pm

    YES!! I am not alone! (LOL). I met a colleague at a podcasting conference who got me hooked on 30 day challenges. Although I’ve been mainly trying food challenges, I’m going on my 3rd 30-day challenge and it’s life changing for sure. My friends think I’m crazy, so it feels awesome to have read this article today. Good stuff Stuart…definitely going to check out your book. 🙂 Cheers to being crazy!

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 30, 2014 at 11:06 am

      Hi Cody,

      Haha you are not alone. I too get weird looks for my challenges. I find it funny.

      Great work on the challenges so far. My book should have a few nuggets in there for you. You are already well on your way to an excellent life!

      Keep it up,
      Stu

  7. Jazzel Yousef

    Dec 27, 2014 at 6:56 pm

    This looks like a great way to accomplishing my goals. Lets do this!!

  8. juliana

    Dec 27, 2014 at 12:09 am

    my 2015 resolution is to start another ablog via wordpress,wish me success ..Thank you,happy year

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 27, 2014 at 10:47 am

      Hey Juliana,

      Thanks for reading. Good luck with your goal.

      To your success,
      Stu

  9. Tim Denning

    Dec 26, 2014 at 10:45 pm

    I did a 30 day challenge back in 2012 after attending a Tony Robbins event and I have still kept up the habit of cold press juicing to this day. Its a great way to try something new and turn it into a habit. I also had someone who had the same 30 days challenge as me so I was accountable for keeping the habit going otherwise I would have the pain of telling that person that I failed.
    So often people make news years resolutions and never stick to it. I found it important to write the goals down and then actively track them weekly or even daily. This important step is so widely known yet very few people actually do it. This is because their reasons for wanting the change are not strong enough. This is the most important thing to figure this out first.

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 27, 2014 at 10:45 am

      Hey Tim, thanks for reading. Great work on doing one and keeping it up to this day!!!

      Good luck in any future challenges.

      Stu

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Motivation

All I Want Is For You To Give It Everything You Got.

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It’s the simplest ask I’ve ever put out into the world. It’s my one wish for everyone reading.

All I want is for you to give your life everything you’ve got. Seeing what you are capable of is my one goal. Seeing how you lived instead of how you feared your challenges is beautiful. I know it’s easier said than done but I know you have more in the tank.

I know it seems like there’s always another email, another person to influence, another competitor, another threat that could tear down everything you’ve built.

I get that there are risks and you’re scared (whether you admit it or not). That doesn’t change a thing in my book. I still want you to give it everything you’ve got.

 

I want to see your raw emotion.

When I watch you do your thing, I want to see you display raw emotion. I want you to be vulnerable and show me all of the beauty you have to offer through your wide range of emotions.

I don’t want you to cover up what you’re thinking and feeling out of fear that you’ll be judged. Those who judge you are only making up for their own inadequacies, so there’s nothing to be afraid of.

 

I want to see your raw passion.

Passion equals commitment. It’s that look in your eye. It’s how you take your first step. It’s how you stare fear in the face and say “I’m going to win today no matter what. Nothing will stop me!”

It’s the way your shoulders are slightly back and you stare into everyone’s eyes. It’s the way you look fearless even though you’re as scared as the rest of us watching. It’s the way you commit to the outcome even though you don’t know the exact strategy.

Showing us your raw passion by doing what you love is one of the best gifts you have to offer. Don’t hold back on your level of passion. Commit to what it is you love and don’t spend a waking moment not coming up with your next move. Through your passion, we get to see the potential we have in our own passion.

Seeing you fulfill your passion inspires us all to do the same. You can be a guiding light and you know you can. Make your move!

 

I want to feel what it is that you do.

Don’t show me, make me feel it. Show us all what courage looks like and what you’ve had to overcome to get to this point, right here, right now. I want your actions to show us why we all chase feelings. I want you to show us the power of feelings and why they drive us to create human life and fall in love.

 

I want you to take the long road.

Not the shortcut. Not by using that one life hack. Not by bringing down others. Not by stomping over your competition and showing us that you have a higher power. I want you to take the long road and put in the work. I want you to reach mastery instead of a basic understanding.

“When everybody else thinks that you’ve given all you’ve got, I want you to keep walking down that long, windy road in your jocks while freezing your tits off!”

The idea of a shortcut is a myth. No one that is going to do what you’re capable of got there by putting in less or looking for a way to be lazy. Laziness is not the answer.

Commitment and an endless pursuit to find a path and walk down it with your own two feet is where you’ll find the energy you need.

 

I want you to be kind along the way.

Yes, going into overdrive is about you and your capability, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it by being nasty to everyone watching. How you treat people is more important than anything else. It’s what you’ll be remembered for and not the outcome.

Treating people with kindness is how you discover your true self and find that extra something that you didn’t know you had. Kindness will be returned with more kindness. Sometimes it will go unnoticed and that’s cool as well.

 

I want you to be the greatest in your field.

Not second best. Not top ten, but the greatest. Even if you don’t reach the top, you’ll still end up pushing beyond what you ever thought was possible. You’ll be glad you went for the top position rather than settling for the bottom where you know you had more to give.

 

I want you to push through the pain.

Pain hurts like hell. It’s that one ingredient that none of us can avoid. Pain is guaranteed whether you decide to listen to my advice or not.

“So if you’re going to get pain no matter what, you may as well learn to push through it and use it for good, not evil”

 

Pain is the red light indicator that says you’re pushing your limits and you’re creating momentum. Pain doesn’t mean stop. Pain means you’re just getting started. You’ve avoided pain until this point and now it’s time to discover what pain can do for you.

“Pain can either be the devil on your shoulder or the angel that guides you from darkness into the light”

 

I want you to bring others on the journey.

It’s not just about you. I say this all the time because I mean it. A journey on your own is boring and you’ll give up at some point because you’re a social being. Helping others while helping yourself is how you give more. If it’s all about you and your big fat dream, then you’re not giving it all you’ve got.

Just meeting your own needs is never going to be enough. You will never be enough if all you do is sit down and focus on your own selfish desires. Even if you feel no one is listening, keep going. People may not listen at the start, but they’ll eventually listen if you stay committed.

We all need to see you’re dedicated to your vision first before we decide to join you on your journey.

 

I want you to inspire us.

