Entrepreneurs
The Gentle Art Of Negotiating And How To Do Exceptionally Well.
I seem to be teaching a lot of people in their 20’s lately about negotiating. There’s an art to creating a mutual win also known as negotiating.
Negotiating is a skill many people never learn. That’s why we say yes to an offer we’re not happy with or have regrets that we could have gone the extra mile and requested more money/people/resources etc.
Here’s how to negotiate properly and do well:
Never go first.
No matter what happens, never go first in the negotiation. Think of negotiating like a game of poker.
You want to see what cards they have first before you make your move. The moment someone knows what cards you’re holding, they may choose to take advantage of you (they may not as well).
Leave it to the other side to make an offer first.
Always be respectful.
The biggest problem with negotiating is people’s egos get in the way. Lead with respect and you’ll get what you want. Respect means understanding their point of view and trying to see things from the other side of the fence.
“Listening and rebutting their arguments with respect is how you master the gentle art of negotiating”
No one wants to see and hear your big fat ego and be spoken down to. You may have more money, a bigger company or more success, but that doesn’t mean anything if you don’t show respect.
Counter-offer.
Many of my millennial friends make the mistake of thinking that the first offer is all that’s on the table. The first offer is normally what is referred to in sales as a “low ball.”
The first offer is where the other side is testing the water to see what you’re thinking. Don’t fall for the low ball. Think of the first offer as research and not as genuine and final.
Once the first offer is out there, it’s time to counter-offer. They’ve tested the bottom and now it’s time for you to test the top.
Go with a really high ‘ask’ or number. Observe their reaction carefully. They’ll probably hit you back with an offer that’s in the middle or lower than yours.
There’s no magic trick here other than keeping the idea that mutual value is a must for a successful negotiation.
If you get all the wins, then the deal could fall over later on because of it. When both sides are happy, you’ve mastered the gentle art of negotiating and mutual value.
Walk away from the deal.
There will be times when the other side only wants to give you one offer or won’t go any further. If you haven’t reached a point of mutual value, walk away. If your gut feeling doesn’t feel right, walk away.
There will always be another deal, another opportunity.
Having regrets is far worse than any other outcome that can stem from a negotiation.
Sleep on it.
Walking away doesn’t end there. You can always re-join a negotiation even though you probably think you can’t. You have to battle this mental block and see blue sky and opportunity.
Nothing is ever final. The other side will almost always come back to the deal table. If they don’t, the deal wasn’t meant to be.
After you’ve walked away from a deal, my recommendation is always to sleep on it. I have the same advice for making important decisions, dealing with haters online and deciding who your next romantic partner will be. Always sleep on it.
When you have loads of energy after a good night’s sleep, you think differently and you act differently. I walked away from a deal that meant a lot to me and after I woke up the next day, I realized I wasn’t grateful for the offer I had received or the relationships I had built.
I rang up the other side and told them this flaw from the negotiation we had been going through. They were so happy that I had come to this realization and offered me something even better than what we were discussing previously.
Always reset that million-year-old brain of yours before making any negotiation or decision final.
Try a different angle.
If the negotiation is not going your way, then try another angle. Think of something that is totally counter-intuitive and different to what you pitched previously. Find another way. Change your thinking.
Sometimes the best negotiations are ones where both sides realize they were thinking about the deal wrong.
Allow the other person silence to think.
People that understand silence are superhuman. In a negotiation, when you make an offer, you need to shut up.
The worst thing you can do is keep talking. You need to allow the other side to think about what you’ve said and the offer you have put on the table.
Big gaps of silence in a negotiation are a good thing. It means you have the other side’s attention. It’s a sign that you’re reaching a middle ground — also known as mutual value.
Don’t ever answer your own questions.
Questions are the main tool you use in every negotiation. Don’t say something dumb like “Would you accept my offer of $20,000 to do the project? That offer is probably too high though isn’t it for you?”
Answering your own question takes the offer you’re proposing off the table straight away. If you know the offer you’ve pitched is dumb, then you probably shouldn’t have pitched it in the first place.
