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Change Your Life With This “Morning Mirror Motivation Challenge”

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If you are like me, then there is a reason you’re reading this blog: you’re “Addicted 2 Success”.

And, if you are like me, then you probably also have a laundry list of things that motivate you to chase after your goals on a daily basis. But, if you are like me, then you know that there are certain days when it seems hard to get out of bed early, work tirelessly throughout the day, or stay positive amidst the rollercoaster ride most ambitious people go through daily.

Only talented people worry about mediocrity however, so instead of putting ourselves down for the occasional lapse in motivational discipline, I want to present all of you with a challenge (and, after reading that, I hope at least half of you yelled, “CHALLENGE ACCEPTED!!!” at your computer screen). I call it the Morning Mirror Motivation Challenge.

If you’ve ever watched the Rocky movie series, you would agree that Rocky IV is probably the best movie in the entire series. The movie begins with Apollo Creed taking on Ivan Drago, the 6’5, 260 pound Russian lab-rat who punches so hard that he actually kills Apollo during the boxing match. To avenge his friend’s death, Rocky challenges Ivan Drago to a fight in Russia, and ends up winning in dramatic, Hollywood-esque fashion in the final round of the fight.

While Rocky is training to fight Ivan Drago, he posts a picture of Apollo on his mirror in the cold cabin buried deep in the mountainous Russian terrain where he stays. Why? Rocky realized that, in order to achieve his goals, he needed to be conscious of his motivations, and as he looked at himself in the mirror every morning, the things that pushed him to be successful would be there to stare back at him.

Rocky boxing drago

So, I challenge you, right now, to grab a piece of paper and a pen and take the Morning Mirror Motivation Challenge with me.

Here’s how it works: find a quiet place and think about everything that motivates you to be successful. Then, list these things off in bulleted fashion until you have a comprehensive list of motivations in your life (and if you’re like me, you probably won’t be able to fit everything on one page, but just keep the important stuff and limit it to one page of potent statements). Finally, tape this declaration of motivations to your mirror, on your bedroom door, or somewhere else that you will see every single day.

You don’t have to copy my mirror motivations (and there are certain things that are personal to me that I’ve left off the following list), but here’s a look at what I’ve included on my list.

 

WAKE UP READY…

  • To become the man you want to become.
  • To work you’re a** off to create the life you want.
  • To inspire, empower, and unite others through your work.
  • To achieve your full potential and become successful.
  • To prove to certain programs, jobs, or places that they made a mistake of rejecting you.
  • To prove to people who doubt you that they are wrong.
  • Because you have family, friends, and acquaintances who want to see you succeed.
  • Because hundreds people have bought into your visions and you owe it to them to work you’re a** off.
  • Because countless people have opened doors for you to succeed, and you owe it to them to give it all you have.
  • Because you want this.

Today, you have an endless amount of things motivating you…

GO OUT AND MAKE S**T HAPPEN!!!

Everyone’s Morning Mirror Motivations may be different, but the important aspects of this challenge are that you take the time to think about everything that motivates you on a daily basis, write them down to make these ideas tangible, and place this list somewhere that will constantly remind you of these notions, such as your mirror.

 

Join me in the Morning Mirror Motivation Challenge, share your lists with me and others via the comments section, email (jared at 2billionunder20 dot com), and Twitter if you’d like, and don’t go another day without having your motivations staring you in the face when you think about sleeping in, taking a break, or doing anything else that will hold you back from your true potential.

Go out and make s**t happen!

Jared Kleinert is an entrepreneur, TED and keynote speaker, and award-winning author who’s been named USA Today's "Most Connected Millennial" after spending years identifying and connecting hundreds of the world's smartest and most talented Millennials. His next book 3 Billion Under 30 is out now, and you can get 5 free stories from his new book atwww.3billionunder30.com. You can also say hi at jared@3billionunder30.com.

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14 Comments

  1. AllyMax Pads

    Nov 23, 2015 at 10:30 pm

    Yes! Let’s do this! I’m so game. I’ll be sending my list via email!

  2. Vishal Pawar

    Jul 11, 2014 at 1:37 pm

    Wow…. Awesome i need some help for daily motivation.

  3. Shaik Nasir Ahamd

    Jun 29, 2014 at 7:21 pm

    damn freaking awesome post…………

  4. kiki

    Jun 25, 2014 at 5:11 pm

    I will be doing this

  5. All press (@Joey8830)

    Jun 19, 2014 at 12:57 am

    list? up to you I guess just looking at your self in the mirror with a conscious MIND not how good you look but with a conscious MIND and Questions. is a good motivator EGO is a good play only under control tho. boost your self esteem and confidence against the world Failure is the learning Degree of life till you 6 Feet down.