Make us all feel like we can achieve the impossible through your actions. Don’t tell us, show us. We’re inspired by your actions and your commitment to them, not your words. Take the lessons you learn and use them to show us how we can do immensely difficult things in our life.

The leaders you are obsessed with are that way in your head because at some point they inspired you. They questioned your idea of the world and made you think differently. They inspired you to consider or to commit to a new decision.

They broke the pattern in your head and made you see what to focus on. That’s what inspiration has done for you and now you must inspire us and give us everything you have in the process.

 

I want you to remember who you were before.

When you do finally arrive at that position you’ve worked so hard to get to, I never want you to forget who you started off as. Seeing the transformation from your former self to your current self will ensure you don’t get complacent.

Your former self will remind your current self just how far you can push. Your former self will remind you what can help when you give it everything you’ve got. I don’t ever want to see you settle for less than who you can be.

 

If I achieved all of that, then I’ve succeeded.

Everything I’ve just told you is me giving you everything I have. If you follow these guiding principles, suggestions (whatever you want to call them, I don’t care), then I have succeeded. I will no longer need to look for success because you will have shown it to me through your example.

My vision for success is helping you find yours. So if you achieve nothing else, then you’ve helped me fulfill a major goal in my life.

 

The world needs more people like you.

Not only that. Society needs more people who are willing to think bigger, go bigger and be bigger. We all need more people like you. People who are going to act, which is why you’re reading this. You didn’t read these words for nothing so get back to work and be the best you can be.

Give it everything you’ve got.
Don’t let your current challenges stop you.
Kick ass and go all out.
Demonstrate emotion, passion and kindness.

Most of all, never let your circumstances or negative people think you can’t go all out. You can do whatever you put your mind to. Make a decision and then act.

Go all out.

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Focus On One Thing At A Time: Here’s Why.

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The problem you have, above all, is you’re trying to do too much all at once.

I should no because I have a cluster bomb of goals I’m trying to achieve right now. What ends up happening is you achieve nothing. You go to narrow and so wide that nothing gets done. Nothing gets traction. Then you get pissed off and give up.

Giving up is not the answer. Focusing on one thing is.

I’d love to be the worlds best blogger, speaker, author and lover all at once. It’s not going to happen like that. That’s not how the game of life works.

Here’s why you should focus on one thing at a time:

 

Your memory sucks.

We now have so much information to store in our mind that we end up forgetting most things whether we want to admit that or not. Focusing on one thing frees up space in your mind to store all the knowledge associated with your one goal.

Get used to ignoring information that you don’t feel is needed. I do this all the time. When I check emails, most of them are deleted before they are even read. If an email is not aligned with my two-line purpose or my current goal, then it’s gone. Never to be seen again.

What you want to do instead is use the virtual memory in your mind to do the same habits associated with your goal over and over. This carves a deep path in your mind for the tasks and habits you need to be awesome at to hit your current goal.

 

Go for one big goal.

Instead of having lots of small goals that are mostly meaningless, go for the big goals. Try knocking off one every few months or even one a year if you have to. My current goal is to pivot my career in a new direction. Then straight after that, I’m going to knock off some big speeches to up my public speaking game. Other than those two items, that’s about it.

Nice and easy to remember. This strategy puts large amounts of focus on only one or two goals meaning you get results faster. I find that as I gain momentum and see results quickly, my one big goal doesn’t require motivation. Your results should become your motivation and that requires all your energy and focus.

I had another big goal this year to sort out my love life. People laughed at how crazy and deep I went on this goal. Within five months and after more than fifty dates, I got my goal. There’s a lot that you can get from focusing on one big goal. Try it for yourself.

 

Keeps fear from destroying your action.

Fear is a constant battle – even for me. Having too many goals means that you’ll get a small slice of fear with each one. Once you add up all of that fear, you can easily become crippled by it. By focusing on one big goal, you only have one slice of fear to deal with.

For me, changing career and nailing public speaking at the same time is just too much fear. It’s way easier to tackle one at a time. You can’t just block fear out and pretend it doesn’t exist. You have to work through the fear that comes with your goals and this requires smaller doses.

 

Your conversations become simpler.

We all get asked to join 101 meetings and do lots of coffee catch ups. These two things already annoy me enough. What having one goal has done for me is make my conversations simpler. If someone wants to talk about something, if it doesn’t align with my current big goal, I decline.

I explain that I’m working towards one big goal and anything that’s not part of that goal is on hold for the moment. By saying it in this manner, you avoid sounding like a smart ass and your no is delivered in a respectful way.

 

To-Do lists become a thing of the past.

These problematic lists become near irrelevant because when you have one big goal, you don’t have as many tasks to manage. Right now, when I wake up, I work on my career goal and then get to work. I don’t need a to-do list because there’s only one goal to think about.

 

Deep thinking sessions deliver more value.

I tell everybody to spend a bit of time every day doing some deep thinking. When you have too many goals, these sessions are wasted. By having one big goal, I’ve been able to use my deep thinking time to really reflect on what it’s going to take to achieve my goal.

The progress I get from these deep thinking sessions has tripled. I’m no longer trying to fix all of the world’s problems every time I go into deep thinking. I’ve found that I’m becoming much better at solving my own problems because I can deeply think about what’s standing in my way.

 

Answers are much less challenging to find.

My mind has become a beacon for the information I need to achieve my one big goal. When you have lots of goals, all the information you consume get’s lost. Having one big goal makes your mind focused on what bits of knowledge you need.

“All the answers you seek have already been presented to you in one form or another. The problem is that you can’t hear the answers because there are too many goals which have created a lack of focus for your very busy mind”

For example, my public speaking goal is something I always thought would be near impossible to solve. As I practice my habit of listening to podcasts, I’ve found that all the good tips for crushing fear when it comes to public speaking have been there all along.

People like Tim Ferriss and Gary Vee have been sharing the wisdom needed for good public speaking for a long time. The problem was I had too many goals, so I didn’t hear their golden nuggets of advice. With more focus, I do not only hear their tips, I’m meditating and doing deep thinking on their ideas.

 

You can’t be known for everything.

Ever been to someone’s LinkedIn page and it says something like this:

“Kimbo is an entrepreneur, blogger, speaker, coach, finance professional, investor, advisor, avid reader, professional hockey player and lover of cars.”

I mean you can’t be known for all of that. When all of us see profiles of people like this, we end up switching off. Focus on being a world-class blogger, or an accomplished author.

