Success Advice
Coaching Yourself Into Success: 3 Mindful Points That Accelerate Results
Coaching yourself through your day is an outstanding way to dramatically improve your results. Of course, all types of coaching are good, but getting high-power coaching from top coaches is incredibly good and can take things beyond your wildest expectations. However, having coaches like that with you, constantly checking your mindset throughout your day, is either going to be hugely inconvenient for your work and relationships.
This is where mindfulness and coaching blend together to form an amazing route to success. Naturally, being mindful is good because it keeps your thoughts in check and helps you overcome certain challenges within your mind.
Mindful Coaching Through The NLP Cartesian Coordinates For Growth And Success
Within NLP, cartesian coordinates bring an outstanding way of busting through limiting beliefs, procrastination, and things you’re holding yourself back from. They’re also incredibly simple to use. Ask yourself the following four questions:
- What wouldn’t happen if I did?
- What would happen if I did?
- What would happen if I didn’t?
- What wouldn’t happen if I didn’t?
Regardless of what you’re holding back from, these four questions can bring a huge amount of insight which quite often shocks the coaching clients I work with when they encounter them.
NLP’s cartesian coordinates expose a totally new set of information which few people are actually aware of. Consequently, they make decisions based on incomplete data, often leading to outcomes they wished to avoid. In exposing that extra information in a mindful way, you can then coach yourself into far better decisions which can put a rocket under your success building efforts.
As such, these are some of the coaching techniques which most coaches would likely prefer kept secret. Personally I think cartesian coordinates and the value they yield are too valuable to keep a secret.
“Free your expectation of the future from the grip of past failure.” – John Seymour
Coaching Through The Wider Mindful Success Impact Paradigm
Success impact is something most people rarely think about. What most people do is set a goal and achieve it. We all have experiences of successfully achieving goals which have some unintended negative impact on others and backlash which comes as a result. This can detract from that success or can nullify it completely.
Another great NLP technique comes in the shape of what is effectively a success impact paradigm. That is, understanding the wider impact of successfully achieving your goals. Naturally, you know of how goal achievement is going to impact you. This NLP technique looks at whether that goal achievement is ethically good for others around you, and then for the wider world too.
The intent with this is developing goals that are going to bring positive impact on all levels for yourself, others, and the wider world. Coaching yourself through this can help you accomplish your goals in a way which makes them far easier to achieve because they also bring wider support from others who will benefit.
With every goal, dream, and even smaller things like business decisions, applying this success impact paradigm will help you develop greater success.
Coaching Yourself Into Mindfully Letting Go And Moving On For Faster Success
Dragging baggage from the past through the present and into the future is one of the worst things people can do. Being able to let go of the past is a wise habit to coach yourself into.
Truly letting go of the past is a mindset condition that coaching yourself into can bring incredible benefits. The decisiveness of only accepting and keeping positive benefit driven things in your life leverages your ability to generate success.
This does require a fairly disciplined level of mindfulness along with discipline when coaching yourself through deciding what is worth keeping and what you need to let go.
Think of hoarders, the clutter they have, and how it affects their space. Then think of feng shui, clean flowing energy which focuses in with ease, allowing positive feeling and success to come with greater ease. This psychological process of letting go, through all the mental and emotional baggage you accumulate, brings success and happiness with far greater ease.
Just think of how much energy and strength it takes to move in one direction, when you’re being pulled in a different one. It puts you under strain and forces you to focus harder. Yet, when you have nothing pulling you off course, your energy and focus aligns in a pure way which brings far easier results.
“The mind moves in the direction of our currently dominating thought.” – Earl Nightingale
Coaching Yourself Into Mindful Alignment So That Dreams And Goals Come Through Successfully And With Ease
Alignment is key to everything where energy is concerned. When working on successful achievement of goals and dreams, that alignment taken to the core of your mindset is what brings the best results in the most time efficient way.
Incorporating everything we spoke about above into your daily habits can massively transform your ability to achieve success. Having worked with them for well over a decade, I can happily testify to the difference they make. I know when I stop using them, I have far more challenges.
Coaching yourself into success, streamlining your mindset, and aligning with positive psychology makes your journey far easier and enjoyable. Getting quality coaching that uproots deep issues is worthwhile, and for when you are unable to have your coach with you 24/7, these mindful points used in self coaching help you gain amazing breakthroughs.
How do you coach yourself and make sure you’re on the path to success? Share your thoughts with us below!
Life
9 Harsh Truths Every Young Man Must Face to Succeed in the Modern World
Before chasing success, every young man needs to face these 9 brutal realities shaping masculinity in the modern world.
Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.
Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”
But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.
Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.
Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.
1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse
As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.
Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.
Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:
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Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.
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Read quality literature in your free time.
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Nurture a strong relationship with your family.
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Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.
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Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.
The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.
2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay
You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.
If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.
3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome
Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.
You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.
The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.
4. Rejection Is Never Personal
Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.
Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.
5. Women Value Comfort and Security
Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.
Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.
Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.
6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons
A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.
Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.
Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.
7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form
Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.
It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.
If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.
8. Teaching Is Leadership in Disguise
Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.
Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.
Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.
9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams
One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.
That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.
Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.
Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.
Final Thoughts
The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.
Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.
Because at the end of the day, success isn’t about luck. It’s about who you become when life tests you the most.
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In a world driven by rapid technological growth and constant competition, many people unknowingly trade joy for achievement. (more…)
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