  6. Rick Garlick

    Jun 1, 2014 at 7:48 pm

    I believe that since man realized that anything takes some “motivation” true motivators have been telling people to make a list and keep it with you. So, this is simple a twist on an old, but proven system. That said, I am glad you brought it back to life, but like so many other common sense things, we tend to forget the obvious and need to be reminded of what to do to make sh** happen.
    I like the motivator of “Because you want this.” I’ll use this as well, but I will most likely add something like “…and you know that sitting around and doing nothing will not get you there; no one is going to hand this to you.”

  7. Qamar Pasha

    May 30, 2014 at 4:33 am

    Great Man….to help others to achieve their goals also shows your greatnes towards mankind. I really appreciate your article and i am going to start ”Morning Mirror Motivation Challenge” today itself.

  8. thembi

    May 26, 2014 at 11:58 am

    Great motivation keep up the good work, setting an example to my family that I may be born poor but I am rich in mind.

  9. talya2312

    May 26, 2014 at 11:23 am

    This was a great article. But what about becoming the woman you want to become?

    • Quentin Sharone Carson

      Jun 2, 2014 at 3:38 pm

      Hey, here’s a few my sister, 1. I am more than 2. I rule with intelligence not by pain 3. The best is around the corner, 4. I was born to be successful 5. Wealth is in my DNA not poverty 6. I am the CEO/Founder of my life, 7. The world needs me, I am important, I am valuable!!! Say these to yourself for 40 days before leaving the house, and watch the results!!! Blessing and increase to you!
      Quentin Sharone Carson

  10. Chris Schenk

    May 25, 2014 at 12:44 am

    Let’s do it!! Watch out world here we come!!

  11. Dan Western

    May 23, 2014 at 11:52 am

    Absolutely love this attitude towards life! Great post Jared. Keep up the good motivation.

  12. Pure savage Marketing

    May 22, 2014 at 11:05 pm

    This is one of the greatest blog ive seen very.consistent very valuable I hope the peoplr that needs it F#!%NG see it cuz its priceless great job buddy

  13. Sheila Makena

    May 22, 2014 at 10:23 am

    Wow!!!! brilliant article! I am writing my mirror list right now and putting it up!! And I will be adding a few of your points as well!!

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Your Fears Suck And That’s Why You Must Rinse And Repeat.

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Waking up at 6 am today to go and have a blood test is my worst nightmare.

I’m so damn fearful of needles and it makes me feel sick.

When my doctor said it was time to have a blood test and 10X my energy, I was pumped and crippled with fear at the same time.

 

This sucks big time.

Every time I have a blood test, there’s this big build-up of fear, tension, sickness and everything else that sucks.

I rolled up at the pathology center to try and have my blood test before everyone else. I always walk in like I’m MacGyver until my name is called. Then as I walk to the room where the nurse is, all the confidence, body language and self-talk turns to crap.

The nurse looks at me strangely. I haven’t had this one before. She’s thinking “Geez this guy looks like he’s about to crap his pants, or vomit, or maybe both.”

Why am I so fearful with these routine tests? Probably because I had a few strange experiences when I was a kid and the adult in me still hasn’t forgotten that innocent kid with blue eyes, white blonde hair and the change the world attitude he’s always had.

Back to my story. So, the nurse begins taking my blood and it takes time as she needs to fill up two tubes. It felt like an eternity although the pain was pretty minor – yay!

We get to the end of the test and I’m celebrating like a drunk who’s just woken up and realized he’d won $10k at the casino the night before.

Then the nurse is like “Houston we have a problem.”

My face turns white. “What’s the problem?”

The nurse says “We can only do these tests between Monday to Thursday. Any other day is prohibited. That’s what head office says.”

I’m thinking to myself lots of nasty thoughts like “Well you tell head office to go F themselves!”

I speak with my doctor and he confirms that this is correct. Basically, I have to go through this fearful experiment all over again in a few days’ time.

 

Rinse and repeat.

I go back to the pathology center a few days later and have the test again. It’s a pain in the backside but it must be done. Here’s what’s awesome: I’ve never done multiple blood tests in a short space of time. Doing the test again made this horrible feeling so much easier.

I walked in, did my thing, and walked out. I remembered how to breathe. I remembered how to relax. And I knew what had to be done.

“Facing the same fear multiple times within a few days began to crush all my negative energy”

 

Fears won’t suck as much after a bit of practice.

This fear of blood tests has now changed. It’s still a bit challenging but nowhere near as bad.

My mind has gotten used to what has to happen because practice has made the situation almost perfect.

We all have fears and overcoming them is about embracing the suck, giving it a go and then repeating the process.