“There’s no point trying to be A-grade at everything because you never will be, and your personal message will get lost”

 

Simple is always better.

Whether it’s your goals, fitness routine, business, etc, simpler is always better. Simpler equals focus. Focus equals power. Power equals energy and motivation towards your one big goal that will make you unstoppable.

Stop trying to do so much because you’re not fooling anyone, least of all yourself. Chunk things down, go for simple and be incredible at fewer goals.

You can be a standout person when you go for one big goal rather than a huge lists of goals that never get actioned.

What do you really want more than anything? That’s your big goal.

Now go execute on your goal.

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Raw Emotion Is The Only Thing That Matters: Here’s What To Do.

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I’ve been on the road this week talking about the power of creating content and sharing your story with the world.

I’ve been consistently asked how I am able to reach millions of people every single month. I’ve seen my audience triple this year.

It all comes down to this:

It’s raw emotion.

That’s it.

People go crazy for what I do because I express my raw emotion about life and about business. I don’t allow anyone to tell me what to say or how to behave. No matter what the feedback is on my content, I always treat people with respect.

 

Respecting the game is crucial.

We all take success and online engagement for granted. As soon as people get a few thousand followers, their success goes to their head.

They stop responding to comments.
They stop responding to emails.
They stop answering phone calls.

Not me – ever! Replying to comments, emails and taking a phone call here and there, is how you respect the people who have given you their time (their most valuable asset).

“Respect combined with putting raw emotion into everything you do will see your life transform”

 

How do you unleash raw emotion?

Simple: you have to get into state.

You have to get yourself into a frame of mind where you come face to face with the fact that your life is short. Tim Ferriss introduced me to a cool tool for your internet browser called the Death Clock.

Every time you open a new tab, it shows you on average, based on your age, how long you have left to live.

 

Don’t hold back any longer.

Once you come face to face with your mortality, you stop holding back. People’s opinions go out the window and all you focus on is giving everything you have. From this place, you can deliver raw emotion.

I walked out of the gym yesterday and someone died right in front of me. That could have been me if I left just a few seconds earlier. So if I wasn’t here to type these words, would I be satisfied? The answer is no freaking way.

I still have so much more to give and that’s what motivates me to go all in and deliver raw emotion with everything I do.

12 months ago, a leader I used to work with asked me to give a motivational speech to her team and share my story. I said no because my public speaking skills sucked. Now I’ve started to get much better at speaking. On Monday morning, I’m emailing her to say that I will give that speech.

No more holding back. The game of life is real.

 

It takes courage to deliver raw emotion.

Standing up on stage and sharing your story, or writing a blog post about your deepest, darkest fears is tough. Delivering raw emotion requires you to be incredibly vulnerable. You have to be okay with having 50% of people dislike you or ignore what you have to say.

“Delivering raw emotion is not about reaching everyone; it’s about reaching a few people who can then be inspired by what you do”

 

Raw emotion without action is useless.

The only reason you want to deliver raw emotion is so you can inspire people. By inspiring people, you can get them to trust you and take action. Raw emotion allows you to get people to do stuff they never thought was possible.

Tony Robbins got in my face when I went to his seminar four years ago and he did that through raw emotion. He told his very personal family story and then showed me how anyone, from anywhere, can take their life to the next level.

If Tony didn’t share the full story or shared someone else’s story, I’m not sure the message would have stuck in my distracted little brain. It took raw emotion to get me out of my head and help me see my life for what it was. That life, by the way, was garbage and was based on my own selfish desires and an endless pursuit of money.

 

You feel different when you deliver raw emotion.

When I deliver a piece of content in words, video or speech that has raw emotion, I feel different. I feel that I have given it my all and I know I’ve pushed myself beyond my comfort zone. That’s because delivering raw emotion is uncomfortable no matter how many times you do it.

The thing is that when you don’t deliver raw emotion, you fall for one of the following:

– Copying someone else
– Holding back
– Being overcome by fear
– Feeling you didn’t give 110%

These feelings suck big time. You may as well do nothing if you aren’t going to give your pursuits in life a good crack. Go big, or stay home and think about your life properly.

 

Raw emotion is infectious. Stop working so damn hard!

I feel like right now, for the first time in my life, I’ve become a magnet for all the people I want to have in my life. I no longer have to work my ass off to influence people or pitch them my ideas. People come to me.

Not because I’m so special but because I deliver raw emotion. I tell the whole story and I don’t hold back. I used to have to reach out to people a lot and have these big paragraphs in my emails about all my achievements and the people I know.

Now I just link to my work that has raw emotion and what I say does the convincing / selling for me.

“This is me, and if you like it, then we should talk.”

That’s what I say in my head. There’s no BS sales pages or template emails. You can’t grab another one of me off the shelf and then copy and paste me.

The raw emotion I deliver is inside of me. You can see it in my eyes. You can see it in the way I stand. You can even see it in the words I type.

 

So what now Mr. Tim?

Well, I’ve told you the power of raw emotion. I’ve made it clear what it’s done to my life. I’ve explained how you can do the same.

Now it comes down to action. Action is the thing that people always tell themselves they will do but often never do. If you like the sound of what I’ve said about raw emotion sailor, then you need to try it for yourself. Test it out for a week and see what I mean.

Watch people look at you as an authority figure. See people’s reactions. Most of all, notice how you feel differently. Your whole life is put into perspective when you stop holding back and deliver the value you have inside of you with raw emotion.

If you want to stand out from the crowd, then build up the courage inside of you to deliver raw emotion.

Raw emotion is where it’s at. It’s the secret to how all of the people you are inspired by get to do what they love and reach lots of people.

Now it’s action time.

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10 Simple Steps for Self-Motivation

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Renowned American motivational speaker and author, Dr. Stephen R. Covey once remarked: “Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.” How do you define motivation?

There are two distinct types of motivation:

  • Intrinsic: Motivation that comes from within ourselves.
  • Extrinsic: Motivation that is derived from outside source such as a friend, colleagues, seniors at workplace, religious or spiritual leaders, spouse, kids and lots more.

Briefly, motivation can be described as a reason or cause by which a person or a group of people behave in a certain manner. The cause or the reason has to be extremely strong, and it often involves self interest.

