Success Advice
All Anybody Ever Wants Is A Chance: Give It To Them
We can only get so far before we need someone to say yes to us. I watched a video recently of a magician who was in his thirties and had never been given a chance. He performed a magic trick that was pretty generic.
What was extraordinary about him though was that he almost seemed like he had come out of a 1900’s comedy show. He was funny and genuinely a nice person. He did his best to let his passion shine through and show everybody who he was.
He took risks, was vulnerable and gave every ounce of himself. At the end of his act, all he wanted was a chance. In his eyes, you could tell that he had longed for someone to believe in him. In that moment, the chance of a lifetime was given to him and his dream came true.
The young man was in tears and overwhelmed with emotion. Watching this play out made me emotional too. At that moment, I realized that all any of us wants is a chance. We all have a dream that we want to achieve and if we work hard enough, we deserve that chance.
Maybe it’s a chance at a career that you’ve always wanted, or a chance at falling in love, or the opportunity to pitch your business to investors, or the chance to perform your art in front of thousands of people.
The purpose of this blog post is to get you thinking about the chances you can give other people.
Here’s why you should give people a chance:
1. Someone gave you a chance
You wouldn’t be where you are right now if someone didn’t give you a chance. Whether you realize it or not, someone you know or don’t know allowed you to get where you are. They saw something in you and believed you could do it.
You may not have had the experience or even the right level of passion, but someone believed in you. The least you can do is give that same gift back to someone else. Don’t give it to the first person you see: give it to the person that you believe has earned it.
Give that chance to someone who you believe has a gift and hasn’t had any good luck come their way. You have so much power in your life to change lives. You can make such a dent in the world by believing in someone.
It’s in your human nature to support someone who needs a chance. We’re all humans driven by emotion. The emotion someone makes you feel is usually a good indicator that they may deserve a chance from you.
Sometimes, like the magician, someone comes into your life that is humble, sweet, grateful and brilliant at what they do. Next time this happens, don’t hesitate and give this person a chance.
2. It’s a gift
I wouldn’t be writing these very words if someone had given me a chance. An amazing mentor of mine saw something in me when, to be honest, I didn’t even see that same greatness in myself that they saw. This topic is so close to my heart because I know what it’s like to be given a chance.
I’ve been given some incredible chances in my life and I’ve done the best I can not to waste them. Chances are a gift that you can give. Many people think you need lots of money to give awesome gifts. This idea is wrong. The best gift you can give is a chance to someone who needs it.
Instead of judging someone in need of a chance, put yourself in their shoes. Think back to the chances you have been given which may have been disguised in some weird way as a job offer or romantic interest. If you’re not going to give the gift of a chance to someone then what other things in your life are you not doing?
Why couldn’t you give someone a chance next time the opportunity came around? If you’re not going to give a chance to someone now, then even when you hit your so-called success marker, you’re not going to give a chance then either. Giving chances allows you to receive the same gift in return.
“The world works in mysterious ways and chances that are given come back to you in weird and wonderful ways”
Since I gave chances, my life has changed. I’ve been given chances that I never thought were possible. It starts with being humble and believing that you already have enough.
From this abundant place, you can give a chance to someone who has waited their entire life to meet you and be given your gift. Don’t miss out on the rewards that come from giving chances.
3. They deserve it
Just like the magician, there are lots of people out there that deserve a chance. I believe that if someone deserves a chance, then you should use your power as a leader to give them one. The worst that can happen is you give them a chance and they mess it up.
Failure is going to happen in every aspect of your life or business anyway, so you’ve got nothing to lose. Some of the best stuff ups create the most beautiful results. I have always believed that someone who deserves a chance should be given one.
The hard part for me is sometimes working out whether the person desiring a chance from you should be given one.
Here’s what to look for:
– The way they ask for a chance
– Their body language
– The emotion they show you
– Whether they share something vulnerable with you
– How far they are willing to go to get that chance
– Whether they will pay the chance forward
For me, knowing someone is going to take the chance I give them and then pay it forward is the biggest criteria I have. I want the world to keep prospering and this can only happen when we all pay the chances we are given forward.
4. You’ll get ten times back
Every chance you give out will come back ten times. I feel like I’m living proof of this. Every chance I have given out has given me back ten times what I gave out in the first place. When you give people a chance they remember it.
Your dreams become top of mind for the person you gave a chance too. At every corner, if they see a way to repay you, they will and often they’ll do so without thinking. I gave a bunch of chances to some fellow writers and each of them has done so many nice favors for me in return.
You only get chances given to you when you begin with giving chances in the first place, without expecting anything in return.
5. It feels good to believe in someone
Maybe the best reason to give people a chance is that it feels good. When you give out chances to people, you become someone that is looked upon as a leader. Giving out chances and seeing people achieve their dreams is one of the best feelings you can ever experience.
All anybody ever wants is a chance and this includes you. Next time you have the opportunity to give someone a chance, think back to what I’ve said. Remember that leaders change the world and giving out chances is part of that journey.
You won’t always get it right and that’s okay. Do it anyway and have faith in the outcome. We all deserve a chance. We’ve all had our lows and you have the power to create the ultimate high in someone’s life.