Each time you face a fear like blood tests, it gets a little bit easier each time. Sometimes the gains are enormous and other times the gains are small. None the less, facing your fears creates some momentum towards conquering your fear.

Challenging your fears is how you get up close and personal with them. All it takes is a bit of courage and one question: What’s the worst that can happen?

For me, my arm could have fallen off, she could have caused me great pain or I could have passed out. None of these things will see me end up in the cemetery.

 

The feeling of overcoming fear.

Having significantly lessened my fear of blood tests has given me confidence. If I could conquer this massive mountain of internal pain, what else could I do that makes me fearful?

A better question would be, what fear is holding you back that you could practice getting better at?

We all have fears and we can all look them in the face, respect them for what they are, and then have a go at overcoming them.

The feeling of overcoming fear is so good. It gives you strength and resilience to fight the tougher fights. Doing the things that are uncomfortable is how you build a level of comfort that can put you at the top of your field.

We all have fears and those of us who practice overcoming our fears are the ones who get to taste a feeling of success like no other.

Your fears suck but you can overcome them with practice just like I did.

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Embrace The Suck.

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Embrace the Suck

I suck at spreadsheets.
I suck at maths because numbers do my head in.
I suck at attending meetings because I just want action.

You will suck at your first blog post.
You will suck at your first startup, and the one after that, and so on.
You will suck at giving your first speech.

We all suck 24/7.

None of us are 100% motivated all the time.
None of us get anything right the first time – unless it’s a fluke.

We all have nightmares of our failures.
We all secretly want to be perfect – even me.

 

It’s time to embrace the suck.

A lot about life F*cking sucks hard.

My #EmbraceTheSuck story (thanks Sina Fak for the idea) was failing at high school and dropping out. After a break, I went back and finished high school, and the only subjects I excelled at were music and English.

Even though the headmaster told me I’d always be a no good, punk a$$, drop out, I proved him wrong.

I used my expertise in English to become a blogger and that’s why I’m writing these words to you right now.

I failed in the short-term, but by persevering at school, it eventually led me to right now. I could have done nothing and become a bum. I could have listened to my headmaster and agreed with him.

I knew that I was destined to do something big and I believe the movement I’m creating right now is part of my crazy goal to change the world.

All of us can succeed when we embrace the suck and persevere.

“We can listen to our critics or we can lift the middle finger at them and keep going”

Making it through the suck made me smarter, more courageous and it helped me build a newfound resilience.

 

How do we embrace the suck?

1. Be prepared to fail.
2. Look like an idiot.
3. Be willing to start at the bottom
4. Persevere
5. Challenge the critics

When everything sucks, get back up.
Have a second go even if there’s no reason too.
Back yourself and believe you can push through the suck.

 

Embrace the suck is a call to action.

It’s about being prepared to eat sh*t because the upside makes it worth it. It’s about doing what so many are not prepared to do because you believe in yourself.

It’s about taking action and executing instead of being a daydreamer and being stuck in a foreplay of ideas, dreams, goals that never happen.

Starting at the bottom and sucking harder is how you get to the top.

Once you arrive at the top, make sure you help other people who are embracing the suck.

Let’s all commit to doing more things that suck and being okay with it. Let’s challenge each other to be courageous.

If I can go from being a high school dropout to making something of myself, then why the heck can’t you?

Embrace the suck because that’s what the people you idolize and anyone you’ve ever looked up to did.

Embracing the suck is part of life.

“Hello, adversity. Come at me!”

 

One day you’ll look back on all the sucky moments and be proud.

That’s the cherry on top of the cake right there.

That is all the motivation you need to embrace the suck.

 

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Keep Going – Never Give Up. Good People Are Always Rewarded.

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Last week there was some real lows. This week there have been some major highs.

At one point, it looked like my career was down the toilet. Everything I worked for looked like it was done.

The reality is that when you hit a low point, there’s always an upside. The point where you want to give up is just the beginning of something new and amazing. When you hit that low, it’s so easy to want to give up.

You feel like you can’t go on and the odds are stacked against you.

Everything and everyone feel like they are working against your vision for your life. Most of all, you don’t know why you’ve suddenly hit this giant low point that feels like it’s going to last forever.

Your motivation is non-existent; you get out of bed and feel like crap; you’re not sure what today will mean – or the next for that matter.

All of this is fine. No, I’m not giving you some empty promise or meaningless reason to go on. What I’m telling you is that you must keep going. Even though you feel like you can’t, you must!

“All of these low points mean something. All of these low points turn into one giant moment of triumph if you keep stacking them up like shot glasses after a big night”

 

Good people are rewarded.

As long as you do your absolute best to be a good person, eventually your life will change.

