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3 Business Optimization Strategies That Create a Fulfilled Life



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The balance between life and business is an interesting conundrum. There are articles, books, podcasts, and videos that talk about the need for work-life balance. The reality is that the balance has to be specific to your situation, and it’s a lifelong process to attain. Business leaders should be more focused on optimization strategies that create freedom in an enjoyable way.

Your goal isn’t to have your business turn into a job. While at the same time, you’d like your business to create financial freedom and an avenue for you to live an optimized life. The path to achieving your goals happens with the right habits and consistent action daily.

The good news is that you can create a happy life while also building a business that scales. For growth to be a reality, you have to employ growth strategies that are realistic to maintain. Here are three business optimization strategies that create time, freedom, happy life, and help you achieve your success goals.

1. Use systems to scale without your constant and direct involvement.

Today’s tools and software allow you to get more done without requiring a lot of your time. The issue becomes the business leader feels as if they have to wear all the hats. Too many leaders handle client onboarding while also managing sales, fulfilling the work, creating content, and everything in between. They are the jack of all trades, and they can never make any progress towards their goals because they have too much going on.

You can create more growth enjoyable when you use software and automation to systematize your efforts.  That can be using software to automate a lot of the client process. It can mean hiring a virtual team to help with various aspects of the business, even if it’s on a project basis. The point is to leverage modern growth options without having to add more responsibility to your plate.

“To be successful in business and in life, spot the possibilities while others look for problems.” – Robina Sharma

2. Focus on revenue over looking successful. 

Growth in life and business happens when there’s real growth. The world of social media gives us flashy images of success that tend to be built on a house of cards. Have you ever noticed that the most successful people in life aren’t flashy and don’t talk about wealth? The ones you see talking about six or seven figures end up being the ones trying to sell you on a program. You have to buy into their flash; otherwise, they won’t sell any of their programs. They’re selling you on a lifestyle.

The goal is to model the old saying, “make power moves in silence.” There is an important aspect of sharing what’s going on with your community, but a part of the growth process happens in private. Your goal should be to generate revenue instead of looking like you’re generating revenue. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks; they’re not paying your bills. Focus on doing the things that grow revenue, and let the results you’re getting for other people do the talking for you. 

3. Only work on the things you want to be doing. 

We spend so much of our time and effort working on what we think we should do in life. It may be societal programming or things our parents have taught us, but we don’t spend enough time doing what we actually want to do.

We create a business model that is not enjoyable to us. We take on clients we know are not a good fit and let too many people cross our boundaries. We wake up every day, look at our schedule, and start to feel dread because our day isn’t filled with the things we want to be doing.

It’s time for us to take a step back and think about how we want to show up and spend our time. The key to growth and a happy life is building a business doing the things that we want to do, which brings us joy. You use a growth model that has all of the elements that help you accomplish your goals.

Stop chasing a false image of success, and things you think will make you successful. Take time to think about the life you’d like to create and the path to get there. Think about the things that will bring you joy, and that’s how you should be spending your time.

You have some thinking to do. It’s time to have an authentic conversation with yourself about what sort of life and business you’d like to be creating. It would help if you did not spend a single moment doing things that don’t bring you joy.

Use these business optimization strategies to figure out what changes need to be made and make those changes. Get consistent in the action you’re taking to build your wealth and create more happiness in your life. Stop chasing a social media image of success and focus on creating success starting from within.

Blake Nubar is an agency owner, digital marketing strategist, and serial entrepreneur. He is a three-time ClickFunnels Two-Comma Club award winner and a ClickFunnels Eight-Figure award winner. He's worked with several Sharks from Shark Tank, AMC TV stars, and Bob Proctor from "The Secret." The places he's been published and featured include Entrepreneur, Thrive Global, Good Men Project, ClickFunnels, Funnel Magazine, ABC News, and over 25 podcasts. Get practical digital marketing strategy at

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling



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Our deepest human desire is to cultivate meaning in our lives. Our deepest human need is to survive. (more…)

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.



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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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