Create urgency through deadlines.
Some negotiations, like Slack conversations, never end. They go on forever and an end is never in sight. You need to create urgency so that the negotiation will come to an end. Even if the endpoint is made up, you must have one.
If you’re waiting for the other side to respond to your offer, then give them a timeframe. Tell them a legitimate reason why your offer is time critical. Say this why thinking in your head “Everything is time critical including life itself.”
Bring in a third party that they can never talk too.
The deal may be going too fast as well. If you need to buy time you can slow everything down by introducing a third-party that the other side can never meet. The classic example of this is in the home improvements business.
A builder may go to visit the home and provide a quote. At the end of the quotation, they’ll ask for the business and the homeowner will say “I need to talk to my partner to see what they think.”
The builder can’t talk to the partner because they’re not there, so it slows down the negotiation. The same can work in business, your career and your personal life.
Finish the negotiation on a high.
No matter the outcome, finish the negotiation on a high. Tell the other side how much you respect their position. Finish with this line:
“I’m always open to opportunities, so if you see something that may interest me, my door is always open.”
If the negotiation is in the other parties’ hands, finish with this line:
“Whatever you decide, if the deal is not right, I’ll shake your hand and wish you all the best.”
Those two lines are how you finish a negotiation on a high.
“In a negotiation, people remember the person you are, not the deal you’re negotiating”
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AI
AI as Your Second Brain: How High-Performers Are Building Personal Leverage Systems
Most entrepreneurs are using AI like a smarter assistant. The highest performers are using it like an entire second brain… and it’s giving them an almost unfair advantage.
The difference is subtle but massive.
Most people use AI for tasks: writing emails, summarizing documents, generating content ideas. High-performers use AI as an extension of their own thinking process. They externalize their memory, planning, research, and even parts of their decision-making. This frees up their actual brain to focus on what it does best: judgment, creativity, relationships, and high-stakes thinking.
This is especially powerful for founders who already operate with high drive but struggle with traditional linear systems (many high-performers and those with ADHD traits fall into this category). AI becomes a way to externalize executive function so their brain can stay in its highest-value state instead of getting bogged down in organization and follow-through.
Here’s how the best entrepreneurs are building their AI second brain:
- Central knowledge repository — They feed important information, decisions, wins, lessons, and context into AI over time so it develops deep context about them and their business.
- Strategic thinking partner — They use AI to pressure-test ideas, play devil’s advocate, explore second and third-order consequences, and spot blind spots they would normally miss.
- Project and decision memory — Instead of trying to remember everything, they maintain living documents and conversations with AI that track progress, open loops, and key decisions.
- Personalized frameworks — They build custom systems and recurring prompts that match how their brain works (energy cycles, decision style, strengths, and weaknesses).
- Execution layer — They combine AI with small teams or automation so ideas move from thought to action with minimal friction.
The goal isn’t to become dependent on AI. It’s to become significantly more effective by removing the friction between having a great idea and executing it at a high level.
When used correctly, AI stops being a tool and starts becoming leverage… the kind of leverage that used to require hiring expensive teams or burning yourself out trying to do everything yourself.
If you want to learn more from me or send me a personal message I’ll respond to you on Instagram at https://instagram.com/iamjoelbrown speak soon!
Change Your Mindset
Why Your Biggest Wins Can Leave You Feeling Surprisingly Empty (And the Identity Shift That Actually Sustains Them)
You finally hit it.
The launch that sold out in hours. The exit that changed your family’s life. The revenue milestone you quietly set for yourself three years ago and told almost no one about. The moment you’ve been grinding toward through the late nights, the near-misses, the “I’ll figure it out” seasons, and the quiet doubts you never let anyone see.
For a brief window… sometimes just a few days, sometimes only a few hours… the high actually lands. There’s relief. Pride. Maybe even a few tears in private. You think, This is it. This changes everything.
And then something strange and unsettling begins to happen.
