Success Advice
This Is Why Most People Give Up On Their Dreams — I Plead With You Not To Become One Of Them.
We all have a dream even if we haven’t realized it yet. It could be something as simple as raising a family, or it might be more extreme like winning an Olympic gold medal.
No matter the dream, most people give up on their dream.
I’m pleading with you not to be one of those people. You can achieve your dream when you understand why people give up in the first place.
Here’s why most people give up on their dreams:
They failed once before.
Many people try something once and when they fail, they give up. That’s because nobody tells you that achieving your dream doesn’t happen the first time around.
You have to try and try again until you reach your goal.
The problem is it’s easy to try once, fail, and then say “I already tried and I didn’t win.”
We give in so easily because the upside is a life of excuses.
We give in because we can live through the heroes of our favorite Netflix show.
“We give in because in some ways there is a reward. Giving up gives you permission to sit on the couch, eat junk food, be angry at the world on social media and sleep in your nice warm bed”
The problem is that this life sucks. You’ll get tired of it. One day you’ll want to chase your dream again, but you might be old, frail and full of regrets.
I’m pleading with you not to choose this option.
They got told no.
“You don’t need permission — remember that. You are going to get told no hundreds of times in your life. With every dream you have, there’s going to be some fat, lazy slob that’s going to be standing in your way.”
Push through these people — flubber and all. Don’t let someone else’s laziness or issues with your dream stop you.
Ignore the no and get right back to it. Ask them again. Ask someone else.
Ideally, don’t ask them at all. I never asked to be a blogger I just did it. Certain publications turned me down and I kept writing.
Not everyone understands your gifts or potential and that’s fine. The main point here is that you understand.
I’m pleading with you to not give up because of a no. Make the no your motivation instead.
They don’t see failure for what it is.
Failure is nothing more than the inevitable education that any person who achieves their dream goes through.
Failure is so important that I personally like to pay money for it. I wish there was a shop or course I could do that would guarantee me failure instead of success. I want you to want the failure because that’s where all the answers are.
Once you know what doesn’t work, you’ll have a path forward. Change the word failure into education.
I’m pleading with you to fall in love with failure and not to give up on your dream.
Boredom strikes like thunder.
Everyone gets bored. I watched a documentary where Usain Bolt was training for the Olympics and even he admitted that he got bored after he won a few gold medals.
Boredom is normal, but it’s why a lot of people give up on their dreams.
It’s in the moments of boredom that you give your mind a chance to rest. Doing nothing and being lazy for a few hours can often bring a spark of creativity. No one is motivated 100% of the time — not even me.
It’s up to you to add some variety into your day, so you don’t get stuck in boredom forever.
Boredom can also be a good sign as well. It can be a sign that you need to change your approach or do things in a new way.
I’m pleading with you not to be afraid of boredom. Use boredom to your advantage.
They stop believing in themselves.
Your dreams are not easy (obviously). The rejection, failure and setbacks you’ll achieve can bring you down. What messes people’s dreams up is they stop believing in themselves.
Everything starts to fall over when you don’t believe in yourself. You have to believe you can do it before anyone else will buy into that idea. The challenge is that you’re going to need help to achieve your dreams. You can’t do it alone.
You’ll never get that help unless you can get people to believe what you believe.
I’m pleading with you to believe in yourself no matter what. You have this dream for a reason and you can do it.
They are stuck on one strategy.
Many people live their entire life based on one strategy or one arbitrage. They refuse to change and so eventually the environment around them changes which affects their ability to reach their dream.
If you’re set in your ways and won’t change your approach, you’ll probably fail. We all imagine how our dream should look yet sometimes the reality is different.
You have to be open to change. In my experience, my original dream looked much different and I’m glad it’s changed. Changes to your dream are for the better.
I’m pleading with you to be open-minded.
They are surrounded by an army of morons.
If everyone around you is telling you you’re an idiot and they don’t respect your dream for what it is, this will have a negative impact on you whether you like it or not.
“Run away from the dream killers who are making up for their own broken dreams and surround yourself with people who support you”
The best people are the ones that support you but don’t always agree with you. Even better are the ones that support you and challenge your thinking.
I’m pleading with you to reassess the people around you.
They want security.
No dream comes with an insurance policy or a set path. People are afraid to take risks and want reassurances when they pursue their dream.
There are none. Dreams are made off the back of taking calculated and clever risks most of the time. If you want someone to guarantee your dream, then it ain’t going to happen.
It’s the unpredictability that makes dreams addictive, delicious and worth the effort. Not knowing is what our mind craves — we just don’t know it. If we knew how our dream turned out, we wouldn’t be as excited.
I’m pleading with you to take a risk or two.
They refuse to be disciplined.
Nothing worth achieving can be done without discipline. There’s work involved and that has to be scheduled and executed upon.
I’ve written every single week since 2014. That takes bloody discipline.
My discipline reflects my results in the blogging world. The same applies to your own dream.
Block out chunks of your calendar and get to work. If you’re not doing at least one small thing towards your dream every day, then you’re heading in the wrong direction.
I’m pleading you to put in regular work towards your dream.
The greener grass syndrome.
Another reason we give up is not because we’re lazy necessarily but because we failed and there is a better option. That’s what our mind tells us.
“I didn’t fail; I just found something better,” you say to yourself.
Well, that’s the sad truth.
“Changing your idea of success consistently is not the answer. At some point, you need to decide to chase one dream and quit the ADHD dream chasing the average person chases. You’re better than that”
Worrying about what everybody else is doing and then chasing their dreams is ridiculous.
I’m pleading with you not to fall for this lie. The grass is not greener it just requires more work than you anticipated.
Final thought.
Please, please, please don’t give up on your dream. You’re closer than you think. You just need to stand back and think about a few of the points I’ve mentioned.
Broken dreams have birthed so many broken people.
It doesn’t have to be that way. See your dream for what it is: Something special that you can achieve if you put your mind to it, focus and be excited by the possibilities.
Don’t give up on your dream.
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