7 Forgotten Ways to Find Success

7 Forgotten Ways to Find Success

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Society has an odd and narrow definition of success. Reality television portrays success as a lot of money, cars and fame. Yet, this is simply an illusion that society portrays. Unfortunately, we buy into it and believe that real success equals wealth or fame. Because the media and advertisements continually sell us this message, we begin to believe it. We also see it in our friends’ social media accounts.

Many of us begin to think that we are losing in life if we don’t have a particular house, job, car or status. We compare ourselves to the people around us and feel bad that we haven’t achieved what they have. Yet, we forget to take into account that society’s definition of success is skewed. You don’t have to find success in only the material and external things of the world.

Here are 7 forgotten ways of defining success:

1. Finding happiness within

Don’t look for success. Find out what makes you happy and do that instead. Happiness is a choice you make daily. Happiness is your perspective. Happiness is being grateful for what you have. Happiness is doing the things you enjoy doing and being around the people you enjoy being around. Happiness is living your values.

 

2. Having strong friendships

You’re connected more than ever but may have very little interaction with the people in your life. Much of our lives now come from the virtual world. If you’ve given up on friendships or think they’re too much effort, give them another try. Being around friends will help you laugh more, stay positive and feel more connected with the people around you. Even if you have a couple of friends who are close to you, you will feel more supported and cared for. Build, cultivate and care for your friends and you’ll achieve a level of success few people have.

“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light.” – Helen Keller

3. Actively working on your passion

You don’t have to quit your job and travel to Bali, Indonesia to work on your passion. Whatever it is you enjoy doing, do that today. Start on your passion project even if it means doing research. Any time you spend on what you’re passionate about is success. Don’t worry about how it will make money or where it’s going. Each day, do the things you passionately enjoy doing. Do the things that don’t feel like work. Prioritize your passion project so that you’re working on it during your free time.

 

4. Helping improve people’s lives

An instant way to feel successful is to give. You can give your money, but more importantly, give your time, talents and abilities. Sometimes your presence for someone or just listening to someone is all that matters. The best part about giving is that you end up feeling much better about yourself. You feel generous, abundant, helpful and happy. Look for ways to give. Say “yes” to the next person who asks for your help. Give money to the panhandler on the street. Become a generous human being and make the world better.

 

5. Showing others love

Along the lines of friendships and helping others, love others. Loving others means being there for them during the good times and the bad times. Showing love means being compassionate, empathetic and helpful. Showing love means understanding where people are coming from and letting go of grudges. It’s extending kindness to people you know and to strangers. It’s saying “sorry” quickly and forgiving others so that you can heal the pain. Success is having love, giving love, showing love and receiving love.

 

6. Standing up after falling

Success is resilience, persistence and hanging in there when life gets rough. When you fall down and stand back up, you learn that you can overcome obstacles and face disappointments. Like some people, I let life cripple me to the point that I didn’t feel like waking up anymore. Yet day by day, I thought that I did have choices, I could make improvements and life could get better. It did! I’ve realized that coming back from my greatest falls is one of my strengths. I appreciate my challenges and have faith that I can face them with more courage.

“If one dream dies, dream another dream. If you get knocked down, get back up and go again.” – Joel Osteen

7. Living your own truth

The best way to find success is to live your own truth. What does this mean? It means living your life according to your own rules, your own values and your own intuition. This is often easier said than done, but if you keep the noise out, you can do it. Figure out what it is you want in life and go after it. Listen to what your heart desires and pursue that. Listen to your dreams and follow them. Listen to your calling and follow the path you’re being called to follow.

How do you define success in your life? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!
Vishnu Virtues is the writer behind the popular personal growth and spirituality blog for people starting over in life. You can find his weekly blog posts at www.vishnusvirtues.com and his Amazon books on love and relationships here.

7 COMMENTS

  1. I surely agree with your second point having strong friendship. Strong Friendship is the main factor of every success person.Thank you vishnu for your valuable post.

  2. Great post Vishnu. In my experience I definitely agree with Tim. Also, I’ve found great fulfillment and happiness on points 3 and 4. Working my passion and investing in improving others lives have been a great source of satisfaction.

    • Glad the post resonates, Bryan. Not everyone helps others or does what they’re passionate about so glad to hear you’re finding success and fulfillment with both. Thanks for commenting.

  3. Vishnu- I agree with some of your topics above. However, I would like to get your opinion on some of my thoughts when thinking about yours.

    The very first thing you mentioned is “don’t look for success, do what makes you happy instead”. I am challenging this thought on multiple fronts.

    – The first I strongly believe you are mitigating the importance of having success in your daily lifestyle.
    – It also leads me to read as if you are separating “Success” & “Being Happy”

    My point of this discussion. I believe in the opposite, I believe that creating success on both small and large activities, will create positive actions and feelings. Therefore leading you in the right direction and ultimately “Happiness”

    I have longed for finding a constant state of happiness. However, Just telling people to “do it” is the hard part for most. Happiness if an emotion and comes and goes.

    I would love to get your further opinion.

    • hi Robert – great question and insight. I’ll try my best to answer it and open to your further comments.

      I think the main point I’m making is what success is. I’m sort of discouraging keeping the focus on external worldly success and instead opting for various kinds of other successes. Yes, go find happiness (without telling you how) isn’t helpful 🙂 I only have so many words to get my point across but I am suggesting there are several ways to be happy and that will bring you success. I try to offer a few other ways to find happiness which leads to success. So instead of going after fame and money, can you serve others? Can you build friendships? Can you stop listening to others and start living to your inner guidance?

      I think we both agree that the journey matters. You’re pointing out success in certain activities will bring happiness. Agreed, but I believe I’m expanding those activities to 1) service 2) love 3) friendship 4) passion etc. It doesn’t just have to be worldly external successes which the world measures and encourages us to follow.

      I really appreciate your question, for challenging these ideas and would be open to hearing more.

  4. Tim, you’re awesome. Thanks for your support and comment. If we’re not happy today, we won’t be happy when we achieve our dreams either.

  5. Vishnu I think each of your points are often easily forgotten. Your first point is the most powerful though. We have to learn to be happy with where we are right now. We can even use future events to help make us happy in the present. Thanks for this blog post.

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