The excitement doesn’t stay. It leaks out faster than you expected. In its place comes a quiet emptiness that feels almost rude after everything you sacrificed to get here. Or a low-grade anxiety that whispers, “Now what?” Or worse — a strange, almost compulsive urge to self-sabotage. You start questioning whether you’re “allowed” to enjoy this. You find yourself already scanning the horizon for the next, bigger goal, not because you’re hungry, but because the stillness feels strangely threatening. You pick fights in your marriage, make impulsive business moves, or quietly manufacture new problems because chaos, ironically, feels more familiar and therefore safer than peace.
This isn’t ingratitude. It’s not classic burnout either. It’s a common but rarely named experience among high-achieving entrepreneurs: your identity and nervous system were built for the chase. The struggle gave you meaning, adrenaline, and a clear, compelling story: “I’m the one who overcomes the odds.” That story became part of your self-concept. It gave you drive on the hard days and a sense of purpose when things felt impossible.
When the odds are finally overcome, that old story no longer fits. And if you haven’t consciously written a new one, the void rushes in to fill the space. Many driven founders quietly self-destruct in this window. They neglect their health or closest relationships, make reckless decisions, or immediately chase the next mountain before they’ve even processed what they just accomplished. It’s not because they don’t want success. It’s because their current identity and internal wiring were never calibrated to hold success without the familiar fuel of struggle.
The deeper shift is this: Real, sustainable success isn’t just about achieving bigger outcomes. It’s about evolving your identity so it can actually carry the weight of what you’ve built without collapsing or self-sabotaging. You stop tying your worth exclusively to the next win and start anchoring it in who you’ve become… and who you’re becoming in the process. The win itself becomes secondary to the person you had to grow into in order to create it.
Here’s how to do it practically:
- After any major win, deliberately schedule an integration period (minimum 2–4 weeks) with no new big goals. Use this time for health, relationships, reflection, and nervous system recovery instead of immediately jumping to the next mountain.
- Update your internal story on purpose. Journal the old identity (“I’m the grinder who had to fight for everything”) and consciously write the new one (“I am the kind of person who can create, receive, and sustain meaningful success while staying grounded”).
- Build your capacity to receive and feel safe in success. This looks like daily practices that train your body to tolerate stillness, pleasure, and peace (time in nature, quality presence with family without an agenda, breathwork, or whatever actually lands for you).
- Redefine your “why” beyond achievement. What kind of presence, legacy, and way of being matters most to you now that the old survival story is no longer running the show?
The entrepreneurs who compound their wins into a life of increasing peace and power aren’t the ones who simply achieve more. They’re the ones who do the identity and nervous system work that most people skip. Success without this internal evolution often becomes its own prison.
If you want to learn more from me or send me a personal message I’ll respond to you on Instagram at https://instagram.com/iamjoelbrown speak soon!
Entrepreneurs
The Brutal Truth About Entrepreneurship with ADHD (And Why Most Advice Is Making It Worse)
You’re not lazy. You’re not undisciplined… and you’re definitely not broken.
You’re an entrepreneur with ADHD, and right now you’re probably sitting on 19 unfinished projects, 47 open tabs, and a brain that feels like it’s running on 12 different radio stations at once.
You’ve read the books. You’ve tried the planners, the Pomodoro timers, the accountability groups. You’ve even hired coaches who promised to “fix” your focus. Yet here you are — brilliant ideas, massive potential, and a business that still feels like it’s one step away from collapsing under the weight of your own mind.
Here’s what almost nobody in the entrepreneurial space will admit:
The real struggle isn’t your ADHD. It’s that you’ve been trying to run a neurodivergent brain inside a neurotypical business model — and then beating yourself up when it doesn’t work.
Most advice for entrepreneurs was written by people whose brains work differently. They preach consistency, routines, long-term planning, and steady execution like those things are universal truths. For the ADHD entrepreneur, those “truths” feel like trying to swim upstream in cement. You can force it for a while (and you have), but eventually your brain rebels, the burnout hits, and you’re left feeling like a failure who just needs to “try harder.”
