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The Courage to Break Free: Finding Purpose Beyond the Paycheck

Sold all my stuff and headed south. Again. Car? Gone. Furniture? Gone. Storage unit? Nope.

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Sold all my stuff and headed south. Again. Car? Gone. Furniture? Gone. Storage unit? Nope. I’m down to what fits in one suitcase (plus a closet in my mom’s house—shoutout moms).

A Quick Rant on Depreciation

When is purchasing a liability ever a good decision? I paid someone $6,000 to take my car off my hands—that’s right, I paid them.

They drove off with a new car and six bands, presumably bumping ‘Pac, as I miserably looked on and began rethinking all life choices.

Lesson learned: don’t buy shit that depreciates. Cars, boats, bikes, furniture—they tether you to a lifestyle you might not even want. [Unless you’re actually rich as shit—we’ll return to this later…]

And that’s the point, isn’t it? The more things you own, the more they own you.

*Dave Ramsey awakens from wet dream*

Fleeing the US

Another flight to South America, another one-way ticket cashed in. The outdoor cat knows his way back to the food bowl at home—but there’s always a chance you don’t see him again.

I’ve got no tickets, plans, or ideas of returning.

The Morningly Shit: Why I Left

Picture this: sitting at your desk, watching the clock, waiting for that morningly (yep, it’s a word, at least back in the 1800s) shit break just to scroll social media in peace.

Back at the desk, tolerating your strung out mid-life-crisis boss pinging you on Teams about spreadsheets you don’t care about, expending the lions share of your life’s energy to push agendas you don’t align with—I’m good.

Meanwhile, somewhere in history, one of your ancestors was unleashing spears on the Great Plains’ bison population.

[I’m not Native American so that is factually incorrect.]

We’ve traded survival instincts for corporate ones. I felt like a lion in a cage—stuck, defanged, and pacing (fuck it, let’s say neutered too for good measure), wondering if there’s more to life than this cycle of comfort and consumption.

Enter: Operation Freedom©

Nope, the US military isn’t about to rain down on a Middle Eastern country (it is)—this is a recalibration. Financial freedom isn’t just about having money. It’s about living on your terms.

I’d rather go broke trying to build something meaningful, and start from zero like a college kid, than sit in the cushy cell (I mean cubicle) as I rot away mentally and spiritually.

The goal is independence—not just from a job, but from the mental chains that keep us locked into cycles of mindless consumption, escapism, and settling for mediocrity.

The Human Zoo

Humans are animals. We like to differentiate ourselves from ‘animals’, but we aren’t so different. Take a dog bred to herd sheep all day and lock it in a tiny apartment, and watch your deposit disappear.

Put a bird in a cage and watch it pluck its own feathers out. Put a cat indoors, and it sharpens its claws on the sofa not to fuck with you (maybe sort of), but because there is no tree bark. I ain’t a PETA guy, but damn, I know I wouldn’t want to be a zoo animal.

I’m tryna have a mf territory.

Yet that’s exactly what we are.

No sense of adventure, exploration, awe, curiosity, purpose, passion, exhilaration, autonomy, connection, community—and as a result, numbed by social media, alcohol, porn, food, and Netflix.

Not sure why fam but I’ve actually been anxious for 7 years

Redefining Wealth: Financial Freedom

We become shackled to the bloated lifestyle we’ve created in our years of salary-earning. Who else is going to pay me six figures and afford me Italy trips and a Raptor in exchange for adding fuck all in value?

Lifestyle downgrades are hard to make. Get used to living in a $3000/month apartment, and the $1200 spot looks like poverty. It ain’t happening. The Benz leather makes the Civic cloth hurt to sit on. Good luck trading it in.

But can your Benz crawl up a mountain, store a hoarder’s amount of shit, and provide 150 years of reliability?

The Mindset Shift

The other day, my mom was perplexed as to how I was understanding the large Cuban man’s lightning fast Spanish. Half of the words were slang as he entirely omitted a quarter of the alphabet. (My Latinos will understand the difficulty here).

It’s the same way I learned countless skills like martial arts, motorcycling, and dance:

  1. Decide I want it.
  2. Learn how to learn.
  3. Copy people who’ve already done it.
  4. Block out the noise from people who haven’t.

So why couldn’t this approach be applied to generating wealth?

Negative Money Beliefs

Money’s tricky. Unlike learning a language, it comes with a lot of baggage—societal beliefs, family expectations, and our own limiting ideas about what we “deserve.” Ever notice how you seem to sabotage yourself whenever you start earning more than you think you’re worth? That’s your internal thermostat pulling you back to its set point.

To break out, you have to rewrite those stories. Success doesn’t make you greedy or bad—it gives you the freedom to live authentically and contribute to the world on your terms. And once truly successful, you can truly afford the AMG and the Camelback sofa, without being shackled to them.

The Seven Baby Mamas

I know I’m privileged and have unique circumstances. I could have seven baby mamas and two mortgages, or still be clawing to regain the high of college and getting black out at the watering holes of my hometown (and do trust, I did my time—no judgement).

But is it really that unique? There’s an entire generation of young, single, childless professionals sitting on the same resources and resentments.