All those small things you did for people will be remembered.
Someone will give you a chance and believe in you.
An opportunity will come from nowhere that you never expected.

Rewards always come for those who have earned it. How do you earn those rewards? By being a kind, humble and good person that serves the greater good. Let’s dumb it down further. You get the rewards by:

1. Helping people who have nothing
2. Smiling at as many people as you can
3. Answering messages on social media and helping people without getting anything in return
4. Staying positive through books and blogs like this
5. Waiting out the winter cold for summer to come into your life again

This list of five things is how you remain a good person through the chaos that we all experience. Many people say “That sounds easy Tim, but it’s harder than you think.”

That’s why I’ve made it practical with these five points.

 

How my luck changed this week.

I followed this formula I’ve laid out, and this week my luck changed. All of a sudden, I got multiple opportunities to do work that I love and get paid well for it so that I can focus on my blogging.

The messages I got with these opportunities all started with something like this:

“Thank you for sharing your story and having the guts to do so. You’ve inspired me and I appreciate it. I’d love to chat to you about opportunity X. Are you free for a few minutes?”

Then I got two more emails from television networks wanting me to spread some inspiration on their respective shows.

Your luck will change and opportunities will be presented to you if you keep going, never give up and continue being a good person.

It’s a long road towards getting up close and personal with your most important goal but if you stay the path, stay focused and be the person that makes you proud, it will happen.

 

Keep going.

So, if you’ve ever felt like I felt when my career went down the toilet last week, or you’re feeling that way right now, you must keep going.

I believe you can get what you seek if you remain focused and don’t let the negative emotions in your head take over. I know it’s tough but that’s no excuse. If you want your goals bad enough, then you’ll keep motivated to push through the rejection and failure.

Use selflessness to change your perspective. Look at yourself in the third person. See who you are now and who you can be. All of us can be leaders and when we look at ourselves without our self-talk and ego’s in the way, we can see who we really are.

Dare to dream a little. Don’t be afraid to think big. If you have crazy, audacious goals, then that’s even better.

Don’t be talked out of your mission.
Let your passion rip through the barriers that stand in your way.

Never give up. Keep going.

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We All Have It Tough – It’s What You Do With The Struggle.

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Lots of my people who read my stuff email me with their struggles. They’re hoping that I will be blown away by how hard they’ve had it. They think it’s some sort of competition to see who has the most battle scars.

By reading so many of these emails of struggle over the last few years, I realized something: we all have it tough. All of us struggle – even me.

– Right now, I have 14 days left until I’ll be out of a job.
– I’ve got some very challenging personal issues to deal with.
– My investments need a major rework and I’m completely lost.

I’ve been offered an opportunity to do public speaking to a large audience and am scared of whether I should say yes. Do I have what it takes? Will I mess it up?

We all have it tough.

What I’ve learned is it’s what you do with the struggle that will define your future.

 

Are you going to sit there and take it?

That’s right I’m asking you right now. What are you going to do with the struggles?

There are only two options:

1. Toughen up and use the struggles as motivation
2. Be a piss weak, sook, and give up.

Your struggles can take you to a new level. When George Lucas tried to make Star Wars, it was a total F*ck up. Everything went wrong. There were natural disasters, lack of money and even the actors thought it was the worse film ever to be made.

Did the creator of the Jedi Knight give up?

Not a chance. He kept going and defied the odds. His reward? One of the most watched movies of all time and plenty of cash to go with it.

You may still be thinking option two is your only hope. Maybe you could be piss weak and just give up. Then you could sit on the couch, watch Netflix, drink wine and pretend that your struggles didn’t stop you from achieving your goals.

 

The good news is giving up works short-term. The bad news?

After the short-term gain of giving up, and getting to Netflix and chill, you’ll be really pissed off at yourself. You’ll have regret and feel even worse than before you began your journey of struggle. Not getting your goals and making next to no progress feels like crap.I spent several years doing this.

“Every night I would get home, watch a Hollywood movie, go to 7-Eleven for some sugar and send useless texts to the toxic people in my life”

These same people were going nowhere and telling me to give up.

Screw that. I did this for a while and felt so empty. Life had no meaning and I was making no impact. The sugar diet made me sick and I ended up becoming bedridden.

 

The struggle is the beginning.

Looking back, without the struggle, I would have never got off my lazy ass and actually taken action. When I say “It’s what you do with the struggle,” what I mean is this:

Having it tough and struggling – like trying to walk up a hill while there’s a mudslide happening at the exact same time – is a big fat signal that you’re onto something.

The motivation and momentum you need to get started is right there in front of your blue eyes.

“You can’t get started on some mammoth task to change your life unless you get pissed off and do it tough”

If you were doing it easy, there’d be no urgent reason to take action.