That cycle is quietly destroying more talented founders than cash flow problems or bad hires ever could.
The deeper layer most people never reach is this: your ADHD isn’t a bug in the system. It’s a different operating system entirely. And when you stop trying to install Windows on a Mac and start building everything around macOS, the game changes completely.
The Hidden Addiction That Keeps ADHD Entrepreneurs Stuck
You already know the surface symptoms — time blindness, rejection sensitivity, starting strong and fading fast, shiny object syndrome.
But the real trap is more insidious.
It’s the addiction to chaos and novelty.
Your brain is wired for dopamine. New ideas, big visions, last-minute sprints, high-stakes pressure — these things light you up like nothing else. The boring, repetitive, systems-building work that actually scales a business? It feels like torture.
So unconsciously, you keep your business in a state of controlled chaos. You say yes to too many things. You chase the next exciting opportunity. You avoid building the boring infrastructure because “I work better under pressure anyway.”
And every time the pressure gets too high, you crash, swear you’ll get organized next quarter, and repeat the cycle.
Meanwhile, the neurotypical advice keeps telling you to “just build better habits.” As if your brain is a poorly trained dog that needs more discipline instead of a high-performance race car that needs the right fuel and track.
This isn’t a character flaw. It’s neurology.
And until you stop treating your wiring as something to overcome and start treating it as your greatest strategic advantage, you’ll stay stuck in the same exhausting loop.
The Identity Shift That Changes Everything
The entrepreneurs with ADHD who finally break through don’t “fix” their brains.
They redesign their entire business to work with their brains.
They stop trying to become the consistent, routine-loving founder the gurus talk about. Instead, they become the architect of a system that leverages their natural strengths — hyperfocus, pattern recognition, creative problem-solving, relentless drive under pressure — while outsourcing or automating everything that drains them.
This is the layer most ADHD entrepreneurs never reach because it requires something terrifying: accepting that you are never going to be “normal” at entrepreneurship… and that’s exactly why you can win bigger than most.
Your ability to see connections others miss. Your tolerance for uncertainty. Your capacity to go all-in when something lights you up. These aren’t liabilities. They’re unfair advantages in a world that rewards speed, creativity, and bold moves.
The shift is simple but brutal:
Stop trying to manage your ADHD. Start designing your business around it.
How to Actually Build a Business That Works With Your Brain
- Stop fighting your energy cycles — weaponize them. Most ADHD entrepreneurs try to force 8-hour focused days. That’s insane. Instead, track when your brain actually works best (for many it’s 10pm-2am or random 4-hour hyperfocus bursts). Build your schedule around those windows. Protect them like gold. Do the deep, high-leverage work then. Use the low-energy periods for admin, calls, or recovery.
- Build “chaos containers,” not rigid systems. Traditional project management tools feel like cages. Create loose but effective structures that give your brain freedom. Use tools like Notion with massive flexibility, or body-doubling (working alongside someone virtually), or even hiring a “chaos wrangler” — an assistant who thrives on turning your scattered ideas into executable plans.
- Turn your rejection sensitivity into rocket fuel. That intense fear of letting people down or looking stupid? Channel it into creating ridiculously high standards for your customer experience or product quality. Use it as fuel instead of letting it paralyze you.
- Outsource the parts that make you want to die. The execution, follow-through, and maintenance phases are where most ADHD entrepreneurs lose. Hire or partner with people who love the details. Your job is vision, strategy, and big swings. Let someone else own the spreadsheets.
- Create external pressure on your own terms. Deadlines and public commitments work wonders for the ADHD brain. Use them strategically — announce launches, create beta groups, or work with coaches who understand neurodivergence instead of fighting it.
The entrepreneurs with ADHD who are quietly crushing it right now aren’t the ones who finally became “disciplined.” They’re the ones who stopped apologizing for how their brain works and started building empires that are specifically engineered for it.
They have teams that handle the boring stuff. They have systems that flex with their energy instead of fighting it. They’ve turned their “flaws” into the exact reasons their businesses stand out.
