Success Advice
5 Things I Learned Hanging Out With 12 Multi Millionaires
In 2015, I decided to reach out to wealthy people to understand how they got there. From having lunch with Robert Kiyosaki, author of Rich Dad, Poor Dad to spending an hour with Kevin Green, the United Kingdom’s largest residential property owner, I managed to meet and interact with 12 multi-millionaires.
For the purposes of my study, I picked people who didn’t start up rich. All of them started as average people and none of them inherited their money.
Here are the five things they all had in common:
1. They didn’t want jobs
They were not lawyers or doctors. Most of them didn’t even have a University degree. None of them had a job and most importantly, none of them would have got rich with a job. There is a funny joke that I heard four times which is that having a job means being “just over broke.”
Bob Proctor once said: ”There are only two ways to make money. One is people at work and the other is money at work.”
When you have a job, you get paid for selling your time and therefore you are using option one, which is yourself at work. It’s long, it’s tiring and it’s hard, especially if you don’t like your job… And your boss. And since there are only so many hours in a day, your earning potential will always be capped to your hourly rate and the number of hours you can work in a day.
Part of working smarter is about understanding how to leverage your time and your money to do more with less. It is about shifting from a consumer mindset, to an investor mindset. Steve Forbes defined being rich as “making one million dollars of passive income every year.” And as you have guessed it by now, passive income is built outside of your job.
“You become financially free when your passive income exceeds your expenses.” – T. Harv Eker
2. They were entrepreneurs/investors
They didn’t need jobs because they had created systems that were working for them. In other words, they were entrepreneurs who created multiple businesses. They had all decided to become creators and provide something of value to the world. At the same time, they unleashed option number two which is money at work.
That is to say that they were investors having their money working for them and growing while they were sleeping. Being an entrepreneur and being an investor go hand in hand because an entrepreneur creates value while an investor knows how to recognize value. And while business is a tough game, sometimes an idea is all it takes.
Think about someone like J.K Rowling who was on welfare before she wrote Harry Potter. Your knowledge and your creativity can be the key to your wealth. And while everyone is not meant to be an entrepreneur, we can all come up with creative ways to earn more and learn how to become investors.
3. They constantly over delivered
Something that really stuck with me to this day is that I always expected getting to interact with these people would be interesting, but it has been far beyond my expectation every single time. Free unexpected gifts? Check. Personal contacts given post interview for further questions? Check.
An initial 10-minute interview turned into a 45-minute interview? Check, check, check. You expect them to be good and they are better. You expect them to give and they give even more. The extent to which they over deliver is mind-boggling. It’s a very different concept of business that I discovered. Very different than the general stereotype out there that you have to rip people off to succeed. Thinking about it, I came to believe that these people got there because of their philosophy.
4. They were self aware
Out of the twelve people I interviewed, very different industries were represented. However, what was striking was that every single one of them seemed to have created the most suited position for themselves. Interestingly, they didn’t mind admitting to their own shortcomings because they were deeply self-aware individuals.
When I naively asked Robert Kiyosaki what it took to be a great teacher, he replied with his infamous cut-throat-Kiyosaki-style of delivery that it was a stupid question. Then he went on to say that he would have loved to become a professional Rugby player but that he was too slow for it. He didn’t conclude anything but I guess it was his way of saying that you have to be self-aware.
Before Kevin Green became the first residential property owner in the U.K, he got a scholarship and traveled the world to interview overachievers like Bill Gates and the man who would later become his mentor, Richard Branson. His major finding was that self-awareness is the master key to success.
Likewise, when Tai Lopez asked me what I would do if I had $5 billion in my account today, he proceeded with asking me if I was any good at this. These people discovered what they were good at and went all in.
“Self-awareness allows people to recognize what things they do best so they can then go hard on those aspects of their life. It also helps you accept your weaknesses.” – Gary Vaynerchuk
5. They had a sense of purpose
They also got there because they had strong reasons. They’ve had pain in their lives, which made them decide that they wanted to be rich. It was interesting to note that none of the twelve people I met seemed to have gotten there as a result of luck.
They made a decision, which often came as a result of a traumatic life experience. This pain is what makes them driven and passionate individuals. Because of that, their wealth has a meaning. It’s transcending, almost spiritual. It’s about leaving their mark on the world.
Out of the four wealth building books, Kevin Green recommended me, two of them didn’t have anything to do with money but were rather philosophical books. Finally, Robert Kiyosaki told me: “You don’t belong to yourself, you belong to the universe. So stop being selfish and do something for the world.”
Anyone can learn the mechanics of business and investing but finding your true purpose is tougher a challenge. What problem do you want to solve? How do you want to contribute to the world? What makes your soul sing? These are the first questions you need to ask yourself. Once you find your purpose the doors of wealth and happiness will be opened to you.
What have you learned from successful people that you have spent some time with? Leave your thoughts below!
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Life
9 Harsh Truths Every Young Man Must Face to Succeed in the Modern World
Before chasing success, every young man needs to face these 9 brutal realities shaping masculinity in the modern world.
Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.
Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”
But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.
Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.
Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.
1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse
As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.
Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.
Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:
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Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.
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Read quality literature in your free time.
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Nurture a strong relationship with your family.
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Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.
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Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.
The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.
2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay
You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.
If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.
3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome
Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.
You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.
The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.
4. Rejection Is Never Personal
Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.
Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.
5. Women Value Comfort and Security
Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.
Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.
Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.
6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons
A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.
Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.
Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.
7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form
Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.
It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.
If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.
8. Teaching Is Leadership in Disguise
Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.
Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.
Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.
9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams
One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.
That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.
Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.
Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.
Final Thoughts
The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.
Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.
Because at the end of the day, success isn’t about luck. It’s about who you become when life tests you the most.
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