Life
The Surprising Secret About Growth and Change
Innovation and change drive business growth, but there’s one piece about growth and change that business owners and entrepreneurs often overlook. It’s not the most fun or glamorous piece, but if you recognize and accept it, the payoff is huge. This is particularly crucial for self-employed business owners when there’s little to no separation between yourself and your business. When your level of success equates to how much you have personally developed. I call it Growth Jet Lag, and when you know how to navigate it, you set yourself up for lasting success.
The essential nature of change
The past several months have been a master class in change and adaptability. For some, myself included, it’s been a time of gaining incredible clarity. This sharpened understanding and focus necessarily brings about change. Positive change, but change nonetheless.
For others, it’s been about pivoting or evolving. Maybe you made changes to how you work or the services you provide. Maybe you had to reinvent yourself or find your way back to solid ground financially. While these changes may have been born out of necessity, they are still a positive step forward.
It stands to reason that if you’re doing what needs to be done, it will pay off in the end. But have you noticed there seems to be a gap between the doing and the payoff?
You may be more confident than ever that you’re on the right track, yet you’re left waiting for the results. You’re waiting for people to notice the changes you’ve made. You’re waiting for the work to pour in. You’re waiting, and it’s frustrating, because you’ve done the hard work of gaining clarity and making changes. So what gives?
“In life, change is inevitable. In business, change is vital.” – Warren Bennis
The waiting game
I’ve seen many entrepreneurs and self-employed business owners during this time of unexpected change define their clear brand message. Others have crystalized what’s most marketable about their business and created a clear path forward. Many business owners have made necessary changes in their businesses and their branding to stay relevant in order to move forward. Even during these challenging times.
And then they wait. They wait for more clients to show up. They wait for the world to notice. They wait for all the changes they made to make a difference. They wait because of a very real phenomenon called Growth Jet Lag. Without knowing what Growth Jet Lag is and what’s going on, too many people will get discouraged by the delayed results. And the last thing I want is for anyone to give up after working so hard to make positive changes.
Factoring growth jet lag into change
Growth Jet Lag is what happens between you making changes in your life and business and people actually noticing them. For some period of time after you’ve evolved, rebranded, or made changes, it will seem like no one is noticing. In reality, they just haven’t caught up yet.
You can sort of look at it as an algorithm. A universal algorithm that scans the entire world. How many times would it have to pass or scan before it picked up every little change?
When I started my podcast several years ago, someone gave me the wise advice to always release episodes on a consistent basis. Same day and same time every week. Sticking with a consistent day and time of week makes it easier for the iTunes algorithm to pick up the new episodes.
The same is true here. For some unknown time after you’ve made changes or gained clarity, you need to just keep going. Consistently. Keep going until there are enough passes of the algorithm if you will, for it to be noticed. Factoring Growth Jet Lag into the changes you make in business and in life will motivate you to hang in until the results kick in.
Accepting change takes time
There are lots of examples from personal life that mirror the business reality of it. Think about when someone breaks trust with you. They can make the changes in themselves to regain your trust. They can vow to never break your trust again. But it’s still going to take some time and consistent behavior before you really accept it and rebuild trust. It’s not like someone can just proclaim, “Ok, I’ve changed!” and everyone around them is going to believe it.
I remember when I was divorcing many years ago, getting great advice from a therapist about telling our three kids. She said, “Now remember, you and your wife have known this was coming for a long time. You’ve been far more aware of the problems. To your kids, they are just finding out. Give them time to catch up.” Such valuable advice.
“Change is the heartbeat of growth.” – Scottie Somers
Giving your clients a chance to catch up
Your prospective clients need that same grace. The same opportunity to catch up. When you make business changes, gain clarity, or pivot, it’s going to take time for the world around you to catch up. How much time will they need? There’s no magic number, but in my experience it often ends up being 3-6 months. Again, there’s no definite amount of time here. Just based on years of coaching small business owners. My hope is that by knowing this and expecting this to be the case, you’ll have the patience to persevere.
I know it can seem like a lifetime when you’re so excited about moving forward. You’ve done the right things. You’ve made the right changes. You’ve gained clarity about the work you want to do and who you want to serve.
That’s awesome, and it’s the most important work you can do. Now you just have to wait a bit and maybe a bit longer for people to catch up. All that remains is to be consistent and keep going.
Don’t give up on the business you love if the changes you’ve made aren’t being noticed yet. Wait for the world to catch up instead. You’ll be glad you did.
Life
9 Harsh Truths Every Young Man Must Face to Succeed in the Modern World
Before chasing success, every young man needs to face these 9 brutal realities shaping masculinity in the modern world.
Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.
Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”
But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.
Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.
Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.
1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse
As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.
Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.
Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:
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Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.
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Read quality literature in your free time.
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Nurture a strong relationship with your family.
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Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.
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Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.
The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.
2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay
You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.
If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.
3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome
Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.
You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.
The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.
4. Rejection Is Never Personal
Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.
Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.
5. Women Value Comfort and Security
Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.
Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.
Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.
6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons
A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.
Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.
Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.
7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form
Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.
It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.
If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.
8. Teaching Is Leadership in Disguise
Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.
Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.
Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.
9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams
One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.
That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.
Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.
Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.
Final Thoughts
The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.
Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.
Because at the end of the day, success isn’t about luck. It’s about who you become when life tests you the most.
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