Considering you have good and healthy plans that do not conflict with any laws, rules and regulations, staying motivated is quite easy. Basically, motivation is merely a state of mind. Utilized properly, it can take you to heights you may have never dreamed of.

However, our simple steps below will guide you on how to remain motivated at all times, despite any adversities you may encounter:

1. Goal Setting

Setting a goal for yourself is a time-tested and proven method to remain motivated. However, it is important to set realistic and achievable goals. Set yourself a deadline by which you intend to achieve these goals.

There are three types of goals:

  • Short term goals: These may be achieved in a few weeks or a couple of months.
  • Mid-term goals: These usually take a year or two to achieve.
  • Long-term goals: Here you can include your career options, plans for marriage, buying a home or anything that takes a longer span of time.

2. Money matters

Regardless whether we like it or not, money does matter in remaining motivated. Here, we are not speaking about millions of dollars. We are saying that having sufficient funds to lead a decent life is a great motivator by itself. You can start by saving a healthy portion of your income daily or monthly.

3. Shun any loans

Undoubtedly, people encumbered with loans exhibit a tendency to lose motivation. The reason is simple:  A considerable portion of your earnings will go towards servicing whatever loans or credit card dues you have. Avoid getting into loans as much as possible, unless it is for some genuine and strong reason such as buying a home.

4. Stay with positive people

Generally, people with a positive mindset and attitude are the best motivators. Regardless of your situation, they will always try and uplift your state of mind. Such positive minded people will motivate you even if you are feeling low and beaten. Further, whenever you encounter negative thoughts, speak with such people by either meeting them or on phone.

5. Appreciate yourself first

Whenever you lose motivation, think of all the positive stuff you have done in the past and reflect on great experiences you have had. Also, remember all the adverse times you have been through and how you sailed out of them unharmed. Appreciating yourself for your achievements is a great motivational tool.

“When you’re trying to motivate yourself, appreciate the fact that you’re even thinking about making a change. And as you move forward, allow yourself to be good enough.” – Alice Domar

6. Use mistakes as experiences

This means learning from your past mistakes, because as humans we are all prone to mistakes due to inherent defects or flaws in our character. Remember, mistakes are not final. They hold vital lessons for us. Most people tend to lose motivation when things go awry and desired results are not forthcoming.

7. Examine your motive

Once again, as Dr. Stephen R. Covey puts it, the key to motivation lies in the motive itself. Should your motives be good and in conformity with laws, motivation follows automatically. But beware, wrong motives can lead to misplaced motivation which can land even the most stable and sober person into deep trouble. Once your motives are positive and clear, motivation follows automatically.

8. Avoid getting over-stressed

Stress can be divided into two different categories:

  1. Negative stress: That arises out of negative actions, interacting with obnoxious people and lethargy or laziness, continuing exposure to painful or unpleasant situations and loneliness.
  2. Positive stress: Accrues by solving work related or domestic problems. Positive stress usually leaves you satisfied and happy once the issue has been resolved or after a hard day’s work.

Stress in daily life is imminent. Staying motivated helps you to remain motivated.

9. Choose to be happy

Now this may sound like a tall order for anyone encountering adverse situations. However, it is worthwhile to note, every bad situation always passes. Be aware that every bad circumstance will eventually vanish. Losing motivation will not help solve any problem and neither will worrying about something. You can maintain your motivation with the sheer thought that every problem is temporary.

10. Chart your map

Sadly, most people embark on a project or endeavor without much heed to the end result. Instead, you can chart your own roadmap. Take an inventory about how you want to begin and why. This in itself is a great motivational factor. Simultaneously, bear in mind what is the exact objective or the end where your endeavor should culminate. Be fearless in your pursuit of your dreams and goals.

“I am happy because I’m grateful. I choose to be grateful. That gratitude allows me to be happy.” – Will Arnett

It is worthwhile to remember, we all lose motivation at some point of life. This is perfectly normal and nothing to be alarmed about. Analyzing cause of losing motivation, understanding and finding ways and means to counter it, works miracles indeed. Lack of motivation, left untreated, can lead to mental ailments.

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7 Awesome Tips for Entrepreneurs to Create an Inspiring Vision Board

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Vision boards are one of the most powerful success tools that can do wonders to inspire and motivate you, and put you in the right frame of mind. Whether you use them for your business or personal life, creating and using a vision board also adds a bit of fun to your routine, while activating the Law of Attraction and drawing your wants and desires into your life! (more…)

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  4. Trang, Dinh Thao Doan

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    Hi Stuart,
    Firt and foremost, I wanna say thank you with all my heart for this useful post.
    I’m writing these lines for you with a strongly hope that you can help me or share to me what should I do to improve my status now.
    I’m 20 year olds. My body type is so sensible with weight. I used to lose weight successfully but in a unhealthy way. I study in university that far away from my house, living far away my mother so I don’t eat full. I always break the meal or only eat 2 meals a day and sleep when I’m tired. I lose 5 kilogram and have a shape body that I used to dream year ago. But now, when I finish my final exam of this semester, I come back home with mother & I begin back my unhealthy diet. I don’t know what’s the problem with my stomach ? Despite of eating full at lunch, 1-2hours later, I feel hungry, my stomach becomes bad, it makes me feel that I can’t stand unless eating so much sugary food. This status lasts around 10 days and now I raise 6kilogram, my body becomes so ugly and my mind is much worst right now.

    I really feel upset. I think that I’m a un-discipline person. I’ve read so many books about development-self , about how to change habit. But I still can’t control my stomach, my hand, my foot to find food.

    I find the support medicine to lose weight. It helps me, but, again, the lack of my discipline makes me fail. I addict in coffee, morning,afternoon and evening, whenever I sit in my work table, my mind think of coffee immediately. And coffee makes my support medicine useless.

    I really hope you can help me to find out a exit way for this bad status. Please help me !

    Wait your reply with all my hope !

    Best Regards,

    Trang.

    • Stuart Ralph

      Jan 10, 2015 at 11:24 pm

      Hi Trang,

      Thanks for your kind words and comment.

      Sorry to hear you have be struggling. The two best diets and ways to eat in my opinion is the Paleo Diet and the Slow Carb diet. They are both based on lots of vegetables and good meats/fish. They both limit and forbid carbs and refined sugars.

