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50 Life Lessons Every One Should Know By The Age Of 50

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The following 50 valuable life lessons where written by Regina Brett, from Cleveland , Ohio.

These gems of knowledge have been learnt over the past 50 years, why would you not want to get your knowledge up and read on for a little ‘Life 101’.

 

50 Life Lessons

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

42. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

45. The best is yet to come.

46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

48. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.

49. Yield.

50. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

 

Written By Regina Brett | The Plain Dealer

I am the the Founder of Addicted2Success.com and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances. I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 200 million lives in the last 10 years.

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23 Comments

23 Comments

  1. Nancy

    Sep 9, 2017 at 7:53 am

    keep up the good work. Thanks for your share and effort, better than other sites. This is the kind of information that are meant to be shared around the internet.

  2. Domo

    Jul 17, 2016 at 9:22 am

    Comment: Awesome words !

  3. John Gardner

    Sep 19, 2013 at 11:35 am

    Not just for people approaching 50. I teach high school band and will use #11, #24, #38, #40 to deal with specific, current “drama” going on between some of our teens.

  4. V Srinivasan

    Apr 11, 2013 at 12:42 am

    a message which one should read and follow

  5. Brain E

    Dec 28, 2012 at 11:02 am

    51. You don’t need an imaginary friend in the sky to enjoy life.

    • Home Biz Tax Coach

      Jan 3, 2013 at 1:21 pm

      Live and let live

    • Ta'Mara Brown

      Apr 8, 2013 at 7:49 am

      Did you imagine yourself here on Earth Brain E? Did you imagine the start of all creation? Have you imagined the other side of death when your life is over? Imagine yourself telling the Creator of the Universe your ‘comment’ when you go to meet your maker… Will you have the same boldness and attitude?
      Imagine telling the Son of God who died for you, the same thing… Can you imagine what hell will be like for the fate of those who choose NOT to believe in the obvious God and Jesus Christ, whom modern science has even proven existed, died, and rose from the tomb in which he was laid to rest after being killed and sacrificed for you and me…
      He’s more than a friend in the sky. I challenge you to use your imagination and imagine eternity in only one of two places… Heaven or Hell.
      It’s your free choice, Jesus loves you even in the midst of such harsh offensive words.
      He is and can be your redeemer savior father and friend!
      May God bless you with the grace to be open hearted while you still have time.
      He loves even you! :-)))
      Take care and God bless!

      • julien

        May 4, 2013 at 2:37 pm

        Everyone has the right to believe in what they want, no need to lecture others since they have different views. You live your life to the fullest and let them live theirs.

        • angela

          May 17, 2013 at 1:05 pm

          i love you julien, you are the best

      • Chris

        Dec 17, 2013 at 4:44 am

        look i think a lot of these are really good lessons but the God stuff I try to ignore so i can believe in the correct lessons you say. Just understand not everyone believes in the stuff you do and stating these lessons with a closed mind like this is going to lose non religious peoples’ attention. And it makes me feel like you have something against people who don’t believe in Christianity which is a majority of humans who either believe in another religion or none. You can’t expect non Christians to take Christian lessons seriously.
        What if all your Christian lessons were replaced with Hindu lessons for example? Might as well rename topic “life lessons for Christians”.

        -ta mara brown, You can tell everyone what you believe, but I shouldn’t have to explain the difference of telling people what you believe and why we should find credibility in what you believe.

    • Wm. Derek Graham.

      Mar 29, 2014 at 9:15 pm

      You’ll change your mind when you meet Him.

  6. charles

    Dec 14, 2012 at 8:04 pm

    I read this almost everyday, I say keep the list going or start a new one that updates with great tips on how to live a better life.

  7. The Old Dog

    Dec 4, 2012 at 1:31 am

    Excellent! I learned many of these the hard way unfortunately. 😉

    I’m closing in on 50 now and must say that each decade has been better than the one before. I expect my 50s to be the best yet!

  8. Victor

    Sep 30, 2012 at 4:18 pm

    “Pay off your credit cards every month.” – best advice and lesson ever! 🙂

  9. Jac

    Sep 30, 2012 at 12:54 pm

    Thanks for this cool list. I really enjoyed it.

    Here’s one to add maybe for the 51st year: “Wisdom comes not from always being right, but from learning from all the mistakes you made”.

  10. Mark

    Sep 29, 2012 at 3:24 pm

    Wow, thanks for several reminders.

  11. Andy

    Sep 23, 2012 at 10:39 am

    I’ve read a quote:
    “listen to your elder advise not because they are always right. but because they have more experiences of being wrong..”

    thanx for post it, it gives me more advise from the elders 😀

  12. Sue Sanders

    Sep 22, 2012 at 11:11 pm

    Great List!! Thinking of and praying for ya’ll!

  13. Maja

    Sep 21, 2012 at 9:27 pm

    Some really nice and wise advice there. A good read 🙂

  14. Anna

    Sep 21, 2012 at 1:54 pm

    Excellent. Thank you!

  15. Amandah

    Sep 21, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    Great list!