When you’re like me and you are about to be unemployed, have lots of tough decisions to make and are unsatisfied with your career progression to date, you have to embrace your circumstances.

Now, this sounds like a lot of big words that you’d read in some 2000-page self-help book that repeats the same ideas over and over.

I’m going to dumb it right down:

The struggle is a sign to get started. When you struggle, things can’t really get much worse. What you’re left with is nothing but upside.

 

What action do we take then when we’re struggling?

Let’s use my situation as an example. Here are the action steps I’m using and implementing this week:

1. Accept where you are right now
– This will give you a reality check.

2. Meditate to relax your busy brain
– Stress will force you to make dumb decisions.

3. Get really uncomfortable
– I said yes to a new business venture that involves a lot of public speaking.

4. Resist the temptation to be pissed off
– Getting angry is only going to make things worse. Reserve your energy.

5. Write three things a day you’re grateful for
– This will force you to find the positive.

6. Delete whingers, sooks, liars and complainers from your contact list
– You’ve got enough issues; it’s hard enough to be positive without having toxic people talk nonsense and distract you.

 

Final step: Chill out amigo.

Your world is not going to end tomorrow. You can always start again. You can always fall down and get straight back up. Don’t be so angry with yourself. We all struggle and you’re doing the best that you can. Focus your energy on building your confidence and supporting your growth mindset.

“My future looks like a nuclear apocalypse right now but I’ve learned through the struggles that I always come out the other side on top”

Being impatient and stressing will only bring on more problems for you. It’s not that bad. Things always turn around. This moment of struggle and how you handle it will define who you become.

All of us have unlimited potential and we’re all struggling every day.

Once you learn to accept the struggle, embrace it and see it as a seed to something better, you’ll be well on your way to becoming someone you’re proud of.

Wish me luck with the struggles coming in the next few weeks. We’re in this together don’t forget.

Peace, love, respect.

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  1. AllyMax Pads

    Nov 23, 2015 at 10:30 pm

    Yes! Let’s do this! I’m so game. I’ll be sending my list via email!

  2. Vishal Pawar

    Jul 11, 2014 at 1:37 pm

    Wow…. Awesome i need some help for daily motivation.

  3. Shaik Nasir Ahamd

    Jun 29, 2014 at 7:21 pm

    damn freaking awesome post…………

  4. kiki

    Jun 25, 2014 at 5:11 pm

    I will be doing this

  5. All press (@Joey8830)

    Jun 19, 2014 at 12:57 am

    list? up to you I guess just looking at your self in the mirror with a conscious MIND not how good you look but with a conscious MIND and Questions. is a good motivator EGO is a good play only under control tho. boost your self esteem and confidence against the world Failure is the learning Degree of life till you 6 Feet down.

  6. Rick Garlick

    Jun 1, 2014 at 7:48 pm

    I believe that since man realized that anything takes some “motivation” true motivators have been telling people to make a list and keep it with you. So, this is simple a twist on an old, but proven system. That said, I am glad you brought it back to life, but like so many other common sense things, we tend to forget the obvious and need to be reminded of what to do to make sh** happen.
    I like the motivator of “Because you want this.” I’ll use this as well, but I will most likely add something like “…and you know that sitting around and doing nothing will not get you there; no one is going to hand this to you.”

  7. Qamar Pasha

    May 30, 2014 at 4:33 am

    Great Man….to help others to achieve their goals also shows your greatnes towards mankind. I really appreciate your article and i am going to start ”Morning Mirror Motivation Challenge” today itself.

  8. thembi

    May 26, 2014 at 11:58 am

    Great motivation keep up the good work, setting an example to my family that I may be born poor but I am rich in mind.

  9. talya2312

    May 26, 2014 at 11:23 am

    This was a great article. But what about becoming the woman you want to become?

    • Quentin Sharone Carson

      Jun 2, 2014 at 3:38 pm

      Hey, here’s a few my sister, 1. I am more than 2. I rule with intelligence not by pain 3. The best is around the corner, 4. I was born to be successful 5. Wealth is in my DNA not poverty 6. I am the CEO/Founder of my life, 7. The world needs me, I am important, I am valuable!!! Say these to yourself for 40 days before leaving the house, and watch the results!!! Blessing and increase to you!
      Quentin Sharone Carson

  10. Chris Schenk

    May 25, 2014 at 12:44 am

    Let’s do it!! Watch out world here we come!!

  11. Dan Western

    May 23, 2014 at 11:52 am

    Absolutely love this attitude towards life! Great post Jared. Keep up the good motivation.

