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Laziness Helps You Think About What Matters

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We can’t always be hyper-productive 100% of the time.

Even Elon Musk has days where he’s not building rocket ships and just sitting around eating donuts with coffee. I always believed the lie that you have to be hustling your face off every minute of the day to get what you want.

I’m not saying we should all be lazy; what I’m saying is we are all going to have periods where we are lazy.

If you think you’re never lazy and always ‘ON’ then you’re lying to yourself.


Contemplation

Ever had a hot shower and stood under there for more than ten minutes? You’ve just had a moment of laziness.

Ever sat on the couch and done nothing for thirty minutes with your feet up without reading a book on how to improve yourself? You’ve just had another moment of laziness.

Ever gone and bought a coffee and just sat there drinking it for a really long time? Yep, you guessed it, you’ve been a bad boy/girl again.

Let me ask you a question though: “How clear were your thoughts during this period of laziness?”

I’m willing to bet your answer is something along the lines of “great, fantastic, amazing, etc.”

That’s because during moments of laziness you do your best thinkingIt’s when you’re lazy that you can switch off from the pursuit of your goals and think about what the fuck you’re actually doing. If you’re always running the race, then you can never take a step back and think about the overall strategy.

Many of us spend our entire life constantly chasing goals but never really thinking about what we’re doing or why.

If we spent more time in deliberate laziness, then we’d see our life for what it is and be able to make the necessary changes that will take us to the next level.


Deep thinking

I find that when I’m being lazy, my deepest thoughts reveal themselves to me.

Standing in the shower as an example and just doing nothing helps me think. It’s when I ask myself those really deep life questions like “What the fuck does all this mean when I’m dead?”

The state of mind you need to do deep thinking is not that of a phone full of notifications, overstimulation by the internet and a bottle of vodka. Clear thinking happens when you’re being lazy.

Your mind feels like it’s free and can do what it wants. Your minds not trying to ‘be present’ or be creative or solve another business problem. Your mind is just doing nothing at all and that’s when it can do the deep thinking that you desperately need to do.

We’re crying out to do more deep thinking. We need it more than ever.

“There’s so much FOMO that we’re exposed to and when we’re lazy and do nothing, we can escape societies pressures on us”


In some ways, I’ve become lazier

I’m doing less than I’ve ever done before.

I only have two goals for the entire year as opposed to about ten the year before. I’ve accepted my newfound laziness as a way to think and be creative. By becoming what people perceive as lazy, I’ve separated the unimportant from the important.

What people see as me being lazy is actually just me being creative. My creativity thrives in nothingness, silence and a bit of laziness.


Productivity has really become unfocused work

The opposite of laziness is productivity. While people look busy at work and we all think we’re so efficient because of tech, we’re actually more unproductive than ever.

We’re doing unfocused work full of distractions and notifications and very little deep work.

The difference with laziness is that it creates leverage in your mind so that it can relax. A relaxed mind can do focused, creative, interesting and deep work.

A stressed mind just tries to do the bare minimum and tick off an endless list of to-do’s that lead nowhere. Unfocused work is emotionally painful and even worse than laziness.


The laziness of doing nothing translated into more productivity

Last week I was feeling guilty after three weeks in Europe and no blog posts. My Medium and LinkedIn engagement decreased by two thirds.

I felt guilty because I’d been lazy exploring the world on holiday. You know what’s really nuts though? While being completely lazy and doing no blogging at all, I had more ideas than I’ve ever had. I returned home to Australia with a different approach to blogging and an even deeper why!

While trekking through the coast of Italy and exploring where the 1992 Olympic Games were held, I managed to turn my mind off and stop thinking about blogging. By not thinking about the thing I loved, I came home more productive than ever. The laziness of doing nothing translated into more productivity through increased creativity.

My writing has gone up a level.

My ability to come up with ideas has gotten better.

My formula for blogging has become more efficient.

All this was thanks to laziness and doing nothing at all for three weeks.


Use laziness to think about what matters and then act

“Using laziness as a tool is all well and good but don’t mistake this article for a permission slip to become a fat slob and do nothing.”

At some point, ideally after your lazy period, you still need to do the work.Laziness without some form of action will not be the panacea you’re hoping for. Laziness on its own is not what you are looking for.

Periods of laziness followed by action is the tango dance that works well. A bit from Column A and a bit from Column B. Periods of laziness and periods of work.


I’m no longer afraid to be lazy

When I have a period of my life when I’m lazy, I’m no longer going to be angry about it.

Why? Because I know what follows is some of the best work I’ve ever done and that’s what matters to me.

You have the same opportunity. Don’t be afraid to be lazy once in a while. You can’t always be ON. Sometimes you have to switch off.

Laziness is a get-out-of-jail-free-card you want to put into your schedule at least once a week.

Hack your productivity. Use laziness to your advantage.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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