      You say you are having a tough time giving up sugar, this is because sugar is as addictive as some drugs. If sugar is your main issue do a 30 day challenge to quit it. Don’t go near any sugars, fully commit yourself to this.

      Or you could do the Paleo diet or slow carb diet for 30 days. However if you struggle with will power, maybe start with no sugary drinks or foods. The healthier you eat the more discipline and energy you will have.

      All the best!
      Stu

  5. RAM

    Dec 30, 2014 at 7:31 am

    WORTH READING . Well said . I am trying to build my body and am failing every time . The main reason is “I am not able to wake up early” I set alarm every night and thoguht of waking up at 6 !!! . But still I fail . I have missed my gym day today too . I am really worried about it .

    I KNOW IT . I have to make it as a habit to wake up at 6 !!! But I am not sure Whats making me not to do it . I have passion about it always . But now I am thinking IS IT REALLY MY PASSION . If its my passion then I could have been doing it right!!! I dont know how to figure it!!!

    • Cody Faldyn

      Dec 31, 2014 at 2:51 pm

      RAM do you read books? If so I recommend you check out either The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod or Limitless Energy by Brandon Epstein. If you like summaries like me, I work for The Entrepreneurs Library and we interviewed both authors. You can check em out on episodes 65 and 44 at theELpodcast.com/books.

      I was having the same problems until I met Brandon Epstein at a conference. He has been giving me endless amounts of tips and advice for the past 4 months and ive gotten alot better at seeing more energy and having an easier time waking up everyday at 5am. I suggest subscribing to his email list at entrepreneurfitness.com.

      Hope all this helps buddy! Stay strong there are many people willing to help you out. 🙂

      Happy 2015!

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 31, 2014 at 3:51 pm

      Thanks for the comment RAM. To add to Cody’s great advice. Is there another time you can train i.e. evening, lunchtime etc? If not consider a 30 day challenge, give a friend some money that they can keep if you don’t get up. It worked for me and I’m not a morning person. If the morning is the only time you can train then get to bed as early as you can, have your alarm clock away from your bed and have a motivational quote or pic of your goal by your alarm clock which will inspire you. It’s all about building the habit. Know that it will be really hard and painful, but after a week you’ll start to love it!

      Hope that helps,
      Stu

  6. Cody Faldyn

    Dec 29, 2014 at 9:43 pm

    YES!! I am not alone! (LOL). I met a colleague at a podcasting conference who got me hooked on 30 day challenges. Although I’ve been mainly trying food challenges, I’m going on my 3rd 30-day challenge and it’s life changing for sure. My friends think I’m crazy, so it feels awesome to have read this article today. Good stuff Stuart…definitely going to check out your book. 🙂 Cheers to being crazy!

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 30, 2014 at 11:06 am

      Hi Cody,

      Haha you are not alone. I too get weird looks for my challenges. I find it funny.

      Great work on the challenges so far. My book should have a few nuggets in there for you. You are already well on your way to an excellent life!

      Keep it up,
      Stu

  7. Jazzel Yousef

    Dec 27, 2014 at 6:56 pm

    This looks like a great way to accomplishing my goals. Lets do this!!

  8. juliana

    Dec 27, 2014 at 12:09 am

    my 2015 resolution is to start another ablog via wordpress,wish me success ..Thank you,happy year

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 27, 2014 at 10:47 am

      Hey Juliana,

      Thanks for reading. Good luck with your goal.

      To your success,
      Stu

  9. Tim Denning

    Dec 26, 2014 at 10:45 pm

    I did a 30 day challenge back in 2012 after attending a Tony Robbins event and I have still kept up the habit of cold press juicing to this day. Its a great way to try something new and turn it into a habit. I also had someone who had the same 30 days challenge as me so I was accountable for keeping the habit going otherwise I would have the pain of telling that person that I failed.
    So often people make news years resolutions and never stick to it. I found it important to write the goals down and then actively track them weekly or even daily. This important step is so widely known yet very few people actually do it. This is because their reasons for wanting the change are not strong enough. This is the most important thing to figure this out first.

    • Stuart Ralph

      Dec 27, 2014 at 10:45 am

      Hey Tim, thanks for reading. Great work on doing one and keeping it up to this day!!!

      Good luck in any future challenges.

      Stu

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All I Want Is For You To Give It Everything You Got.

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It’s the simplest ask I’ve ever put out into the world. It’s my one wish for everyone reading.

All I want is for you to give your life everything you’ve got. Seeing what you are capable of is my one goal. Seeing how you lived instead of how you feared your challenges is beautiful. I know it’s easier said than done but I know you have more in the tank.

I know it seems like there’s always another email, another person to influence, another competitor, another threat that could tear down everything you’ve built.

I get that there are risks and you’re scared (whether you admit it or not). That doesn’t change a thing in my book. I still want you to give it everything you’ve got.

 

I want to see your raw emotion.

When I watch you do your thing, I want to see you display raw emotion. I want you to be vulnerable and show me all of the beauty you have to offer through your wide range of emotions.

I don’t want you to cover up what you’re thinking and feeling out of fear that you’ll be judged. Those who judge you are only making up for their own inadequacies, so there’s nothing to be afraid of.

 

I want to see your raw passion.

Passion equals commitment. It’s that look in your eye. It’s how you take your first step. It’s how you stare fear in the face and say “I’m going to win today no matter what. Nothing will stop me!”

It’s the way your shoulders are slightly back and you stare into everyone’s eyes. It’s the way you look fearless even though you’re as scared as the rest of us watching. It’s the way you commit to the outcome even though you don’t know the exact strategy.

Showing us your raw passion by doing what you love is one of the best gifts you have to offer. Don’t hold back on your level of passion. Commit to what it is you love and don’t spend a waking moment not coming up with your next move. Through your passion, we get to see the potential we have in our own passion.

Seeing you fulfill your passion inspires us all to do the same. You can be a guiding light and you know you can. Make your move!

 

I want to feel what it is that you do.

Don’t show me, make me feel it. Show us all what courage looks like and what you’ve had to overcome to get to this point, right here, right now. I want your actions to show us why we all chase feelings. I want you to show us the power of feelings and why they drive us to create human life and fall in love.

 

I want you to take the long road.

Not the shortcut. Not by using that one life hack. Not by bringing down others. Not by stomping over your competition and showing us that you have a higher power. I want you to take the long road and put in the work. I want you to reach mastery instead of a basic understanding.

