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4 Tips To Help You Succeed In Your Own Way

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What separates the truly accomplished go-getters of the world and the might have beens stuck in a pursuit? Loads of capital, smarts, good looks, connections, and talents are cool and all but they will drive you down a dark path without the right mindset to guide you.

The key to unwavering self-worth and higher quality of life is to develop a mindset conducive to the success that’s meaningful to you.

Here are 4 tips to help you succeed in your own way:

1. Don’t worry about what other people think

Do you believe you were put on this planet to do what everyone else wanted? No? Then don’t act like it.  Successful people do things because they want to, not because someone else is telling them they should. Attempting to gain approval and please everyone else will do nothing but put you in a perpetual state of frustration.

If someone has a problem with you, is that your problem? Or is it theirs? Let them figure out their own solution.  Those drowning in the sea of misery will always try to pull you down to keep their own heads above water. But once you get out of the water, they can’t touch you.

Ask yourself, “Why do I do what I do?”.  Is it because you desire to or is it so you can go run and tell the others? From now on let your mind, filled with your values, passions, and what’s ultimately important to you, guide your behavior.

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” – Bruce Lee

2. Own up to your responsibilities

Who is responsible for your success? No, it’s not the government, or your spouse, or your co-worker, it’s you! But we already knew that, right? So then why are so many people addicted to playing the victim role?

Because it’s the easy way out. Blaming the outside world for the situations in your life may gain you temporary sympathy and instant relief, but it inhibits the long-term results you desire. Not many things in this world make you more powerful and mature than taking responsibility for where you stand.

This is how you go from a self-pitying state to a solution-seeking state. From being a lifeless object at the mercy of circumstances to an empowered human being with the capacity to improve anything.

So who cares about what your boss does, or what situation you were thrown into, or your co-workers incompetence. What matters is your ability and commitment to finding solutions, regardless of who appears to be at fault. The best leaders own up and take responsibility for what happens in their company or to their team. To lead a great life is no different.

 

3. Win for the right reasons

Just because you seem to win all the time doesn’t mean you are a winner. When we win for the sake of winning, we don’t realize what we may lose in the process. Taking the prize for every battle, confrontation, and disagreement may satisfy your ego for the time being, but that’s as far as it will take you.

Don’t get me wrong, winning is the name of the game, if it’s for the right reasons. An obsession with winning can become a distraction to achieving real results. It can also ruin a prized asset if we aren’t strategic with it.

You must know that what others may consider a loss, can sometimes be a long-term win. This realization is crucial to seeing the bigger picture in life and rising above the rest of the pack. Target 100% of your efforts into winning those challenges which actually influence your success.  Why waste your precious energy on meaningless victory?

 

4. The world is yours

How would you know if what I experience as the color blue—and what you experience as the color blue, is identical? Our external sensors are picking up the same electromagnetic frequency. However, once that energy is inside the brain, all bets are off.

Sure, we can agree to call something blue, but that doesn’t mean we see the same thing. In fact, we probably don’t. The outside world is nothing more than a myriad of various energy waves that your brain uses as building blocks to construct its own, customized, three-dimensional representation.

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” – Norman Vincent Peale

In other words, your brain is not recording the world you see, it is actively creating it. When you realize your brain is the engineer of your entire human experience, the possibilities become endless. You have the power to create your world as you desire it. Your only limitation is your imagination. Why not make the best of it?

How will you succeed in your own way? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Brandon Villano is a computer programmer turned mind mastery geek. He is the founder of IntroShift.com, a blog dedicated to cognitive enhancement and mindset development. Brandon has a passion for exploring the infinite power of the human mind and applying that power to fuel greater success and higher quality of life.

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In workplaces around the world, there’s a growing gap between employers and employees and between superiors and their teams. It’s a common refrain: “People don’t leave companies, they leave bad bosses.”

While there are, of course, cases where management could do better, this isn’t just a “bad boss” problem. The relationship between leaders and employees is complex. Instead of assigning blame, we should explore practical solutions to build stronger, healthier workplaces where everyone thrives.

Why This Gap Exists

Every workplace needs someone to guide, supervise, and provide feedback. That’s essential for productivity and performance. But because there are usually far more employees than managers, dissatisfaction, fair or not, spreads quickly.

What if, instead of focusing on blame, we focused on building trust, empathy, and communication? This is where modern leadership and human-centered management can make a difference.

Tools and Techniques to Bridge the Gap

Here are proven strategies leaders and employees can use to foster stronger relationships and create a workplace where people actually want to stay.

1. Practice Mutual Empathy

Both managers and employees need to recognize they are ultimately on the same team. Leaders have to balance people and performance, and often face intense pressure to hit targets. Employees who understand this reality are more likely to cooperate and problem-solve collaboratively.

2. Maintain Professional Boundaries

Superiors should separate personal issues from professional decision-making. Consistency, fairness, and integrity build trust, and trust is the foundation of a motivated team.

3. Follow the Golden Rule

Treat people how you would like to be treated. This simple principle encourages compassion and respect, two qualities every effective leader must demonstrate.

4. Avoid Micromanagement

Micromanaging stifles creativity and damages morale. Great leaders see themselves as partners, not just bosses, and treat their teams as collaborators working toward a shared goal.

5. Empower Employees to Grow

Empowerment means giving employees responsibility that matches their capacity, and then trusting them to deliver. Encourage them to take calculated risks, learn from mistakes, and problem-solve independently. If something goes wrong, turn it into a learning opportunity, not a reprimand.

6. Communicate in All Directions

Communication shouldn’t just be top-down. Invite feedback, create open channels for suggestions, and genuinely listen to what your people have to say. Healthy upward communication closes gaps before they become conflicts.

7. Overcome Insecurities

Many leaders secretly fear being outshone by younger, more tech-savvy employees. Instead of resisting, embrace the chance to learn from them. Humility earns respect and helps the team innovate faster.

8. Invest in Coaching and Mentorship

True leaders grow other leaders. Provide mentorship, career guidance, and stretch opportunities so employees can develop new skills. Leadership is learned through experience, but guided experience is even more powerful.

9. Eliminate Favoritism

Avoid cliques and office politics. Decisions should be based on facts and fairness, not gossip. Objective, transparent decision-making builds credibility.

10. Recognize Efforts Promptly

Recognition often matters more than rewards. Publicly appreciate employees’ contributions and do so consistently and fairly. A timely “thank you” can be more motivating than a quarterly bonus.

11. Conduct Thoughtful Exit Interviews

When employees leave, treat it as an opportunity to learn. Keep interviews confidential and use the insights to improve management practices and culture.

12. Provide Leadership Development

Train managers to lead, not just supervise. Leadership development programs help shift mindsets from “command and control” to “coach and empower.” This transformation has a direct impact on morale and retention.

13. Adopt Soft Leadership Principles

Today’s workforce, largely millennials and Gen Z, value collaboration over hierarchy. Soft leadership focuses on partnership, mutual respect, and shared purpose, rather than rigid top-down control.

The Bigger Picture: HR’s Role

Mercer’s global research highlights five key priorities for organizations:

  • Build diverse talent pipelines

  • Embrace flexible work models

  • Design compelling career paths

  • Simplify HR processes

  • Redefine the value HR brings

The challenge? Employers and employees often view these priorities differently. Bridging that perception gap is just as important as bridging the relational gap between leaders and staff.

Treat Employees Like Associates, Not Just Staff

When you treat employees like partners, they bring their best selves to work. HR leaders must develop strategies to keep talent engaged, empowered, and prepared for the future.

Organizational success starts with people, always. Build the relationship with your team first, and the results will follow.

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