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How You Can Climb Life’s Mountain Top No Matter the Terrain

You may not have the right background, or education, or equipment, or even the right shoes. Don’t let that deter you

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Some moments you never forget. They become seared into your memory because the weight of the experience is so great. You remember what you were wearing and what time of day it was. You even recall the weather. 

One such moment happened on a gorgeous, sunny day, sometime around 10 o’clock in the morning. I was on the second floor of the headquarters of First Commercial Bank. I had on my bluest blue suit and a starched white shirt. But the beauty of the day and the meticulousness of my clothing were a stark contrast to the turmoil and uneasiness that was bubbling inside me. I was afraid. 

Before me stretched the largest table I had ever seen. Two life-size, hand-painted portraits of the bank’s founders hung on the room’s wall. Around that table sat a dozen of the wealthiest men in Birmingham. They were the men who had asked me — a mere year after I’d opened my first McDonald’s — to serve on the bank’s board of directors. I would be the first African American to do so.  

In that very remarkable moment, I noted the irony that I was now on the board of a bank, and my mother never even had a checking account. The variances between the worlds sitting at that table were startling. Most men there represented a second- or third-generation of business success. Many had attended prestigious boarding schools, with spring breaks on distant islands and Christmas vacations spent skiing in the Rockies.  

“Every mountain top is within reach if you just keep climbing.” – Barry Finlay

I, on the other hand, hailed from Montgomery’s Madison Park neighborhood, a proud but humble community established by former slaves. Now I was at the starting line of a journey into this very foreign world and I knew that everyone else at the table had a head start. I felt that I didn’t belong at that table. Worse, I felt that everyone in the room knew it. But as the minutes ticked by and I settled into my seat, I planted my feet on the floor and tried to embrace my new role.  

Being at that table was daunting, but it was a mountaintop experience. I had worked so hard to get to that moment. I was now a member of this elite fraternity of businessmen. I took a moment to reflect on the journey I took to reach that mountaintop. 

Imagine a man at the foot of a mountain that seems to reach all the way to the heavens. He’s tiny in comparison. This man has never climbed a mountain before and doesn’t have the appropriate tools or equipment. He’s not properly dressed — even his footwear are tennis shoes. 

But regardless of what he doesn’t have, he has the heart to take a first step. He takes that first step and begins climbing the mountain. As he ascends, the man discovers some tools — a rope, a pick, and maybe a flashlight. He takes advantage of them and that helps him climb a little higher. Along the way, he might acquire the right shoes, discarded by a previous climber, which help him move faster.  

As this man rises higher, a few people are waiting to share their rations with him. They are impressed with his heart for mountain climbing. And, as seasoned climbers, they appreciate his spirit. They could view the man as an interloper on “their” mountain or ridicule him. But they don’t. Quite the contrary. Instead, each experienced climber cheers on the novice climber — just as every person sitting at that boardroom table did for me. They even throw ropes down to him to help him out of particularly tight spots. 

Such support sustains the climber. He climbs higher still. Often, the weather is brutal, the terrain is rough, and the man is tempted to turn around, but he doesn’t. He is determined to keep going. Somewhere along that climb, he asks, and answers, a question that has actually been central to my own life: Why not win? 

Soon the man has completed an amazing task, something no one he knows has ever done — he has climbed a mountain! He stands on the summit and embraces the vista before him. It’s filled with beauty. And to think, he started out with only a pair of tennis shoes and a goal. 

These are three lessons I take from climbing my metaphorical mountain:

  1. Just start. You may not have the right background, or education, or equipment, or even the right shoes. Don’t let that deter you. As you make progress, you will find the tools you need to take the next steps. 
  2. Good luck will come in proportion to hard work. A popular saying notes how “The harder I work, the luckier I get.” When people see your dedication and fortitude, they will convey support to you that may look like luck, but isn’t. 
  3. The harder you climb, the better the view. As you achieve, you gain access to new opportunities and new people that will enable you to move further up the mountain into the rarefied air. Before your climb begins, you won’t even realize these opportunities exist, but as you encounter them, they become vital to winning in life.  

Larry Thornton is an artist, entrepreneur, and servant leader. Growing up in segregated Montgomery, Alabama, he worked his way from sign painter to advertising manager at Coca-Cola Birmingham, and became the first African American to open a McDonald’s franchise in Birmingham, Alabama. He eventually opened multiple stores and created Thornton Enterprises, Inc. His book, Why Not Win? A Reflection on a 50-year Journey from the Segregated South to America’s Boardrooms — And What it Teaches Us All (NewSouth Books, April 1, 2019), serves as inspiration for people from all walks of life. Larry founded the Why Not Win Institute to make leadership development accessible. All book sales profit goes to support the institute’s mission. Learn more at larrythornton.com.

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

  1. Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
  2. Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

  • Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
  • Cultivate healthier relationships
  • Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
  • Exhibit better work ethic
  • Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

  • Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
  • Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
  • Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

  • Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
  • Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

  • What challenges have I already overcome?
  • How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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The 5 Stages of a Quarter-Life Crisis & What You Can Do

A quarter-life crisis isn’t a sign you’ve lost your way; it’s a sign you’re fighting for a life that’s truly yours.

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The quarter-life crisis is a well-defined set of stages—Trapped, Checking Out, Separation, Exploration, Rebuilding—one goes through in breaking free from feelings of meaninglessness, lack of fulfillment, and misalignment with purpose. I detail the stages and interweave my story below. (more…)

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Here’s The Thing About Learning, Unlearning, and Relearning

Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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Few people have the habit of hoarding their wealth without spending.  However, it limits their motivation as they tend to get into their comfort zones.  When people start spending money, then there will be depletion in their coffers. (more…)

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3 Steps That’ll Help You Take Back Control of Your Life Immediately

The key to finding “enough” is recognizing that the root of the problem is a question of self-esteem and deservedness

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