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The 3 Things YOU Need To Escape Your Rut

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Joel Brown

Most, if not all of my coaching clients and quite frankly anyone that I speak with can testify to being in or ‘near’ a rut of some kind. Be it their health and fitness, their relationships, their career; whatever it is, they are in one. The chances are so are YOU, but what is a rut?

A rut is where you are gaining little or no success, fulfilment or happiness from doing the SAME THINGS every single day! If it is your weight/body then you can’t get out of the ‘pattern’ of eating junk food, being lazy and not exercising. If it is in your relationships then you can’t get out of the ‘pattern’ of taking your loved ones for granted, communicating poorly and initiating no ‘spark’. If it is your career you likely feel ‘stuck’ in the rat race and you feel that you are going to a job that you don’t like every day just to ‘get by’.

And so it continues….

Stuck In A Rut

 

The Negative Life Cycle

It seems then that a rut can be defined as a ‘Negative Life Cycle’. The negativity just breeds more negativity and you can be left feeling like there is no escape. The real kick in the teeth is that ruts start to create new ruts and they create an increasingly steep negative spiral towards despair. For example, you feel down about being stuck in the rat race so you come in from work every day in a negative mood, carrying a whole lot of negative energy with you. This leads you to take it out on your spouse so they begin to feel rejected and react in the form of arguing. This arguing leads you to become even more down so you lose any life spirit and motivation to do anything so you stop exercising and start ‘comfort eating’.

All of a sudden you are left depressed at work, overweight and unhealthy with a marriage on the rocks. Sound familiar?

 

Why can’t you Escape?

Negative Life Cycle

To really change something it is important to understand it. Let’s go back to the beginning of the above scenario; I believe that there are 3 things happening and these are the ‘spokes’ on the wheel of the negative life cycle. Firstly, how you use and treat your body, bad days at work are causing you to move in a depressed way, which is leading you to make unhelpful pictures in your mind (e.g growing towards retirement age in a job you hate) and finally in this negative state of mind you are no place to do something about it. So then your spouse picks up this negative body language which leads them to question you, which leads to you making negative pictures in your mind (e.g them ‘controlling’ you), which leads to you removing yourself from the situation and not doing something about it. Do you see where this is going?

It is easy to see that if this continues for any prolonged period of time you have a pretty exact formula for being unhappy and unsuccessful.

The 3 parts of the Negative Life Cycle become ingrained. You become overweight (sometimes severely so), you are always making bad use of the words and pictures in your mind (you hate people, the world and everything in it) and you are now in the habit of inaction because you believe that it is just the way you are and you can’t change now anyway.

 

Escape Your Rut with the PMA SystemTM

The PMA System

In this Universe of ours, everything always has an opposite: Up and down, Left & Right, Hot & Cold. One simply could not exist without the other. It was upon my enlightenment to this phenomenon that I sensed that there must be people out there that are just as fulfilled, happy and successful as their rut dwelling counterparts are miserable, lost and unsuccessful. That led me to believe that they were doing exactly the opposite of people who are in a rut.

Hey Presto! I started changing people’s lives by really delving into how they treated and used their bodies, what pictures/self-talk they made in their minds and what action they took and so “The PMA SyestemTM” was born.

 

Do It Now!

If you are stuck in a rut in any area of your life, implement The PMA SystemTM NOW! Yes right now, not in 20 minutes not in 2 days, not in 3 weeks; you can get started RIGHT NOW. Let’s use your body/health as an example. If you are not happy with it create a Goal that would make you feel so phenomenal that you start to feel it right now, your breathing changes, your shoulders rise and you start to smile as you start to  ‘see yourself’ as amazing as you know you can be (here is the Miracle Mindset kicking in already). Continue to hold on to that vision of yourself and what you will look and feel like. Feel grateful as if that is the body that you have already! Now it’s time for ACTION, and not just a little bit of action ABUNDANT ACTION!

Join a gym, plan your new healthy eating regimen, buy a workout DVD, go for a walk, and set your alarm for an hour earlier tomorrow morning. It is easy to see how you can rapidly set the wheels in motion so you are living in a positive way where good things keep happening. There are many applications for the PMA system, both in a second by second environment and also in the formation and realisation of longer term goals.

Jermaine Harris is a Coach, Trader, Author and Speaker. He is passionate about human potential and empowering others to change their lives in the same way he did. Jermaine believes that the opposite of being 'stuck in a rut' is possible and explains how in his book, The Rut Buster. Get to know Jermaine better at: jermaine-harris.com

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The Secret Daily Routines Behind History’s Most Brilliant Thinkers

Uncover the daily rituals and hidden habits that powered history’s most brilliant minds to success.

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How to Turn a Simple Link-in-Bio Into a Powerful Brand Hub

Transform your forgotten bio link into a high-impact gateway that fuels engagement, clicks, and conversions across every social platform.

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These 11 Habits Will Make You More Productive, Successful, and Confident

Boost your focus, confidence, and results with 11 powerful habits successful people use every day.

