Why You Should Fall In Love With The Deadbeat Haters

Why You Should Fall In Love With The Deadbeat Haters

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Falling In Love With Haters - Tim Denning
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The world is a better place thanks to haters. I freaking love them and cherish my every interaction with them. Deadbeat haters make the world go round and success would never exist without them. Go outside right now and hug a deadbeat hater. That’s right; give them a big kiss on the lips too.

They’re the flawed human beings that are your biggest tribe builders. Haters cause people to fall in love with you, and what you stand for, by drawing attention to you with their nonsense, insults and rants that make no sense.

What is a hater?

I define a hater as someone who makes a comment online about you that purposely is intended to insult you, spread lies about you or is just plain negative. Usually, their comments are uncalled for and what they have to say is not constructive.

The hater often doesn’t know why they spend their days trolling the internet for things they can spread their negative virus too. If they were to understand why they hate, they would be probably cured of the wretched hater virus, never to hate on anyone again.

Haters are going to hate because that’s what they do so learn to fall in love with them like I have.

Here are five ways to fall in love with the deadbeat heaters:

 

1. Haters supercharge your number of followers

Every time a hater makes a comment about something you have posted online, at the same time, they increase the number of followers you have.

The best example I can give is when someone wrote a few negative comments about the way I looked in an Addicted2Success article photo. Shortly after their post, our community flocked to Facebook to defend me without me even saying a word.

This little stunt that the hater created attracted lots of new followers to my different pages and allowed people to give me a chance, and find out more about me.

 

2. Haters spread your message like you never could

You will know when the message you are trying to deliver online is successful when you reach the tipping point of having a group of haters. Until you have haters, you are still in the junior league of the online world – which is fine – but once the haters come, it means you are starting to have some success.

For a long time I didn’t have a single hater and so I think it made my message feel fake or not authentic. When someone or something is too good to be true, people online usually don’t trust it. Haters allow your message to be transparent and heard.

A magnificent, deadbeat hater will go that extra step and share your message on their social media for the purpose of hating on you. This is another positive step and will allow you to gain access to the haters followers whom some of which will start listening to your message in a positive way.

Anyone who has any kind of influence, or has created any sort of global movement, has both supporters and haters. When you only have one side of the equation – the supporters – it generally means your message is not bold enough, different enough, powerful enough or important enough.

That’s okay, though, it just means you have more work to do and are still very early on in perfecting and communicating your message.

 

3. Haters make you stand out

The key to building an online presence is to be different rather than trying to be better than your competitors. The reason is simple: it’s much easier to be different than it is to be better than your competitors who have more resources, more followers and more time in the game than you do.

The reason you should love haters is because they make you different by allowing you to stand out. Haters force eyeballs to your online profiles and show you in a different light.

Even though their perspective is probably wrong, they open the door for other people to make that decision for themselves, thus allowing you to stand out from other people in your niche who may have either none or very few haters.

 

4. Haters are actually telling you why they love you

The deadbeat haters that hate on you are doing so because they actually love you. You might be thinking I am totally nuts but hear me out. When a hater hates on you, what they are really telling the world is that they are; scared of life, living in fear, wish they could attempt what you’re doing, and wish they could achieve more.

The very things they hate about you are the things that they love about you at the same time and wish they could have in some small way. Every time a hater hates on you, they are projecting their own inadequacies very loudly.

Them hating on you has nothing to do with you and has everything to do with them. Learn to love these suckers and what they tell you about yourself – that’s how I see them now anyway.

 

5. Haters highlight that you are not living on the sidelines

Deadbeat haters that hate on you are something you should love because they are telling you that you are taking action and that you are doing so without being afraid to be criticised. See, many people never take action because they worry that they may attract haters or get negative feedback.

These people who are afraid of the haters never start anything and end up living a life of regret because they sit on the sidelines, and watch everyone else be successful. In the meantime, they watch their own life pass them by.

These same people that sit on the sidelines and never do anything can also become haters. They have the free time to troll the internet and spread their negative thoughts because they’re too afraid to do anything themselves. They’re too frightened to take a risk and do something they’re passionate about.

I recently started posting a few videos on the Addicted2Success Youtube channel knowing full well that I have a long way to go before I nail the whole video thing. The reason why I began is I thought to myself “I will never get started if I don’t just have a crack.”

Think about all the Hollywood movie stars, almost all of them were horrible in their very first movie. It’s the same with my videos; you have got to start somewhere and you will improve the more you do it.

Sure my video’s have the odd phrase that doesn’t make sense, some awkward cuts, some minor audio issues or lighting problems, but it’s only once I started that I became aware of these opportunities. By never starting, you will always just hang around the sidelines and procrastinate.

