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Success Isn’t Luck, It’s Based on the Good Habits of Who We Become

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I am lucky. I believe in luck. BUT My success did not come from luck.

You see, what we do every day lays the groundwork for our luck in many ways. When we achieve our goals, the actions we take and habits we create inform elevated versions of ourselves. From that place luck can spring eternal.

Before we talk about the practical steps to setting ourselves up for success and luck, let’s take a look at what we’re searching for in the first place. 

OH, WHAT A FEELING

Right now, you may be anticipating what you expect to feel when you achieve your goal. Life will be better when you get there. You can already see yourself basking in the sunlight of your personal achievement. 

I want to give you an insider’s secret. You don’t have to get to the finish line to start feeling the way you expect to feel when you reach the goal. We set goals, yes, because we have things we want to achieve in our lifetime but we really set them because we are going after the feeling we expect to have when we achieve those goals. 

Simply put, our thoughts are what drive our feelings and emotions and you are in control of your thoughts. Yes, you are in control of your feelings, right now, at this moment.

Your first action step is to get clear on the feelings that your end goal will bring, then start to bring those feelings into your here and now. 

For example, do you think hitting a certain revenue goal will make you feel abundant and less concerned about paying your bills? Do you want to make more income so you can be more generous? How can you start to practice those feelings of generosity and abundance today? What do you need to think to become more generous? When you are abundant what thoughts are you thinking as you fall asleep at night? 

When you start thinking the thoughts that make you feel the emotions of your desires you are really on to something because you’ve tapped into the energy of flow, and that will get you to your goal so much faster. 

MEET THE NEW YOU

92% of people don’t reach their goals. Why? Because it’s hard work. Part of that hard work is becoming a new person. The person who climbs Mt Everest is not the same person who can currently hike a hill. Years ago I did a triathlon — I always was last as in physical education. I wasn’t an athlete… to finish a triathlon I had to become a new version of myself. The version of me who was a triathlete.
Since I had never done a triathlon, nor was I anything close to an athlete I had no past experience to pull from. So I had to sit down and get clear on what the version of me who had completed a triathlon looked like and even more importantly felt like. 

Feelings of accomplishment, fitness, strength, and confidence came to mind. Tapping into what I had to think and do to feel these feelings gave me a roadmap to who I needed to become before I ever crossed the finish line. 

You become the person who has achieved the goal while you’re in the process of getting to your goal.  

Understanding the feeling you want and visualizing the person you need to become sets a rock solid foundation for the tactical part of reaching your goals. Not having this foundation in place is the difference between goal achievers and goal wishers.

“Luck is when an opportunity comes along and you’re prepared for it.” – Denzel Washington

YES, YOU NEED NEW HABITS 

To become the new version of you, you need to put new habits into place. Here’s why… 

95% of our day is run by our subconscious mind. 95%! This means, for the most mindful person, only 5% of our day is actually run through our prefrontal cortex, the part of our brain where we do thought work. The other 95%? You guessed it, it comes from your habits. 

So when you want to create sustainable change in your life, you set yourself up for success by rewiring that change into your habits.

5 TRICKS TO HELP YOU CREATE NEW HABITS 

#1. Get super specific about what you want to do.  

Habits need clarity and routine. To form a new habit, you need to get detailed on what that habit looks like and how you will execute it. 

Let’s take a look at the difference:

  • Unclear habit without a routine: “I need to spend time on LinkedIn to help build my business.” 
  • Clear habit with a routine: “On Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, right after lunch, I’m going to spend 30 minutes on LinkedIn.” Then you schedule this habit right into your calendar. 

#2. Habits instill when they are comorbid.

Everyone talks about brushing your teeth and putting your workout clothes next to your toothbrush! But how many things can you put next to your toothbrush?! 

To spare your toothbrush think about other habits you can use to connect your new habit. 

  • Eating lunch 
  • Getting dressed 
  • Taking a shower 
  • Cleaning the house 
  • Cooking dinner 

Remember, you already have so many subconscious day-to-day habits… get creative and think about where you can leverage the habits you already have in place. 

#3. Habits that require PHYSICAL movement are much easier to embed.

It’s so much easier to set a new habit by doing something versus desperately trying to NOT do something. Consider this, going for a walk is much easier than willing yourself to not snack after dinner.
Your new habit doesn’t have to involve an all out workout, but think about how you can create new physical cues around something. Maybe after dinner you boil water for a cup of tea instead of eating cookies.

#4. Incorporating your senses makes it easier to rewire new habits.

I’m a full blown chocoholic. I seriously did not think that I could go a day without eating it. When I found myself eating too much of it, I knew I had to bring in the habit reinforcements. I found a cinnamon tea that I love. Smelling and tasting this tea has replaced my need for chocolate every day. A miracle, indeed. 

#5. Lower the barrier of entry for your new habit. 

Simply put, set yourself up for success. Want to cut down the amount of time you spend on social media? Delete the app from your phone. This will also kick up your awareness factor.
When you are aware of what you are or aren’t doing, you are using the 5% of your brain that can make a thoughtful decision versus relying on the 95% of your brain that makes decisions based on your subconscious.

CELEBRATE YOUR LUCK!

Knowing that you have the ability to create your own success and yes luck is life changing. However, let’s not underestimate all of your hard work. Be sure to celebrate your success and luck. 

Mimi Bishop is a business and career strategist and co-founder of The Resting Mind, a company that propels high-achieving Generation X women by owning their worth, speaking their value, and generating wealth via their professional development. Mimi, is a certified life coach and Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner (ELI-MP) who trained at iPEC.  She has been featured on Today with Hoda & Jenna, Business Insider, Entrepreneur, and is a VIP Expert at Fairygodboss.You know you need to do things differently… but just can’t seem to get out of your rut. It’s time to finally achieve your goals. Download your FREE guide The 8% Rule of Transformation. We share the secret—backed by brain science and energy leadership—to create long-lasting and sustainable change so you can transform your life. Download it here.

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Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.

Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”

But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.

Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.

Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.

1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse

As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.

Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.

Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:

  • Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.

  • Read quality literature in your free time.

  • Nurture a strong relationship with your family.

  • Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.

  • Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.

The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.

2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay

You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.

If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.

3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome

Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.

You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.

The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.

4. Rejection Is Never Personal

Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.

Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.

5. Women Value Comfort and Security

Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.

Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.

Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.

6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons

A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.

Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.

Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.

7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form

Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.

It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.

If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.

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Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.

Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.

Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.

9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams

One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.

That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.

Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.

Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.

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The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.

Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.

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