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5 Surprising Ways to Turn Imposter Syndrome into Your Greatest Ally

Imposter Syndrome can be a powerful tool that contributes to your success.

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Imposter Syndrome is a common phenomenon we all experience at some point in our lives. It is associated with feelings of self-doubt, unworthiness, and inadequacy. These feelings arise from our self-perceptions-what we believe about ourselves.

Our self-perceptions are in turn influenced by our immediate environment. For instance, If you experienced verbal abuse as a child, it can affect how you see yourself. In most cases, this experience can lead to Imposter Syndrome.

Nevertheless, Imposter Syndrome can be a powerful tool that contributes to your success. That is, you can use the feelings of Imposter syndrome to your advantage. But the question to answer is, “How can my self-doubt become a tool for my success?  Keep reading to find out. 

5 Common Lies That Reinforce Imposter Syndrome  

Studies have shown that about one-third of young people suffer from imposter syndrome. A similar study revealed that 70% of people in the country are likely to be acquainted at some point in their lives.

You would be shocked to also know that very successful people like Maya Angelou and Albert Einstein, add up to this estimate.

“The exaggerated esteem in which my life work is held makes me very ill at ease. I feel compelled to think of myself as an Involuntary swindler” – Albert Einstein 

In a nutshell, the feelings of an imposter are not unique to you. Over time, that feeling of unworthiness is reinforced by our past experiences. These experiences and lies we’ve come to believe over time. So in this section, we’ll debunk some common lies that validate the feelings of self-doubt. 

Lie #1-Mistakes are for Amateurs

Get this; Even the most accomplished people have room for improvement. What this tells you is that mistakes are a part of the learning process, and It’s how we grow. It should never be interpreted as a sign of inefficiency. Mistakes happen so we can learn from them and adjust.

Lie #2 Being a beginner is as good as being incompetent 

Being a beginner at something does not necessarily mean you don’t deserve to be in the room. It just means you have to be willing to show up, learn, and take action. 

Lie #3 You need more experience to get started 

Experience indeed helps you get ahead. But the truth is you might never have all the experience required to get started. But you’ve got to start anyway.

Lie #4 Perfectionism 

The idea that we have to be 100% perfect in everything reinforces the feelings of inadequacy. Especially because the pursuit of perfection is far-fetched. 

Embracing imperfection allows for growth, resilience, and more authentic self-expression. 

Lie #5 Not acknowledging your wins is the same as being Modest

This is a very common one. In the name of being modest, we quickly shrug off our small and big successes. There’s nothing wrong with being modest. But when it becomes an excuse to discredit your abilities and obvious wins, then it is hurtful.

Why Imposter Syndrome Might be a Good Sign 

Consider this;

Why don’t you feel like an Imposter while watching your favorite Netflix series? Or when you’re doing other fun and less important stuff. Something to think about right?

But you can trust that annoying voice to pop into your head when something good happens. Might be when you just got assigned to a big project or got promoted, or you’re trying to apply to a new role. 

If you notice, in each scenario, there’s the need to step out of your comfort zone. And the “uncomfortable” situations have the potential to bring you a lot of success. 

By that token, it becomes clear that the feelings of impostor syndrome are a signal of change and growth. An interesting and science-backed way to flip the script is to embrace the feelings of imposter syndrome. If you think about it, the presence of these feelings points to the fact that you’re trying new things.

5 Research-Backed Tips to Deal with Imposter Syndrome 

Based on research, there are simple ways to deal with impostor syndrome. In this section, we’ll talk about practical ways to escape the self-massacre of imposter syndrome. 

1. Practice Mindfulness 

When self-doubt creeps in, you need to take the upper hand. To have an upper hand, here’s what you should do; Take a deep breath. Now, consider this; If they gave you the role, it means they trust you enough to deliver. And guess what? That happened only because you’ve been killing it. 

2. Give yourself some credit

Give yourself more credit for all that you are and all you have been able to accomplish. Even as a beginner, taking the steps towards growth is worth celebrating. 

3. Take action 

The easiest way to build confidence in yourself is to start taking action. The action here is showing up to do what is needed to become the person you want to be. Every action, every trial, failure, and win, helps you to build competence. 

4. Cognitive restructuring 

Cognitive restructuring is a powerful technique rooted in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). Here’s how it works; Identify and catch those thoughts that make you feel like an imposter. Thoughts like” I got lucky” and ” I’m not qualified for this”,  and so on. 

Now, consider the evidence that contradicts these negative thoughts. For instance, if you feel your success is due to luck, challenge this by acknowledging your skills and successes.  Even if you’re still learning the ropes, acknowledge the fact that you’re taking the needed action.

5. Develop a Growth Mindset 

Developing a growth mindset will help you learn from your mistakes rather than beat yourself up about them. It’s important to understand that your failures or mistakes present an opportunity to grow. 

The feelings associated with Imposter Syndrome tend to stick around when you can’t get past the “thinking” phase. The moment you start taking action despite your feelings, you explode the syndrome. 

What you’re doing in that moment, is proving to yourself through actions that you know what you’re doing. If you don’t have the required experience that’s okay. What can you do to have one? Start upskilling, practice, and keep learning. 

Truth be told, you’ll never stop feeling like an imposter until you push through the clench and self-doubts. And how do you do that? By taking action.

However, it’s important to understand that overcoming Imposter Syndrome is a gradual process. As you practice mindfulness, take action, and celebrate your wins, you’ll realize the truth: You’re not an imposter. You’re human, learning and growing on the path to becoming the person you want to be.

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

  1. Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
  2. Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

  • Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
  • Cultivate healthier relationships
  • Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
  • Exhibit better work ethic
  • Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

  • Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
  • Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
  • Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

  • Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
  • Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

  • What challenges have I already overcome?
  • How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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A quarter-life crisis isn’t a sign you’ve lost your way; it’s a sign you’re fighting for a life that’s truly yours.

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Here’s The Thing About Learning, Unlearning, and Relearning

Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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3 Steps That’ll Help You Take Back Control of Your Life Immediately

The key to finding “enough” is recognizing that the root of the problem is a question of self-esteem and deservedness

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