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Here’s How Your Relationships Determines Your Happiness

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3 years ago

Jan 21, 2022

TheThrives

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Happiness, this simple pronounceable word is far greater than we think. There is nothing in this world that compares to being happy. Okay, does money compare, does wealth compare, do friends and family compare?

None of those things compare. What is the essence of the money you have when you are not even happy for once? That said, there are a lot of factors or things that contribute to our happiness. However, the most vital of all these things are your relationships.

Relationship means the emotional connection between people. Where there is a relationship, there is an emotion. However, emotion means any strong feeling you can have for something or someone. So, when you have a relationship with someone it means you have strong feelings for them.

But, since being in any kind of relationship is a big deal it then means that the relationships we keep can affect our lives a lot. But why? Well, because there is a strong feeling involved.

A lot of people are pursuing happiness, they want to be happy at all costs, they just want to keep smiling with no ounce of sadness. However, they find that hard to do, they just think they can’t be happy no matter what, some even think happiness is not for them.

One thing you should know is, no matter who you are or what you may be, if you really want to be happy you need the right relationships. Your relationship matters a lot. But, ask yourself these questions:

What kind of relationship am I in right now?
Has this relationship benefitted me?
How happy have I been ever since in this relationship?
How has my life improved positively?

Find your answers.

How does your relationship determine your happiness?

Being in a relationship, friendly relationship, love relationship, or blood-related relationship (your family), means you are strongly connected emotionally, strongly connected means love is involved. It is really risky when love is involved.

For example, a girl broke up with her boyfriend due to the boyfriend’s fault. However, the guy loves his girl a lot, what do you think will happen after the breakup? It is either he commits suicide, drink, and smoke (especially if he has not done such before), or even get involved in an accident of any form.

Why do you think such a thing will happen to the guy? It’s because of love, it’s because of emotion. And that is how a lot of people who want to be happy are. They are in relationships that are not helpful and yet, they still want to be happy.

You want to be happy and yet, your friends argue and fight with you every day? You break up every second with your girlfriend/boyfriend? Your husband or wife fight with you every day? Your children also are not peaceful with each other?

In essence, you can never be happy if you are in a relationship like that. They fight with you every day, argue every day, they say words that hurt you every day, and you still expect yourself to be happy?

If you are a married man/woman, at your workplace, you may be happy and smile all you want but, remembering that you are still going back home can immediately bring sorrow to your heart. Because you know your home is not at peace.

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” – Dalai Lama

Peace is the signature of happiness. Wherever there is peace, there is happiness. As a student, Knowing that your parents’ fight with each other may not want you to return home because you know violence is the order of the day in your home.

Your relationships matter a lot because they really contribute to whether you become happy or not. And a lot of people are in relationships like this but they also want to be happy, they also want peace, however, the sad part is, no matter how much they want to be happy, they still can’t leave and say goodbye to their relationships.

Why? Because love is present. Because their emotions are strongly connected and because they have a relationship. Over to you, what relationships do you keep or what relationship are you in? Is it peaceful or not? Never forget, peace is the signature of happiness. Where there is peace there is happiness.

Ask yourself: “what relationship am I in”? How has it benefited me in any way? How has my mental health improved ever since I am in this relationship? Does this relationship make me happy or not?

If your answer to these questions is capital NO, then you should try to get out of those relationships or discuss how to work things out so that there will be peace in your life. And, you should know that the opposite of happiness is sadness and depression. So, get out of your unpeaceful relationships and start a new life afresh.

Additionally, never forget that our Lord and Savior Jesus is the prince of peace, if you have Jesus in your life, you have eternal life and peace.

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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2 weeks ago

Jan 6, 2025

Daniel Bell

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
Cultivate healthier relationships
Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
Exhibit better work ethic
Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

What challenges have I already overcome?
How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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