  12. Pure savage Marketing

    May 22, 2014 at 11:05 pm

    This is one of the greatest blog ive seen very.consistent very valuable I hope the peoplr that needs it F#!%NG see it cuz its priceless great job buddy

  13. Sheila Makena

    May 22, 2014 at 10:23 am

    Wow!!!! brilliant article! I am writing my mirror list right now and putting it up!! And I will be adding a few of your points as well!!

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Your Fears Suck And That’s Why You Must Rinse And Repeat.

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Waking up at 6 am today to go and have a blood test is my worst nightmare.

I’m so damn fearful of needles and it makes me feel sick.

When my doctor said it was time to have a blood test and 10X my energy, I was pumped and crippled with fear at the same time.

 

This sucks big time.

Every time I have a blood test, there’s this big build-up of fear, tension, sickness and everything else that sucks.

I rolled up at the pathology center to try and have my blood test before everyone else. I always walk in like I’m MacGyver until my name is called. Then as I walk to the room where the nurse is, all the confidence, body language and self-talk turns to crap.

The nurse looks at me strangely. I haven’t had this one before. She’s thinking “Geez this guy looks like he’s about to crap his pants, or vomit, or maybe both.”

Why am I so fearful with these routine tests? Probably because I had a few strange experiences when I was a kid and the adult in me still hasn’t forgotten that innocent kid with blue eyes, white blonde hair and the change the world attitude he’s always had.

Back to my story. So, the nurse begins taking my blood and it takes time as she needs to fill up two tubes. It felt like an eternity although the pain was pretty minor – yay!

We get to the end of the test and I’m celebrating like a drunk who’s just woken up and realized he’d won $10k at the casino the night before.

Then the nurse is like “Houston we have a problem.”

My face turns white. “What’s the problem?”

The nurse says “We can only do these tests between Monday to Thursday. Any other day is prohibited. That’s what head office says.”

I’m thinking to myself lots of nasty thoughts like “Well you tell head office to go F themselves!”

I speak with my doctor and he confirms that this is correct. Basically, I have to go through this fearful experiment all over again in a few days’ time.

 

Rinse and repeat.

I go back to the pathology center a few days later and have the test again. It’s a pain in the backside but it must be done. Here’s what’s awesome: I’ve never done multiple blood tests in a short space of time. Doing the test again made this horrible feeling so much easier.

I walked in, did my thing, and walked out. I remembered how to breathe. I remembered how to relax. And I knew what had to be done.

“Facing the same fear multiple times within a few days began to crush all my negative energy”

 

Fears won’t suck as much after a bit of practice.

This fear of blood tests has now changed. It’s still a bit challenging but nowhere near as bad.

My mind has gotten used to what has to happen because practice has made the situation almost perfect.

We all have fears and overcoming them is about embracing the suck, giving it a go and then repeating the process.

Each time you face a fear like blood tests, it gets a little bit easier each time. Sometimes the gains are enormous and other times the gains are small. None the less, facing your fears creates some momentum towards conquering your fear.

Challenging your fears is how you get up close and personal with them. All it takes is a bit of courage and one question: What’s the worst that can happen?

For me, my arm could have fallen off, she could have caused me great pain or I could have passed out. None of these things will see me end up in the cemetery.

 

The feeling of overcoming fear.

Having significantly lessened my fear of blood tests has given me confidence. If I could conquer this massive mountain of internal pain, what else could I do that makes me fearful?

A better question would be, what fear is holding you back that you could practice getting better at?

We all have fears and we can all look them in the face, respect them for what they are, and then have a go at overcoming them.

The feeling of overcoming fear is so good. It gives you strength and resilience to fight the tougher fights. Doing the things that are uncomfortable is how you build a level of comfort that can put you at the top of your field.

We all have fears and those of us who practice overcoming our fears are the ones who get to taste a feeling of success like no other.

Your fears suck but you can overcome them with practice just like I did.

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Embrace The Suck.

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Embrace the Suck

I suck at spreadsheets.
I suck at maths because numbers do my head in.
I suck at attending meetings because I just want action.

You will suck at your first blog post.
You will suck at your first startup, and the one after that, and so on.
You will suck at giving your first speech.

We all suck 24/7.

None of us are 100% motivated all the time.
None of us get anything right the first time – unless it’s a fluke.

We all have nightmares of our failures.
We all secretly want to be perfect – even me.

 

It’s time to embrace the suck.

A lot about life F*cking sucks hard.

My #EmbraceTheSuck story (thanks Sina Fak for the idea) was failing at high school and dropping out. After a break, I went back and finished high school, and the only subjects I excelled at were music and English.

Even though the headmaster told me I’d always be a no good, punk a$$, drop out, I proved him wrong.