“Be proud when you get haters – they’re an inevitable part of success. Attracting haters means you are playing all out and having a crack at life”

What have I learnt from my haters?

You would think that having a goal to inspire the world through personal development and entrepreneurship would be a pretty hard thing to hate on – turns out it’s not.

The haters I have attracted tend only to go for the easy things like what I’m wearing, or even crazier, the fact that I didn’t blink in a video I posted. I have learnt to be careful whom I take feedback from because the haters usually have had zero success and so they are not qualified to criticise.

Feedback is valuable but hater’s feedback – usually in the form of insults – doesn’t offer a lot of value to you.

What I have found fascinating is when I click the social media profile of a hater. Often I will find they have no content of their own, almost no friends / followers / or connections, and spend most of their days leaving negative comments on people’s pages.

This exercise is quite powerful in showing you who you’re haters are in real life.

 

How do you deal with haters?

I find the best way to deal with the haters is not to delete their comments or block them. This only fires them up and doesn’t serve any positive purpose. Let your friends and followers do the talking for you and sit back and watch the magic.

When I see a hater on one of my pages, I am reminded of Tai Lopez. Tai has become very wealthy and has a Ferrari and Lamborghini that he has earned, partly because of the stacks of haters helping people find his message – what a gift the haters have given him.

Geez now that I think about it, I really do love the deadbeat haters so much for what they do. Their unique individuals that have a god given talent that I don’t think I will ever have.

What’s your experience with haters? How do you deal with them? Let me know in the comments section below or on my website timdenning.net and my Facebook. Haters are welcome too!
Tim Denning is a former entrepreneur turned intrapreneur, working daily with fast-moving tech companies. He is passionate about what makes startups successful and is a thought leader/ game changer via the use of social media. Tim uses personal development and success as a platform for greatness. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook and Twitter.

4 COMMENTS

  1. “Until you have haters, you are still in the junior league of the online world – which is fine – but once the haters come, it means you are starting to have some success.”

    Man oh man, I had to share this post on multiple social media platforms. I believe that others out there who are aspiring to do something great and be awesome with their lives need to read this. Awesome article Tim, well put together. I really appreciate your content man.

    As like you, I’m here in the early stages of video creation and providing content for others, so this article couldn’t have reached me at a more appropriate time. Though I haven’t been plagued with many haters yet, this post provides most of the preparation I need as I dive deeper, it’s like a guide you can return to every now and again when the hate begins.

    I look at it from a whole new perspective now and what it does is allow more fear to be shed and a whole lot of courage and confidence to kick in.

    Thanks and do continue inspiring others.

    • Rayon thanks for your very kind comment. As you have more success with you content I promise you that the haters will come out. Just know, that they are the best thing that can happen to your video’s / article.

      Congrats on all that you do and for having the guts to shed more of your fear. Much respect – Tim

  2. Ohh man, those haters! What a topic you choosed. I’ve read your article yesterday, at my work, and was smiling all the way. ‘Your biggest tribe builders’ is an amazing description, you just nailed it, haha. I have read lots of Carlos Castaneda’s books and there was that concept, in one of the books, when one of the main characters, Don Juan, explained to Carlos about it. People, I don’t remember how you call them (also my books weren’t English), and it’s not so important, those who push you to your limits, make your life hard, annoys you, are actually your greatest teachers and you may consider yourself lucky you have a chance to improve under their ‘mentoring’.

    Just recently I have seen video where person has thanked all his haters and aske them never leave. They helped him got to the level he is now and were his best supporters. They pushed him through struggles and hard times and only because of them he became the better version of himself. It was fascinating! Thing is, whether people loves oyu or hates you, there is one simple thing in common – they care. And they will spend much of their energy just to get attention to you. I agree with you as well when you said haters just express their love, because basically they desire to be where are you right at the moment, they wish the same success, they wish to have something you already achieved, in their own, ‘unique’ way! And if you can recognise that behaviour and change the perspective you can love your haters too.

    I printed your article as well, will re-read it today just to have reminder and train my mind to switch the perspective. Yesterday I was in some jealousy mood but shortly after I realized I should be happy for colleague and accept their success. Otherwise I cannot enjoy mine. Eeveryday is a lesson, my friend 🙂

    Thank you for your time and passion, and an accurate timing, you somehow quite often deliver the exact message I need for what I am very grateful. Speak soon, have a wonderful day, Tim.

    • Toño thanks for your comments. I’m glad you are able to see, like me, how good the haters can be. I used to experience jealousy moods as well with work colleagues but since I shifted my thinking, I find that the more I help my colleagues and celebrate their success, the more success I have. I never ever think twice about sharing my contacts or what I know. Thanks for reading Toño.

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