“When everybody else thinks that you’ve given all you’ve got, I want you to keep walking down that long, windy road in your jocks while freezing your tits off!”

The idea of a shortcut is a myth. No one that is going to do what you’re capable of got there by putting in less or looking for a way to be lazy. Laziness is not the answer.

Commitment and an endless pursuit to find a path and walk down it with your own two feet is where you’ll find the energy you need.

 

I want you to be kind along the way.

Yes, going into overdrive is about you and your capability, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it by being nasty to everyone watching. How you treat people is more important than anything else. It’s what you’ll be remembered for and not the outcome.

Treating people with kindness is how you discover your true self and find that extra something that you didn’t know you had. Kindness will be returned with more kindness. Sometimes it will go unnoticed and that’s cool as well.

 

I want you to be the greatest in your field.

Not second best. Not top ten, but the greatest. Even if you don’t reach the top, you’ll still end up pushing beyond what you ever thought was possible. You’ll be glad you went for the top position rather than settling for the bottom where you know you had more to give.

 

I want you to push through the pain.

Pain hurts like hell. It’s that one ingredient that none of us can avoid. Pain is guaranteed whether you decide to listen to my advice or not.

“So if you’re going to get pain no matter what, you may as well learn to push through it and use it for good, not evil”

 

Pain is the red light indicator that says you’re pushing your limits and you’re creating momentum. Pain doesn’t mean stop. Pain means you’re just getting started. You’ve avoided pain until this point and now it’s time to discover what pain can do for you.

“Pain can either be the devil on your shoulder or the angel that guides you from darkness into the light”

 

I want you to bring others on the journey.

It’s not just about you. I say this all the time because I mean it. A journey on your own is boring and you’ll give up at some point because you’re a social being. Helping others while helping yourself is how you give more. If it’s all about you and your big fat dream, then you’re not giving it all you’ve got.

Just meeting your own needs is never going to be enough. You will never be enough if all you do is sit down and focus on your own selfish desires. Even if you feel no one is listening, keep going. People may not listen at the start, but they’ll eventually listen if you stay committed.

We all need to see you’re dedicated to your vision first before we decide to join you on your journey.

 

I want you to inspire us.

Make us all feel like we can achieve the impossible through your actions. Don’t tell us, show us. We’re inspired by your actions and your commitment to them, not your words. Take the lessons you learn and use them to show us how we can do immensely difficult things in our life.

The leaders you are obsessed with are that way in your head because at some point they inspired you. They questioned your idea of the world and made you think differently. They inspired you to consider or to commit to a new decision.

They broke the pattern in your head and made you see what to focus on. That’s what inspiration has done for you and now you must inspire us and give us everything you have in the process.

 

I want you to remember who you were before.

When you do finally arrive at that position you’ve worked so hard to get to, I never want you to forget who you started off as. Seeing the transformation from your former self to your current self will ensure you don’t get complacent.

Your former self will remind your current self just how far you can push. Your former self will remind you what can help when you give it everything you’ve got. I don’t ever want to see you settle for less than who you can be.

 

If I achieved all of that, then I’ve succeeded.

Everything I’ve just told you is me giving you everything I have. If you follow these guiding principles, suggestions (whatever you want to call them, I don’t care), then I have succeeded. I will no longer need to look for success because you will have shown it to me through your example.

My vision for success is helping you find yours. So if you achieve nothing else, then you’ve helped me fulfill a major goal in my life.

 

The world needs more people like you.

Not only that. Society needs more people who are willing to think bigger, go bigger and be bigger. We all need more people like you. People who are going to act, which is why you’re reading this. You didn’t read these words for nothing so get back to work and be the best you can be.

Give it everything you’ve got.
Don’t let your current challenges stop you.
Kick ass and go all out.
Demonstrate emotion, passion and kindness.

Most of all, never let your circumstances or negative people think you can’t go all out. You can do whatever you put your mind to. Make a decision and then act.

Go all out.

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Focus On One Thing At A Time: Here’s Why.

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The problem you have, above all, is you’re trying to do too much all at once.

I should no because I have a cluster bomb of goals I’m trying to achieve right now. What ends up happening is you achieve nothing. You go to narrow and so wide that nothing gets done. Nothing gets traction. Then you get pissed off and give up.

Giving up is not the answer. Focusing on one thing is.

I’d love to be the worlds best blogger, speaker, author and lover all at once. It’s not going to happen like that. That’s not how the game of life works.

Here’s why you should focus on one thing at a time:

 

Your memory sucks.

We now have so much information to store in our mind that we end up forgetting most things whether we want to admit that or not. Focusing on one thing frees up space in your mind to store all the knowledge associated with your one goal.

Get used to ignoring information that you don’t feel is needed. I do this all the time. When I check emails, most of them are deleted before they are even read. If an email is not aligned with my two-line purpose or my current goal, then it’s gone. Never to be seen again.

What you want to do instead is use the virtual memory in your mind to do the same habits associated with your goal over and over. This carves a deep path in your mind for the tasks and habits you need to be awesome at to hit your current goal.

 

Go for one big goal.

Instead of having lots of small goals that are mostly meaningless, go for the big goals. Try knocking off one every few months or even one a year if you have to. My current goal is to pivot my career in a new direction. Then straight after that, I’m going to knock off some big speeches to up my public speaking game. Other than those two items, that’s about it.

Nice and easy to remember. This strategy puts large amounts of focus on only one or two goals meaning you get results faster. I find that as I gain momentum and see results quickly, my one big goal doesn’t require motivation. Your results should become your motivation and that requires all your energy and focus.

I had another big goal this year to sort out my love life. People laughed at how crazy and deep I went on this goal. Within five months and after more than fifty dates, I got my goal. There’s a lot that you can get from focusing on one big goal. Try it for yourself.

 

Keeps fear from destroying your action.

Fear is a constant battle – even for me. Having too many goals means that you’ll get a small slice of fear with each one. Once you add up all of that fear, you can easily become crippled by it. By focusing on one big goal, you only have one slice of fear to deal with.

For me, changing career and nailing public speaking at the same time is just too much fear. It’s way easier to tackle one at a time. You can’t just block fear out and pretend it doesn’t exist. You have to work through the fear that comes with your goals and this requires smaller doses.

 

Your conversations become simpler.