I used my expertise in English to become a blogger and that’s why I’m writing these words to you right now.

I failed in the short-term, but by persevering at school, it eventually led me to right now. I could have done nothing and become a bum. I could have listened to my headmaster and agreed with him.

I knew that I was destined to do something big and I believe the movement I’m creating right now is part of my crazy goal to change the world.

All of us can succeed when we embrace the suck and persevere.

“We can listen to our critics or we can lift the middle finger at them and keep going”

Making it through the suck made me smarter, more courageous and it helped me build a newfound resilience.

 

How do we embrace the suck?

1. Be prepared to fail.
2. Look like an idiot.
3. Be willing to start at the bottom
4. Persevere
5. Challenge the critics

When everything sucks, get back up.
Have a second go even if there’s no reason too.
Back yourself and believe you can push through the suck.

 

Embrace the suck is a call to action.

It’s about being prepared to eat sh*t because the upside makes it worth it. It’s about doing what so many are not prepared to do because you believe in yourself.

It’s about taking action and executing instead of being a daydreamer and being stuck in a foreplay of ideas, dreams, goals that never happen.

Starting at the bottom and sucking harder is how you get to the top.

Once you arrive at the top, make sure you help other people who are embracing the suck.

Let’s all commit to doing more things that suck and being okay with it. Let’s challenge each other to be courageous.

If I can go from being a high school dropout to making something of myself, then why the heck can’t you?

Embrace the suck because that’s what the people you idolize and anyone you’ve ever looked up to did.

Embracing the suck is part of life.

“Hello, adversity. Come at me!”

 

One day you’ll look back on all the sucky moments and be proud.

That’s the cherry on top of the cake right there.

That is all the motivation you need to embrace the suck.

 

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Keep Going – Never Give Up. Good People Are Always Rewarded.

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Last week there was some real lows. This week there have been some major highs.

At one point, it looked like my career was down the toilet. Everything I worked for looked like it was done.

The reality is that when you hit a low point, there’s always an upside. The point where you want to give up is just the beginning of something new and amazing. When you hit that low, it’s so easy to want to give up.

You feel like you can’t go on and the odds are stacked against you.

Everything and everyone feel like they are working against your vision for your life. Most of all, you don’t know why you’ve suddenly hit this giant low point that feels like it’s going to last forever.

Your motivation is non-existent; you get out of bed and feel like crap; you’re not sure what today will mean – or the next for that matter.

All of this is fine. No, I’m not giving you some empty promise or meaningless reason to go on. What I’m telling you is that you must keep going. Even though you feel like you can’t, you must!

“All of these low points mean something. All of these low points turn into one giant moment of triumph if you keep stacking them up like shot glasses after a big night”

 

Good people are rewarded.

As long as you do your absolute best to be a good person, eventually your life will change.

All those small things you did for people will be remembered.
Someone will give you a chance and believe in you.
An opportunity will come from nowhere that you never expected.

Rewards always come for those who have earned it. How do you earn those rewards? By being a kind, humble and good person that serves the greater good. Let’s dumb it down further. You get the rewards by:

1. Helping people who have nothing
2. Smiling at as many people as you can
3. Answering messages on social media and helping people without getting anything in return
4. Staying positive through books and blogs like this
5. Waiting out the winter cold for summer to come into your life again

This list of five things is how you remain a good person through the chaos that we all experience. Many people say “That sounds easy Tim, but it’s harder than you think.”

That’s why I’ve made it practical with these five points.

 

How my luck changed this week.

I followed this formula I’ve laid out, and this week my luck changed. All of a sudden, I got multiple opportunities to do work that I love and get paid well for it so that I can focus on my blogging.

The messages I got with these opportunities all started with something like this:

“Thank you for sharing your story and having the guts to do so. You’ve inspired me and I appreciate it. I’d love to chat to you about opportunity X. Are you free for a few minutes?”

Then I got two more emails from television networks wanting me to spread some inspiration on their respective shows.

Your luck will change and opportunities will be presented to you if you keep going, never give up and continue being a good person.

It’s a long road towards getting up close and personal with your most important goal but if you stay the path, stay focused and be the person that makes you proud, it will happen.

 

Keep going.

So, if you’ve ever felt like I felt when my career went down the toilet last week, or you’re feeling that way right now, you must keep going.

I believe you can get what you seek if you remain focused and don’t let the negative emotions in your head take over. I know it’s tough but that’s no excuse. If you want your goals bad enough, then you’ll keep motivated to push through the rejection and failure.

Use selflessness to change your perspective. Look at yourself in the third person. See who you are now and who you can be. All of us can be leaders and when we look at ourselves without our self-talk and ego’s in the way, we can see who we really are.

