Success Advice
The Difference With Being A Leader Vs An Everyday Employee.
After being a ‘bank jock’ as one of my former clients put it, for the last seven years, I recently transitioned into a people leader role.
Going from a regular employee — who only has to worry about their own KPI’s — to a leader, has taught me a lot in a short space of time.
Leadership is very different to a normal career as you might have guessed. You can’t do what you did as a single contributor in a business when you’re a leader.
You have to think differently when you go from being an everyday employee to a leader.
Here’s what changes when you become a leader:
You must control your state.
As a regular employee (especially in sales) you can fly off the rails and operate from any state you wish.
As a leader, you have to learn to control your state.
When a customer escalates to you from your team, you have to control how you react. You’re supposed to be the bigger man or woman.
Instead of jumping to conclusions, you’re expected to use your emotional intelligence to understand the problem and stay calm in stressful situations.
You can’t go and cry to your boss every time a problem arises. And problems will arise even more as a leader.
Knowing how to control your state will save you.
Keeping the bigger picture in mind and not falling for short-term emotional states is a skill you’ll have to implement quickly if you are to succeed.
You must confront your fears.
As a regular employee, you can hide behind others and go unnoticed. I learned this the hard way when I suffered from mental illness and didn’t confront the issue head-on.
I hid my fear of anyone finding out about my mental illness and it crippled my career.
As I transitioned into being more of a leader I learned how to confront my fears and even share them.
The best leaders are vulnerable and if you’re to become one, you’ll need to learn to confront your fears on a daily basis. Why? See the next point.
You must go first.
As a regular employee, you follow the leadership team and watch what they do first. You let the leaders make decisions and then you execute.
As a leader, everything starts with you.
Leaders must go first and that’s why you’ll have to confront your fears. Going first means feeling the fear and taking action regardless. You can’t let fear hold you back if you are to go first.
You must go first as a leader because it’s on you to set the tone and be the example of what’s possible.
You must inspire.
As a regular employee, you are the one being inspired. You look to mentors and leaders to inspire you and show you what’s possible.
As a leader, everything happens in reverse. Your sole job is to inspire people to take action and execute on the goals of the business. This is done through your own example.
“Your job is to use the challenges you’ve overcome in your own career and life to inspire your team to do the same”
You do this by sharing the following:
- Huge failures in business
- Health challenges
- Romantic relationship issues and even divorce
- Career gaps
- Side hustles you started
You can also bring in third-party tools to assist such as Ted Talks, inspiring videos and online courses.
My favorite tool to use is to get colleagues to attend Tony Robbins events where they can be inspired face-to-face and be fully immersed in life-changing strategies.
Whatever you do, as a leader, you must inspire.
You must give first.
“To get people to do what you want, you first have to give them what they want”
This is the part many wannabe leaders mess up. Your job is not to dish out orders; your job is to find out what motivates the people who work for you and then help them hit their personal goals.
Once people feel like you have their back and they are well on the way to hitting their own goals, they’ll do whatever is required to help you hit your goals. It starts with you. Give first.
You don’t get to complain.
As a regular employee, you can complain all you want. It’s your bosses problem to deal with and to listen to.
Leadership is very different. Your job is not to complain but to identify issues (10%) and then spend the other 90% of your time solving those issues.
Going from a culture of complaining to problem finding, followed instantly by solution identification is not easy.
It feels good to complain and then do nothing.
As a leader, you’ll never do well if you complain yourself. You’re expected to have given up the game of complaining when you become a leader. You’re expected to be better than that.
You’ll have to be clear what you stand for.
As a regular employee, no one is going to necessarily ask you what you stand for on a daily basis. All that changes when you become a leader.
Leaders stand for something and they have a list of principles they lead by. I learned this the hard way when I interviewed for a leadership position and was asked what I stood for.
I fumbled around trying to answer the question and had not thought about what I stood for as a leader before. Now I’m crystal clear on what I stand for.
Here’s what I stand for as an example:
- Everyone gets treated equally
- I won’t ask you to do something I’m not prepared to do myself
- I will inspire you to pursue whatever goal lights you up
- I will help you write a clear career plan that we will follow up on fortnightly
- I will inspire you through personal development
- I will not abuse my power and use it for good
- I will expect you to give back to the community in your own unique way
- I will breed more leaders from my team
As a leader, you’ll need to stand for something and have a set of principles that guide you.
You’re responsible. The End.
The biggest difference between a regular employee and a leader I’ve learned is that you’re responsible. No matter who messes up, you’re expected to own issues and be responsible.
The buck stops with you and you can’t transfer the blame away from yourself like you can as a regular employee.
As a leader, you will fail and that’s okay. The key is to own your failures and admit them. After all, you’re paid more to be responsible. Responsibility is not easy, but that’s what leadership is.
“Leadership is not easy and that’s why we’re not all leaders”
The beauty is that being a leader allows you to grow more than you ever have before. Leadership is not something to be afraid of, but rather it should be embraced.