Your ADHD brain is not the enemy. The enemy was trying to play the game by rules that were never designed for you.
The moment you accept that and start designing everything… your calendar, your team, your offers, your processes — around how you actually operate, the struggle doesn’t disappear… but it becomes manageable, even exhilarating.
You were never meant to fit the mold. You were meant to break it and build something better.
The world doesn’t need another cookie-cutter entrepreneur. It needs the chaotic, brilliant, all-in, slightly unhinged visionaries who can only operate at full power when the game is built for them.
That’s you.
Stop trying to fix yourself. Start building the business that was always meant to be run by a mind like yours.
Your next breakthrough isn’t going to come from working harder or being more consistent. It’s going to come from finally giving yourself permission to work differently.
And when you do that? Watch what happens.
The same brain that once felt like a curse becomes the exact reason your business becomes unstoppable.
You’ve got this. Not despite the ADHD. Because of it.
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Entrepreneurs
The Silent Killer of Entrepreneurial Dreams (And How to Make Sure It Never Takes Yours Down)
You started with fire in your belly. The vision was crystal clear. But somewhere along the way the doubts crept in. The “what if I’m wrong” thoughts. The comparison to everyone else’s highlight reel. The quiet voice that says maybe you should just play it safe and get a real job.
That voice is the silent killer. Not cash flow problems. Not bad hires. Not even market shifts. It’s self-doubt that quietly talks most entrepreneurs out of their biggest breakthroughs.
I’ve been in rooms with founders who’ve raised millions and still battle it daily. The difference between those who push through and those who fold isn’t talent or luck. It’s how they handle the internal noise.
The game-changer is learning to treat doubt as a signal, not a stop sign.
Every time that voice gets loud, it usually means you’re on the edge of something important. Growth lives right outside your comfort zone. The entrepreneurs who scale don’t silence the doubt—they thank it for showing up and then take the next step anyway.
Here’s how to make that practical.
Keep a “proof file.”
Every win, every positive customer note, every metric that moved in the right direction. When doubt hits, open it. Evidence beats emotion every single time. Most founders are terrible at remembering their own wins. They move the goalpost so fast that yesterday’s victory feels ordinary by today. A simple document or folder where you collect proof changes the internal conversation. It becomes harder to believe the doubt when you have a running list of times you were wrong about your own limits.
Surround yourself with people who are playing a bigger game.
Isolation breeds doubt. A strong peer group normalizes the struggle and reminds you you’re not crazy. The entrepreneurial path is full of invisible landmines. Having people who’ve stepped on a few of them—and lived to tell the tale… makes the journey feel less lonely and more possible. Find masterminds, find mentors, find founders a few steps ahead of you who are willing to be honest about the hard parts.
Reframe failure as data.
Every setback is just information about what to do differently next time. The fastest learners treat mistakes like tuition, not tragedy. This doesn’t mean you celebrate failure or become reckless. It means you extract the lesson quickly and move forward without carrying the emotional weight longer than necessary. The founders who win long-term are the ones who fail fast, learn faster, and keep their identity separate from any single outcome.
Get brutally clear on your “why.”
Not the surface-level money or freedom story. The deep one that still lights you up even when the work sucks. Reconnect with it daily. When doubt shows up, it’s often because you’ve lost sight of the deeper reason you started. Spend time with that reason. Write it down. Say it out loud. Let it remind you that the discomfort is temporary and the mission is bigger than the fear.
And finally, give yourself permission to be in process.
Most entrepreneurs compare their chapter one to someone else’s chapter ten. They see the polished results and forget the messy middle that every successful founder had to walk through. Your story isn’t over. It’s not even close. The doubt you feel today might be the exact thing that forces you to get clearer, stronger, and more intentional than you’ve ever been.
The path of entrepreneurship was never meant to feel safe. That’s the whole point. It forces you to become the kind of person who can handle bigger problems and bigger wins. Doubt will show up. It always does. But it doesn’t get to drive.
You do.
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