Not that having a kid or house prevents one from pursuing their dreams—that is self-limiting beliefs at play. But it does make it harder. (Borrowed from Scott Galloway’s No Mercy / No Malice.)

So, the question isn’t whether I’m crazy for walking away from a “good” job. The question is whether you’re crazy for staying in one.

Final Thoughts

Is it scary? Yes. Just like this turbulence I’m currently experiencing suspended 35,000 ft above the Gulf of Mexico.

But it’s worth it. I challenge you to ponder and perhaps journal on these questions for a moment:

  • Do you feel caged? If so, what’s the cage (constraints, responsibilities, bosses, negative mindsets, friends, vices, monthly payments, etc.)?
  • Are you fulfilled and in alignment with your purpose in your career? This requires clearly defining your purpose. If yes, you’re good, see you later. If not…
  • What is your Operation Freedom© plan?
  • What’s something in your life you’re tolerating that you know is holding you back?

Thanks for reading.

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What Every New CEO Must Do in Their First 100 Days (or Risk Failure)

Your first 100 days as CEO could define your entire legacy, here’s how to make every move count

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The Leadership Shift Every Company Needs in 2025

Struggling to keep your team engaged? Here’s how leaders can turn frustrated employees into loyal advocates.

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In workplaces around the world, there’s a growing gap between employers and employees and between superiors and their teams. It’s a common refrain: “People don’t leave companies, they leave bad bosses.”

While there are, of course, cases where management could do better, this isn’t just a “bad boss” problem. The relationship between leaders and employees is complex. Instead of assigning blame, we should explore practical solutions to build stronger, healthier workplaces where everyone thrives.

Why This Gap Exists

Every workplace needs someone to guide, supervise, and provide feedback. That’s essential for productivity and performance. But because there are usually far more employees than managers, dissatisfaction, fair or not, spreads quickly.

What if, instead of focusing on blame, we focused on building trust, empathy, and communication? This is where modern leadership and human-centered management can make a difference.

Tools and Techniques to Bridge the Gap

Here are proven strategies leaders and employees can use to foster stronger relationships and create a workplace where people actually want to stay.

1. Practice Mutual Empathy

Both managers and employees need to recognize they are ultimately on the same team. Leaders have to balance people and performance, and often face intense pressure to hit targets. Employees who understand this reality are more likely to cooperate and problem-solve collaboratively.

2. Maintain Professional Boundaries

Superiors should separate personal issues from professional decision-making. Consistency, fairness, and integrity build trust, and trust is the foundation of a motivated team.

3. Follow the Golden Rule

Treat people how you would like to be treated. This simple principle encourages compassion and respect, two qualities every effective leader must demonstrate.

4. Avoid Micromanagement

Micromanaging stifles creativity and damages morale. Great leaders see themselves as partners, not just bosses, and treat their teams as collaborators working toward a shared goal.

5. Empower Employees to Grow

Empowerment means giving employees responsibility that matches their capacity, and then trusting them to deliver. Encourage them to take calculated risks, learn from mistakes, and problem-solve independently. If something goes wrong, turn it into a learning opportunity, not a reprimand.

6. Communicate in All Directions

Communication shouldn’t just be top-down. Invite feedback, create open channels for suggestions, and genuinely listen to what your people have to say. Healthy upward communication closes gaps before they become conflicts.

7. Overcome Insecurities

Many leaders secretly fear being outshone by younger, more tech-savvy employees. Instead of resisting, embrace the chance to learn from them. Humility earns respect and helps the team innovate faster.

8. Invest in Coaching and Mentorship

True leaders grow other leaders. Provide mentorship, career guidance, and stretch opportunities so employees can develop new skills. Leadership is learned through experience, but guided experience is even more powerful.

9. Eliminate Favoritism

Avoid cliques and office politics. Decisions should be based on facts and fairness, not gossip. Objective, transparent decision-making builds credibility.

10. Recognize Efforts Promptly

Recognition often matters more than rewards. Publicly appreciate employees’ contributions and do so consistently and fairly. A timely “thank you” can be more motivating than a quarterly bonus.

11. Conduct Thoughtful Exit Interviews

When employees leave, treat it as an opportunity to learn. Keep interviews confidential and use the insights to improve management practices and culture.

12. Provide Leadership Development

Train managers to lead, not just supervise. Leadership development programs help shift mindsets from “command and control” to “coach and empower.” This transformation has a direct impact on morale and retention.

13. Adopt Soft Leadership Principles

Today’s workforce, largely millennials and Gen Z, value collaboration over hierarchy. Soft leadership focuses on partnership, mutual respect, and shared purpose, rather than rigid top-down control.

The Bigger Picture: HR’s Role

Mercer’s global research highlights five key priorities for organizations:

  • Build diverse talent pipelines

  • Embrace flexible work models

  • Design compelling career paths

  • Simplify HR processes

  • Redefine the value HR brings

The challenge? Employers and employees often view these priorities differently. Bridging that perception gap is just as important as bridging the relational gap between leaders and staff.

Treat Employees Like Associates, Not Just Staff

When you treat employees like partners, they bring their best selves to work. HR leaders must develop strategies to keep talent engaged, empowered, and prepared for the future.

Organizational success starts with people, always. Build the relationship with your team first, and the results will follow.

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