Don’t abuse your power. Use your power for good.
Transitioning from being a regular employee to a leader is one of the best decisions you’ll ever make.
Leadership will define you.
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Successful people love to help beginners. They have an incredible work ethic and rarely complain. As a result, others naturally look up to them and want to follow in their footsteps.
But here’s the truth: there’s no success without sacrifice. You’ll need to give up comfort, excuses, and sometimes even social approval to accomplish your goals.
Value comes from solving problems, and these 11 powerful tips will help you become more productive, successful, and confident, starting today.
1. Take Short Breaks After Finishing a Task
Psychology shows it’s important to reward positive behaviour.
After completing a big task or finishing a book, take five minutes to walk, stretch, or simply breathe. This quick reset helps your brain recharge and strengthens focus.
Many great writers swear by morning walks, solitude, and reflection can unlock creativity.
But if you refuse to take breaks, don’t be surprised when burnout hits. Your brain needs recovery time just as much as your body does.
2. Schedule Your Most Important Tasks First
Multitasking kills productivity. If you want to get more done, try time blocking, a method where you dedicate set periods for specific tasks.
Productivity expert Caitlin Hughes explains, “Time blocking involves scheduling blocks of time for your tasks throughout the day.”
For example, if you’re a writer:
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Research your topic at night.
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Write your first draft in the morning (don’t worry if it’s rough).
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Edit in the afternoon, great writing comes from rewriting.
You can’t buy more time. Use it intentionally and without regret.
3. Eliminate Distractions from Your Workspace
Focus is the foundation of success.
According to Inc. Magazine, it takes an average of 23 minutes to recover from a distraction. That’s nearly half an hour of lost productivity every time you check your phone.
Put your phone away. Close unnecessary tabs. And yes, limit your Netflix binges.
Meeting deadlines consistently is one of the fastest ways to stand out and earn respect.
4. Take Full Responsibility for Your Life
Entrepreneur Derek Sivers once said, “Everything is my fault.”
This mindset doesn’t mean self-blame; it means self-ownership. Stop pointing fingers, making excuses, or waiting for others to change.
If your habits (like smoking or drinking too much) hold you back, it’s time to make better choices. Your friends can’t live your dreams for you; only you can.
5. Invest an Hour a Day in Learning New Skills
Knowledge compounds over time.
Whether you read books, take online courses, or practise a craft, consistent learning gives you a competitive edge.
I used to struggle with academic writing, but I improved by studying the work of great authors and applying what I learned.
Your past doesn’t define you; your actions do. Every new skill adds another tool to your arsenal and makes you more unstoppable.
6. Develop a Growth Mindset
Psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck introduced the concept of fixed vs. growth mindset.
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A fixed mindset believes success is based on natural talent.
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A growth mindset believes success comes from effort and learning.
Choose the growth mindset. Embrace challenges. See failures as feedback. In today’s fast-moving digital world, adaptability is your biggest advantage.
7. Learn Marketing to Reach People Who Need You
I once believed marketing was manipulative, until I realised it’s about helping people solve problems.
If your work provides genuine value, marketing is how you let others know it exists. Even Apple spends billions on it.
Don’t be ashamed to promote your skills or business. Without visibility, your ideas will never reach the people who need them most.
Creative professionals who understand marketing and sales have an unfair advantage.
8. Ask Your Mentor the Right Questions
Good mentors can fast-track your growth.
While mentorship often costs money, it’s one of the best investments you can make. Great mentors don’t care about titles; they care about your progress.
If you don’t have access to a mentor yet, books are your silent mentors. Read the best in your field, take notes, and apply what resonates.
9. Build Confidence Through Action, Not Affirmations
Author Ryan Holiday once said, “I don’t believe in myself. I have evidence.”
Confidence doesn’t come from shouting affirmations into the mirror; it comes from proof. Doing hard things, keeping promises to yourself, and following through.
When you consistently take action, your brain gathers evidence that you can handle whatever comes next. That’s real confidence, grounded, earned, and unshakable.
10. Focus on Your Strengths
Your strengths reveal where your greatest impact lies.
If people compliment you on something often, it’s a clue. Lean into it.
A former professor once told me I was creative, and that simple comment gave me the confidence to go all in. I studied creativity, applied it daily, and turned it into my career advantage.
Double down on your strengths. That’s how you build momentum and mastery.
11. Identify and Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs
Your beliefs shape your reality.
For years, I believed I couldn’t be a great writer because of my chronic tinnitus and astigmatism, sensory challenges that made concentration difficult. But over time, I realised those struggles made me more disciplined, observant, and empathetic.
Your limitations can become your greatest motivators if you let them.
Avoid shortcuts. Growth takes time, but it’s always worth it.
Final Thoughts
Becoming productive, successful, and confident isn’t about working harder than everyone else. It’s about working smarter, consistently, and intentionally.
You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. Start small: take a break after your next task, schedule your priorities, or spend one hour learning something new.
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