We all get asked to join 101 meetings and do lots of coffee catch ups. These two things already annoy me enough. What having one goal has done for me is make my conversations simpler. If someone wants to talk about something, if it doesn’t align with my current big goal, I decline.

I explain that I’m working towards one big goal and anything that’s not part of that goal is on hold for the moment. By saying it in this manner, you avoid sounding like a smart ass and your no is delivered in a respectful way.

 

To-Do lists become a thing of the past.

These problematic lists become near irrelevant because when you have one big goal, you don’t have as many tasks to manage. Right now, when I wake up, I work on my career goal and then get to work. I don’t need a to-do list because there’s only one goal to think about.

 

Deep thinking sessions deliver more value.

I tell everybody to spend a bit of time every day doing some deep thinking. When you have too many goals, these sessions are wasted. By having one big goal, I’ve been able to use my deep thinking time to really reflect on what it’s going to take to achieve my goal.

The progress I get from these deep thinking sessions has tripled. I’m no longer trying to fix all of the world’s problems every time I go into deep thinking. I’ve found that I’m becoming much better at solving my own problems because I can deeply think about what’s standing in my way.

 

Answers are much less challenging to find.

My mind has become a beacon for the information I need to achieve my one big goal. When you have lots of goals, all the information you consume get’s lost. Having one big goal makes your mind focused on what bits of knowledge you need.

“All the answers you seek have already been presented to you in one form or another. The problem is that you can’t hear the answers because there are too many goals which have created a lack of focus for your very busy mind”

For example, my public speaking goal is something I always thought would be near impossible to solve. As I practice my habit of listening to podcasts, I’ve found that all the good tips for crushing fear when it comes to public speaking have been there all along.

People like Tim Ferriss and Gary Vee have been sharing the wisdom needed for good public speaking for a long time. The problem was I had too many goals, so I didn’t hear their golden nuggets of advice. With more focus, I do not only hear their tips, I’m meditating and doing deep thinking on their ideas.

 

You can’t be known for everything.

Ever been to someone’s LinkedIn page and it says something like this:

“Kimbo is an entrepreneur, blogger, speaker, coach, finance professional, investor, advisor, avid reader, professional hockey player and lover of cars.”

I mean you can’t be known for all of that. When all of us see profiles of people like this, we end up switching off. Focus on being a world-class blogger, or an accomplished author.

“There’s no point trying to be A-grade at everything because you never will be, and your personal message will get lost”

 

Simple is always better.

Whether it’s your goals, fitness routine, business, etc, simpler is always better. Simpler equals focus. Focus equals power. Power equals energy and motivation towards your one big goal that will make you unstoppable.

Stop trying to do so much because you’re not fooling anyone, least of all yourself. Chunk things down, go for simple and be incredible at fewer goals.

You can be a standout person when you go for one big goal rather than a huge lists of goals that never get actioned.

What do you really want more than anything? That’s your big goal.

Now go execute on your goal.

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Raw Emotion Is The Only Thing That Matters: Here’s What To Do.

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I’ve been on the road this week talking about the power of creating content and sharing your story with the world.

I’ve been consistently asked how I am able to reach millions of people every single month. I’ve seen my audience triple this year.

It all comes down to this:

It’s raw emotion.

That’s it.

People go crazy for what I do because I express my raw emotion about life and about business. I don’t allow anyone to tell me what to say or how to behave. No matter what the feedback is on my content, I always treat people with respect.

 

Respecting the game is crucial.

We all take success and online engagement for granted. As soon as people get a few thousand followers, their success goes to their head.

They stop responding to comments.
They stop responding to emails.
They stop answering phone calls.

Not me – ever! Replying to comments, emails and taking a phone call here and there, is how you respect the people who have given you their time (their most valuable asset).

“Respect combined with putting raw emotion into everything you do will see your life transform”

 

How do you unleash raw emotion?

Simple: you have to get into state.

You have to get yourself into a frame of mind where you come face to face with the fact that your life is short. Tim Ferriss introduced me to a cool tool for your internet browser called the Death Clock.

Every time you open a new tab, it shows you on average, based on your age, how long you have left to live.

 

Don’t hold back any longer.

Once you come face to face with your mortality, you stop holding back. People’s opinions go out the window and all you focus on is giving everything you have. From this place, you can deliver raw emotion.

I walked out of the gym yesterday and someone died right in front of me. That could have been me if I left just a few seconds earlier. So if I wasn’t here to type these words, would I be satisfied? The answer is no freaking way.

I still have so much more to give and that’s what motivates me to go all in and deliver raw emotion with everything I do.

12 months ago, a leader I used to work with asked me to give a motivational speech to her team and share my story. I said no because my public speaking skills sucked. Now I’ve started to get much better at speaking. On Monday morning, I’m emailing her to say that I will give that speech.

No more holding back. The game of life is real.

 

It takes courage to deliver raw emotion.

Standing up on stage and sharing your story, or writing a blog post about your deepest, darkest fears is tough. Delivering raw emotion requires you to be incredibly vulnerable. You have to be okay with having 50% of people dislike you or ignore what you have to say.

“Delivering raw emotion is not about reaching everyone; it’s about reaching a few people who can then be inspired by what you do”

 

Raw emotion without action is useless.

The only reason you want to deliver raw emotion is so you can inspire people. By inspiring people, you can get them to trust you and take action. Raw emotion allows you to get people to do stuff they never thought was possible.

Tony Robbins got in my face when I went to his seminar four years ago and he did that through raw emotion. He told his very personal family story and then showed me how anyone, from anywhere, can take their life to the next level.

If Tony didn’t share the full story or shared someone else’s story, I’m not sure the message would have stuck in my distracted little brain. It took raw emotion to get me out of my head and help me see my life for what it was. That life, by the way, was garbage and was based on my own selfish desires and an endless pursuit of money.

 

You feel different when you deliver raw emotion.

When I deliver a piece of content in words, video or speech that has raw emotion, I feel different. I feel that I have given it my all and I know I’ve pushed myself beyond my comfort zone. That’s because delivering raw emotion is uncomfortable no matter how many times you do it.

The thing is that when you don’t deliver raw emotion, you fall for one of the following:

– Copying someone else
– Holding back
– Being overcome by fear
– Feeling you didn’t give 110%

These feelings suck big time. You may as well do nothing if you aren’t going to give your pursuits in life a good crack. Go big, or stay home and think about your life properly.