Dare to dream a little. Don’t be afraid to think big. If you have crazy, audacious goals, then that’s even better.

Don’t be talked out of your mission.
Let your passion rip through the barriers that stand in your way.

Never give up. Keep going.

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We All Have It Tough – It’s What You Do With The Struggle.

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Lots of my people who read my stuff email me with their struggles. They’re hoping that I will be blown away by how hard they’ve had it. They think it’s some sort of competition to see who has the most battle scars.

By reading so many of these emails of struggle over the last few years, I realized something: we all have it tough. All of us struggle – even me.

– Right now, I have 14 days left until I’ll be out of a job.
– I’ve got some very challenging personal issues to deal with.
– My investments need a major rework and I’m completely lost.

I’ve been offered an opportunity to do public speaking to a large audience and am scared of whether I should say yes. Do I have what it takes? Will I mess it up?

We all have it tough.

What I’ve learned is it’s what you do with the struggle that will define your future.

 

Are you going to sit there and take it?

That’s right I’m asking you right now. What are you going to do with the struggles?

There are only two options:

1. Toughen up and use the struggles as motivation
2. Be a piss weak, sook, and give up.

Your struggles can take you to a new level. When George Lucas tried to make Star Wars, it was a total F*ck up. Everything went wrong. There were natural disasters, lack of money and even the actors thought it was the worse film ever to be made.

Did the creator of the Jedi Knight give up?

Not a chance. He kept going and defied the odds. His reward? One of the most watched movies of all time and plenty of cash to go with it.

You may still be thinking option two is your only hope. Maybe you could be piss weak and just give up. Then you could sit on the couch, watch Netflix, drink wine and pretend that your struggles didn’t stop you from achieving your goals.

 

The good news is giving up works short-term. The bad news?

After the short-term gain of giving up, and getting to Netflix and chill, you’ll be really pissed off at yourself. You’ll have regret and feel even worse than before you began your journey of struggle. Not getting your goals and making next to no progress feels like crap.I spent several years doing this.

“Every night I would get home, watch a Hollywood movie, go to 7-Eleven for some sugar and send useless texts to the toxic people in my life”

These same people were going nowhere and telling me to give up.

Screw that. I did this for a while and felt so empty. Life had no meaning and I was making no impact. The sugar diet made me sick and I ended up becoming bedridden.

 

The struggle is the beginning.

Looking back, without the struggle, I would have never got off my lazy ass and actually taken action. When I say “It’s what you do with the struggle,” what I mean is this:

Having it tough and struggling – like trying to walk up a hill while there’s a mudslide happening at the exact same time – is a big fat signal that you’re onto something.

The motivation and momentum you need to get started is right there in front of your blue eyes.

“You can’t get started on some mammoth task to change your life unless you get pissed off and do it tough”

If you were doing it easy, there’d be no urgent reason to take action.

When you’re like me and you are about to be unemployed, have lots of tough decisions to make and are unsatisfied with your career progression to date, you have to embrace your circumstances.

Now, this sounds like a lot of big words that you’d read in some 2000-page self-help book that repeats the same ideas over and over.

I’m going to dumb it right down:

The struggle is a sign to get started. When you struggle, things can’t really get much worse. What you’re left with is nothing but upside.

 

What action do we take then when we’re struggling?

Let’s use my situation as an example. Here are the action steps I’m using and implementing this week:

1. Accept where you are right now
– This will give you a reality check.

2. Meditate to relax your busy brain
– Stress will force you to make dumb decisions.

3. Get really uncomfortable
– I said yes to a new business venture that involves a lot of public speaking.

4. Resist the temptation to be pissed off
– Getting angry is only going to make things worse. Reserve your energy.

5. Write three things a day you’re grateful for
– This will force you to find the positive.

6. Delete whingers, sooks, liars and complainers from your contact list
– You’ve got enough issues; it’s hard enough to be positive without having toxic people talk nonsense and distract you.

 

Final step: Chill out amigo.

Your world is not going to end tomorrow. You can always start again. You can always fall down and get straight back up. Don’t be so angry with yourself. We all struggle and you’re doing the best that you can. Focus your energy on building your confidence and supporting your growth mindset.

“My future looks like a nuclear apocalypse right now but I’ve learned through the struggles that I always come out the other side on top”

Being impatient and stressing will only bring on more problems for you. It’s not that bad. Things always turn around. This moment of struggle and how you handle it will define who you become.

All of us have unlimited potential and we’re all struggling every day.

Once you learn to accept the struggle, embrace it and see it as a seed to something better, you’ll be well on your way to becoming someone you’re proud of.

Wish me luck with the struggles coming in the next few weeks. We’re in this together don’t forget.

Peace, love, respect.

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