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6 Reasons Why Successful People Want You to Fail

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Failure is a bad thing. That’s how we are conditioned from very early on. And so we take all the challenges in our life with an extra effort to avoid failure.

Highly effective entrepreneurs have a different approach to failure. Instead of warding off failure, they include it in their everyday life to benefit from it. They use the learnings from their defeats to find their sweet spot.

Extremely successful people make a difference between being a failure or having failures along your way to success. They don’t want you to be a failure, they want you to have failures.

Here are 6 reasons why successful people want you to have failures:

1. The “license to fail” boosts your actions

Fear of failure is always an action killer. Instead of taking massive action, we sit and ponder what strategy is best to avoid failures. A “permission to fail” stops that unfruitful paralysis. Our mind switches into “free trial” mode. If it’s okay or even helpful to fail, why wait any longer to try things out!

Your execution level will drastically increase while your focus shifts from (pessimistic) problem-avoiding to (optimistic) solutions-finding. This also triggers your innovative potential a lot.

A great example for what a positive attitude towards failure can result in, are the highly successful innovators you find in Silicon Valley. Instead of fearing failures, they collect them as trophies.

“Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.” – George Edward Woodberry

2. Your willingness to take risks will grow

Practicing to fail grows your trust in the learnings you can carry away from each defeat. You not only take more action, you take more courageous action.Our comfort zones are often the limiting factor to the growth and momentum of our businesses.

A courageous mind helps you leave your comfort zone and act outside of it. That’s when things you thought were impossible for you to do, start to appear doable and less daunting.

3. You train your staying power

It’s sad but true – most ambitious entrepreneurs are drawn into a vicious cycle that makes them give up before they even really started. They obsessively count the bad sides of their setbacks, which slowly eats their self-esteem (and focused actions), leading them to surrender far too early. Accepting and practicing failure breaks that a catch-22.

Knowing that failing is a “default” component of building a successful business, is a total game changer. If a non-success hits you, you get up quickly to apply its learnings to reach the next level of the business-building-game you love to play.

Your inner counter detects the wins, not the losses of your failures. And even if you already have lots of defeats in your backpack, you don’t feel their burden because you know the next failure is just one more step towards your goal.

4. Your actions become more fruitful

Without the fear of failure breathing down your neck, you have much better focus in your actions. You spend less time dilly-dallying over too many options. And your tendency to get bogged down in details decreases.

Impediments like procrastination and your ongoing search for distractions lose dominance in your working days. There’s no reason for you to run from facing potential obstacles any longer.

Over time, massive compound effects of all the learnings you collect show up. And you can only become smarter and more effective with every further step that you do.

5. You gain traction faster

Speaking of compound effects – let’s summarize the advantages of dealing with failure in a proactive, constructive way:

  • instead of hesitating with actions, you boost your action taking
  • instead of avoiding risks, you act courageously outside your comfort zone
  • instead of giving up far too early, you take failures as stepping stones to your final goals
  • instead of poor results (coming from being occupied by fear of failure), you collect great accomplishments from your highly focused, confident actions

All this leveling up sums up in another major benefit; You gain traction much faster. Yes, it’s like putting unstoppable momentum in motion, which has huge potential to not only affect your business, as you can see in the next and final point!

“Forget about the consequences of failure. Failure is only a temporary change in direction to set you straight for your next success.” – Denis Waitley

6. You live your full potential

Highly successful people don’t take failure as a temporary evil they have to accept it for the limited time of building something. Instead, they make failure – and especially the improvements they gain from it an integral, permanent part of their lifestyle.

Yes, these icons of success aim for improvements in all areas of their lives. They take the risk of failing, to lift their business, their mindset, their health, their relationships and their family life.

Have you ever wondered why successful people love to tweak their habits? They fine tune their traits as plain as it sounds, to become the best version they can be. That’s why so many success celebs are bursting with mental strength and physical energy.

Fear of failure, the daily grind, low self-esteem and several other things keep most of us from reaching our full potential. Don’t let that be you. Start collecting your failure trophies today so you can build success and live a happier life!

How has failure helped you succeed? Share your thoughts below!

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Vera Kuhr is a coach that helps the overwhelmed, distracted, procrastinating, impatient, paralyzed and however else struggling digital entrepreneur to get unstuck and pivot to success. Get her free course and learn how to leave out the most sneaky game-over traps of blogging.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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