 

Raw emotion is infectious. Stop working so damn hard!

I feel like right now, for the first time in my life, I’ve become a magnet for all the people I want to have in my life. I no longer have to work my ass off to influence people or pitch them my ideas. People come to me.

Not because I’m so special but because I deliver raw emotion. I tell the whole story and I don’t hold back. I used to have to reach out to people a lot and have these big paragraphs in my emails about all my achievements and the people I know.

Now I just link to my work that has raw emotion and what I say does the convincing / selling for me.

“This is me, and if you like it, then we should talk.”

That’s what I say in my head. There’s no BS sales pages or template emails. You can’t grab another one of me off the shelf and then copy and paste me.

The raw emotion I deliver is inside of me. You can see it in my eyes. You can see it in the way I stand. You can even see it in the words I type.

 

So what now Mr. Tim?

Well, I’ve told you the power of raw emotion. I’ve made it clear what it’s done to my life. I’ve explained how you can do the same.

Now it comes down to action. Action is the thing that people always tell themselves they will do but often never do. If you like the sound of what I’ve said about raw emotion sailor, then you need to try it for yourself. Test it out for a week and see what I mean.

Watch people look at you as an authority figure. See people’s reactions. Most of all, notice how you feel differently. Your whole life is put into perspective when you stop holding back and deliver the value you have inside of you with raw emotion.

If you want to stand out from the crowd, then build up the courage inside of you to deliver raw emotion.

Raw emotion is where it’s at. It’s the secret to how all of the people you are inspired by get to do what they love and reach lots of people.

Now it’s action time.

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10 Simple Steps for Self-Motivation

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Renowned American motivational speaker and author, Dr. Stephen R. Covey once remarked: “Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.” How do you define motivation?

There are two distinct types of motivation:

  • Intrinsic: Motivation that comes from within ourselves.
  • Extrinsic: Motivation that is derived from outside source such as a friend, colleagues, seniors at workplace, religious or spiritual leaders, spouse, kids and lots more.

Briefly, motivation can be described as a reason or cause by which a person or a group of people behave in a certain manner. The cause or the reason has to be extremely strong, and it often involves self interest.

Considering you have good and healthy plans that do not conflict with any laws, rules and regulations, staying motivated is quite easy. Basically, motivation is merely a state of mind. Utilized properly, it can take you to heights you may have never dreamed of.

However, our simple steps below will guide you on how to remain motivated at all times, despite any adversities you may encounter:

1. Goal Setting

Setting a goal for yourself is a time-tested and proven method to remain motivated. However, it is important to set realistic and achievable goals. Set yourself a deadline by which you intend to achieve these goals.

There are three types of goals:

  • Short term goals: These may be achieved in a few weeks or a couple of months.
  • Mid-term goals: These usually take a year or two to achieve.
  • Long-term goals: Here you can include your career options, plans for marriage, buying a home or anything that takes a longer span of time.

2. Money matters

Regardless whether we like it or not, money does matter in remaining motivated. Here, we are not speaking about millions of dollars. We are saying that having sufficient funds to lead a decent life is a great motivator by itself. You can start by saving a healthy portion of your income daily or monthly.

3. Shun any loans

Undoubtedly, people encumbered with loans exhibit a tendency to lose motivation. The reason is simple:  A considerable portion of your earnings will go towards servicing whatever loans or credit card dues you have. Avoid getting into loans as much as possible, unless it is for some genuine and strong reason such as buying a home.

4. Stay with positive people

Generally, people with a positive mindset and attitude are the best motivators. Regardless of your situation, they will always try and uplift your state of mind. Such positive minded people will motivate you even if you are feeling low and beaten. Further, whenever you encounter negative thoughts, speak with such people by either meeting them or on phone.

5. Appreciate yourself first

Whenever you lose motivation, think of all the positive stuff you have done in the past and reflect on great experiences you have had. Also, remember all the adverse times you have been through and how you sailed out of them unharmed. Appreciating yourself for your achievements is a great motivational tool.

“When you’re trying to motivate yourself, appreciate the fact that you’re even thinking about making a change. And as you move forward, allow yourself to be good enough.” – Alice Domar

6. Use mistakes as experiences

This means learning from your past mistakes, because as humans we are all prone to mistakes due to inherent defects or flaws in our character. Remember, mistakes are not final. They hold vital lessons for us. Most people tend to lose motivation when things go awry and desired results are not forthcoming.

7. Examine your motive

Once again, as Dr. Stephen R. Covey puts it, the key to motivation lies in the motive itself. Should your motives be good and in conformity with laws, motivation follows automatically. But beware, wrong motives can lead to misplaced motivation which can land even the most stable and sober person into deep trouble. Once your motives are positive and clear, motivation follows automatically.

8. Avoid getting over-stressed

Stress can be divided into two different categories:

  1. Negative stress: That arises out of negative actions, interacting with obnoxious people and lethargy or laziness, continuing exposure to painful or unpleasant situations and loneliness.
  2. Positive stress: Accrues by solving work related or domestic problems. Positive stress usually leaves you satisfied and happy once the issue has been resolved or after a hard day’s work.

Stress in daily life is imminent. Staying motivated helps you to remain motivated.

9. Choose to be happy

Now this may sound like a tall order for anyone encountering adverse situations. However, it is worthwhile to note, every bad situation always passes. Be aware that every bad circumstance will eventually vanish. Losing motivation will not help solve any problem and neither will worrying about something. You can maintain your motivation with the sheer thought that every problem is temporary.

10. Chart your map

Sadly, most people embark on a project or endeavor without much heed to the end result. Instead, you can chart your own roadmap. Take an inventory about how you want to begin and why. This in itself is a great motivational factor. Simultaneously, bear in mind what is the exact objective or the end where your endeavor should culminate. Be fearless in your pursuit of your dreams and goals.

“I am happy because I’m grateful. I choose to be grateful. That gratitude allows me to be happy.” – Will Arnett

It is worthwhile to remember, we all lose motivation at some point of life. This is perfectly normal and nothing to be alarmed about. Analyzing cause of losing motivation, understanding and finding ways and means to counter it, works miracles indeed. Lack of motivation, left untreated, can lead to mental ailments.

How do you remain self-motivated? Let us know in the comments below!

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