    It’s true that life isn’t fair sometimes. Learn from your mistakes and go around the obstacles in front of you — don’t struggle to bulldoze through them. You never know what valuable lessons they have to teach you.

  16. mofokeng july

    Sep 21, 2012 at 12:32 pm

    I feel healed already,this makes me wanna go out there and make success of my life.

    • Dorian

      Nov 5, 2012 at 6:57 pm

      #11 really spoke to me. It was extremely hard to make peace with my past.

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When I hear someone using my name once in a while throughout the conversation we are having, I cannot stop myself thinking “this person must have read Dale Carnegie’s books or must have been influenced by someone who read them…” Have you just recalled a similar moment and it felt nice?

As Dale Carnegie famously said, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and the most important sound in any language”. Why did Dale Carnegie highlight the importance of an individual’s name to that person in his “How to Win Friends and Influence People” book published in 1936?

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Let’s park this one for now and we will come back. 

Categorization is essential to our survival

There is countless scientific research telling us about how our brains recognize similarities and put things into categories, which has been crucial to our survival in evolution and still helps us with a lot of things from learning new things to coping with the continuous influx of massive amounts of information through our senses. 

The continuous influx of information is mostly handled by our subconscious mind rather than conscious. It is estimated that our brains receive about 11 million bits of information every second through our senses, of which only 40-50 bits can be processed by our conscious mind. We process more information than we are aware of. The magic here is the subconscious mind.

An example is when you are at a very loud party where you hear a lot of words flying around without you recognizing each one of them, then suddenly, you immediately catch it when you hear your name. Your subconscious had been processing all of those words, without your awareness, but informed your conscious mind when your name was out there because it was relevant to you.

In order to most effectively process this much information and inform the conscious mind with only the relevant ones, our subconscious employs categorization as one of its strategies.

When our ancestors encountered some deadly predators in the African savanna, their subconscious prompted their conscious mind to immediately fight or flight by categorizing the information gathered through their senses into “predator / life threat / take action”. Most probably we are not descendants of the ones that were frozen rather than fighting or flighting! 

Although it is a completely different situation, the same strategy applied in remembering lists. Let’s look at the below two lists.

  1. lion, eagle, shark, leopard, hawk, whale, panther, falcon and dolphin 
  2. lion, leopard, panther, eagle, hawk, falcon, shark, whale and dolphin

The second list is easy to remember because it is reordered into relevant groups even though the content of the both lists are identical.

Subconsciousness is the magic and categorization is one of its key strategies. It is essential to our survival, learning new skills and processing information as well as bringing back the information we had processed and stored. 

This amazing skill has its drawbacks

As a result of our brains’ categorization strategy, we also categorize people, especially if we don’t know them as well as our closest ones.

Imagine I am sitting at the table next to yours while you are having your favorite coffee and working on your computer or reading your novel at your neighborhood coffee shop. I stand up, very calmly grab your bag, and start walking away. Your reaction might be quite different depending on my outfit. It could be much more vocal and harsh if I have a dirty T-Shirt and a pair of torn jeans on. However, if I have some navy colored, 3-piece suit and well-pressed white button up shirt on, you might even say something like “Excuse me, you might have picked up my bag by mistake”. (There is an experiment done by social psychologists which reported similar results)

Similarly, I would not be surprised to hear that my co-worker’s spouse is very skilled and knowledgeable in English grammar and literature because he is an English teacher. However, I would not expect it from my co-worker herself because she is an outstanding chemical engineer.  

This is defined as unconscious bias or stereotyping, as a result of our subconscious brain’s categorization strategy. The outfit I have at the coffee shop impacts your response to my action, because it puts me into a different category in your mind depending on my outfit. My co-worker’s and her spouse’s backgrounds make me put them into different categories, which might mislead me sometimes.

Just like we categorize things, it is very natural that we categorize people.  

The key question here for me is; how do we truly treat people as individuals so that they feel unique, just like as they would want, while we know that our brains categorize people

We can overcome unconscious bias 

Leonard Mlodinow, in his enlightening book “Subliminal”, suggests that “if we are aware of our bias and motivated to overcome it, we can.” That doesn’t mean that we need to fight our brain’s categorization strategy. We just need to employ our conscious mind more when we are working or dealing with individuals. 

Our unconscious bias might tell us scientists are bunch of technical nerds who cannot understand abstract concepts that marketers are talking about or it might say that marketers are some daydreamers who need to be grounded by scientists to the real world all the time. I am an engineer and I love thinking in abstract terms and I worked with quite a lot of marketers who thought primarily in factual and concrete terms. 

Spending some effort to learn more about individuals will help overcome unconscious bias. Gathering more information and qualities about them will make it easier for us to treat them as individuals rather than a member of the category we put them in our minds. 

The moral of the story here is to recognize the fact that our brains do categorize, and it is essential; but also, to recognize that every individual wants to feel unique. When we appreciate these two and keep reminding them to ourselves, we are one step closer to figuring out our own way to overcome unconscious bias and treat people more like individuals. 

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