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Successful people love to help beginners. They have an incredible work ethic and rarely complain. As a result, others naturally look up to them and want to follow in their footsteps.

But here’s the truth: there’s no success without sacrifice. You’ll need to give up comfort, excuses, and sometimes even social approval to accomplish your goals.

Value comes from solving problems, and these 11 powerful tips will help you become more productive, successful, and confident, starting today.

1. Take Short Breaks After Finishing a Task

Psychology shows it’s important to reward positive behaviour.

After completing a big task or finishing a book, take five minutes to walk, stretch, or simply breathe. This quick reset helps your brain recharge and strengthens focus.

Many great writers swear by morning walks, solitude, and reflection can unlock creativity.

But if you refuse to take breaks, don’t be surprised when burnout hits. Your brain needs recovery time just as much as your body does.

2. Schedule Your Most Important Tasks First

Multitasking kills productivity. If you want to get more done, try time blocking, a method where you dedicate set periods for specific tasks.

Productivity expert Caitlin Hughes explains, “Time blocking involves scheduling blocks of time for your tasks throughout the day.”

For example, if you’re a writer:

  • Research your topic at night.

  • Write your first draft in the morning (don’t worry if it’s rough).

  • Edit in the afternoon, great writing comes from rewriting.

You can’t buy more time. Use it intentionally and without regret.

3. Eliminate Distractions from Your Workspace

Focus is the foundation of success.

According to Inc. Magazine, it takes an average of 23 minutes to recover from a distraction. That’s nearly half an hour of lost productivity every time you check your phone.

Put your phone away. Close unnecessary tabs. And yes, limit your Netflix binges.

Meeting deadlines consistently is one of the fastest ways to stand out and earn respect.

4. Take Full Responsibility for Your Life

Entrepreneur Derek Sivers once said, “Everything is my fault.”

This mindset doesn’t mean self-blame; it means self-ownership. Stop pointing fingers, making excuses, or waiting for others to change.

If your habits (like smoking or drinking too much) hold you back, it’s time to make better choices. Your friends can’t live your dreams for you; only you can.

5. Invest an Hour a Day in Learning New Skills

Knowledge compounds over time.

Whether you read books, take online courses, or practise a craft, consistent learning gives you a competitive edge.

I used to struggle with academic writing, but I improved by studying the work of great authors and applying what I learned.

Your past doesn’t define you; your actions do. Every new skill adds another tool to your arsenal and makes you more unstoppable.

6. Develop a Growth Mindset

Psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck introduced the concept of fixed vs. growth mindset.

  • A fixed mindset believes success is based on natural talent.

  • A growth mindset believes success comes from effort and learning.

Choose the growth mindset. Embrace challenges. See failures as feedback. In today’s fast-moving digital world, adaptability is your biggest advantage.

7. Learn Marketing to Reach People Who Need You

I once believed marketing was manipulative, until I realised it’s about helping people solve problems.

If your work provides genuine value, marketing is how you let others know it exists. Even Apple spends billions on it.

Don’t be ashamed to promote your skills or business. Without visibility, your ideas will never reach the people who need them most.

Creative professionals who understand marketing and sales have an unfair advantage.

8. Ask Your Mentor the Right Questions

Good mentors can fast-track your growth.

While mentorship often costs money, it’s one of the best investments you can make. Great mentors don’t care about titles; they care about your progress.

If you don’t have access to a mentor yet, books are your silent mentors. Read the best in your field, take notes, and apply what resonates.

9. Build Confidence Through Action, Not Affirmations

Author Ryan Holiday once said, “I don’t believe in myself. I have evidence.”

Confidence doesn’t come from shouting affirmations into the mirror; it comes from proof. Doing hard things, keeping promises to yourself, and following through.

When you consistently take action, your brain gathers evidence that you can handle whatever comes next. That’s real confidence, grounded, earned, and unshakable.

10. Focus on Your Strengths

Your strengths reveal where your greatest impact lies.

If people compliment you on something often, it’s a clue. Lean into it.

A former professor once told me I was creative, and that simple comment gave me the confidence to go all in. I studied creativity, applied it daily, and turned it into my career advantage.

Double down on your strengths. That’s how you build momentum and mastery.

11. Identify and Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs

Your beliefs shape your reality.

For years, I believed I couldn’t be a great writer because of my chronic tinnitus and astigmatism, sensory challenges that made concentration difficult. But over time, I realised those struggles made me more disciplined, observant, and empathetic.

Your limitations can become your greatest motivators if you let them.

Avoid shortcuts. Growth takes time, but it’s always worth it.

Final Thoughts

Becoming productive, successful, and confident isn’t about working harder than everyone else. It’s about working smarter, consistently, and intentionally.

You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. Start small: take a break after your next task, schedule your priorities, or spend one hour learning something new.

Every habit you change compounds into long-term success. Remember, true change comes from practising new behaviours.

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Why One-Size-Fits-All Leadership Will Always Fail (and What Works Instead)

The surprising truth about leadership styles that can make or break your team’s success.

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